So you want to make your boyfriend’s ex jealous?
You’re in luck, because I have a tried-and-true guide that will fry her brain.
Maybe you’re sick of her hitting on him or just want her to understand what she missed out on.
That’s your business.
My business is giving you the tools to get the job done.
10 ways to make your boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend jealous
1) Tag your boyfriend on social media while out on a date
Whether it’s sharing an Instagram story with your boyfriend or just tweeting out a pic of the two of you enjoying a milkshake, share your joy!
If his ex is online you can be sure she’ll notice.
You can also be sure she’ll be burning up with jealousy inside.
Whatever your poison: Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, TikTok, YouTube, you name it!
The sky is the limit when it comes to sharing footage of you and your guy having a real romantic time!
It’s not that you need to be perfect together, you just need to be you and let the world know it.
You need to be fully secure that he’s yours and that his ex-girlfriend doesn’t have her seductive talons anywhere near him or his heart.
“Your boyfriend should be focused on you and have little or nothing to do with his exes – and they definitely should not be engaged in intimate, private friendships,” writes relationship expert Zachary Stockill.
So get out there, have fun, and let your love light shine!
Both of you with beaming smiles and a drink in your hand? That’s jealousy juice for the ex.
If you want to know how to make your boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend jealous you can’t go wrong with this one.
2) Go hard with the PDAs when out with mutual friends
If you’re out with mutual friends who you know are going to report back about you and your boyfriend, then try out some public displays of affection (PDAs).
If PDAs aren’t your thing, at least engage in some hand-holding and intimate ear whispering.
This behavior will go back along the grapevine and reach the ears of your boyfriend’s ex and she’ll be steaming jealous.
As an added bonus, if she’s out with you and the group of mutual friends then she’ll get to see the two of you enjoying each other up close and personal.
This extra jealousy-inducing move is something I talk about in step 10.
But even if she’s not out with you don’t worry about it. She’ll definitely hear how you and Mr. Hot Stuff couldn’t keep your hands off of each other.
That’s a win-win in my books.
3) Encourage your boyfriend to fully move on and be open about it
I am assuming your boyfriend is fully over his ex, but if not then it can be good to give him a little nudge.
If he’s ready to fully commit to your relationship, then encourage him to be open about it and let everyone in his life know he’s with you now.
Hold his hand in public and stake your claim.
Make sure to refer to each other as boyfriend and girlfriend and “make it official” as they say.
There’s no reason to hide in the dark about things or downplay the love you have for each other.
And if it makes your boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend jealous, then all the better if you ask me.
Let his ex see, hear and just know that he’s with you now and it’s not a flash in the pan: it’s the real thing.
She’ll be so full of jealousy she almost bursts, but you’ll eliminate all that confusion and fear of your boyfriend leaving you back for his ex.
If he’s not fully over his ex? That’s a different matter.
Like relationship expert Zahra Barnes explains:
“You can keep him in your life, but don’t get hooked on someone who’s emotionally unavailable… If he eventually makes some headway and is ready to date seriously, chances are he’ll let you know.”
4) Take a vacation with your boyfriend and post pics
This one is a double whammy. You create jealousy with some pics of a tropical paradise and of you and your special guy.
It’s a classic two-in-one.
Not only are you with the guy she wishes she had, but you’re also soaking up the sun on the beach or enjoying some snorkeling through a vivid coral reef.
Even if you go somewhere that’s more “average” like camping for the weekend or to a small cabin on the lake for a few days, trust me that there are ways to cause jealousy about this.
The time off, combined with beautiful scenery and the man you love will be driving his ex wild the more she sees and hears about it.
There’s no way she wants to know that the guy she used to be with is on a trip with his new girlfriend, doing great and getting to revel in Mother Nature while she’s stuck at home filling out Excel spreadsheets.
This would even make someone who barely ever thinks of her ex-boyfriend jealous.
It’s a potent arrow to pull from the quiver, so only use it if you’re sure you want her stewing with envy.
If this doesn’t make your boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend jealous then there’s no way to make her jealous.
5) Move in together and post about it online
One of the top ways to make your boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend jealous is to move in together and post about it online.
This will be especially effective if he and his ex never ended up living together.
You may not be ready to move in together, so make sure you don’t do this on a whim or just to make his ex jealous.
That would definitely not be a wise move.
Are you ready?
“That deep intuition you have? Yeah, listen to it—even if you don’t like what it’s saying,” according to Jessica Migala.
