How to manifest someone back into your life in 5 easy steps

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Have you been trying to have someone important back into your life?

According to the Law of Attraction, the kind of energy you put out is the kind of energy you’ll get back.

To put it in more exact terms, “like attracts like.” If you take care of your thoughts, you’ll attract good things to your life.

The scope of this law includes people from our past, whether that means romantic relationships or friendships.

If you want to learn how to manifest someone back into your life in five steps, keep reading!

1) Have your intentions crystal clear

The Law of Attraction works with your intentions. To manifest your ex back, you have to know what and why you want this to happen.

What you think and what you believe attracts similar energy. It works like a magnet, in that way.

When you’re confused about what you want, the universe receives your confusion and the results aren’t favorable.

This is why you need to be clear about your wishes and desires:

  • Knowing why you want to manifest your ex back into your life is important. This will indicate whether your experiences will be good or bad for you. If you want your ex back out of loneliness or codependency, the outcome won’t be positive. On the contrary, if your intentions are good and filled with joy and happiness, you can attract back a positive relationship.
  • Knowing when puts a limited time frame for the Universe to deliver the outcome you want. If you’re not clear about this, you might get the person back in twenty years.

Bonus tip

A good tool to get clear about your intentions is to journal. Grab a notebook, relax and write down the name of the person you want back, and the reasons why you want them, and when.

2) Visualization is key

There are countless manifestation techniques at our disposal, but visualization is one of the most common and easy to use, especially when you know the person you want back.

First, you need to be somewhere quiet, where people won’t interrupt you.

  • Start with deep breaths. Focus on the feelings that arise when you think of having your ex back in your life.
  • Now, focus on visualizing your ex’s characteristics: how they behave, their physical features, their voice, the good times you spent together – whatever helps you focus on the feeling of being with them once more.
  • Once the mental picture is clear, focus on the positive feelings.
  • Focus especially on love, enjoyment, and happiness, as these feelings have a high vibration.

For example, get back to that time you took a road trip together, or the time you cuddled watching Christmas movies.

Try to remember as many details as you can: the feelings between you, what you were eating when you watched it, the parts you laughed at, if there were inside jokes after that.

How did it feel to be with them? Were you both happy then?

You have to re-create that memory when you want to manifest your special person back.

When you focus on positive emotions, like happiness and love, you’ll experience things according to this high vibration. This is what the Law of Attraction states.

Sometimes, negative emotions can slip past your visualization. When this happens, don’t worry. Go back to the good feelings and raise your vibration again.

3) Know what beliefs limit you

Knowing what limiting beliefs you face when manifesting is key to success.

Generally, limiting beliefs are self-imposed patterns of thought. They can be fears, repressed feelings, or low self-esteem. “I am not an organized person”, for example, limits you.

It can impact you if you want to learn new ways to renovate or organize your spaces. You’re assuming you won’t succeed when you want to start this new habit.

Another example of limiting beliefs, like “I am not worthy of being loved”, can also impact you when you start or end a relationship, making you blind to the people that love you in healthy ways.

Some common limiting beliefs when you are trying to manifest a lover coming back to you are:

  • I’m terrible at relationships
  • I’m never gonna find love
  • I fail at relationships
  • I’ll always be alone
  • They don’t want me around
  • They won’t talk to me again
  • They are angry with me
  • They are seeing someone else

Sometimes, situations beyond our control, like money issues, can be the start of limiting beliefs in your thought patterns.

If you sit down with these limiting beliefs and recognize their origin and the ways they affect you today, you can start taking steps to change your thoughts.

Bonus tip

After you identify your limiting beliefs, a good start is to change them to positive ones. You can even write them down, for example: “I’ll never be loved,” can change to “I am already loved in all the ways that matter,” or “I am not a quick learner” to “I am smart and I learn new things every day.”

4) Allow them to enter your life again

There needs to be space in your life to receive someone back.

When put like this, it can even sound silly, but you have to invite them into your life.

To know if you are making room for someone to be back in your life, try answering these questions:

  • Is there space for them in your bedroom?
  • Is your apartment or house inviting and cozy or does it give off the vibe of someone already in a committed relationship?
  • Do you have free time for activities with them? Or do you have a busy schedule?

