If a man uses these 5 phrases in a conversation, he is an incredible communicator

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I’m sure you’ve already experienced for yourself that there’s a vast difference between merely talking and communicating effectively.

The difference? The choice of words. Just talking often involves a lot of speech but little substance. It’s like a radio playing in the background – lots of noise, but nothing really registers.

Effective communication, on the other hand, is like a well-composed song. It’s impactful, memorable, and makes you want to listen more. It’s not about talking more, but saying just enough to convey your thoughts clearly and convincingly.

Being an incredible communicator involves using certain key phrases that make your conversation engaging and meaningful. And trust me, guys who master this are a class apart.

Let’s have a look at what these phrases are. 

1) “Tell me more…”

In the realm of communication, nothing is more powerful than showing genuine interest.

The best communicators aren’t just great speakers, they’re exceptional listeners. And this is far from just being quiet while the other person speaks. It’s showing genuine interest in what they have to say.

You might recall a situation when you were talking to a man and everything you said seemed to hit a dead end. He’d just give a short “I see” or a non-committal shrug of the shoulders. Or even worse, he’d turn the topic to himself and hijack the conversation with a story of his own.

Now compare that to a time when you said something to a man, and he leaned in and said “Tell me more.” 

This conveys that he’s genuinely interested in what you’re saying. It gives you the floor and makes you feel valued. And he doesn’t just do this when the topic interests him — he makes an effort to be curious about the things that matter to you, no matter his own interests. 

2) “I understand where you’re coming from…”

The power of empathy in a conversation cannot be overstated.

The phrase “I understand where you’re coming from…” has been a game-changer for me in many conversations. It shows the other person that you are trying to see things from their perspective, which can instantly diffuse tension and promote understanding.

Let me share a personal example. A while back, I was having a disagreement with a friend over something seemingly trivial. The conversation was getting heated, and neither of us were ready to back down. That’s when I decided to change the tone of the discussion.

I took a moment to put my own screaming thoughts aside, took a deep breath, and pondered what my friend was telling me. I felt a little resistance at first, but I opened my mind up to hear what he was saying.

I was then able to genuinely tell him, “I understand where you’re coming from…” and reiterated his point of view. This made him feel heard and respected, and it significantly cooled the temperature of our conversation.

We were able to continue talking calmly and eventually reached a mutual understanding.

It’s important to note that this phrase isn’t about agreeing or disagreeing. I still didn’t agree with my friend — but that doesn’t mean I couldn’t show empathy and set the stage for open, respectful communication. 

3) “Let’s find a solution together…”

A lot of women I speak to seem to think that men are stubborn and want to have things their way.

And I must admit, a lot of us really are like that. 

But a man who is an excellent communicator knows and chooses a better approach – collaboration. 

“Let’s find a solution together…” is a great phrase that demonstrates this. It shifts the conversation from being a debate or argument to a collective problem-solving exercise.

You automatically put everyone involved on the same team, so that it’s not “you against me” but “us against the problem”. 

It can sound very simplistic, but I’ve used this exact phrase many times to help shift the focus to finding common ground. And I’m not saying it works like a magic wand, but it definitely transforms the dynamics of the conversation and inspires mutual cooperation.

4) “What’s your opinion on this?”

In any conversation, it’s essential to make the other person feel valued and included.

The phrase “What’s your opinion on this?” does exactly that. When a man uses it, he’s inviting you to share your thoughts, making you feel that your opinion is important and respected — because it is.

This, again, plays into what I hear from many women as I mentioned above — that men tend to be stubborn and “don’t listen”.

So it’s easy to understand the immense impact a man can make on his conversations when he uses this phrase and truly means it. 

It’s an open invitation for a two-way dialogue and it encourages you to open up and build rapport together. 

But of course, to really know if this man is truly an excellent communicator, you need to watch what he does next. Because great communication is not just about using phrases like these, but also about genuinely listening to the person’s response. 

5) “I was wrong…”

Boy, this is a big one!

It’s something not just many men have trouble with, but I dare say all of humanity. 

Acknowledging mistakes can be really tough to do — especially when men have been brought up to believe they have to be strong and leader-like.

It takes a really mature man to understand that mistakes are not a sign of weakness but honesty and integrity — and a great communicator to admit to those mistakes out loud.

It’s when a man doesn’t try to sugarcoat the truth or shift the blame onto you — he can calmly and comfortably say, “I was wrong.”

I used to feel super uncomfortable saying this to people. It’s not easy to swallow your pride and admit when you’re wrong. But as I’ve grown, I’ve trained myself to be able to say it more naturally, and I’ve seen it make a huge difference in my relationships. 

It diffuses tension and brings honesty back into the conversation, showing that a man values truth and fairness over being right. 

Final thoughts: Communication is an art

The beauty of communication lies in its complexity and depth. It’s more than just an exchange of words; it’s about understanding, empathy, and building connections.

The phrases we’ve explored in this article are powerful tools, but they’re just a part of the bigger picture. Incredible communication is not just about what men say, it’s also about how they listen, how they react, and how they make the other person feel.

Remember the words of the renowned author Stephen Covey, “The biggest communication problem is we do not listen to understand. We listen to reply.”

We can see the immense truth in this quote when we recognize that these 5 phrases aren’t just for speaking, they’re prompts for listening too.

This is something many men often struggle with — admittedly, me too in the past. It takes courage, effort, and maturity to use these phrases with a genuine heart.

So when you’re speaking with a man and you hear him use phrases like these, take a moment to appreciate the work he’s done on himself and to build strong relationships

It’s an art that requires patience, practice, and most importantly, sincerity.

Lucas Graham

Lucas Graham, based in Auckland, writes about the psychology behind everyday decisions and life choices. His perspective is grounded in the belief that understanding oneself is the key to better decision-making. Lucas’s articles are a mix of personal anecdotes and observations, offering readers relatable and down-to-earth advice.

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