Have you ever gotten a shiver down your spine or felt a twinge in your stomach when a guy looked at you? It might be because you are picking up on subtle signals that he likes you.
Or you could be hungry. Can’t tell the difference? We can help.
It can be hard to tell if a guy likes you, but there are some sure-fire ways to distinguish feelings of attraction from say, whether or not you missed lunch.
Here are 15 things to watch for to tell if a guy likes you.
1) Body Language: How to Tell if a Guy Likes You
One of the easiest ways to determine if a guy likes you is to pay attention to the way his body moves.
If he is sending you some classic signals, he could be interested. Is he looking at you a lot? Is there something on your face?
Check, and if you are clear, it might be that he thinks you are cute. Is he licking his lips and swaying his hips? You know what that means: men always have sex on the brain.
Does he smile at you and gesture at you? Could be the real thing.
If you are standing near a guy and he is interested, he’ll lean into you, want to be near you, and make eye contact on the regular to try to let you know he is interested.
He could also just come right out and say it, but that is highly unlikely. So stick with deciphering body language and some of these other tricks to tell if a guy likes you for sure.
2) Let His Voice Do the Talking
When you have a chance to engage in a conversation with potential Mr. Right, pay attention to how he talks to you.
Does he ask questions to show he is interested in learning more about you, or is he just talking about himself… non-stop?
Does he seemed interested in what you are saying and does he engage in the conversation or is he just checking his phone in between drinks of his beer? If it’s all eyes on you, then he’s interested.
Keep in mind that if he is constantly talking himself up, he’s probably trying to impress you.
And if he’s sounding nervous, then he probably likes you. Some people will try to hide their nervousness by appearing aloof and disinterested.
If you think this might be the case with your guy, try this:
Get a little closer to him to see how he reacts. If he doesn’t budge and even tries to get closer, he definitely likes you.
If he isn’t interested, he’ll likely step back and try to keep his personal space.
3) How He Responds to Touch
If you reach out to grab his hand or playfully touch his shoulder, does he recoil or pull away? It might be that he is nervous, but it could also be that he isn’t interested in you.
Don’t fret. You can rely on other body language and the way he treats you to determine if he likes you.
Some guys who are interested will try to touch you for any reason, such as hugging you when they meet you.
He might also try what the Pick Up Artist community call “kino”. This means touching you to build rapport.
This can involve things like touching your hand when you tell a funny joke or putting their arm around you like you’re their little sister.
Shy guys can be difficult to read in this situation, and when you touch them they may appear startled and unsure of how to respond.
That’s okay. Watch how they react after that incident to truly gauge their interest. Don’t rely on how he responds to touch alone.
As mentioned before, watch out for the players as well. They’re usually very experienced at building rapport through touching, so observe how they treat other women to truly gauge their interest.
4) Is He Acting Weird?
If a guy is into you, he is going to start to act a little different around you.
He might stumble over his words or try to show off in front of you.
If he is paying attention to you and ignoring his friends or seems to be acting differently than he used to act around you, it could be that he sees something he didn’t see in you before.
This kind of weirdness will usually come out in terms of nervous energy. Perhaps they’ll sweat a little more, or they’ll take more deep breathes.
It can also play out in terms of banter and jokes. If they’re constantly telling jokes or playfully teasing you, then they’re probably interested in you.
Don’t let it weird you out – just keep playing it cool and he’ll come around. Once he settles down and realizes that you are into him too, he’ll relax.
5) He Shows Up Where You Are
If you mentioned you like skiing on weekends and suddenly he is showing up on the slopes, there’s a good chance he’s into you.
If you happen to stop by the party you were both invited to and headed straight to your location – unless you are standing by the beer – he is probably into you.
If he’s following you around the party, trying to strike up a conversation, congratulations, he likes you.
6) Notice his eye contact
One of the main reasons a guy will look at you is that he likes you.
