Are you hoping that someone will call you?
Believe it or not, you can make it happen with the Law of Attraction.
Learn all about this trick of the Universe and make it work for you.
1) Don’t put desperate energy out
The Law of Attraction is founded on the basis that like-attracts-like.
You see, you get back what you put out.
So if you’re desperate and needy, this is the energy the other person is going to be picking up. If you’re waiting for another person to call you and wishing they would hurry up and do it, it’s not going to happen.
The Universe doesn’t work like this… In fact, it’s quite the opposite.
Now: when we talk about the Universe, it’s really just a Universe that’s alive within you and others. This means, we’re all connected.
Other people will pick up on where you’re at: it’s what’s meant by someone’s ‘vibe’. It’s something unexplainable, but something we can all detect.
So, with this in mind, when it comes to trying to get someone to phone you, you’re going to need to be mindful about the energy you’re giving off.
Play it cool.
First things first, even if you want them to call, you need to put out that you are fine with them not calling. Genuinely drop into a place of feeling like it’s neither here nor there.
You’re cool and chill, remember.
Think: it would be a nice added bonus to your day if they did call, but it doesn’t bother you if they don’t. Tell yourself you’ll still have a great day, regardless. Don’t let yourself get hung up on them not phoning because there are so many other things you could be doing.
Why not make a list of all the different things to help you get perspective? It might seem really obvious, but it’s a helpful exercise. For example, when I feel myself getting anxious about whether my boyfriend is going to call me or not, I think about other ways to spend my energy:
- Practice self-care
- Do some housework I’ve been putting off
- Take a walk
- Call a friend
There are numerous things to be doing rather than sitting around staring at your phone.
And the best bit?
Something amazing happens when you stop waiting around too: it’s as if the other person knows and they seemingly suddenly want to call you.
In my experience, this is always how it goes.
As we drop into the flow of life, things become far more effortless. Trying to micromanage, control and manipulate situations never works, and anxious energy just pushes people away.
2) Play out the scene in your head
So, if there were no limitations and you could choose anyone, who would you really want to speak to?
Is it someone who could help mentor you and nurture you professionally? Is it someone you would love to give thanks to for the positive influence they’ve had in your life from afar? Or is a loved one you’ve lost contact with?
As I say, imagine this situation as if there were no barriers. It could be anyone!
Now: it’s time to play this situation out in your mind’s-eye.
The Law of Attraction works with the power of visualization, which means you need to get very specific for it to work.
You need to imagine everything you two will say to one another. Of course, this is just purely imagination, but this is where the magic of the Law of Attraction happens.
Let’s start with a few questions to help you scene-set:
- Where are you when you have this phone call?
- Did you call them or did they call you?
- How did you get their number and set this call-up?
- Do you have headphones on or are they on speaker?
- Are you pacing around the living room or sitting at the wheel of the car?
Really imagine every little detail to start the process of manifesting this into reality.
Close your eyes and act this situation out. It might feel weird, but there’s a saying by self-help author Bob Proctor that explains why you should do this:
“Thoughts become things. If you see it in your mind, you will hold it in your hand.”
He’s saying our thoughts become our reality, so really engage with this scene to help bring it into yours.
3) Manifest when you’re still drowsy
By now, you’re probably wondering when the best time to manifest is…
There are different theories, including the viral TikTok trend of 369 manifestation where people suggest writing it down three times in the morning, six times during the day and nine times at night.
But some experts think otherwise.
In a blog post about visualizing, author Kristine Moe of BetterUp suggests that for optimum results with your visualization practice, you should do it twice a day, for a total of 10 minutes:
“It’s most effective in the moments you wake and the moments just before you go to sleep. This will help engage the subconscious in your focused effort toward your desired outcome.”
In effect, your best bet is while you’re still a little drowsy. You’ve either just pushed back the covers or you’ve climbed into bed.
But that’s not all you need to do when it comes to mastering visualization…
4) Attach emotions to the scene you’re visualizing
You see, the Law of Attraction is all based around emotions.
Remember what I said earlier on: if you act desperate and needy about wanting someone to call you, they’re not going to.
Instead, attach a positive emotion to your desires.
Simply put: when you’re going into a state of visualizing, you’re going to supercharge it if you attach a positive emotion to it.
