7 ways to trigger the infatuation instinct in your man

Have you ever become close to a guy, only for him to suddenly lose interest?

Whether you’ve just met, you’ve been together for six months, or married for 10 years, somewhere along the way he pulls away.

What you need to do is trigger his infatuation instinct.

Because with the right combination of words, you could tap into his brain and rewire the way he’s thinking and feeling about you.

In this article, I’m going to tell you everything you need to know about the infatuation instinct, including a few simple ways to trigger it in your man.

What is the infatuation instinct?

The infatuation instinct was discovered by relationship expert Clayton Max and is the centerpiece of his best-selling book, Infatuation Scripts.

The concept is relatively simple: By using words and gestures, you have the power to tap into a man’s brain and trigger his infatuation instinct.

Once triggered, the chemicals will then make him unable to stop thinking about you. All those lingering doubts he once had will disappear and he will become convinced that you’re the only one for him.

The concept is backed by research from Rutgers Business School, Stony Brook University, and the Albert Einstein College of Medicine, adding credibility to this life-changing theory.

Here are the brain chemicals that researchers found to be involved in the process:

  • Dopamine: The chemical for pleasure and pain.
  • Serotonin: Stabilises a person’s mood and feelings of happiness.
  • Norepinephrine: This increases blood sugar levels to help him feel energetic and positive.

How do I access Infatuation Scripts?

While this article will give you an excellent introduction into the infatuation instinct, if you really want to trigger it in your man the right way, you need to read the Clayton Max’s Infatuation Scripts book.

Infatuation Scripts is a series of scripts that will see you through a variety of relationship situations. It’s one of the most popular relationship guides you can get your hands on.

In the online bundle, you’ll find:

  • The main manual
  • Audio files
  • A video series

Click here to get instant access to Infatuation Scripts at the current cheapest price.

What does it mean when he’s infatuated with you?

How will this sort of infatuation change your relationship for the better? When this instinct is triggered in your man, there’s a number of things you can expect to happen.

1) He only sees the positive

Your man will be blind to any of your negative personality traits. He will only be able to see the best in you.

2) He will no longer see any other woman the same way

When you trigger his infatuation instinct, your man will only have eyes for you.

3) He will become moody

While it’s not the most desirable side effects of this instinct, it does show that it’s working. Your man will experience more ups and downs for the simple fact that he will be worried about losing you.

4) He will prioritise you

Before you know it, you will become his number on priority in life and he will make that clear.

3 key techniques to trigger his infatuation instinct

In his best-selling program Infatuation Scripts, Clayton Max takes you through the 3 key techniques that all women can use to help their relationship.

Whether you have just met the man, are a couple of dates in, have been dating for months or even married for years, these techniques are the key to triggering his infatuation instinct and turning the tables in your relationship.

While Clayton takes you through 12 scripts altogether in his program, here’s a brief summary of the 3 main ones:

1) Make him curious about you

You don’t want to give everything away up front. Instead, simply catch his attention.

It’s about drawing your man in and encouraging him to keep digging to learn more about you.

Before you know it, you’ll be the only thing on his mind and he won’t be able to stop thinking about you.

2) Get him to invest in you

Relationships are all about investing your time in the other person to get to know them. You want your man to work for you, because anything worth working for is worth having!

Let him enter into the chase to see if he can win you over. For example, wait and let him be the one to call you first. Make sure you’re always the one to say goodbye first at the end of the conversation.

It’s about testing how far he will go to fight for you, keeping him interested and on the chase at all times.

3) Keep the seed of uncertainty in your relationship

Finally, you never want your man to feel too comfortable in your relationship. You want him to always be working on winning you over and appreciating exactly what he has in front of him.

So, what are the other 9 scripts you can use to keep a man on his toes?

  • Independence script
  • Intrigued script
  • Cliffhanger script
  • Barrier script
  • Curveball script
  • Shaping script
  • Temptation script
  • Uninterested script
  • Urgency script

Each one is aimed at hooking your man and drawing him into the relationship, without giving too much away. You don’t want him to get comfortable, because then he loses all appreciation for what he has. It’s about keeping him on his toes and making him feel that he could lose you at any moment. This will have him fighting for you like there’s no tomorrow.