He may be trying to get direct eye contact with you, or he may be shy and will quickly turn his head away when he catches eye contact with you.
So keep this in mind:
- If he maintains eye contact with you, he’s definitely interested.
- If his eyes wander to your mouth, he’s interested.
- If he looks away quickly when you catch him looking, he’s probably interested and shy. This is especially important to remember. If his head turns ridiculously quickly, he is likely shy. Have patience and you’ll get more opportunities for eye contact!
- On the other hand, if he breaks eye contact with you and continues gazing around the room, then he may not be interested in you.
- If you don’t like the guy, break eye contact and continue scanning the room.
- If he tells a joke or says something funny, his eyes will glance towards you to see if you’ve laughed.
7) Is he complimenting you?
Compliments are a great way to gauge a guy’s interest. Of course, many guys can give compliments when they don’t really mean it if they want to get you in the sack.
But if they truly like you, they’ll probably start complimenting you on subtle things that you may not be aware of.
It could be unique tidbits about your personality, or they could notice subtle changes in your hairstyle.
In fact, sometimes it may not even be a compliment, but the fact that they’ve noticed that you’ve changed your hair style or used different make-up.
If they notice, it means they’re paying attention to you and they probably like you.
Also, not many guys are great at giving compliments, so keep your ears out and notice when he says something that could even be remotely viewed as a compliment. If you’ve noticed that he doesn’t really compliment others, then he probably likes you.
8) Does he playfully punch your arm?
This may be a surprising one, but it’s actually a common signal that a guy likes you.
It’s a guy’s “manly way” of building rapport with you without being too forward.
If you laugh with him when he punches you, it’ll give him a signal that you’re interested as well.
If you don’t like him punching you, but you like him, then playfully laugh and say “ow that hurt!” He likely won’t do it again but your smile and playfulness will indicate that you like him.
If you enjoy the banter, playfully punch him back. That could really assist in building the sexual tension!
9) Is he mirroring your actions?
Imitating one’s actions is generally a sign that he respects and admires you. It’s also something that happens subconsciously.
Here’s what to look out for:
– Is his energy level mirroring yours? This can include things like speaking at a similar pace to you or leaning back on the chair when you’re leaning back.
– Is he starting to use similar language to you? This can include the same shortened words or slang.
– Is he copying some your mannerisms like touching your hair or using your hands when speaking?
If you can say yes to one of these, then he likes you.
10) Is he chatting to you on social media apps or messaging apps?
This is actually a great indicator because when we’re online we can literally do whatever we want to do.
If he is taking the time to chat to you, that means he is spending his personal time on you.
However, watch out for guys that just send you one word responses. This means they’re not making much of an effort in their messages to you and probably don’t like you the way that you like them.
If their responses are thoughtful and they’re responding back quickly, it means they’re willing to dedicate a lot of time to you. Time is a great indicator that they like you.
11) What is he doing with his face?
There are a million and one ways to tell if a guy likes you just by looking at his face.
For example, he might lick his lips when he talks to you. This is a classic sign that he is attracted to you and wants to do more than just look at you.
If his eyes are bright and wide and his pupils are dilated, you can bet that he is thinking about you and what the rest of the date might bring for the two of you.
His eyes tell you what his body is thinking. He is smiling at you, not in a creepy-stop-smiling-now kind of way, but a sweet and attentive way.
He might be flashing his pearly whites at you so that you know he’s neat and clean, which men think is important to women, which it is, but it’s really a biological “look at what I have” thing.
His eyebrows will move up and down and his facial gestures will be attentive.
Finally, all eyes are on you. If he’s into you and wants to see more of you, he won’t be able to take his eyes off you.
And his eyes are going to be locked on yours.
Of course, if his eyes are darting all over the place and he’s distracted by whatever is around you, there’s a good chance he’s not interested.
12) Is he leaning in?
Guys do some pretty strange things with their bodies when they are attracted to a woman.
