If a man says these 9 things to you, he secretly sees you as the one

So, you’ve been together for a while now.

And sure, you know your man is crazy for you, but you’re not completely sure that he thinks of you as his soulmate—as “the one.”

Well, the good news is that it’s not really that hard to tell, if you know what signs to look for!

All you have to do is recall the things he’s told you and pay close attention to his words…

Because if a man says these things to you, then he secretly sees you as the one. No doubt about it!

1) “You’re just… different!”

“You’re not like other girls.”

“You’re a rare gem!”

“I’ve never met anyone like you in my life!”

Heard any of these lines from your man?

Well, if he’s being genuine about it, that could just mean he sees you as the one!

When we say “the one,” what we really mean is that one person who’s so unique that they seem to be made especially for us.

So, if he keeps telling you that you’re truly a cut from the rest, then even if he’s not the type who believes in soulmates, trust me—he thinks you’re it!

2) “I’ve never felt this way before.”

This is similar to “You’re so different,” except it centers more on his emotions.

By saying “I’ve never felt this way before,” he’s basically saying that you’ve affected his life in an awesomely tremendous way.

Maybe he used to scoff at grand romantic gestures, but now he writes you letters and sings love songs about you.

Maybe he used to laugh at the idea of marriage, but now, he imagines you walking down the aisle in a wedding dress!

If you made such an impact on a guy, then it’s to be expected that he considers you as “the one.”

3) “I want to know what you think.”

When a guy starts to see you as the one, it makes your opinions more important to him.

He’d consult you if he’s planning to fix his apartment—should he paint his wall green? 

Should he buy a new leather couch? 

And when he makes big life decisions like accepting a job offer, he won’t sign any contract without asking for your opinion first.

It’s simple. He asks you because you’re a big part of his life. 

A lot of men care about their independence. But they act this way—like their life isn’t just theirs anymore— once they find their soulmate.

4) “It’s not mine, it’s ours!”

A man who actually DOESN’T see you as the one would always use “me,” “myself,” and “I.”

But if deep in his heart he already knows you’re the one for him, he treats you as his life partner.

He shares almost everything he has—from his home, his food, to his car. And you know it’s more than just because he’s generous as he only does this with you. 

And it makes sense. After all, you’re the one for him! So in time, what’s his will be yours too, anyway. 

5) “You know me so well.”

It’s easy to make a guy fall in love with you—they just have to feel seen and heard.

So, when he says “You know me so well!”, it just means he’s already so in love with you, and that he might even think you’re the one.

Of course, it’s easy to understand why he’d think this way. It’s rare to find someone who just truly gets us and sees through our very core. 

If your boyfriend also makes you feel this way, I’m sure there’s no question that you also believe he’s the one for you.

6) “You feel like home to me.”

“That’s when you know you’ve found somebody special. When you can just shut the f*ck up for a minute, and comfortably enjoy the silence.”- Mia from Pulp Fiction

One big indicator that you’re truly compatible with your partner is that you can be completely comfortable around each other.

There’s no pressure to think of random topics just to appear lively and interesting…

There’s no suspicion if they’re too quiet that they probably don’t like you because deep in your heart you know they do…

You share a comfortable sense of security together, so you know you can always just be yourself with him. 

And so, when your man tells you this, you can safely say that he sees you as the one. 

7) “I wished for you.” 

Or “I prayed for you” or “I asked the Universe for you.”

These lines may sound a bit corny, but if a guy genuinely means it, then he must believe you’re the one.

And isn’t this one of the cornerstones of romance—trusting in fate, destiny, a higher power? 

Your man must have had these feelings for you for a while now if he thinks meeting you was like a mini divine intervention.

And if he used to be the pragmatic type, but you’ve made him believe in dreams, magic, poetry, and prayer—things that no one else has been able to do before? Then, he definitely sees you as the one.

8) “I’ve been searching for you my whole life.”

Someone once told me this, and he really did mean it.

He said, “I’ve been on countless dates looking for that special girl… but they all disappointed me. But not you.”

I knew he wasn’t lying, because he was indeed in and out of relationships, always dissatisfied.

And while we didn’t end up together, years later he reached out to me and confessed that to that day, he still saw me as “the one” for him.

I think there’s a sense of determination to this line, the kind that when they believe they’ve found what they’ve been looking for, they can’t just give up on it. 

So if your guy says this to you, then it’s very likely that you’re the one he’s determined to keep because to him, you’re “the one”.

9) “I’ll never let you go.”

We’re bound to feel committed to the people we truly see as the one.

We’d do anything to make them happy, and we’d sacrifice anything just to make them stay.

While it can be unhealthy sometimes, what’s sure is that if a guy tells you this, he already knows you’re the one for him.

If he thinks you’re not the one, letting go and moving on may still hurt, but it won’t drive him mad.

So, if you know that your guy can’t stand the thought of losing you, it’s obvious why: he sees you as the one.

Final thoughts:

Finding “the one” can be such an amazing thing. 

Even for someone who might not subscribe to the idea, finding a person with whom they want to share their life with, and knowing that the other person feels the same way is still an incredible experience. 

However, this doesn’t automatically translate to an enduring and successful relationship. 

Yes, staying together requires effort, even when you’re with someone you’re deeply in love with. 

So, if you’ve found your soulmate, and they feel the same way about you, CONGRATS! But do keep working on your relationship. 

Love them, take care of them, respect them, and grow with them. And yes, it should be worth all this. 

Because hey, how often is it that you find “the one?”

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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