If a man is attracted to you but won’t make the first move, he’ll display these 7 subtle behaviors

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Attraction is a desire in people that’s emotional, romantic, or sexual. 

From my experience, the signs of attraction are pretty similar for guys and girls because we all show certain behaviors when we’re interested in someone.

But let me ask you something: do you ask yourself, “Does he like me?” Well, if so, you’ve come to the right place. What better way than to hear it from a guy’s perspective?

If you want to check for signs that he might like you back, here are a few ways to tell. 

1) He tries to be around you often 

He seems to pop up wherever you are, whether it’s at social events, the office, or even just a casual get-together with friends.

If a guy consistently tries to be around you, it’s often a sign he’s attracted to you. 

My good friend that I worked with was interested in a girl who worked in a local restaurant where we frequently ate during lunch breaks. 

He was very attracted to her but scared to say anything. Instead, we ate at the same place for months because he always wanted to be there because of her. He even found out that she took a pottery class, which he joined later on.

Even today, I feel nauseous about eating avocado toast as I had too many during those months, but hey, that’s one of the things you do for your friends. 

Ultimately, he was constantly creating opportunities to spend some time with her, and it was making him happy. But it seemed she was enjoying it, too. 

And if you want to find out whether they ended up together, keep on reading. 

2) He playfully teases you or makes lighthearted jokes

When someone playfully teases you or frequently makes lighthearted jokes, it’s also a sign they’re attracted to you. It’s their way of trying to make a connection and make you laugh.

If you have a friend or a coworker who often jokes with you, pokes fun in a good-natured way, or playfully teases you about something, it means they’re trying to be more than a friend or a coworker. 

Look, we all get giggly at work and try to be funny around people we like, but being attracted to someone means doing it all the time. 

If you know a guy who’s trying to turn the regular office vibes into a comedy show starring both of you, he’s attracted to you. 

They’re not just thinking of you as a regular office buddy. Nope, they’re adding an extra flavor.

3) He looks for excuses to start a conversation with you

Even if it’s just a quick chat about something random, he’ll start looking for excuses to start a conversation with you.

If you like a guy and wonder if he likes you back, pay attention to this one, as he’ll constantly find reasons to strike up a chat. 

It could be something related to your work, a shared interest, or even just a random question about your day.

For example, if you’re at a party together, Christmas dinner, or any other event, he’ll try to be around you and ask questions like, “Hey, have you tried the snacks? I heard they’re amazing!” 

He might even approach you and ask what you’re drinking or ask you any other question that comes to his mind at that moment. This is his way of initiating a conversation, using a simple topic to engage with you. 

And all of it only means one thing: they enjoy talking to you and find you incredibly interesting. 

4) He tries to get physically closer to you

Let me share something from my own life again. I met my wife in a bar on a Saturday night. We didn’t start dating straight away, though. She was a hard nut to crack, so it took some time. 

What was interesting was that we were always going out to the same places. I guess it’s the joys of living in a smaller town.

Every time I saw her in the same bar or club, I would try to get closer to her, but not in a creepy way. I needed to make myself interesting enough so she could notice me. 

My buddies and I would sit at the table next to where she was sitting with her friends and start cracking jokes and exchanging meaningful looks with them. 

I would always try to lean closer to her. If she was dancing, I would dance too. I wanted to know everything about her.

Well, all that effort has paid off, as we’ve been 16 years together now!

5) He engages with you on social media

If a guy is often starting real conversations with you on social media, it’s a good sign he’s interested. 

Say you’re scrolling through Instagram, and you notice this guy not only liking your posts but also taking the time to comment.

Maybe he replies to your stories, drops a funny emoji, or asks questions about what you’ve shared. He’s obviously making an effort to be part of your online world as he wants to know more about you. 

And if you’re thinking this online interaction is just random, well, you’re mistaken because he’s using social media as a way to connect with you.

6) He tries to look attractive to you

Guys often do things to look their best, especially when they’re around someone they like. 

If he’s fixing his shirt or adjusting his suit, he’s trying to look clean and strong. 

If you pass by a window and he’s checking himself out, he could be making sure his outfit is okay, or his hair is in place. 

We sure love to put in extra effort to look good when someone we like is around, and it’s not about being vain. 

Everyone wants to make a good impression on others, especially when others are people we feel attracted to. 

So, when you notice a guy tweaking his style or taking that extra second to check himself out, he might just be trying to turn on a bit of charm and catch your eye.

7) He opens up about personal experiences or stories from his life

If a guy you like starts sharing personal stuff, like stories from his life, he probably likes you a lot. 

I don’t know about you, but I don’t share personal things with people I don’t feel comfortable with. It requires certain trust between people. 

When a guy tells you about a funny adventure with friends, a work challenge, or a childhood memory, it’s not just regular talk. He trusts you with these stories, and he wants you to know him better. 

He’s not just chatting; he’s trying to connect with you, showing he’s interested in more than just being friends. Still, he’s probably too shy or too afraid to make the first move. 

But ultimately, when he shares a bit about himself, it’s his way of saying, “Let’s get to know each other better.” 

And hopefully, that’s just the thing you wanted to hear from his mouth. 

Final thoughts

Trying to figure out if a guy likes you isn’t always easy. 

Some guys just have a hard time expressing what they feel, especially if they’re shy. So, even if they like you, it might not be obvious at first.

If you notice a combination of these behaviors, it’s a good sign that he’s interested but just won’t make the first move.

However, when in doubt and if you’re really eager to know, well, just ask him! It can be a bit scary, but it doesn’t have to be.

If it’s a no, well, at least you know. If it’s a yes, then the fun begins!

Remember my buddy from earlier? Well, guess what? His effort paid off, too. 

Adrian Volenik

Adrian has years of experience in the field of personal development and building wealth. Both physical and spiritual. He has a deep understanding of the human mind and a passion for helping people enhance their lives. Adrian loves to share practical tips and insights that can help readers achieve their personal and professional goals. He has lived in several European countries and has now settled in Portugal with his family. When he’s not writing, he enjoys going to the beach, hiking, drinking sangria, and spending time with his wife and son.

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