It’s no secret that telling someone you like them is a difficult process.
I’m a guy, and I’ve found it virtually impossible my whole life.
But the truth is, once you learn a few techniques, it becomes WAY easier.
The best bit?
You’ll feel way better after you’re able to express how you feel.
So if you want to tell someone you like them, look no further than these tips:
1) Wait for the right moment
Let’s be honest: You can’t tell someone you like them when you’re walking past them on the street.
They might be in a rush, they might have somewhere to go, and the whole thing could end up being awkward.
So, keep this in mind:
You need to pick a moment where you’re both relaxed and in private.
It’s also helpful if you’re engaged in some kind of activity, like going for a walk, having a coffee or eating an ice-cream.
2) However, there will never be a perfect moment
You’ll never stumble upon the “perfect moment”. It just won’t happen.
In the end, you’re going to have to rip the band-aid off and ask them out.
So if you’ve decided to do it, just do it, and don’t wait for a time that’s a “perfect”.
3) You’re going to feel nervous and anxious – but that’s normal
Your heart will race. Your stomach will churn. Adrenalin will run through your body. Don’t worry, it’s normal.
After all, telling someone you like them isn’t an easy process. It makes EVERYONE nervous.
So lighten up and don’t get worried when you’re feeling nervous. Enjoy it. It’s actually quite exciting.
4) Stop thinking about the future of what COULD happen
I know how this goes. You can’t stop thinking about the future. You’re going to grow old together, have babies and live happily ever after.
While it’s fun to think of, it’s only going to make it a huge deal when you tell them you like them.
In the end, that story in your head doesn’t really matter. It isn’t real and it may or may not happen.
What matters is living in the moment and getting through the first stage of telling them how you feel.
5) Why do you really want to tell them you like them?
This is important to consider. You need to work out if you truly like them for who they are, or if they’re more sinister reasons that won’t help you or them.
For example, if you like them because you want to be seen with them to make you look cool, then your intentions aren’t very meaningful.
The connection will be superficial, which will end up hurting you and them.
But if you like them because they give you a warm, fuzzy feeling inside and you appreciate them for who they are, then it’s a great sign that you genuinely like them.
If that’s the case, you should continue with your plans of telling them you like them.
6) You are going out of your comfort zone
As we’ve said, none of this will be easy. This is something you probably haven’t done before, so of course you’re not going to feel comfortable.
You can’t control their reactions, either. What happens will happen and it might not be you’ve envisioned.
When you express yourself, you’re also showing your vulnerability. Accept that. It takes an enormous amount of courage to do what you’re about to do, so be proud of yourself for having the course to tell someone you like them.
7) Don’t do over text
It can be tempting to do it over text or messenger, but this will reduce your chances of success.
You’ll come across as lacking courage and you won’t be able to communicate everything you’re feeling.
I know it’s difficult, but you’ll feel so much better about yourself if you do it in person.
You’ll also see how they truly feel about you. Their facial reactions will tell a story that you’ll never be able to get from technology.
8) Express yourself fully, but be casual about it
Yes, you’ll want to express yourself fully. You need to tell them how you really feel. But don’t put too much pressure on them. It might scare them off.
Instead, be casual about it. Don’t be too serious.
This is an experience that you’re not going to go through too often, so enjoy it!
It will make the whole interaction more comfortable for you and them.
9) Be careful about memorizing a script
You need to have a good idea of what you’re going to say. Perhaps it will help you if you write down some dot points. But if you memorize your script fully, it may sound robotic and without feeling.
Remember, showing your nerves is okay. If you go in with just a general idea of what you’re going to say, you’ll appear much more authentic and honest than if you go in with a memorized script.
10) Feeling nervous doesn’t mean you’re not confident
When you start feeling nervous, it’s easy to start thinking that you shouldn’t be doing this. You feel that it’s going to end badly because you’re not up to the task.
Don’t fall into the trap of thinking like this.
You’re nervous because you’re expressing your vulnerability to someone else. It’s normal.
In fact, if you weren’t feeling nervous then there would be something wrong. Being nervous means you care, which is all the more reason to tell them that you like them.
11) Be real with what you speak
Be honest. Tell your crush why you like them. Tell them how you make them feel. Explain that you really do want to be in a relationship with them.
Now, you don’t have to get all emotional and make them feel awkward, but you do have to express how you feel.
You only get one shot at this so you may as well make the most of it. And the more honest you are, the better it will be if they say yes. It means you both want the same thing.
12) If you weren’t so nervous, what would you be doing?
When you feel uncomfortable, your confidence may disappear from you. You’ll question yourself and what you’re saying.
If this is the case, simply ask yourself: What would the “confident you” do?
The bottom line is this:
if you were feeling confident,, there’s no way you’d be questioning yourself. You’d back yourself and continue with your actions.
This version of you is always with you. You just need to remind yourself of it.
13) Rejection is a possibility – and that’s okay
As much as you want to avoid it, there is a possibility of rejection.
Perhaps they don’t feel the same way about you. Perhaps they’re at a different stage of their lives and they’re not looking for a relationship.
Whatever it is, you need to open up to the possibility that rejection is on the cards.
Because if you don’t, it’s going to shock your system and damage you emotionally.
And in the end, rejection doesn’t matter at all.
Without failure, how would we ever learn? Rejection and failure are stepping stones to success.
Keep this in mind:
Whenever you get rejected, you’re one step closer to meeting the man or woman of your dreams.
14) Don’t get angry at them if they say no
It’s not their fault if they say no. They don’t have to like you because you like them.
Everyone has different tastes and circumstances. You don’t know what they’re going through.
Perhaps it’s the wrong time for them to be considering a relationship. Perhaps they’ve decided that they really just want to be alone for a few months.
Whatever it is, accept it and move on with your life.
15) You’re not going to say the “perfect words” to woo them
Whenever we’re desperate to say the “perfect words” at the perfect time, we never do.
Perfection doesn’t exist. You don’t need to pull out some Hollywood speech that will win you an Oscar. Trying to do so will only make things worse.
You just need to be honest and authentic.
16) Keep it simple
We’ve all done it before. We’ve tried to engineer the perfect time, place, and speech.
But you don’t need to get complex about it. And you don’t need to think too much about it, either.
Putting expectations on yourself will only make it more difficult.
Keep it simple. Find a private, relaxed place, say what you feel and see how they react.
Remember: Simplicity always works over complexity.
In the end, do you want to have regrets? Or do you want to make the most of life and tell them how you really feel?
There’s no need to overthink anything. Be honest with yourself, be honest with them, and let’s see what happens.
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