Pearl Nash
Is there someone you wish wasn’t around?
With the power of manifestation, you can get rid of them from your life.
Here are 10 practical steps you can take.
1) Look at why they’re in your life
Manifesting someone out of your life isn’t as simple as casting a spell, as nice as that would be.
You first need to do some introspection, where you look at why that person is in your life and what role they have played.
Taking a spiritual approach, I believe that nothing is by accident and that goes for the people who are in our lives.
Everything has a lesson wrapped up in it – including interactions with people we would rather avoid.
I’m going to start by telling you my story, as there’s someone I’d like to manifest out of my life who I know has been sent to help my growth.
It’s a girl who’s shown a level of interest in my partner and given me really, really weird energy.
It goes like this: we all start a new course at the same time and we both clearly liked the same guy.
But here’s the thing: I was communicating with him regularly and going on dates with him, while she was in another relationship and hadn’t expressed an interest in him.
It was just a feeling I picked up on, so I asked her about it and, of course, she denied it.
I found out later that this confrontation, which was friendly, caused her to cry.
Fast-forward a few more months, we’re very loved up and in a committed relationship while she’s no longer in that relationship.
She continues to text my partner with the aim of meeting up, but I’ve told him she clearly wants more than a friendship so he needs to be mindful.
Of course, he’s respected my wishes and they haven’t met up.
There’s something about her energy I can’t quite put my finger on, but she’s not sincere around me and it feels really awkward.
I’m sure you can identify that this is an annoying situation for anyone – you just want that person to clear off and to grasp that person isn’t interested in you.
But there’s more than meets the eye with this story, and I wasn’t able to manifest her out of my life until I came to terms with the greater learning within this.
This is the key to being able to manifest someone out of your life: you need to identify why they were there in the first place.
In terms of this person, well, she triggered feelings of insecurity and I felt incredibly disrespected.
I’ve had a lifetime of feeling insecure within myself in relationships and this situation caused my insecurities to skyrocket. As a result, I started diving inside to look at what she was triggering.
I started to look at the root cause for insecurities and came to the realization that I felt like I was always competing with other women. I felt like it was me or her – but, as my partner explained to me, there is no competition.
He had chosen me, I had chosen him, and it was up to me to trust in the foundation of the relationship we had already laid down.
This person being in my life allowed me to grow by inspecting and letting go of beliefs that hindered me. Now, she doesn’t consume my thoughts anymore.
What does that mean for you?
You’ll be able to get someone out of your mind and life once you identify the reason they were there in the first place and what you were supposed to learn from their presence.
2) Focus on getting clarity about what you want
Do you have clarity about what you want from life?
If you don’t know what it is you really want, I have a suggestion:
Begin with yourself. Stop searching for external fixes to sort out your life, deep down, you know this isn’t working.
And that’s because until you look within and unleash your personal power, you’ll never find the satisfaction and fulfillment you’re searching for.
I learned this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. His life mission is to help people restore balance to their lives and unlock their creativity and potential. He has an incredible approach that combines ancient shamanic techniques with a modern-day twist.
In his excellent free video, Rudá explains effective methods to help find clarity
So if you want to build a better relationship with yourself, unlock your endless potential, and put passion at the heart of everything you do, start now by checking out his genuine advice.
Here’s a link to the free video again.
The reason I’ve mentioned clarity is because manifestation only works with clarity.
It doesn’t do wishy-washy; instead, you need to be super clear about what you want in order to make it happen.
Think about a few areas of your life and ask yourself:
- What do I want my relationships to be like?
- What is most important to me?
- What do I want to achieve this year?
- How do I want to grow and develop?
Once you have clarity about what you want, you’ll be able to identify what you don’t want and you’ll be able to think about who is aligned to you.
You could also benefit from thinking about:
- The people you want around you
- The conversations you want to have
- How you want to feel every day
- What work you want to produce
I suggest you dedicate some time to journaling where you write down the answers to all of these questions, in the present tense. When it comes to manifesting, there is great power in writing in the present tense.
Write like it’s already happened to you; like you already have the outcome you desire.
Why? As best-selling author and American pastor Joel Osteen says:
“Whatever follows your “I am” will always come looking for you.”
It’s necessary to be intentional about everything you say about yourself. Instead of affirming the negatives, instead focus on positive affirmations.
When it comes to people in your life, focus on working with statements like:
- I am amazing at attracting wonderful people
- I am a kind and caring friend
- I am fulfilled with all of my friendships
But how does this actually manifest someone out of your life?
Good question.