By taking steps and ensuring there’s space and time for someone to be back in your life, the universe will not have to work longer than necessary.

5) Trust the universe and release your expectations

Detachment is the last and most important step in your manifestation. Let go of the outcome, allow the Universe to work for you.

This stage is the hardest one, because thinking about whether you were successful in manifesting or not, and when you’ll know the results of your hard work, will not render a positive result for you.

Overthinking leads to being pessimistic and obsessed, which lowers your vibration. This doesn’t let the Universe do its work.

Try to focus on high vibrational emotions while you wait for the Universe to give you what you manifested.

Doing things that make you feel good is essential when raising your vibration.

If any of these examples resonate, you can try them out:

  • Meditating
  • Volunteering at a charity
  • Helping people disinterestedly
  • Doing yoga
  • Don’t give importance to insignificant things
  • Practice forgiveness
  • Do things that make you happy most of all

Even if the Universe surprises you and the person you manifested doesn’t come back in the way you expect it, rest assured. The Universe has a plan that always leads to the greater good.

Bonus tip: think of the worst-case & how you will overcome it

We said before that you have to focus on positive thoughts in order for your manifestations to work. This doesn’t mean that negative thoughts won’t appear, but when they do, you should be able to change your perspective around them.

If you think about the worst-case scenario you might get scared, but if you then think about the ways in which you will overcome it, that means you’re doing okay.

Here we’ll leave a few examples for you:

Worst case: My ex doesn’t come back into my life. You might feel like you’ll be alone forever. This is an extreme way of thinking, but even then, you might feel like meeting someone new will take a long time, let’s say, you meet them when you’re in your thirties.

How to overcome this way of thinking?

Yes, perhaps being single for a long time isn’t in your life plans, but on the other hand, you are already surrounded by people that love you for who you are.

Life has a lot to offer, and being single doesn’t stop you from enjoying it! Jump in and experience it all.

Do you understand now? Thinking about the worst-case scenario isn’t what’s going to hinder your manifestation, it’s not realizing that you’re going to be okay either way.

Most times, the worst outcome doesn’t mean you’ll never be happy. It means your happiness will look different, that’s all.

Things that will not help you manifest someone back

Knowing what not to do when manifesting with the Law of Attraction is as important as knowing the ways that it will work for you.

Before you start manifesting someone back into your life, make sure you’re not about to make the following mistakes.

Acting against their wishes

In all kinds of relationships, consent is key. If they’ve cut off contact with you, it’s for a reason and you should respect it. Don’t become creepy and wait for them to communicate again.

It might feel as if you’re pushing all the chances of getting back away, especially if you have a soulmate or twin flame connection.

This kind of thought won’t help you, or your bond.

Respect their choices, take time and even work on yourself too.

Not having healthy boundaries

Knowing when to enforce boundaries so people don’t use you or mistreat you is key. Nobody that treats you badly deserves space in your life, and you shouldn’t be walking on eggshells just to be in theirs.

Yes, you might want them back, but it has to be on better terms.

Buying into toxic spirituality

In case you apply all sorts of absurd rules when it comes to your spirituality, you might have a hard time manifesting someone.

The thing with spirituality is that it’s just like everything else in life:

It can be manipulated.

Unfortunately, not all the gurus and experts that preach spirituality do so with our best interests at heart.

Some take advantage to twist spirituality into something toxic, poisonous even.

I learned this from the shaman Rudá Iandé. With over 30 years of experience in the field, he’s seen and experienced it all.

From exhausting positivity to downright harmful spiritual practices, this free video he created tackles a range of toxic spirituality habits.

So what makes Rudá different from the rest? How do you know he’s not also one of the manipulators he warns against?

The answer is simple:

He promotes spiritual empowerment from within.

Click here to watch the free video and bust the spiritual myths you’ve bought for the truth.

Rather than telling you how you should practice spirituality, Rudá puts the focus solely on you. Essentially, he puts you back in the driver’s seat of your spiritual journey.

Here’s a link to the free video once again.

Making a scandal

Don’t lose your cool. Self-control is key; you don’t have to beg for their love and affection.

