33 easy ways to make your ex jealous (complete list)

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Are you looking for some easy ways to get back at your ex? If yes, then you’ve come to the right place.

Whether it’s in person, by pictures, through text, or on your socials…

In this article, I’ll share with you some simple (but highly effective) ways to make your ex feel jealous.

How to make your ex jealous

1) Act upbeat around them

Nobody wants their ex to appear over them. Even if they were the one to let you go.

To know that we were important to our ex, we get a bit of comfort in seeing they’re sad about the break-up.

If you want to make your ex jealous then don’t give them the satisfaction of seeing that you care. Play it cool and pretend you’re doing fine.

Whenever you are around them, speak to them on text, or on your social media, put on a brave face.

Don’t let them know if you are missing them or want them back.

Seeming a little bit too ok about the break-up is one way to annoy your ex and make them jealous that you are ok.

2) Be polite but distanced

Similar to the above tip, this one is also about playing it cool. But instead of acting really happy and upbeat, you stay friendly but also just a little bit distanced towards them.

You are courteous to them in interactions, but you don’t go out of your way to be anything more.

Rather than give them the cold shoulder entirely — which will only show that you care — you are withdrawing the intimacy you once shared with them.

When we break up with anyone, the hardest part is how someone you once felt so close to no longer has a prominent role in your life.

That closer bond has been broken. And by being polite but distanced you are treating your ex like they are no longer important to you.

You have relegated them from one of the top spots in your life, and that’s likely to hurt.

3) No contact

This is one of the most obvious way to make your ex jealous, but it works every time.

No contact means no communication with your ex whatsoever. You avoid any form of interaction.

The idea behind this is to make your ex think that you are moving on. It’s not an easy thing to do, but the results can be amazing.

It may take a few weeks before your ex realizes what you are doing.

But when they do realize, you will have already moved on. And your ex will be left wondering why you aren’t contacting them anymore.

Plenty of experts suggest no contact after a breakup because it can shock your ex into realizing what they lost and start to feel regret. But the best part is that it also gives you a chance to get on with your life and focus on yourself.

4) Look your best

Another great way to make your ex feel jealous is to look good.There’s nothing quite like showing them what they are missing.

That might involve keeping in shape, having a makeover, getting dressed up, trying out a new look, or having a haircut.

Basically, it’s anything that will leave you feeling your best too.

Being attractive is far from only skin deep. The better you feel about the way you look, the more confident you’ll feel. Which is super sexy.

Now is the time to give yourself that little boost.

5) Date other people

The ultimate way to get the little green-eyed monster to show up is by going on a date with someone else.

If there is someone you have your eye on or someone else on the scene you should try to make sure your ex (subtly) finds out.

Maybe you take a snap together or are tagged in a post with them on social media.

Also, letting friends know about it means that it could reach back to your ex through the grapevine.

If you’re feeling ready to see other people, dating again can also be a great way to get back out there and offer you a confidence boost that there are plenty of people eager to take your ex’s place.

6) Use psychology to make them jealous

Let’s face it, there is an art behind making your ex jealous. It’s all about getting into their head and planting those seeds which will drive them crazy, and want you back.

What you need is clever psychology.

That’s where dating expert Brad Browning comes in.

Brad is a best-selling author and has helped hundreds of people get back with their ex via his extremely popular YouTube channel.

He’s just released a new free video that will give you all the tips you need to get back with your ex.

Click here to watch his excellent video.

7) Add new people on social media

Social media is where we do most of our behind-the-scenes stalking. And it’s probably the same for your ex too.

Even when we’ve broken up, a lot of us still keep tabs on an ex through Insta, TikTok, Snapchat, Facebook, etc.

If your ex is still following you on social media, or your account isn’t private then you might want to start adding some new, preferably cute, friends.

Your ex will see that your followers’ count has increased, and wonder who these people are. Most importantly, they’re going to wonder who they are to you!

8) Be unavailable

If you are still in contact, or still friends, be far less available.

If they want to see you make sure that you’re not always free — or at least let them think that.

If you’re constantly busy, or if you’re planning something fun, it’s a great way to make them jealous.

Being vague about your other plans can make them jealous. They might assume that you’re seeing someone else, so perhaps won’t even want to ask why you aren’t free.

9) Let them think you’re seeing someone else

You don’t even need to start seeing anyone else for them to get that impression.

Although there are plenty of fish in the sea, we can’t magic them up just to make an ex jealous.

Sadly romance doesn’t usually happen on demand.

But you can still plant some seeds of doubt in their mind that make them jealous. Dropping someone’s name a bit too often or implying that you have a date might to the trick.

