If a man is highly attracted to you, he’ll usually display these 8 subtle behaviors

There’s a fair bit of mystery when it comes to attraction, especially from a man’s perspective.

Often, the signals we receive can be mixed and confusing. Is he into me or is he just being polite? These questions can lead to sleepless nights and endless overthinking.

As the founder of the Love Connection blog and a relationship expert, I’m here to help you decode these subtle behaviors. When a man is truly attracted to you, he’ll usually exhibit these 8 tell-tale signs.

This isn’t about manipulation or playing games. It’s about understanding the subtle language of attraction and making sense of how men express interest.

Ready to dive deeper? Let’s decipher the language of love together.

1) He’s all ears

It’s no secret that communication is key in any relationship.

But when a man is genuinely attracted to you, his listening skills go beyond the norm. He’s not just hearing your words; he’s absorbing your feelings, your stories, and your ideas.

This behavior is subtle yet impactful. It’s about more than just polite conversation; it’s about truly valuing what you have to say.

For example, he remembers specific details from your past conversations, asks follow-up questions, and shows genuine interest in what you’re talking about. He might even bring up past conversations or specific details you’ve mentioned to show that he appreciates your thoughts and opinions.

This is not about being obsessive or intrusive, but about showing genuine interest and attentiveness.

2) His body language speaks volumes

In my years as a relationship expert, I’ve learned that actions often speak louder than words. This is especially true when it comes to attraction.

A man who is truly attracted to you will often display this through his body language. His posture, gestures, and facial expressions can reveal more about his feelings than he may even realize.

Does he lean in when you’re speaking, maintaining eye contact? Does he mirror your movements or gestures? All these are subtle signs of attraction that can easily go unnoticed unless you’re consciously looking for them.

As the great Maya Angelou once said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” This quote rings true here. If his body language consistently shows attraction, believe it. It’s a silent communication that he may not even be aware of.

3) He values your opinion

One of the most endearing signs of a man’s attraction is his respect and value for your opinion.

This goes beyond agreeing with everything you say. It’s about showing genuine interest in your perspectives and considering them when making decisions.

Maybe he asks for your thoughts on a book he’s reading, or he values your input when choosing a restaurant for dinner. These are subtle ways he’s showing that your opinion matters to him.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I discuss the importance of mutual respect and equal partnership in maintaining a healthy relationship. These subtle signs of valuing your opinion are the starting points of such a relationship.

4) He’s comfortable with silence

Now, this might seem counterintuitive. Shouldn’t a man who’s attracted to you want to fill every moment with conversation?

The truth is, a man who’s genuinely attracted to you is comfortable with silence when he’s around you. He doesn’t feel the need to fill every second with chatter, because he’s content just being in your presence.

There’s a kind of intimacy that comes with being able to sit in silence with someone, without it being uncomfortable or awkward. It shows a level of comfort and familiarity that goes beyond surface-level attraction.

5) He initiates contact

Over the years, I’ve noticed that a man who is highly attracted to you often takes the initiative. This isn’t about grand gestures or dramatic declarations of love. It’s about small, consistent actions that reveal his interest.

Perhaps he sends you a simple “Good morning” text to start your day or reaches out to make plans for the weekend. Maybe he’s the first one to initiate a hug or a hand-hold. These actions are his subtle ways of saying, “I like being around you, and I want to spend more time with you.”

In my own love story, it was my husband’s consistent efforts to initiate contact that made me realize his deep attraction towards me. It wasn’t about being overly aggressive or dominant; it was about showing his interest in a respectful and consistent way.

6) He’s not always perfect

In a world filled with romantic comedies and fairy-tale endings, it can be easy to expect perfection. But real attraction, real love, isn’t about being flawless.

When a man is truly attracted to you, he’s not afraid to show you his vulnerable side. He lets you see his imperfections and isn’t scared to make mistakes around you.

He might fumble with his words, get nervous, or even say something silly. These are raw, honest moments where he is being his true self around you because he trusts you and values your opinion.

7) He supports your passions

When a man is attracted to you, your passions become his interests. He wants to know more about the things that excite you, the things that make your heart beat faster.

It could be anything from your love for painting, your dedication to a cause, or even your obsession with a certain genre of movies. He not only shows interest but also offers his support in your pursuits.

In my own journey, I’ve been lucky to have a partner who not only respects my passion for relationship counselling but also actively supports it. It’s one of the many signs that told me he was ‘the one’.

As the legendary writer C.S. Lewis once said, “Affection is responsible for nine-tenths of whatever solid and durable happiness there is in our lives”. When he shows affection towards your passions, it’s a strong indication of his attraction towards you.

8) He’s in it for the long haul

Attraction isn’t just about the present moment. It’s about envisioning a future together.

When a man is genuinely attracted to you, he talks about the future. Not just next week or next month, but years down the line. He sees you in his life in the long term, and he’s not afraid to express that.

This isn’t about rushing into commitments or making grand promises. It’s about subtly making you a part of his future plans, indicating that he sees you as a significant part of his life.

Now, this can be scary. It’s raw, it’s honest, and it’s vulnerable. But it’s also one of the most genuine signs of attraction.

Wrapping It Up

Decoding a man’s attraction towards you can sometimes feel like navigating a maze. But remember, it’s often the subtle behaviors that reveal the most.

These signs aren’t about grand gestures or dramatic declarations. They’re about small, consistent behaviors that show he’s genuinely attracted to you.

Remember, it’s not just about recognizing these signs but also about understanding and valuing them. It’s these small, subtle behaviors that can lay the foundation for a meaningful and lasting relationship.

For more insights on love and relationships, consider checking out my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship. It’s a guide to understanding the dynamics of attachments in relationships and how to build healthier, more fulfilling connections.

Remember, love isn’t always about grand gestures. Sometimes, it’s found in the subtlest of behaviors.