If a man uses these 7 phrases in a conversation, he has almost no social intelligence

Let’s dive into the world of social intelligence, shall we? It’s the key to any successful interaction, whether it’s a business negotiation or a casual chat at a coffee shop. But not everyone has mastered this skill.

In fact, some men are sadly lacking in this department. They say things that make you cringe, wince or even roll your eyes. And you can’t help but think, “Wow, this guy has zero social intelligence.”

Why? Because the words we use speak volumes about us. And there are certain phrases that are dead giveaways of a lack of social savvy.

As your guide through the maze of relationships and communication, let me share with you some phrases that scream “social intelligence deficit”. If you hear them in a conversation, you can almost bet your last dollar that the speaker is socially inept.

This article is designed to arm you with knowledge and foresight, and maybe even save you from some awkward encounters. Brace yourself for an enlightening – and possibly cringe-worthy – journey!

1) “I’m not being rude, but…”

Let’s kick things off with a phrase that often precedes an impolite or insensitive comment. “I’m not being rude, but…” is a classic indicator of low social intelligence.

Why? Because socially intelligent men understand the importance of tact and respect in conversations. They know how to express their thoughts and opinions without resorting to offensive or hurtful language.

This phrase is often a way for someone to justify their lack of consideration for others’ feelings or viewpoints. It’s like an ill-conceived get-out-of-jail-free card that rarely works as intended.

Instead, it typically signals that the speaker is unable or unwilling to communicate their thoughts in a considerate and empathetic manner. It’s almost as if they’re saying, “I know this might upset you, but I’m going to say it anyway”.

This kind of disregard for the emotions and perspectives of others is not just rude, it’s a glaring sign of poor social skills. So if you hear this phrase, you might want to brace yourself for a potentially uncomfortable conversation.

2) “I don’t care what people think”

On the surface, this phrase seems to exude confidence and self-assuredness. But dig a little deeper, and you’ll find it’s often a sign of low social intelligence.

Socially intelligent men understand the value of considering others’ perspectives. They appreciate that differing views can provide insight and foster growth. So when you hear, “I don’t care what people think”, it can be a red flag.

This statement often suggests an inability or unwillingness to empathize with others or consider their viewpoints. It might signal a lack of concern for the impact of their actions on others.

And here’s the counterintuitive part: Not caring about what people think doesn’t necessarily equate to being self-confident or independent. In fact, it can suggest the opposite – a resistance to feedback and an aversion to self-improvement.

While it may sound like a bold declaration of independence, this phrase often reveals a lack of social awareness and emotional intelligence.

3) “Why can’t you be more like…”

There’s one phrase that never fails to raise my eyebrows – “Why can’t you be more like…”. Whether it’s comparing someone to an ex, a friend, or even a celebrity, it’s a huge no-no in the realm of social intelligence.

Comparing someone to another person is not just hurtful, it’s downright disrespectful. It shows a lack of understanding and appreciation for the individual’s unique qualities and strengths.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I discuss how unhealthy comparisons can create feelings of inadequacy and fuel resentment in relationships.

When a man makes this kind of comparison in a conversation, it speaks volumes about his lack of social intelligence. It suggests he may not understand the importance of valuing others for who they are, instead of who he wishes they could be.

4) “That’s not my problem”

Another phrase that’s a telltale sign of low social intelligence is “That’s not my problem”. It’s a clear indicator of a lack of empathy and understanding.

People with high social intelligence have been found to be compassionate and caring. They’re willing to lend a hand or at least a sympathetic ear when someone else is in a bind. They understand that our connections to others are what make us human.

When a man says, “That’s not my problem”, it may suggest he lacks this sense of empathy and connection. He’s unwilling to step outside his own perspective to understand or assist others.

As the legendary Maya Angelou once said, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”.

And let me tell you, nothing quite leaves a sour taste like the dismissive attitude carried by the phrase “That’s not my problem”. It’s a clear indication that the speaker doesn’t fully grasp the importance of empathy in social interactions.

5) “I’m always right”

Now, here’s a phrase that sets off alarm bells – “I’m always right”. It’s a statement that screams arrogance and a lack of humility, both signs of low social intelligence.

Socially intelligent individuals understand the value of admitting when they’re wrong. They see it not as a weakness, but as an opportunity to learn and grow. They’re open to different perspectives and appreciate the fact that no one is perfect.

But when a man insists, “I’m always right”, it’s a clear sign he lacks this understanding. He’s unwilling to consider other viewpoints or acknowledge his own fallibility.

In my experience, this refusal to admit wrongs or welcome differing opinions can create a barrier in communication and connection. It’s hard to engage in meaningful conversation with someone who believes they have all the answers. So, if you hear this phrase in a conversation, be ready for some potential roadblocks!

6) “It’s just a joke”

One phrase that often leaves a bitter taste is “It’s just a joke”. It’s usually thrown out after an inappropriate or hurtful comment, as if to sweep the harm under the rug.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m a big fan of humor. But when it’s used to mask disrespect or insensitivity, it loses its charm. A joke ceases to be funny when it’s at the expense of someone else’s feelings.

As the great comedian George Carlin once said, “Comedy is a socially acceptable form of hostility and aggression”. And in my experience, hiding behind humor to belittle or offend others is a clear indicator of low social intelligence.

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7) “You’re too sensitive”

Here’s a phrase that can cut deep – “You’re too sensitive”. This statement is often used as a deflection, a way to shift the blame from the speaker’s lack of tact to the listener’s reaction.

The truth is, there’s no such thing as being “too sensitive”. People feel things deeply, and that’s not a flaw. It’s part of being human.

When someone says, “You’re too sensitive”, it shows a lack of understanding and empathy. It’s an attempt to invalidate the other person’s feelings rather than acknowledging their own missteps in communication.

Being dismissive of someone else’s emotions is a clear sign of low social intelligence. It reveals a failure to grasp the fundamental principle of empathy and respect for others’ feelings.

So if you hear this phrase, remember that your feelings are valid, and anyone who suggests otherwise might need a crash course in social intelligence.

Wrapping things up

There’s something to be said about recognizing the signs of low social intelligence. It’s not about judging or shaming, but about understanding and navigating our social interactions more effectively.

When a man uses any of the phrases we’ve discussed, it’s a clear indication that he might need to work on his social skills. And that’s okay. We’re all works in progress.

In the end, what matters is the willingness to learn and grow. As I always say, communication is a two-way street. It needs understanding, empathy, and respect from both sides.

Here is an insightful video by Justin Brown that beautifully complements our discussion today. He explores the complexities of finding a life partner and shares valuable lessons he learned from his own experiences.

Understanding the nuances of communication can significantly improve our interactions and relationships. So let’s continue this journey together, learning, growing, and embracing our shared human experiences.

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Tina Fey

I'm Tina Fey, the founder of the blog Love Connection. I've extremely passionate about sharing relationship advice. I've studied psychology and have my Masters in marital, family, and relationship counseling. I hope with all my heart to help you improve your relationships, and I hope that even if one thing I write helps you, it means more to me than just about anything else in the world. Check out my blog Love Connection, and if you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter

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