“On the flip side, if that little voice tells you that you’re ready to move in together with this particular person and it’s going to be amazing, by all means, go for it.”
So: if you are ready to move in together? Do it!
It’s going to burn his ex up inside.
That’s because the implication is obvious:
Your relationship has reached a more serious and committed level than theirs ever did.
I’m almost getting a bit jealous myself just thinking about it!
6) Encourage your boyfriend to freeze his ex out
If your boyfriend has a friendly text interaction with his ex or still says hi to her now and then on social media or out in his daily life, encourage him to freeze her out.
If he’s not ready to do this then so be it.
But if he does feel ready then it can be a really effective way to let the past stay in the past and let his ex be jealous enough to move on.
When she has an underlying belief she can get him back it may motivate her to keep her hopes up.
Once cruel hope dies and all that’s left is jealousy she’ll be able to start actually moving on.
Think of it as you doing his ex a favor!
7) Tell her friends how happy you are in your love life
You may not be the showiest couple online or in person, but if you want to make your boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend jealous then you have to give her something to work with.
Tell friends of hers about your relationship and let it be known that you and her ex-boyfriend are doing great together.
Make it clear to your boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend that the search for true love and intimacy has ended and resulted in the two of you.
Join classes and be seen out and about.
Travel together and have lunch at hot restaurants.
Let it be known that this relationship is on and that his ex-girlfriend has no place in it.
8) Work out and become more beautiful than her
Physical beauty may be only skin deep, but it can still go a long way.
If you’re at the top of your game then she’s going to be feeling a bit jealous.
It’s as simple as that.
So hit the gym, work on your diet, get some tanning in and do your best to embrace your inner goddess.
Fitness writer Abigail Blank says an even better option is to join up at the gym together with your man:
“Whether it’s joining a gym, taking Salsa classes, signing up for a co-ed soccer team, or doing yoga in your living room, make it something you want to do together.
“Not only will you benefit from the shared interest and quality time together, but you will keep each other motivated.”
In terms of even more ideas…
Who said a weekend at the spa was out of the question or extravagant?
You can enjoy a facial while you also make your boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend jealous.
That sounds like a great deal to me!
9) Move away with your boyfriend to a new area
If you’re still living in a nearby area where your boyfriend and his ex lived, think about moving away.
Nothing says go pound sand like just up and ditching this former flame.
She’ll be jealous beyond belief if you have her ex-boyfriend all to yourself and you’re not even nearby.
How’s she supposed to get access to the Grade A local gossip and stalk you now and then at parties or get-togethers?
It’s a disaster for her and a big win for you.
When you do move to a new place, however, don’t forget about those who are still living back in your old digs.
“I’ve always believed that the ‘mover’ has it easier than the person left behind. You’re out exploring a new city, having new adventures, learning new things,” writes Abby Stone.
“Your old pals are in their same routine and probably missing you. Don’t forget about them. Make an effort to keep in touch and to go back and visit from time to time.”
10) Seduce your boyfriend in front of her
This is the greatest jealousy power move of all when it comes to ways to make your boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend jealous.
I’ve left it for last because it should only be used in extreme circumstances.
If you’re feeling mean and you have some good reason I don’t know about to want to make this former paramour jealous out of her mind then do this.
Seduce your guy in front of her.
Trail a finger over his lips, bat your eyes at him, grind up against him and do all that other bewitching stuff that makes him go crazy for you in the first place.
If she’s out with a group and you’re there or sees you then this will drive her mad.
There’s no way that jealousy doesn’t start kicking up inside her cold soul at the sight of the man she loved getting steamy with his new love.
Do this at your own caution, however: it can definitely start fights!
Can jealousy really be a good thing?
Jealousy is generally seen as a “negative” emotion.
After all, wanting what someone else has – or is – is pretty toxic.
The truth is that making someone else jealous is a different matter.
As consultant Wayne Trotman observes, “other people’s happiness is the single most annoying thing to bitter people.”
Their jealousy is their problem.
If you do a little to nudge it along, are you really the bad guy?
But sometimes you just want to rub a little bit of dirt in the face of your boyfriend’s ex – and I can’t help but cheer you on from here on the sidelines.
Even if your guy isn’t drifting and has no feelings for his ex, what’s wrong with giving her a look into the new love you and he enjoy?
She’ll at least get the message to move on to greener pastures and she’ll fully accept that she’s not getting him back.
Sounds like a win to me.
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