10) Mention a “friend” in conversation

Casually shoehorning references to a friend or new friend into the conversation could make your ex jealous.

The implication here is that this person might not be just a friend. So you want to choose someone of the opposite sex.

Ideally choose a good-looking friend, preferably one whom your ex might be naturally a bit jealous of.

11) Make them think you’re too busy to notice them

Going missing for a while because you’re off having so much fun is going to make any ex jealous.

  • because you are having a good time
  • because you aren’t paying them any attention even though you aren’t explicitly avoiding them.

You can do this by keeping them guessing about what you’re up to and where you’re going etc. Staying off social media can keep some mystery alive. Sometimes not knowing is what drives us the craziest.

Don’t interact with their social media — no watching their stories or leaving likes and comments.

You want them to be keeping an eye on you, not the other way around.

How to make your ex jealous over text

12) Don’t reply straight away

Got a message from them? Let them wait.

Don’t text back straight away, give it a while.

They need to learn that you’re not at their beck and call anymore. If you don’t get back to your ex right away, it might leave them wondering what you’re busy doing.

It could also make them question for a while if you’re ignoring them, which makes them more likely to be jealous.

13) Allude to things that keep them guessing what you’re up to

Not knowing exactly where you are, what you’re doing, and who you are with means that your ex is left to only imagine.

That can be the breeding ground for lots of jealousy. Remain elusive over text. Try saying things like:

“Hey sorry for the slow reply, it’s been a crazy few days”

“Was a bit of a late-night so not feeling the best”

If they ask what you’re doing or they send you a message trying to talk, say something like:

“Sorry, just jumping in the shower so I can’t talk right now, on my way out.”

Basically, you want to be suggestive to make them curious, but without giving details.

14) Show them you’re busy

We can all be prone to a bit of FOMO. No-one likes to miss out, least of all your ex.

Whenever it’s possible, let them see that you have plenty of plans and aren’t sitting around waiting to hear from them.

If they ask whether you are going to be somewhere, for example a party or event — text back something like:

“Not sure if I’m going to make it, things have been super hectic recently” or “Hopefully I can make it, but there’s another thing I’m meant to do/another person I’m meant to see”.

Try to casually drop into conversation plans that make it known you’re out there living your best life.

15) Imply someone else could be on the scene

How to make your ex jealous over text?

There is a way to subtly imply you could be seeing someone else, without any need to be a) actually dating someone or b) explicitly lying by saying you are.

In fact, it can make them just as jealous to keep them guessing. You can hint at it by sending a message like:

“Sorry I missed your call last night, I was with someone” or “I’m sorry I didn’t reply to your text earlier, I was having dinner with a new friend”.

This makes them feel like they’re missing out, and it’ll make them wonder if you’re dating somebody else.

Even if they ask who, you don’t have to say. You can reply with “nobody you know”, or “wouldn’t you like to know 😉 “.

16) Sneakily let them know you’re doing fun things

If you’re worried that your ex might guess that you’re trying to make them jealous this is a great option.

It’s a really sneaky way of humbly bragging.

Let’s say you were on a night out, you might message them and say something like:

“I think I saw you at (wherever) last night, that was you, right?”.

Of course, you know they weren’t there, but that way your ex knows you were out partying and having fun without them.

Or you could “accidentally” send your ex a message saying something like:

“What time are we all due to meet tonight?”

Followed by another message saying sorry, you sent it to the wrong person. This will work especially well if you happen to have friends with the same or similar names. It makes the potential mix up more convincing.

What can I post to make my ex jealous?

After a breakup social media can make it harder to move on.

We get a window into someone’s life, and the temptation is often too great not to take a look at what your ex is up to.

If you want to make your ex jealous, you can take advantage of this by posting certain things.

17) Funny stories about things

Rule number one is to keep it light.

Don’t be tempted to take your frustrations out on social media.

Posting angry or not so cryptic status updates, memes and posts that are clearly directed at your ex will do you no favors.

If your aim is to make your ex jealous, your strategy has to be to make them think about what they’re missing.

You being bitter isn’t going to do that.

Instead post funny stories and light hearted things that have happened to you.

18) Photos of fun things you’re doing

You know what they say, a picture paints a thousand words.

It is also a great way to quite literally show your ex what they are missing.

I’ll go into more detail in the next section of the article for the types of pictures to post. But the golden rule in general is to post whenever you’re doing something fun or unusual.

Don’t post selfies of yourself alone late at night or on a weekend when you’re clearly alone.

You want to post photos when you’re around people and doing cool things to make your ex jealous.

19) Good news

Had some good news recently?

Then you want to share it with the online world (aka your ex).