Rather than feeling anxious about whether you’re going to get this call, feel excited and joyous about having received it.
Watch how your face actually changes as a result of imaging it. I bet you’ll have a massive smile on your face.
If you’re wondering why this happens, coach Liz Wiegardt explains all about it in a blog post about the power of positive visualization.
“All our thoughts and feelings have a chemical signature. When we think angry, unhappy, negative thoughts, our brains produce chemicals (neurotransmitters) that match those feelings. When we think grateful, kind, happy thoughts, our brains produce chemicals that match those feelings. These neurotransmitters affect all systems of the body and mind.”
Our imaginations are so much more powerful that we realize, and we can use them to our advantage to magnetize what we want… including a phone call from someone!
5) Get clear on what you want
It’s true, manifestation works best when you bring clarity to a situation.
In my experience, the clearer you are about your ‘why’, the higher the chance that you’ll be able to manifest what you desire.
If you think you want something but you’re not totally sure, you’re giving the Universe mixed signals to work with.
In my experience, this happened when I was on the dating scene.
I’d been on a date with a guy who I’d got along well with, but I wasn’t 100 percent all in. A few days on, I hadn’t heard from him and I started thinking that I wish he’d phone me.
I could feel the desperation creeping up.
Even though I wasn’t totally into this guy, my ego felt a little bruised and I wanted to feel wanted… which meant: a phone call!
I started checking when he was last active on social media and I’d seen he’d posted content, so my mind spiraled and I began wondering what I’d done so wrong on the date for him not to contact me.
The irony was: I wasn’t even that into him and, had he phoned, I would have had to think about whether I’d actually like to go on a second date with him.
I was sending out super conflicting messages to the Universe because what I actually wanted and what I thought I wanted on a superficial level weren’t aligning.
What does this mean for you?
You see, it’s just about working out what it is you really want and aligning with it. This is how you’re going to make manifestations work for you.
If you don’t actually know why you want something and it’s just the idea of it, it’s not going to happen.
As if that’s not enough, the Universe knows what it’s doing with the people it puts in your path…
So, if something isn’t working out with someone, you have to trust in its ways.
With this in mind, let me ask you: why is it you want this specific person to phone you?
Why not turn to your journal and you make a list of all the reasons? This will help you get the clarity you need.
For example, is it:
- To help you solve a problem
- For attention
- For a laugh
- For a job opportunity
There could be loads of reasons and maybe some of them cross over!
6) Try a different approach
There’s a quote that madness is doing the same thing over and over, and expecting a different result.
If things don’t seem to be working out for you and there’s a lack of flow: try a different approach.
Now, if you’re trying to get a potential love interest to call you, there’s something I want to say:
Have you ever asked yourself why love is so hard?
Why can’t it be how you imagined growing up? Or at least make some sense…
When you’re dealing with trying to align with someone who’s right for you, it’s easy to become frustrated and even feel helpless. You may even be tempted to throw in the towel and give up on love.
I want to suggest doing something different.
It’s something I learned from the world-renowned shaman Rudá Iandê. He taught me that the way to find love and intimacy is not what we have been culturally conditioned to believe.
In fact, many of us self-sabotage and trick ourselves for years, getting in the way of meeting a partner who can truly fulfill us.
As Rudá explains in this mind-blowing free video, many of us chase love in a toxic way that ends up stabbing us in the back.
We get stuck in awful relationships or empty encounters, never really finding what we’re looking for and continuing to feel horrible about things like our inability to meet The One.
We fall in love with an ideal version of someone instead of the real person.
We try to “fix” our partners and end up destroying relationships.
We try to find someone who “completes” us, only to fall apart with them next to us and feel twice as bad.
Rudá’s teachings showed me a whole new perspective.
While watching, I felt like someone understood my struggles to find and nurture love for the first time – and finally offered an actual, practical solution to working out what I want in a partner.
If you’re done with unsatisfying dating, empty hookups, frustrating relationships and having your hopes dashed over and over, then this is a message you need to hear.
I guarantee you will not be disappointed.
7) Work with affirmations
So, in place of limiting beliefs, it’s time to introduce affirmations if you want someone to call you.
If you’re new to affirmations, the number one rule is that they’re in the present tense.
It’s important to make statements in the present as, by doing so, you’re thinking them into existence.
