If a man genuinely wants to be with you, he’ll almost always display these 8 subtle behaviors

Understanding men can sometimes feel like unraveling a mystery. But ladies, I’m here to tell you, it doesn’t have to be that complicated.

When a man is truly into you, he’ll show it in subtle ways. It’s all about noticing the little things he does that speak volumes about his feelings for you.

Hi there, Tina Fey here from Love Connection. With years of relationship expertise under my belt, I’ve picked up on some tell-tale signs that indicate genuine interest.

So, allow me to share with you these eight subtle behaviors that almost always mean a man genuinely wants to be with you. No manipulation, no games – just pure, unadulterated truth.

Let’s dive in.

1) He listens intently

We often forget how powerful the act of truly listening can be. It’s a rarity in today’s fast-paced world, but it’s a clear indication of someone’s genuine interest.

When a man is genuinely into you, he’ll hang onto your every word. He’s not just waiting for his turn to speak or glancing at his phone while you talk. Instead, he’s actively engaged in the conversation and showing genuine interest in your thoughts and feelings.

This subtle behavior is more than just good manners. It’s a sign that he values your opinion and wants to understand you better. And that kind of respect is a solid foundation for any potential relationship.

When you’re sharing stories or discussing your day, pay attention to his listening behavior. It might just reveal more about his feelings for you than words ever could. But remember, it has to be genuine. If it feels like he’s just going through the motions, trust your instincts.

2) He makes time for you

A man who is genuinely interested in you will make time for you, no matter how busy he is. It’s not about having time, it’s about making time. And that’s a truth I’ve come to appreciate in my own relationships.

It reminds me of a quote by the brilliant Maya Angelou, “Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.”

If he’s consistently carving out time in his schedule to be with you, it’s a clear sign that he values your presence in his life. He might have a packed work schedule or various other commitments, but he’ll find a way to spend quality time with you.

This isn’t about grand gestures or elaborate dates. It could be as simple as a quick coffee catch-up or a call at the end of the day. The key here is consistency.

Keep an eye out for this subtle yet significant behavior. If he’s always “too busy”, it might be time to reconsider where you stand. Actions speak louder than words and making time is one of the loudest actions of all.

3) He respects your boundaries

If a man truly wants to be with you, he’ll respect your personal boundaries. This is a crucial aspect of any healthy relationship and is often overlooked.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I delve into the importance of boundaries and how they contribute to forming a strong and balanced relationship.

A man who genuinely cares about you will respect your ‘no’, and won’t try to push you into anything you’re uncomfortable with. He understands that your boundaries are not obstacles, but rather an essential part of who you are.

Pay attention to how he responds when you express your limits. Does he respect them without question? Or does he try to negotiate or dismiss them? Remember, a man who truly wants to be with you will honor your boundaries and make sure you feel safe and comfortable at all times. Because at the end of the day, respect is the foundation of love.

4) He’s not afraid to show vulnerability

It might seem counterintuitive, but a man who genuinely wants to be with you won’t always try to appear strong and invincible. Instead, he’ll be willing to show his vulnerable side.

In a world where men are often conditioned to hide their emotions, a man who opens up to you is showing a high level of trust and emotional investment. It shows he feels safe enough with you to reveal his fears, hopes, and insecurities.

This doesn’t mean he’ll spill all his secrets on the first date, of course. Vulnerability takes time and trust. But if he’s gradually opening up more, sharing personal stories or feelings, it’s a good sign he’s serious about you.

Vulnerability isn’t a sign of weakness, but of courage and authenticity. It’s about being real with each other, even when it’s not easy. And that’s a strong sign of a man who genuinely wants to be with you.

5) He celebrates your achievements

If a man truly wants to be with you, he won’t feel threatened by your success. Instead, he’ll be your biggest cheerleader, celebrating your achievements no matter how big or small.

In my own life, there’s nothing quite as heartwarming as seeing my partner’s face light up when I share my accomplishments with him. It shows me he truly values my happiness and success.

If your man is always there to congratulate you, encourage you, and celebrate with you, it’s a great sign. This shows he’s not just interested in you, but also in your growth and happiness. He wants to see you thrive and be the best version of yourself.

A man who genuinely wants to be with you will help lift you higher, not hold you back.

6) He apologizes when he’s wrong

This one can be a tough pill to swallow, but it’s raw and honest. If a man truly wants to be with you, he’ll apologize when he’s wrong. Nobody’s perfect, and mistakes are bound to happen. What matters is how he handles those mistakes.

A man who cares about you will own up to his errors, apologize sincerely, and make an effort to do better. He won’t shy away from apologizing because he values the relationship more than his pride.

An apology shows responsibility and maturity. It shows that he respects you enough to admit when he’s wrong and is committed to making things right.

Don’t underestimate the power of a genuine apology. It reveals a lot about a man’s character and his intentions towards you.

7) He includes you in his future plans

When a man genuinely wants to be with you, he’ll naturally include you in his future plans. This doesn’t necessarily mean he’s planning your wedding from the third date. But he’ll talk about future events or aspirations with an underlying assumption that you’ll be there.

In my experience, it’s a subtle yet profound way to express long-term commitment. It shows a desire to share not just the present, but also the future with you.

As the wise C.S. Lewis once said, “The future is something which everyone reaches at the rate of sixty minutes an hour, whatever he does, whoever he is.” So if he’s reaching his future and picturing you in it, that’s a strong sign of his genuine feelings for you.

If a man sees you in his future, it’s because he wants you to be part of it. And that speaks volumes about his intentions.

8) He’s consistent in his actions

Let’s be raw and honest here: words are easy, but actions take effort. If a man genuinely wants to be with you, his actions will show it consistently.

He won’t just shower you with affection one day and then go cold the next. His feelings for you won’t fluctuate based on his mood or circumstances. Instead, he’ll be consistent in showing his care and commitment towards you.

Consistency is often overlooked, but it’s incredibly important. It builds trust and forms a solid foundation for a relationship.

Pay close attention to his actions. Are they in line with his words? Does he follow through on his promises? Remember, inconsistency can be a red flag, while consistent actions are a sign of genuine intentions.

Conclusion

Understanding these subtle behaviors can give you a clearer picture of a man’s intentions. But remember, every person is unique and might express their feelings differently. Trust your instincts, and don’t rush into judgments.

The journey of love can be confusing and complex, but it’s also beautiful and worth it. Keep these signs in mind, but also remember to communicate openly with your partner.

For more insights on relationship dynamics, do check out my book Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship. It’s packed with practical advice and strategies to help you build healthier relationships.

Remember, genuine love isn’t about grand gestures or dramatic declarations. It’s often in the subtle, consistent behaviors that speak louder than words. So keep your eyes open, your heart ready, and as always, love wisely.