Whether you passed your driving licence, got a fantastic new job, just booked a dream vacation — be sure to brag.

Essentially, any good things that have been happening to you. This will make your ex think about what they’re losing out on.

And if you’ve been working hard lately, then post an update showing off how much progress you’ve made.

20) Get friends to post and tag you

If you don’t want to be too obvious that you’re trying to show off your fabulous life, a subtle way to go about things is ask your friends to post.

You can come clean with them and say you want to look busy and make your ex jealous.

They can create stories and posts, which you can then share. I’ll admit I do this all the time when I want to get someone’s attention but don’t want them to realize.

Sharing a friend’s post that you’re tagged in seems more casual somehow.

21) Leave comments on friends pages, profiles and posts (and vice versa)

This works especially well if you share mutual friends that your ex also follows.

Commenting on your friends’ pages and posts about fun times, places you’ve been and things you’ve been doing is a way of getting your ex’s attention and making them jealous.

You can even ask a friend to leave a specific comment on one of your posts.

For example, “Was such a great night last night, you were the life and soul of the party”.

That way, it’s not you telling your ex what they’re missing out on, it’s coming from other people.

Pictures to make your ex jealous

I’ve already mentioned how effective the right snap can be in making your ex green with envy and jealousy.

So let’s delve deeper into the best photos to be shared — because there are a few do’s and don’ts to get to grips with.

1) You having fun with friends

You having a good time with your friends is a great photo to make your ex jealous.

It’s natural and subtle, and won’t look orchestrated. But you’re still letting them see that you’re fun, carefree and single again.

If you’re laughing and joking in the picture, even better.

To really make them jealous, seeing you fine without them can be the best solution.

2) You on a trip/vacation

Taking a break is always a great idea, but even more so after a break-up.

Getting out of town for a while will not only be good for you, it will leave you with some snaps that are sure to make your ex jealous.

It doesn’t even need to be far. Just an overnight stay or visiting a friend in a nearby place.

A picture of you in a car with the open road in front of you with the caption “roadtrip” is perfect.

Your ex knows you are going somewhere, but you keep them guessing what exactly you’re up to.

3) You looking your best

I don’t care who you are, I think we’re all capable of being a bit shallow at times.

Seeing your ex looking hot is bound to spark a little bit of jealousy and regret.

So make sure you’re looking your absolute best. You can always use a great natural looking filter to help you achieve the perfect effect.

Don’t go overboard and start posting 1001 selfies everyday or you may just end up looking desperate — which is going to have the opposite impact.

But whenever you are dressed up or looking particularly cute, then this is the time to share.

4) You with your new love interest

Letting your ex see pics with your new love interest has got to be the absolute ultimate way to make them jealous.

But be warned, although this will no doubt hit them hard, it can be difficult to come back from.

It depends if you want to make your ex jealous at all costs and there is no hope of your two reconciling.

If you want them back, it might not be a good idea to crush all their hope. There is jealousy and then there is defeat. You only want to create the former feeling in them and not the latter.

5) You posing with an unidentified hottie

The more subtle approach is to actually keep them guessing whether you have moved on.

A great way to do that is to make sure you have your picture taken with an unknown good looking person.

It’s better if your ex doesn’t know who they are because then they’ll wonder. It’s obviously not going to have the desired effect if they already know it’s your cousin.

Maybe a friend of a friend, maybe a colleague, or maybe just someone attractive you meet on a night out.

6) You on nights out

For some reason having fun at night is more likely to make your ex extra jealous.

Maybe it’s because evenings out are still typically the times we meet new people, and potentially hook up with people.

It’s also when you may be drinking and prone to getting up to some crazy antics.

7) You hanging out with the opposite sex

This one is pretty self explanatory, so I don’t think you need me to say why that can make your ex jealous.

Even if they are just guy friends or girlfriends of yours, it’s still more likely to make your ex jealous than when you hang out with the same sex.

They might end up wondering if something will happen with one of your friends now that they are no longer on the scene.

Bonus points if it’s someone your ex was already jealous over or always thought had a crush on you.

Be warned: Making your ex jealous isn’t always a good idea

I’ve cram packed this article with lots of practical ways to make your ex jealous.

I totally understand why you would want to. I think all of us have been there. You’re hurt, you may even be angry, or you want to grab their attention to try and win them back.

We’ve all wanted to make an ex pay for breaking up with us, and dream about them coming crawling back.

But it’s also time to address the elephant in the room and ask…

Is making your ex jealous a good idea?

Playing games are so tempting, but you need to be careful. Whenever we play games we have to be prepared to lose.

Let’s be brave enough to call it what it is, and that’s manipulation.

