If a woman displays these 8 subtle behaviors, she’s almost certainly given up on love

There’s a fine line between a woman who’s simply not interested and one who’s given up on love.

This line is often drawn by subtle behaviors, little signs that she’s closed her heart to the possibility of love.

As Tina Fey, founder of the Love Connection blog and a relationship expert, I’ve seen these signs countless times. They’re easy to miss if you don’t know what to look for, but once you see them, they’re hard to ignore.

If a woman displays these 8 subtle behaviors, she’s almost certainly given up on love. Stick around and let me walk you through these telltale signs. You might be surprised at what you find.

1) She’s become indifferent

In the journey of love, indifference is a significant red flag.

When a woman is truly in love, her emotions run high. She’s invested, engaged, and passionate. But when she’s given up on love, all of that fades away.

What’s left? Indifference.

Indifference is more than just a lack of interest. It’s a lack of emotional response. It’s when she hears about your day and responds with a simple “Oh.” It’s when she stops asking how you’re feeling, or what you’re thinking about.

It’s a tough pill to swallow, but it’s one of the first signs that she’s emotionally checked out of the relationship.

So, if you sense indifference from her, take it as a sign. She might have given up on love.

2) She’s stopped making plans

A woman in love is a forward thinker, always dreaming about the future. But when she’s given up on love, you’ll notice a clear shift in her mindset.

She’ll stop talking about future plans. The once exciting conversations about vacations, dinner dates, or even simple weekend plans will gradually cease.

This is a subtle sign, but it’s one I’ve personally witnessed in many relationships. It’s easy to overlook, especially if you’re not actively looking for it.

Remember the words of Mark Twain: “The secret of getting ahead is getting started.” If she’s stopped planning, she may have stopped hoping for a future with love. This is another subtle behavior that indicates she might have given up on love.

3) She’s become self-reliant

Independence is a wonderful trait. As women, it’s something we should all strive for. However, when a woman has given up on love, her independence can take on a new meaning.

Suddenly, she’s not just independent; she’s self-reliant to the point of isolation. She doesn’t want or need help from anyone else.

If you notice this behavior, it’s another sign that she might have given up on love.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I discuss how this type of self-reliance could be a defense mechanism against further emotional hurts. It could be worth a read if you’re trying to navigate these tricky waters.

4) She’s overly friendly

This might seem counterintuitive. After all, friendliness is generally a positive quality, right? But when a woman has given up on love, she might start treating everyone with the same level of friendliness — including you.

Instead of the deeper connection that comes with love, her interactions become shallow, more suited to casual acquaintances than romantic partners.

It’s as if she’s put up an invisible barrier, keeping everyone at arm’s length. She’s friendly, yes, but it’s a friendliness devoid of passion or intimacy.

So, if you notice her treating you more like a friend and less like a lover, it could be a subtle sign she’s given up on love.

5) She’s stopped fighting

In any relationship, disagreements are inevitable. They’re a sign of two different individuals trying to merge their lives together. But if a woman has given up on love, she might stop engaging in these disagreements altogether.

It’s not because she’s become more agreeable or that your views have magically aligned. More likely, it’s because she doesn’t see the point in arguing or doesn’t care enough to make her point.

In my experience, this is a subtle but telling sign. Disagreements show investment in the relationship. When she stops fighting, it could very well mean she’s stopped caring.

6) She’s detached from your emotions

This one hurts, but it’s important to address. When a woman gives up on love, she often disconnects from your emotions. She no longer feels the need to comfort you when you’re down or share in your joy when you’re happy.

She may listen and nod politely, but the emotional connection is missing. It’s as if she’s become a spectator in your life, not an active participant.

This detachment can be painful to acknowledge, but it’s a clear sign she’s given up on love. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t care about you; she might just be protecting herself from further emotional pain.

7) She’s stopped saying ‘I love you’

This might seem obvious, but sometimes the most obvious signs are the ones we overlook. “I love you” is a powerful phrase. It’s a verbal commitment, an affirmation of feelings.

When a woman stops saying these three words, it’s a stark sign she’s given up on love.

I remember a couple I was counseling where the woman had stopped expressing her love verbally. It was a clear indicator of her emotional withdrawal from the relationship.

As George Bernard Shaw wisely said, “Silence is the most perfect expression of scorn.” In this case, her silence on the matter of love might be her loudest proclamation.

8) She’s started to distance herself

This is one of the rawest signs to come to terms with. When a woman has given up on love, she begins to create distance. It might start with her spending more time alone or with friends, less time with you.

It could progress to her moving out or requesting space. This physical distance often mirrors the emotional distance she’s feeling.

It’s a hard truth to swallow, but if she’s actively distancing herself from you, she may have given up on love. It’s her way of protecting herself from further heartache.

Conclusion

Recognizing these subtle signs can be tough, but it’s crucial to understanding where she stands on love. If she’s displaying these behaviors, she might have given up on love — at least for now.

But remember, it doesn’t mean she’s incapable of loving again. It might just be a sign that she needs time to heal, to rediscover what she wants from love and relationships.

If you’re navigating these tricky waters, my book Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship might be of help.

Don’t lose hope. Love is a journey with ups and downs. Understanding these signs is the first step towards helping her find her way back to love.