I use affirmations in all areas of my life – on a daily basis.
- I am loved
- I am supported
- I attract amazing people, situations and opportunities into my life
- I am abundant in all areas of my life
- I am a magnet for success
But when it comes to manifesting a phone call, there are a few specific statements I recommend:
- I love talking to this person
- I love how the meaningful conversations we have
- I love how they make me laugh on the phone
It might feel a little weird working with these at first. But, like anything, the more you stick at it, the more it will become second nature.
Why not try writing a list of affirmations that are totally unique to you? These will be the most powerful!
8) Hand it over to the Universe
There comes a point in the process of manifesting where you need to let go and hand it over to a greater power – whatever it is you believe in.
It’s just like I said earlier on about not clinging to the idea with desperation. Instead, let your desire go… and watch it manifest in your reality with ease.
When I’ve done this, it’s always worked in my favor.
I know I told you about my crappy date earlier, but some months later I manifested an amazing partner with no struggles at all.
There was no wondering if he was going to call me; no sitting by my phone and wishing.
As we started to get to know each other, regular, long phone calls became our thing.
I live a couple of hours away from him, so we aren’t able to spend loads of time together in person. But we never spoke about a set calling schedule… it just happened.
When the evening rolled around, I knew, like clockwork, he would phone me and anticipated we’d talk for hours.
I had total faith that he would phone me and I didn’t slip into a state of wanting him to with all of my might.
You see, I was relaxed about the situation.
This is the magic with manifesting.
9) Ditch the limiting beliefs
If you want to start successfully manifesting, you’re going to need to leave your limiting beliefs at the door.
Negative thinking – including that you can’t manifest a phone call – has no place in the realm of manifesting.
Whether we acknowledge them or not, all of us have negative, limiting beliefs. These will look different from person to person.
You can imagine limiting beliefs like weights around your ankles… they do nothing but hold us back.
Do you know what yours are?
Even if you think you don’t have any, I know you do.
The reason I know is because we’re all works in progress; there’s always baggage we can let go of. There’s always old stories, wrapped up in limiting beliefs, that can go.
I’ve been someone who thought they didn’t have anything to work through and, well, that didn’t work out so well for me.
10) Recall moments from the past
There is more to my story, though; it’s that the phone calls aren’t what they used to be now we’re in a more established relationship.
No exaggeration… We would speak for hours a night. Sometimes up to four!
Now, I knew it wasn’t sustainable and we probably wouldn’t go on like that forever, but I did love the long, extended conversations where we really dived deep on subjects and invested time into getting to know one another.
Truth is, I miss them.
I miss feeling like he’s super interested in me and so excited to hear about my day – even if nothing eventful really happened.
So, do you know what I’m doing?
I’m trying to manifest more of these calls back into our schedules.
Do you know how?
Well, I’m taking my own advice and not allowing myself to be desperate or slip into a negative state, like thinking he’s not bothered anymore.
What I’m doing is focusing on the positive emotions those calls used to generate.
I’m trying to recall the memories – the laughter, the butterflies, and the intrigue – and allow the emotion to flood my body.
I’m getting myself back to that state and feeling excited about the calls we’re yet to have.
And guess what?
I can feel myself smirking… because I know my manifestation is in motion.
11) Believe in your power
Do you really recognize how powerful you are and fully embody your power?
If you do, great! You’re on the path to becoming a successful manifestor.
But if you have any shred of doubt, you’re going to self-sabotage your manifestations.
It’s important you work through letting go of limiting beliefs and introducing affirmations to help you shift into the right mindset.
Remember, you get to decide what your reality looks like.
So what can you do to shift your reality to a more empowered one?
Begin with yourself. Stop searching for external fixes to sort out your life, deep down, you know this isn’t working.
And that’s because until you look within and unleash your personal power, you’ll never find the satisfaction and fulfillment you’re searching for.
I learned this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. His life mission is to help people restore balance to their lives and unlock their creativity and potential. He has an incredible approach that combines ancient shamanic techniques with a modern-day twist.
In his excellent free video, Rudá explains effective methods to achieve what you want in life and embody your full power.
So if you want to build a better relationship with yourself, unlock your endless potential, and put passion at the heart of everything you do, start now by checking out his genuine advice.
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