I’m not judging. I have done it myself. But here’s the thing…

If you want your ex back, making them jealousy may not even be the best way to go about things.

Does making your ex jealous get them back? Sometimes, but sometimes not.

But rather than leaving it up to fate to decide, why not take things into your own hands and find a way to get through to your ex?

I mentioned Brad Browning earlier – he’s an expert in relationships and reconciliation.

His practical tips have helped thousands of men and women not only reconnect with their exes but to rebuild the love and commitment they once shared.

If you’d like to do the same, check out his excellent free video here.

How to make your ex jealous and want you back

If you want to reconcile with your ex, then you don’t want to risk pushing them even further away. You also want to know they’re coming back for the right reasons.

Let’s say you want to know how to make your ex jealous and want you back. Let’s also say that your attempts to get their attention are successful. Then what?

Because here is the unfortunate truth that none of us want to hear:

If you have to persuade them to be with you, it’s only a matter of time before they go again. Leaving you heartbroken all over again.

And not to mention blocking yourself from the chance of finding a guy or girl who wants to show up for you, be with you for you and treat you like you deserve.

So what can you do?

The answer is pretty simple, and that’s try to live a good life. But to do it for you. The extra sweetener is that it will also make your ex jealous.

Here are good ways to make your ex jealous if you do want to get back together again:

Work on building your self esteem, confidence and self-love

When you feel good about yourself, you’ll attract better people. And when you feel bad about yourself, it shines through and is noticeable to everyone — including your ex.

You see, when you start feeling good about yourself, you actually become more attractive.

If the next time your ex sees you you’re noticeably happy and content it’s bound to make them more remorseful.

Hang out with friends

I’ve already said how hanging out with your friends can make your ex jealous because you’re clearly doing things and staying busy.

But after a breakup is also the very best time to be with your friends to take your mind off things.

Work on yourself

Being the very best version of yourself is another healthier way to make your ex jealous. Because it’s something that helps you grow too.

Now might be a great time to try something new, throw yourself into a challenging activity, take up a new hobby, do something you’ve always wanted to do, learn a new language, study something.

Work on yourself. As you blossom, your ex will get jealous and you’ll also be reaping the rewards.

Get expert advice specific to your situation

There are so many tips to choose from in this article to try and make your ex jealous. But if you really want to make an impact, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.

With a professional relationship coach, you can get advice specific to your life and your experiences…

Relationship Hero is a site where highly trained relationship coaches help people through complicated and difficult love situations, like breakups and how to get back with an ex. They’re a very popular resource for people facing this sort of challenge.

How do I know?

Well, I reached out to them a few months ago when I was going through a tough patch in my own relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship and how to get it back on track.

I was blown away by how kind, empathetic, and genuinely helpful my coach was.

In just a few minutes you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice for your situation.

Click here to get started.

Do things for your benefit and not there’s

Most of the time the best revenge in life is to actually be happy.

The longer you obsess over your ex the more likely you are to suffer. Doing things specifically to make them jealous can actually end up hurting you more than them.

It keeps your ex at the center of your life. Rather than having fun or trying to move on you are keeping them alive by thinking about how to make them jealous.

Go out, have fun, see friends, date if you’re ready — and feel free to share all of that online or even with your ex — but do it for you.

Do it because it helps you to heal.

Focus on yourself and two powerful things will happen:

Not only will you end up feeling better, but you might actually find this is the very best way to make them jealous.

Genuinely not caring what your ex thinks because you have moved on with your life can be the best trigger for jealousy that there is.

To conclude: Do you want your ex back?

I know this article is about making your ex jealous, but I’m guessing that if you want to do that then you clearly still care about them.

As I said earlier, you should be careful with making someone jealous if you hope to fix things.

So if you really want to get your ex back, you’re going to need a bit of help. And the best person to turn to is Brad Browning.

No matter how ugly the breakup was, how hurtful the arguments were, he’s developed a couple of unique techniques to not only get your ex back but to keep them for good.

So, if you’re tired of missing your ex and want to start afresh with them, I’d highly recommend checking out his incredible advice.

Here’s the link to his free video once again.

Can a relationship coach help you too?

If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to a relationship coach.

I know this from personal experience…

A few months ago, I reached out to Relationship Hero when I was going through a tough patch in my relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship and how to get it back on track.

If you haven’t heard of Relationship Hero before, it’s a site where highly trained relationship coaches help people through complicated and difficult love situations.

In just a few minutes you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice for your situation.

I was blown away by how kind, empathetic, and genuinely helpful my coach was.

Click here to get $50 off your first session (exclusive offer for Hack Spirit readers).

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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