They don’t even realize it half the time, so it’s the job of the woman to interpret these signals as a sign to move in for a better look.
First, he’ll lean into the conversation if he likes you. The space between you and him will get smaller and smaller as the conversation goes on.
He’ll lead with his pelvis, meaning he’ll lean from side to side, stick one a hip, put his hand on his hip to take up more space and make himself look powerful.
This is an age-old power pose that men use to show they are strong and capable, and of course, the pelvic thrust is just a roundabout way of getting you to look in the direction of his junk.
On the other hand, if he is moving his lower region away from you, or if he has crossed his legs and creates a sort of barrier between you and him with his legs, he’s likely not interested in you.
13) Is he making an effort in the conversation?
If a guy likes you, you’ll make an effort to talk to you. What might start out as an awkward conversation will soon become a great chance to get to know one another.
Sometimes guys don’t know what to say, but in the end, they’ll show you they are interested with his listening skills and the tone of his voice.
If his voice is high pitched and seems to trail off when the two of you are talking, it’s not likely he is interested in you.
But if his voice is deep and present, he is into the conversation and asking questions about what you are saying, he is probably crushing on you too.
If he’s not a great conversationalist, this one might be a bit trickier, but you can get lots from him just by paying attention to how he responds to what you are saying, especially if he’s not much of a talker himself.
14) Is he nervous around you?
We all know how this goes: When someone you like comes your way, you immediately get those pesky butterflies in your stomach.
This is the same for men.
He’ll act nervous around you if he likes you.
Nervousness can be portrayed in different ways. Some guys will get a lot more hyper and will start to tell weird jokes.
Other guys talk fast and stutter. And finally, some guys will appear cool on the surface but they might be showing some nervous body signs, like shaking hands and legs.
It’s important to realize that what might appear as a turn off is actually signs of nerves because they like you.
So think twice before you decide he’s not your prince charming.
He might just be nervous and what’s hiding underneath those nerves could be a charming, gentle and good-hearted guy.
15) He’s finding excuses to touch you all the time
There’s no getting around it: Guys love to touch ladies, particularly ones they’re crushing on.
However, a lot of weird and sexist guys love to touch ladies as well, so you need to know the difference.
What you’re really looking for here is a guy that gives you little innocent touches like on your shoulder or hand.
What are some examples?
He might gently touch your arm when he is talking to you. Or he might squeeze your arm and ask you if you’ve been working out.
He might even tell you that he loves your hair and subsequently stroke it.
The key for a guy is that touching you not only makes them feel good but like they’re building rapport with you, too.
Watch out for:
Guys that touch you in a sleazy manner. These guys aren’t crushing on you. They just like to touch females and you should stay away from them.
Keep in mind that some guys will be too nervous to touch you as well. So don’t use touch as a be all and end all that they like you.
16) His eyebrow may lift as he watches you
When a man raises both of his eyebrows (or one eyebrow) it means that he is fascinated or interested in what he is looking at.
If his stare is directed at you, then it means that he likes what he is seeing. He’s positively surprised and interested.
Obviously, if he keeps his attention on your face, and not on your breasts/ass, then he genuinely has feelings for you.
Also, lifting his eyebrows shows that he’s an expressive guy. He’s got feelings for you and his face isn’t afraid to show it.
17) He starts grooming himself
If you notice that he readjusts his clothes, or he runs his hands through his hair in an attempt to tidy himself up and make himself better, he probably likes you.
Male birds preen up their feathers before trying to attract a love interest.
Of course, make sure that he’s actually doing it for you, and not for someone else.
If you’re the only girl in the vicinity or he was just looking at you, and then he tidies himself up, that’s obviously a great sign.
18) He’s using “alpha” body language
If he stands taller, pulls his stomach in and his shoulders back, then that’s a great sign he’s into you.
He may also try to use up as much room as possible with his arms and legs.
After all, he wants to show that he’s the leader of the pack that can take care of you.
