How to tell a guy you like him (5 ways to do it!)

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So, you have a crush? There’s nothing better. But, then you feel uncomfortable. I mean, how do you get your point across? How do you tell a guy you like him?

There are plenty of ways, and even if you’re embarrassed or scared, I’ve got you. A crush should be exciting, so shake off your fear and keep reading to see just how to tell a guy you have feelings for him.

How do you know you like a guy?

First, let’s talk about how you know you like a guy. Usually, it’s pretty obvious. But, there’s been times where you question whether or not you actually have feelings. So, it comes to a few small things.

Are you ready for them?

If you like a guy, you might:

  • Be excited to see them
  • Think about them more often than not
  • Get flutters in your stomach or tightness in your chest when you’re around them
  • Feel your heart speed up
  • Talk or text with them often
  • Get dressed up to see them
  • Want to spend time with them and share details of your life

How do I let a guy know I like him?

A lot of people are wondering how to tell a guy you like him without actually telling him. I know, it seems confusing. But, if you don’t want to confess your feelings, you’re not alone. There are actually a lot of ways you can do this.

So, if you don’t want to go out and talk to them about your feelings from the get go, there are subtle ways that you can let a guy know that you like him. Here’s the deal though—guys don’t always pick up on subliminal messages and flirting.

While you can start with these things, sooner or later, it’ll be time to confess your feelings. But, this is a fun way to start out the relationship. There’s nothing better than when you first get to know someone, so cherish it.

1. Get his tab

See him from across the room and think he’s handsome? If you don’t know him yet, but you’re checking him out from afar, picking up his bill is perfect. It’s a subtle way to show that you’re interested—and men love a bold woman.

2. Compliment him

We’re used to men pursuing women, so we often forget how great it is to step out of our comfort zone and compliment them. When you give a compliment, make sure it’s on his appearance. Lots of friends may like personality, but real love interests will talk about their physical appearance to get things started.

3. Dance with him

Is there anything more romantic than dancing? Dance with him to show that you’re interested. Whether it’s a slow dance or a hot, bass-heavy number, get close to him and dance your heart out.

4. Get close to him

Lean into him, whisper into his ear, do what you can to  get close to him. Even if it’s a small, intimate talk near each other, that’s enough. Nothing says you like a guy more than getting close to him.

5. Take pictures together

As long as you know each other longer than a night, take pictures together. Photos are a way to get close and smiling together, and it shows a guy you want him in your life. Just make sure not to say something like, “Best friends picture!” when you’re taking it.

6. Find what you have in common with him

Everybody has something in common with another person, so find out what it is between the two of you. Once you do, do it together. Whether it’s video games or hiking, you can do the activity together.

7. Smile and laugh

When you do spend time with him, smile and laugh together. You want him to know that you’re interested, and everyone’s smile is beautiful. Showing your smile is one of the best things you can do.

8. Be playful

You can playfully tease him, gently touch his arm or hold his hand, or do whatever you think it is that’s playful. It’s a fun way to show him that you want him to get closer to you. Try and keep it light, and don’t tease him too much. But, make it fun and tease him a little.

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How do you confess your feelings to a guy?

What do you say to a guy that you like? It can be tricky. As women, we often feel uncomfortable being bold. But when we have feelings, we want to confess them. So, how can you do it?

Well, you don’t need to be afraid. I have 5 ways you can tell him you like him, without you turning into a beet in the process. 


1. Say it straight


Guess what? The easiest way to tell a guy you like him is…

To just tell him. Seriously, just say it straight. You can tell him when you’re together. Say something like, “I like you.” Or, “I like getting to know you and want to spend more time together.”

If you’re really bold, hit him with a, “I like you. Do you like me?” 

Personally, I think this is the best way to show that you like a person. Especially because it can be tough to pick up on subliminal messages. Not to mention, being in person gives you the benefit of seeing their reaction right away. So, when you ask them if they like you too, you get to find out the answer right then and there.

And if the answer is yes, figure out what you want. Do you want a relationship? Do you want to go out on a date? Figure out what it is and ask him.


2. Text him


Hey, we’re living in a modern world. If you’re scared to talk to him about your feelings, text him about them. You can say whatever it is you like about him in a text—and it will probably be a lot easier for you.

So how do you tell a guy you like him through text? Basically, say whatever it is you would’ve said in person, but through text. You can tell him, “I like you,” and keep it simple.