If you keep your wits, it’s more likely you won’t fall into the trap of contacting them too much or losing respect for their boundaries.

Rushing into a rebound relationship

Many people rush into a different relationship as soon as they break up with their partner, either as a rebound or because they develop feelings for someone new.

What usually happens, in this case, is that there’s a need for more self-love, especially if they really want their ex back.

Remember your standards, make sure you value yourself, and face the reasons why you might be compelled to fall into a rebound relationship. Don’t move on without really feeling it, relax and see the results of your manifestations.

Burdening others with the drama

Especially when you share friends or get along well with your ex’s family, you might be tempted to ask about them with a certain frequency.

It’s not the best course of action! People might think you’re desperate.

Furthermore, involving your friends can make them uncomfortable and annoy them.

It’s better to work behind the scenes, quietly, so others don’t feel pressured by you and you get the people you want back in your life more easily.

What to do when manifestations don’t work?

Manifestation is part of human nature, and we do it all the time, whether we’re conscious about it or not.

What happens if you want someone back in your life but they don’t feel the same way?

They have free will too

The law of free will can clarify this for you:

Your manifestation can’t override someone else’s free will.


Because, since you’re vibrating on different frequencies, your desires are not aligned with each other.

But don’t lose hope! You can influence someone’s free will, people can change their minds. What you can’t do in any case is going against someone’s wishes.

In case your intentions don’t align, all you can do is wish them the best in their journey, and send them love every time you remember them. Maybe one day they’ll come back, maybe they won’t, but for the time being, you have to focus on yourself.

Attachment is fear

The idea of having them back might be super compelling, but try not to attach yourself to it too much.

This might be discouraging to hear for some, but part of manifesting is understanding you can’t create in someone else’s reality. You have to be willing to let them go.

They have their path to follow, their desires.

When you’re attached to someone, it’s because you’re afraid of losing them. If fear is the base of your manifestation, that’s what you’ll attract.

Wish the best for them

When you want to manifest someone back into your life but it doesn’t work, be sure to release this desire and your relationship with this person with love and light.

This way, you might get them back with the right energy, one that matches your own.

Love is about wanting someone to be happy and fulfilled. You don’t use the person you love to fulfill your selfish desires, and if they don’t want to be with you, you can’t force them to.

Move on and find happiness

Sitting and waiting to see if they come back isn’t the best way to behave when you broke up. Invest in yourself, it always pays off.

Here are some examples to help you start your journey of self-development:

  • Having personal goals beyond the relationship.
  • Exercising in ways that bring you joy.
  • Develop your spirituality through meditation or yoga.
  • Working on your eating habits and improving them if needed.
  • Getting in touch with nature through walks or gardening.
  • Strengthening the relationships with friends and family.
  • Getting help in books and podcasts.
  • Cutting time in the use of social media.
  • Make time for yourself and loving habits.

Whether you want to or not, life goes on. You meet new people, and you find happiness in unexpected places. Your heart heals. You just need time to process and accept things.

Set them free

The nature of your relationship doesn’t matter. It can be a friend, a family member, an ex, or barely an acquaintance. You have to let them go. Wish them nothing but love, joy, and light.

This action doesn’t only free them: it liberates you as well. You’ll have control of your life back, and you’ll open the door to new experiences.

To sum up

Manifestation, and especially manifesting someone back in your life, is about love. It’s about visualizing your relationship in love and grace, releasing all negative emotions and issues that hinder it.

Believe it or not, we’re all connected. If your relationship was special, so will the bond between you be.

Even if you’re now apart from each other, the connection can still be strong between you.

Even working with the techniques explained above and using the Law of Attraction correctly, they might not come back.

You’re not at fault, and neither are they. You might simply be on different paths now, looking for a different thing.

The best you can do is go forwards and open your heart to new things, whether those things are a friendship, an experience, or a new partner.

You can do it!

Clifton Kopp

Welcome to my writings on Hack Spirit! I'm a bit of a "polymath" in that I like writing about many different things. Often I'm learning from the process of writing. I hope you enjoy, and please leave a comment on one of my articles.

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