You’ve got your eyes on a married man. You want to seduce him, but you don’t want to be too obvious about it.
I get it. Married men are riskier targets.
You want to let him know you’re interested, you want to subtly suggest your desire but without scaring him off.
That’s why body language can be one of your best allies. So much of human communication is spoken in silence.
Want to know how to seduce a married man with body language? This article will reveal all.
10 ways to seduce a married man using your body language
1) Gently touch him
Obviously, you want to make sure your touch is appropriate.
We’re talking about slight brushes of the arm or reaching out to momentarily touch his shoulder.
Especially because he’s a married man, it has to look innocent enough that an onlooker might think nothing of it. But do it often enough for him to notice the physical attention you are giving him.
Research has shown that this sort of touch is very important in conveying sexual interest.
The closer you get, the more you can step the touch up to more lingering touches, hugs, or kisses on the cheek to say goodbye, etc.
2) Eye contact
Eye contact is one of the most powerful forms of non-verbal communication.
We use it in all sorts of ways. It shows confidence and trustworthiness. And significantly, it’s also something we use to show attraction.
So if you want to show interest in a married man, eye contact is a good way to go. But be careful not to stare at him too long. If you do, he could feel uncomfortable.
If you’re looking at his face, keep your gaze soft and gentle. Look into his eyes, but not so far as to appear creepy.
Let your eyes lock for just that little bit longer before looking away again. If you want to be a bit more obvious, you can always check him out from across the room, and then smile and look away when he notices.
3) Lean towards him
When you lean toward someone, you’re putting yourself closer to them.
It’s a subtle gesture, but it suggests closeness and intimacy.
You are giving him more of your attention simply by angling your body to him.
You should always be sure to face him whenever you’re speaking. And if you sit next to him make sure you cross your legs toward him too.
4) Play with your hair
This is another simple yet effective way to convey interest to a married man through body language.
Play with your hair when you’re around him. Pull strands of hair behind your ear, or twirl it around your fingers.
It’s not really clear why playing with hair is seen as a flirty thing to do, but it is. Maybe it makes you look coy, or perhaps it’s because you are grooming yourself.
At first telling someone to smile might sound obvious. But the truth is that we often mistakenly think that flirting should involve a steely gaze.
Nothing is more attractive than a warm and inviting smile. A smile says “I’m happy to see you.”
A smile says “I like you.”
Smiling is the easiest way to flirt with a married man because it’s open to interpretation.
On its own it’s perfectly innocent. But combined with other body language cues, it all builds a picture of interest and attraction.
6) Play with your necklace
It’s all about finding those small yet significant gestures and movements. And playing with jewelry is perfect for this.
A bit like playing with your hair, there is something intrinsically flirtatious about fidgeting in the right kind of way (a way that seems confident rather than anxious).
Playing with your necklace is not only seductive but also draws attention to your chest.
7) Use your lips
Ok, so here’s the thing:
I’ve seen some posts suggest pouting as a body language way of flirting. But not only is this a bit obvious, but it’s kind of cheesy.
So don’t pout, that only works on an Instagram photo (and not always then).
Here’s what to do instead:
Lightly bite your lower lip whilst he talks to you, or very subtly lick your lips. As always the key is to not vamp it up too much though.
8) Strut your stuff around him
I don’t know about you, but when I’m trying to get a man’s attention or even just wanting to feel a bit sexy — I can’t help but get my strut on.
Ladies, we were blessed with hips so we may as well use them.
If you’re walking around with a purposeful stride, you’re more likely to catch this guy’s eye. It’s one of the most natural ways to show off your curves.
So swing those hips a little, keep your posture long, your shoulders back, and your head held high.
9) Mirror his movements
Have you heard about mirroring?
Even if you haven’t, I bet you’ve done it plenty of times without even realizing it. That’s because this subconscious behavior often happens without even thinking.
We are generally more attracted to people who are like us. And mirroring is a way that we signal to people that we’re in tune with them.
So when he tilts his head, you tilt your head too. When he rests his head on his hands, so do you.
It’s not about obviously copying him, it’s about your body sending his body the sign that you’re in tune and paying attention.
10) Playful facial expressions
Flirting is ultimately about being playful. That’s why flirtatious body language should be too.
Having animated facial expressions when he’s around shows him you are happy to see him, enjoy his company, think he’s fascinating, etc.
One study showed that positive facial expressions (especially involving the mouth) are interpreted as seductive.
So go ahead and give him that cheeky little grin or sly smile.
Raise your eyebrows in a little suggestive way and let him know what’s on your mind — without even needing to say a thing.
To conclude: How do you make a married man fall madly in love with you?
Maybe you like the idea of using body language to seduce a married man because of its subtle powers without having to put yourself out there too much.
If so, then I also have another suggestion for you.
You see, for guys, it’s all about triggering their inner hero.
I learned about this from the hero instinct. Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept is about what really drives men in relationships, which is ingrained in their DNA.
And it’s something most women don’t know anything about.
Once triggered, these drivers make men into the heroes of their own lives. They feel better, love harder, and desire stronger when they find someone who knows how to trigger it.
Now, you may be wondering why it’s called “the hero instinct”? Do guys really need to feel like superheroes to crave a woman?
Not at all. Forget about Marvel. You won’t need to play the damsel in distress or buy your married man a cape.
The easiest thing to do is to check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here. He shares some easy tips to get you started, such as sending him a perfectly “innocent” 12 word text that will trigger his hero instinct right away.
Because that’s the beauty of the hero instinct.
It’s only a matter of knowing the right things to say to make him realize that he wants you and only you.
And the best part is, you still get to play it cool and let him come to you!
Click here to watch the free video.
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