I spent my 30s chasing adventure and avoiding commitment. Now in my 40s, I’m single and lonely.

As an Aussie entrepreneur who spent his 30s jet-setting around the globe, I found myself stepping into my 40s in the bustling city of Dubai, far from the familiar landscapes of my homeland. Throughout this journey, I was fueled by a thirst for adventure and an unyielding commitment to my business. I’ve sowed seeds in the corporate world that have grown into flourishing offices in Dubai, Saigon, and looking ahead, Sao Paulo.

I’ve been fortunate to experience a life that most only dream of – a life filled with excitement that comes from high-stakes decisions, the thrill of new ventures, and the awe-inspiring beauty of foreign lands. But as my focus on business and travel intensified, my attention to personal relationships took a backseat.

Dubai is a vibrant city that never sleeps, but despite being surrounded by towering skyscrapers and a whirlwind of activity, there are moments when loneliness creeps in. I’ve realized that amid my relentless pursuit of professional success and wanderlust, I’ve inadvertently created a life that feels empty without the warmth of personal companionship.

Yet, this realization isn’t tinged with regret or self-reproach. On the contrary, it’s a reflection that carries an undercurrent of acceptance and understanding. This is the life I chose – one where sacrifices were necessary and each moment was an opportunity to learn something new.

I’ve learned not to berate myself for the choices I’ve made. Instead, I appreciate the magic in every moment – whether it’s marveling at the setting sun over the Arabian desert or closing a successful business deal. Love may be waiting just around the corner or perhaps this solitary existence is what my life will continue to be – and that’s okay.

This journey has taught me to enjoy each moment for what it is and look forward to whatever the next chapter brings. As I navigate through this new phase in my life, I’m exploring what it means to balance my love for adventure and success with a deep desire for personal connection and companionship.

Navigating through the maze of solitude and companionship

In my 30s, life was an adrenaline-fueled adventure ride. The thrill of building a successful business and exploring new countries was intoxicating. I was living the dream, or so I thought.

As an entrepreneur, my mind was a whirlwind of ideas, strategies, and constant hustling. Many late nights were spent in the office or on flights to different corners of the globe. Every waking moment was consumed by my drive for business success and the exhilaration of wanderlust.

In my pursuit of these twin passions, investing time in cultivating personal relationships often seemed like a distraction. It was a conscious choice to prioritize work over commitment. I was so engrossed in my professional world that I didn’t realize the void it was creating on the personal front.

Now in my 40s, the void has become more evident. The city lights seem a little less bright and the bustling streets a little less lively when there’s no one to share those moments with. There’s a sting of loneliness that creeps in during quiet moments.

Challenging the conventional idea of a balanced life

It’s a common belief that a successful and fulfilling life includes a harmonious blend of professional achievements and personal relationships. We’re often told that both are crucial for happiness, and one without the other creates an imbalance.

For a long time, I subscribed to this idea. But my life experiences have led me to question it. I’ve found immense satisfaction in my professional pursuits and travel escapades. They’ve enriched my life in ways I couldn’t have imagined, and I wouldn’t trade them for anything.

Yes, there is a certain loneliness that comes with this life choice. But isn’t loneliness a part of the human experience, irrespective of one’s marital status or relationship commitments? It’s a universal emotion that can strike anyone, anywhere.

My perspective challenges the traditional notion that personal relationships are a prerequisite for a fulfilling life. I believe it’s possible to lead a rewarding life based on your own terms and choices, even if they deviate from societal norms.

Embracing solitude and finding inner peace

The first step towards resolving my feelings of loneliness was acceptance. I acknowledged the choices I’ve made and their consequences. I realized that my singlehood wasn’t a phase but possibly a permanent state, and that’s okay.

Next, I started focusing on self-care and personal growth. I began reading more, practicing mindfulness, and engaging in physical activities like trekking and sailing. These activities not only kept me occupied but also helped me understand myself better.

I learned to enjoy my own company. I started to appreciate the silence and the room for introspection it provided. Over time, being alone didn’t feel like a punishment anymore, but rather an opportunity for self-discovery.

To anyone going through a similar experience, remember that it’s fine to be single and focus on your passions. But it’s also crucial to introspect and ensure that your choices align with your true desires. Embrace your solitude, invest in self-growth, and remember that every life choice we make comes with its rewards and challenges. The key lies in accepting our choices and finding joy in our unique life journey.

Reflecting on life choices and embracing self-empowerment

In life, we often find ourselves at crossroads, making decisions that shape our future. It’s crucial to remember that taking responsibility for these choices, even when things don’t pan out as expected, is empowering. Owning my choices has given me a sense of control and increased my personal power.

I’ve realized that most of our perceptions about life stem from societal expectations and cultural conditioning. But the truth is, living life on someone else’s terms can lead to dissatisfaction.

  • My current situation isn’t something I need to escape from; it’s the reality I chose.
  • I’ve learned to question societal myths and expectations that limit my potential.
  • Instead of blind positivity, I face the reality of my situation with acceptance.
  • I pursue my desires and ambitions, not those imposed by society.

Seeking self-empowerment has involved breaking free from societal expectations and embracing practical self-development over feel-good mysticism. Every day, I dedicate time to self-improvement techniques like mindfulness and reading that align my life with my true nature.

This journey of self-exploration has not only reshaped my reality but also made me realise that it’s okay to be different. It’s okay to choose a path less travelled if it’s the one that resonates with you.

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Justin Brown

Justin Brown is an entrepreneur and thought leader in personal development and digital media, with a foundation in education from The London School of Economics and The Australian National University. As the co-founder of Ideapod, The Vessel, and a director at Brown Brothers Media, Justin has spearheaded platforms that significantly contribute to personal and collective growth. His deep insights are shared on his YouTube channel, JustinBrownVids, offering a rich blend of guidance on living a meaningful and purposeful life.

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