If a man no longer feels love, he’ll usually display these 8 behaviors (without realizing it)

Understanding a man’s feelings can be a bit of a mystery, especially when it comes to love. Often, when a man’s love fades, he’ll show some telltale signs without even realizing it.

This can be a very hard pill to swallow. I’ve been there, and trust me, it’s not easy to spot these subtle cues. But over the years, as I’ve helped countless people navigate their relationships on my blog, Love Connection, I’ve identified some common behaviors that men display when they no longer feel love.

In this piece, I’ll share with you the 8 typical behaviors a man will exhibit when his feelings of love have waned – behaviors he himself might not even notice.

This is Tina Fey, relationship expert and founder of Love Connection, guiding you through the sometimes murky waters of love.

Let’s get started. 

1) Emotional detachment

When a man’s feelings of love start to fade, one of the first signs is often emotional detachment.

We all have our ups and downs in relationships, but when a man starts to distance himself emotionally, it’s usually a clear sign that his feelings have changed.

He might seem less interested in your day, less excited about shared activities, or even less empathetic to your feelings. These changes can be subtle and can often creep up slowly over time. But they’re usually there if you know what to look for.

Remember, it’s not about blaming or finger pointing. It’s about understanding the signals and responding to them appropriately.

As a relationship expert, I’ve seen this time and time again. And while it can be hard to accept, recognizing these signs is the first step towards addressing the issue.

2) Less communication

Communication is the lifeline of any relationship. But when a man no longer feels love, you might notice a significant drop in the frequency and depth of his communication.

He may stop sharing his thoughts or daily experiences, or he may avoid meaningful conversations altogether. It’s as if he’s slowly closing the door to his inner world.

I’ve personally experienced this in my past relationships and I can tell you, it’s a tough place to be. But always remember, recognizing the problem is half the battle won.

The legendary poet Maya Angelou once said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” If your man is communicating less, it’s time to take notice and believe what he’s showing you.

3) Avoidance of physical intimacy

Physical intimacy is a powerful expression of love. But when a man’s feelings start to dwindle, he may avoid it or not be as responsive as he once was.

This isn’t just about sex. It’s about those tender moments of holding hands, cuddling on the couch, or simply touching each other in a loving way. If these interactions are becoming less frequent, it could be a sign that his feelings have changed.

I’ve seen this in many relationships, and I’ve experienced it in my own life too. It’s a tough reality to face. But as I mention in my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, awareness is the first step toward making positive changes.

In the book, I provide practical tools and strategies to help you overcome codependency and create a healthier, happier relationship. If you’re experiencing these issues in your relationship, I strongly encourage you to check it out.

It’s never easy to face these challenges alone. But with understanding and support, you can navigate through these difficult times and reclaim your relationship.

4) Increased kindness

Now, this might sound counterintuitive, but when a man’s love is fading, he may actually become more kind and accommodating.

But why, you ask? It’s often because he’s grappling with guilt. He knows his feelings have changed and he doesn’t want to hurt you. So, he tries to make up for it by being extra nice or overly helpful.

In my experience with countless couples, I’ve noticed this confusing behavior can leave partners in a state of emotional limbo. It’s difficult to understand because on one hand he seems more caring, but on the other hand, something just feels off.

This is just another reason why understanding men’s behaviors is so crucial in a relationship. It’s not always as straightforward as it might seem. It’s the subtle changes in behavior that often reveal the most about a person’s feelings.

5) Frequent irritation

When a man no longer feels the same love, even the smallest things can start to irritate him. You might notice him getting annoyed at things he used to find endearing or simply brush off.

Suddenly, your little habits or quirks that he once loved may become a source of frustration for him. This can be hurtful, I know. I’ve been there too.

But remember, the problem isn’t you or your habits. It’s about his changed feelings and his inability to cope with them.

Navigating these choppy emotional waters can be challenging. But understanding these signs is the first step towards healing and figuring out the best way forward.

6) Decreased effort

Let’s be honest, maintaining a relationship requires effort. It’s about showing up for each other, day in and day out. But when a man’s feelings of love begin to wane, so does his willingness to put in that effort.

You might notice a decline in his attempts to plan dates, surprise you, or even just do simple things like calling to check on you. It can feel as though he’s just going through the motions, without any real enthusiasm or care.

This lack of effort can be a raw and painful sign that his feelings have changed. And I won’t sugarcoat it – it hurts. It feels like rejection and it’s hard not to take it personally.

But remember, it’s not about your worth. It’s about his emotional state. Recognizing these signs for what they are can help you make sense of what’s happening and guide you towards the best course of action.

7) Drastic personality changes

When a man’s love starts to fade, his personality may begin to change drastically. Perhaps he’s become more introverted, or maybe he’s lost his sense of humor. These changes can be shocking and confusing, leaving you feeling like you no longer know the person you fell in love with.

I’ve been through this myself, and I can tell you it’s one of the most disorienting experiences in a relationship. But as the great Maya Angelou wisely said, “We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.”

8) Avoidance of future plans

If a man’s love is fading, he might start avoiding talks about the future. Plans for holidays, discussions about life goals, or even casual chats about next weekend can suddenly become uncomfortable subjects for him.

This can be a raw and disturbing sign of his changed feelings. He’s withdrawing, not just from the present, but from the future you’ve imagined together.

And yes, it’s painfully honest. You may feel like you’re losing not just your partner, but your shared dreams as well. 


Navigating through the maze of emotions when a man’s love starts to fade can be challenging. But recognizing these signs is the first step towards understanding and healing.

Remember, it’s not about blaming or feeling inadequate. It’s about understanding his emotional state and making the best decisions for your emotional well-being.

For more insights, I strongly recommend checking out my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship. It offers practical tools and strategies to navigate through these tough times.

Remember, you are not alone in this journey. We’re all in this together. This is Tina Fey, signing off until next time. Stay strong and keep the faith.

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Tina Fey

I'm Tina Fey, the founder of the blog Love Connection. I've extremely passionate about sharing relationship advice. I've studied psychology and have my Masters in marital, family, and relationship counseling. I hope with all my heart to help you improve your relationships, and I hope that even if one thing I write helps you, it means more to me than just about anything else in the world. Check out my blog Love Connection, and if you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter

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