You can watch out for these signs by:
– Seeing if he changes his walking style when he walks past you. Are his shoulders and chest pushed back more than usual?
– How is he sitting when he’s around you? Is laying out his arms, trying to look relaxed and comfortable? Is he trying to use a lot of space?
Keep in mind that some guys will be nervous when they’re around you because they like you. For those guys, using alpha body language will be difficult.
19) He’s ignoring you
Surely ignoring you can’t be a sign he likes you, right?
When it comes to playing hard to get, some guys believe that ignoring you is the most effective technique.
Men think that playing hard to get will increase your “wanting” feelings of them. And to a degree, they’re right. It might make make them appear more desirable.
Also, it might force you to act and show your interest (that’s what they’re really looking for).
However, it is possible that a guy is ignoring you because he doesn’t like you.
Here’s how you can tell the difference:
Talk to him and see how he reacts. If he gives you a big smile and is happy that you’re engaging in a conversation with him, that’s a good sign. It’s unlikely he’ll continue the ignoring tactic if you’re talking to him.
Again, keep in mind that some guys are nervous and they might be ignoring you to avoid contact because they don’t want to look bad.
Talk to them and you’ll find out if they’re not interested in you or they’re nervous around you because they like you.
20) He’s trying to work out if you have a boyfriend
Now it’s fairly obvious that if he asks you, ‘Do you have a boyfriend?” then he’s clearly interested.
But not many guys are going to be that direct. Instead, they’ll ask indirect questions to figure it out.
Perhaps they’ll mention that they’re single in the hope that it forces you to say “me too”.
Or they’ll ask things like, “Oh, so you went alone to the party?”
If you’re looking out for it, it will be pretty easy to notice.
You could mention that you are indeed single and watch for their reaction. If it produces a smile from the guy, then he’s definitely into you.
21) He gets jealous when you talk to other guys
Jealousy is a strong emotion, and it’s tough to control.
If you’re talking to other guys, he might start looking over wondering what’s going on. A guy that isn’t interested in you wouldn’t bother looking when you’re talking to other guys.
The next time you speak to him, he may appear angry or disgruntled. This is a clear sign that he’s jealous.
And don’t worry, as soon as you signal your interest with a nice, beautiful smile, I’m sure he’ll come around again.
For some guys, making them jealous may actually motivate them to take action. They might think they’re losing their shot with you, and they’ll make a last ditch effort to win your love.
Use this with caution however. You don’t want to upset the guy and force him to look elsewhere!
22) He remembers little things
Guys aren’t the best when it comes to remembering the little things. So if he remembers that you had your brother’s birthday party the night before and he’s asking you how it went, then he probably likes you.
He’s thinking about you. He wants to stay connected and develop rapport.
Most people, let alone guys, wouldn’t do this, so see it as a sign that he has genuine feelings for you.
23) He wants to help you with your problems
Guys are problem solvers. And when it comes to a person they like, they want to find a solution to every problem they hear about.
Furthermore, they want to impress you with their solutions.
So if you mention a problem you have, and he likes you, he’ll likely scan his brain searching for solutions.
A guy that likes you will go the extra mile. They’ll want to be your hero that saves the day.
How to Tell For Sure if a Guy Likes You
Want to know the best way to tell if a guy likes you? Ask him. Or let him know you like him. This isn’t high school, and there’s no need for games.
Cut the chase and let him know you think he’s cool and he’ll either say the same or tell you he’s not interested.
If that’s not your style, and granted, it’s not a lot of people’s style, keep paying attention to how he acts around you, how he treats you, how he speaks to you, and if he makes an effort to spend more time around you.
All of these things combined can be strong indicators that he is totally interested.
And if you aren’t into him, be sure to let him know and let him down gently. There’s no need to ruin his confidence in his pursuit of you. “Just not that into you” goes both ways.
So be kind and frank about it if you must break his heart.
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