If it was as easy as waving a magic wand, we’d all do it – some of us more regularly than others.
By focusing on the positive aspects of your life and the great people around you, you’ll be attracting more of what you want.
This is a great place to start.
There is another step too that you can take when it comes to clarity.
Get clear about how you want to manifest that person out of your life.
Writing for Nomadrs, Anna Scheucher makes a good point:
“If you don’t know what you want or how to get it then the manifestation will not work as intended because there is no real clarity around it.”
So, you need to think about the practical steps you can take to manifest them out of your life. This is the same with any manifestation you set in motion – you have to take a series of steps.
Anna offers a suggestion for the questions you can ask yourself. She says:
“Here you need to get creative: why will they not be in your life anymore? Are they gonna travel? Are they gonna get a job that won’t allow them to have any time?”
And she suggests that you’ll benefit from getting down to the nitty gritty and detailing exactly how it will happen.
3) Write down why you want this person out of your life
So you think you want to manifest someone out of your life, but do you really know why you have this desire?
The best way to get underneath why you have this urge is to make a list of the reasons.
Manifest Like Whoa says in this case, it’s alright to write out the negative. Get it all our here, but then don’t give it any more thought.
Just getting it all out one is enough.
Think about what it is this person does that upsets or annoys you. For example:
- Do they start arguments with you?
- Are they trying to interfere with your relationship?
- Do they send bad vibes your way?
- Do they speak about you to others?
These are all valid reasons to want to manifest someone out of your life.
With that girl I mentioned, she covers at least three of those points so I know she has to go.
4) Feel what it’s like to live without this person
Equally as important as focusing on the “I am” statements is the feeling you actually put behind them. How does it actually feel to live without this person?
I want you to take a big breath in and out with your eyes closed, and imagine this for one second.
How does it feel? Pretty good, I’m sure?
Now: write these feelings down in the present tense. For example:
- I am so relieved
- I am free
- I am overjoyed
Really get into the headspace of imagining what it feels like to be free of that person.
This is central to making the Law of Attraction work for you: it responds to what you put out.
The idea is that you ask and you shall receive, so by embodying the emotions you do want to feel you’ll actually be sending a message to the Universe that says: ‘I want this, please!’
5) Become a master visualizer
Have you ever made a vision board or tried to imagine what your future looks like? If you’ve answered yes, well, congratulations, you’re a master visualizer!
Now: I’m going to suggest you use this superpower to manifest someone out of your life.
First of all, can you see what life looks like without this person in your life?
You’re going to need to be able to if you want to get rid of them.
Harnessing your brilliant mind’s-eye, visualize a life free of them.
Simply put: think about the situations where they’d show up and literally erase them from those scenes.
Just decide to remove them from the picture.
Remember that girl I mentioned earlier? That’s what I decided to do.
I really just wanted her out of my life for good but it was inevitable I was going to run into her in class, so I put up with it for the duration of my studies. However, I set a clear manifestation in motion that I didn’t want to run into her again going forward.
How did I do this?
Well, as Anna explained in her article for Nomadrs, you have to take actionable steps to ensure your manifestation is going to work.
For me, that meant I’ve had to miss out on some events because I knew she would be there but I came to peace with my decision as the toll of seeing her would outweigh the fun of the event.
I really do want her out of my life.
I came to this decision after trying some breathwork, which gave me the clarity that said it was the right thing to do.
When I felt the most lost in life, I was introduced to an unusual free breathwork video created by the shaman, Rudá Iandê, which focuses on dissolving stress and boosting inner peace.
My relationship was failing, I felt tense all the time. My self-esteem and confidence hit rock bottom. I’m sure you can relate – heartbreak does little to nourish the heart and soul.
I had nothing to lose, so I tried this free breathwork video, and the results were incredible.
But before we go any further, why am I telling you about this?
I’m a big believer in sharing – I want others to feel as empowered as I do. And, if it worked for me, it could help you too.
Rudá hasn’t just created a bog-standard breathing exercise – he’s cleverly combined his many years of breathwork practice and shamanism to create this incredible flow – and it’s free to take part in.
If you feel a disconnect with yourself and are unable to trust your decisions, I’d recommend checking out Rudá’s free breathwork video.
Click here to watch the video.
6) Set verbal boundaries with this person
Having boundaries is one of the most crucial decisions you can make to truly respect yourself.
It’s your way of saying: this is what I tolerate and this is what is allowed by my standards.
Boundaries are an incredible healthy thing to have in place.
This can be by setting your intention for what your boundaries are and writing it in a journal, or verbally telling someone they’re overstepping the line and you want them to back off.