Now you understand exactly how the scripts can help trigger your man’s infatuation instinct, it’s time to take a look at some practical ways you can get started today.

7 ways to trigger the infatuation instinct in your man

1) Accept the reality

Before you can even dive in and begin triggering your man’s infatuation instinct, it’s important to understand just how differently men are wired.

You need to step back in your relationship and accept that he can’t control his lack of commitment and desire he’s currently experiencing. As frustrating as it is for you, placing the blame onto him will only push him further away.

The best thing you can do for the future of your relationship is to let it go. Accept this is just who he is as a man, and instead of changing that, you’re simply going to trigger this instinct in him.

2) Compliment him in front of others

When your man achieves something great, make sure you let him know in front of others. You want to let him know just how proud you are of what he has achieved.

When you’re out in public and surrounded by others, you want to keep things possible. Now is not the time to air any dirty laundry you might have. It’s a chance to boost him up and make him feel good about himself, as in turn, he will also feel good about you for having his back and standing behind him.

3) Express gratitude

Saying “thank you” and “I appreciate you” is easy enough, but it’s something many of us forget. It’s about recognising those little things that often go unnoticed in life.

  • When he brings you a coffee first thing in the morning.
  • If he cleans the plates after dinner.
  • When he leaves a note for you after heading out.

By showing him that his actions are not just noticed, but also appreciated, it will encourage him to keep being there for you and helping you out as much as he can.

Similarly, to the hero instinct, he wants to play that everyday hero in your life, and getting feedback from you will help him do just that.

4) Share snippets over time

We can always be in such a rush to fast-track a relationship that we want to get everything out on the table as soon as possible.

It’s better if you can keep a few gems up your sleeve. A few surprises about yourself that he won’t be able to guess on his own.

This will keep him interested.

He will think he knows you, and then you throw out another titbit simply to keep him guessing. It’s the perfect way to trigger his instinct and keep him on the ball.

Always leave him wanting more!

5) Under react

You want to show your man that you aren’t high maintenance. You’re not going to overreact about every little thing in your relationship.

Let’s face it, women are known for nagging and being dramatic. Don’t play into this stereotype, or he will start to see you like every other woman out there.

But you’re not.

You’re different.

That doesn’t mean you have to put up with everything he does. It just means putting things into perspective. Is it really worth having a blowout over that dirty dish in the sink? Or is it better to just suck it up and move on?

If you do have a fight about something, try and listen to his side of it as well. Don’t get caught up in the heat of the moment and throw out words you don’t mean.

Enjoy some time together where you can both just relax in peace and quiet. We all need the time out every now and then. Let him know you can give it to him. He’ll love you for it.

6) Be independent

Believe it or not, independence is one of the big attractions for men.

If he knows that you’re more than capable without him, he’s going to work harder to prove himself invaluable in your life.

He’s going to work for it.

All the while knowing you’re perfectly happy doing things on your own as well. This is something all men desire. Being able to play the hero, without having to carry all the weight that comes with that.

7) Always leave him wanting more

It’s when we (both men and women) become comfortable in a relationship that we stop appreciating what’s in front of us.

We simply take it for granted.

One way to counter this is to make sure you always leave him wanting.

Whether it’s telling stories about yourself or in the bedroom, never meet all his desires. That way he will remain hooked and eager for more.

What next?

While these 7 steps are a great place to get started, if you really want to trigger your man’s infatuation instinct, then you need all the 12 scripts from Clayton Max to help you through.

You can download all the them right away here.

Trust me, they’re life-changing.

These practical scripts will show you have to trigger your man, no matter your circumstances, and keep him hooked for years to come.

No more taking you for granted.

No more doubting whether or not you’re the one for him.

It’s all about discovering that happily ever after and working on it each and every day.

It’s worth it.

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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