I lost my hair in my early 20s and tried to hold on by keeping it short. Then I finally found my groove in life by shaving it all off.

When I was in my early 20s, I began to lose my hair. It was a gradual process, starting with a little recession at the temples. I still had hair on the top of my head, but it was thinning out. The situation was not ideal, especially considering the societal norms that often equate a full head of hair with youth and vitality.

In an attempt to cling to what was left, I decided to keep my hair short. This strategy worked for a while, but as the years went by and my hair continued to thin, it became more and more difficult to hide the fact that I was going bald.

Being a young man grappling with this change was not easy. People made assumptions about me based on my hair loss, and I had internalized the idea that being bald was undesirable. The worst part? I had convinced myself that my head shape was just not suitable for baldness.

But then came a turning point in my early 30s. After years of trying to hold on, I finally let go and fully embraced being a bald man. I shaved off what remained of my hair — a decision that transformed my life in ways I never expected.

The relief I felt was enormous. Not just because I no longer had to worry about shampoo or dealing with unruly strands. It was more than that — it felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. Finally accepting and owning my baldness became an empowering statement to myself: I no longer cared about societal norms or beauty standards revolving around hair.

To my surprise, people started complimenting me on my new look. Turns out, I did have the head shape for it after all! But more importantly, this journey wasn’t just about embracing physical changes — it ended up being an important lesson in self-confidence and acceptance.

Shaving off all of my hair wasn’t just about giving up on maintaining what little hair I had left. It was actually about reclaiming my confidence and redefining my perceptions of attractiveness. Here’s my experience of going from trying to hold on to my thinning hair to fully embracing baldness.

 

 
 
 
 
 
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From holding on to letting go

In my early 20s, when I first noticed that my hair was thinning, I felt a pang of anxiety. It seemed like an inevitable conclusion to a problem I had been dreading. Desperate to hold on to what was left, I decided to keep it short. I assumed this would make my hair loss less noticeable.

And for a while, it did. The shorter hair made the thinning less conspicuous. But as time went on, the bald patches became harder to disguise. The constant worry about whether others noticed my hair loss added a layer of stress to my daily life.

Then, in my early 30s, after years of trying to camouflage my receding hairline, I had an epiphany. I realized the energy and time I was spending on hiding my baldness could be better spent on other aspects of my life.

I took the plunge and shaved it all off. And to my surprise, it felt liberating. More than that – it felt right. This was me. This was who I was supposed to be.

Challenging the baldness stereotype

For as long as I can remember, there has been a pervasive belief that baldness is equivalent to a loss of masculinity or attractiveness. Society has created an image of the ideal man with a full head of hair, and this image has been deeply ingrained in our minds.

I was no different, and I too had internalized these beliefs. I thought that my thinning hair was a sign of losing my youthful appeal. That’s why I held on to it for as long as I could.

However, my journey towards embracing baldness challenged these preconceived notions. Instead of feeling less attractive, I felt more confident. Instead of feeling less masculine, I felt more myself.

My experience taught me that attractiveness and masculinity are not defined by the amount of hair on your head but by how comfortable you are with yourself. Baldness does not make you any less attractive or masculine; it’s how you carry it that truly matters.

Embracing baldness: The steps I took

If you’re in a similar situation to mine, first, know that it’s okay to feel anxious or insecure about your hair loss. It’s a natural human reaction. But it’s also important not to let it define you.

The first step I took towards embracing my baldness was acceptance. I had to accept the fact that I was losing my hair, and there was nothing I could do to change it. Acceptance is not about giving up; it’s about acknowledging reality and making peace with it.

Next, I decided to take control of the situation by shaving my head. This was a bold move, but it felt liberating. It was like saying to the world, “This is me, and I’m okay with it.” The act of shaving my head was a physical manifestation of my acceptance.

Lastly, I had to work on my self-confidence. This was not an overnight process. It involved a lot of introspection and self-love. I had to repeatedly remind myself that my worth is not determined by the amount of hair on my head.

In the end, these steps helped me embrace my baldness and regain my confidence. They allowed me to let go of societal norms and find my groove in life. If you’re going through something similar, remember that the journey is just as important as the destination.

I’m trying to convince my friend to shave his hair off but he’s holding on a bit longer.

Breaking free from societal expectations

Looking back, my journey was not just about embracing baldness. It was also about challenging societal norms and expectations. It was about taking responsibility for my situation, even when it wasn’t my fault, to increase my personal power.

I began to question the societal myths and expectations that were limiting me. I realized that my self-worth was not tied to my hair or lack thereof. This realization was a crucial step towards self-empowerment.

  • Acknowledge your dissatisfaction or struggles.
  • Face the reality of your situation, avoid blind positivity.
  • Understand societal conditioning and its impact on your self-perception.
  • Pursue your personal ambitions and desires, not those imposed by society.
  • Embrace practical self-improvement techniques and dedicate time daily to practice them.
  • Align your life with your true nature, not someone else’s expectations.

Embracing baldness was, for me, a journey of self-exploration. It reshaped my reality and allowed me to live life on my own terms. I discovered that when you learn to think for yourself and break free from societal expectations, you move forward with more purpose and direction.

If you find yourself in a similar situation, I hope my story inspires you to do the same. Remember, it’s not just about hair loss — it’s about reclaiming your personal power and living life on your own terms.

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Justin Brown

Justin Brown is an entrepreneur and thought leader in personal development and digital media, with a foundation in education from The London School of Economics and The Australian National University. As the co-founder of Ideapod, The Vessel, and a director at Brown Brothers Media, Justin has spearheaded platforms that significantly contribute to personal and collective growth. His deep insights are shared on his YouTube channel, JustinBrownVids, offering a rich blend of guidance on living a meaningful and purposeful life.

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