In my experience, I’ve only ever had to set verbal boundaries once.
This was with my ex-partner and it was a boundary he accepted straight away.
We’d just broken up and he’d continued trying to contact me when we’d said we would have space. After a text late at night, I emailed him in the morning and asked him to respect my decision. Fortunately, he did.
Now: I know every situation is different and for some people it won’t be as easy as this, but I remember laying out your wish in writing for starters.
In the case of the girl with the hots for my boyfriend. Well, believe me, I’ve wanted to message her and say: ‘don’t you think you’re a little desperate?’
But I’ve tried to do the bigger person, not-a-crazy-psycho-girlfriend thing and just ignore it.
That said, if it persists and she tries to make contact again in the future, I think I’ll have to intervene and tell her to back off.
It doesn’t have to be in a nasty way, but in a way that says: ‘I’m not taking your crap’.
It’s an empowered decision to make.
I recommend taking a leaf out of Anna’s book. She says:
“In order to really get rid of them, you need to let the person know how you feel. Of course, only do this if you feel like it’s a safe thing to do and that it will benefit your manifestation. Tell them how they’ve been making you feel and how it’s affected your life.”
7) Ditch the limiting beliefs
I’m going to ask you to confront yourself with some hard questions. Are you ready?
- Do you believe you deserve happiness?
- Do you believe you are entitled to a life of joy?
- Do you believe you should be able to access the abundance of life and have fulfilling relationships?
I want you to journal on these questions and answer them honestly.
There’s a chance your limiting beliefs are causing this person to linger.
It’s a bitter pill to swallow but it’s true: you might be allowing someone to mistreat you because that’s what you believe you deserve.
Change your beliefs and you can change your reality.
Focus on positive affirmations that confirm what you are entitled to. You could personalize some of the following:
- I deserve a happy and fulfilling relationship
- I am entitled to so much joy in my life
- I am deserving of all of life’s abundance
I love this quote by the American broadcaster Germany Kent. She says:
“It’s a funny thing about life, once you begin to take note of the things you are grateful for, you begin to lose sight of the things that you lack.”
Remember this next time you feel you mind veering to thinking negatively.
8) Accept the idea of releasing them
Now: this has layers of complexity depending on the relationship this person had with you.
If we’re talking about an ex-partner it’s going to be much harder than an annoying person who fancies your partner.
It will be much more painful and harder to come to terms with.
In my experience, I know of a friend who had to cut ties with a narcissistic mother for a year. It wasn’t easy! She literally established a boundary where she cut contact for that entire period. But she knew it was necessary for her journey so she stuck to it.
If you’re aware this person is toxic and doing more harm than good to you, you should accept the idea of releasing them for your growth and happiness.
I mentioned earlier how the help of a gifted advisor can reveal the truth about whether you should manifest someone out of your life.
You could analyze the signs until you reach the conclusion you’re looking for, but getting guidance from someone with extra intuition will give you real clarity on the situation.
I know from experience how helpful it can be. When I was going through a similar problem to you, they gave me the guidance I sorely needed.
Click here to get your own reading.
9) Trust that the Universe has your back
You might feel like the Universe doesn’t have your back by putting someone in your path that you desperately want out.
Wondering what I’m talking about when I say the ‘Universe’? Astrophysicist Neil deGrasse Tyson explains:
“We are part of this universe; we are in this universe, but perhaps more important than both of those facts, is that the universe is in us.”
If you feel like life doesn’t have your back, return to my earlier point and remember there is a reason this person is seemingly an obstacle in your life: there are learnings that you can take from this that will allow you to grow and show up as a better person for others.
Taking a spiritual stance, I believe there is always a reason for the events that happen in our lives. If you’re reading this and you believe in manifesting, I’m guessing you’re pretty spiritual too – so trust in the Universe.
Trust that the Universe always has your back and wants the best for you.
I love this quote, by an anonymous source, that explains the power of embracing the Universe:
“We live in a friendly universe. Awaken to the gifts of your free will and the universe and become the master of your life and reality.”
All you need to do is trust and surrender.
10) Focus your energy back on you
What’s most important in life is that you look out for yourself and make decisions that support you.
Don’t fret about people that don’t deserve your time – and direct that energy back to the things that do matter, like the people you really love and how grateful you are for your life.
Simply put: there will be people that pop-up throughout our lives that we’ll want out of our lives, but don’t let them take your power.
If you need to manifest them out of your lives, you know the steps to take. However, don’t burn more energy on this person and situation than is needed.
You’ll only be letting them win if you do this!