Here’s a piece of advice: This works best in the younger generation. If you’re older, you should be mature enough that you can talk to them in person about your feelings. Still, I get that everyone gets anxious.

Texting him may seem like a cop out, but like I said, today is a modern world. Everyone’s texting. Who cares if you tell him in person or by text?


3. Write him a note


Feeling old school? Write him a cute note telling him how you feel. This is the perfect way to show him you like him.

You can keep it small and simple (check out this cute gum wrapper commercial for inspo), or write him a long one.

This is going to be up to you and your relationship. Did you guys just meet? Maybe keep it simple. But if you’ve been good friends for a while, you can write it longer.


4. Send him a gif


Remember what I said about modern world? Send him a gif that explains how you feel. Mickey Mouse heart eyes? Will Ferrell in Elf? For real, there are so  many gifs that you can send. Not only are they cute, but they’re funny and show some personality. Check out some I like you gifs here.


5. Physical contact


Is there anything better than just leaning in and kissing him? Pretty sure he won’t misread you like that. Sometimes, you just have to do it.

Make sure that he’s down for it first. But if he is, go for it.

How to tell a guy you like him without scaring him off

Maybe you’ve read through the above ways, and you’re feeling a little insecure about it. Plus, what if he doesn’t feel the same way?

You might be worried about scaring him off, and that’s a valid concern. According to relationship experts, women don’t take rejection the same as men. Women end up getting hurt, and they don’t want to pursue the relationship.

Men, on the other hand, see rejection as a challenge. So, as women, we get scared to make that first move because we give up. Men don’t worry because they’ll keep trying.

But, scaring him off is a valid concern. Men don’t like clingy women, and if you come on too strong too soon, it can hurt the new relationship. So, how do you keep from scaring him off?

1. Start with subtlety

Start with being simple. Try flirting first. If he reciprocates your flirting, that’s a good sign. Keep flirting for a bit and see where it goes. As long as the flirting keeps getting reciprocated, you can tell him you like him knowing that he’s at least a little interested.

2. Watch for signs

Does he ever give you any signs that he might like you? Maybe he smiles, touches you, and laughs at your jokes. Or does he ask more about your life? These are all signs that he could be interested in you. Maybe, he’s even a little shy and doesn’t want to make the first move.

3. Ask around first

You know who are great sources? Friends. Talk to his friends about your feelings and see if they think that he may like you back. This will help you decide whether or not you can be bold and confess your feelings without you scaring him off.

4. Don’t confess too much

The last thing you want to do is go to him and start saying everything you love about him without him getting a word in. You can’t confess too much. This is overwhelming, and even if they like you, they probably won’t know what to say. Keep your confession short and to the point.

5. Don’t fret about it

The thing is, you can’t fret about it. If a guy likes you, it’ll be good to tell him your feelings. You won’t scare him off. The only way you’d scare him off would be if he didn’t like you at all. And in that case,  there’s not much that can be done about that. 

Should I tell him I like him?

There’s a time to tell him you like him and a time that it’s better to wait for him to make the first move. If you’re wondering if you should tell him you like him, you’re not alone. Here are the signs you should tell him you like him:

  • You can’t hold it back
  • You want to get more serious
  • You feel awkward not saying how you feel
  • You want to touch him or kiss him
  • You think he likes you but is too scared to say
  • He’s shy and won’t make the first move

Here’s when you shouldn’t tell him you like him:

  • You haven’t known each other more than a few days
  • He doesn’t reciprocate any flirting
  • You don’t talk to each other often
  • He’s already stated he just wants to be friends
  • He’s said he doesn’t like you like that

Conclusion: How to tell a guy you like him

If you’re feeling good about it, don’t hold back. I know the fear of rejection is hard to get past. You want him to feel the same way you do, and if he doesn’t, you’ll be hurt. But, there’s nothing you can do to change the way he feels.

So, you might as well go for it. If he does like you and you tell him you like him, you can take your relationship to the next level. And that’s worth it 100%. If you tell him you like him and he doesn’t like you back, at least you can now move on.

Though fear can be difficult to get past, nothing is better than knowing your true feelings are out there. Whether you do it by text or in person, go let your crush know that you like him.

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Jess Carpenter

Written by Jess Carpenter

I studied at The University of Utah where I earned both my B.S. and M.S. and am a Certified Health Education Specialist (CHES certified). My favorite spot to write is wherever I can see my toddlers to ensure they aren’t jumping from the second story or coloring on the walls.

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