How to make him want you back after he cheated

Your partner cheated on you and you still want him back?

Well, you can’t just welcome him back with open arms, considering what he did.

But, there are other things you could do to make him want you back so badly that he kneels in front of you and begs you to take him back.

Here are 10 ways to make him want you back after he cheated:

1) Do your best to make him jealous

Look: I know playing mind games with him can be really hard.

But, the truth is that men are simple creatures.

Even a slight feeling of jealousy will make him want you back.

On top of that, he deserves a little punishment, don’t you think?

However, make sure that you don’t hurt another guy in this process.

To help you out, here are a few ways to make him jealous without playing with another guy’s feelings:

  • Dress up a little nicer than usual whenever you’re going to be around other men and he can see you, too.
  • Post pictures of yourself with your male friends.

2) Play the game of hard to get with him

Are you in the mood to play a little game with him?

While you’re probably too hurt to want to play games, hear me out.

Even if you forgive him for cheating on you and want to give him a chance, don’t give it all away too fast.

If he thinks that he can get you back with a snap of the finger, then he will never appreciate you.

Men want women that they have to work for.

That’s why when he tries to get your attention, don’t respond immediately.

On top of that, be a little bit cold towards him when you see him again.

Playing hard to get often involves ignoring him, which will make him want you even more.

3) Find out what his innate drive is and trigger it

There’s no denying that some men are really shallow. They focus on the wrong things and they end up hurting the woman they love.

In fact, he could be one of these men. But even if he is, I have good news for you.

Men are inherently driven by certain things. If you trigger that one thing, he’ll want you back and beg for your forgiveness.

So what is his innate drive?

There’s actually a psychological term for what I’m talking about here. It’s called the ‘hero instinct’.

This concept is generating a lot of buzz at the moment as a way to explain what really drives men in relationships.

I know it might all seem kind of silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.

But this misses the point about what the hero instinct is all about.

The hero instinct is an instinctive need that men have to step up to the plate for the woman in their lives. This is deeply rooted in male biology.

When a man genuinely feels like your everyday hero, he’ll become more loving, attentive, and committed to being in a long-term relationship with you.

But how do you trigger this instinct in him?

The trick is to make him feel like a hero in an authentic way. And there are things you can say and messages you can send to trigger this natural biological instinct.

If you want some help doing this, check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here.

I don’t often recommend videos or buy into popular new concepts in psychology, but the hero instinct is one of the most fascinating concepts I’ve come across.

Here’s a link to his unique video again.

4) Make him remember how attractive you are

Being cheated on can make you seriously doubt yourself. It can make you doubt your looks, your personality, and your overall value.

Maybe you had doubts about yourself before he cheated on you, but now that he did, those doubts have grown bigger.

If that’s the case, here’s what you could do: take action!

Think about it like this: what he did could work to your advantage.

Why? Because now you get the chance to improve your looks even more!

Here are some suggestions:

  • Get your hair done or change your hairstyle or hair color. This will not only make him want you back after he cheated, but it will also make you feel better about yourself.
  • Wear clothes that compliment your body shape. Stop trying to wear what everybody else is wearing. Choose clothes that fit you and look amazing on you!
  • Pay attention to your body posture. You may have been slouching around, but it’s time to stand up straight. Make sure to lift your chin and look at him with confidence.

5) Give him a deadline to fix things

Want to know a secret?

When you give somebody an ultimatum, they will feel a sense of urgency.

Let me explain:

When you give him a deadline to fix things, he will feel like he needs to do something right now.

And what will he do?

  • He’ll try to make things right.
  • He’ll try to get you back.
  • He’ll try to change so that things can be like they were before he cheated on you.
  • He will want to prove how much he loves you and how sorry he is for hurting you.

This is another psychological trick that you can use to make him want you back after he cheated.

6) Make him see that your life is not over

Do you know what’s the worst thing you can do if your partner cheats on you?

To get into a downward spiral of despair! To think and act like your life is over when it’s not!

Instead, you have to show him that you’re ok and that you can move on (even if you don’t want to). Why?

In his eyes, you’ll become more desirable and he’ll want you back.

You see, men often want what they can’t have, and their real needs are most often not met.

This relates back to what I mentioned earlier: the hero instinct.

This guy wants to feel needed, wanted, and respected, and he’ll do everything to earn that from you – if you push the right buttons.

In fact, it’s as simple as knowing the right things to say to trigger his hero instinct and make him into the man he’s always wanted to be.

All of that and more is revealed in this excellent free video by James Bauer. It’s absolutely worth checking out if you’re ready to take things to the next level with him.

Here’s a link to the free video again.

7) Show him you want to understand what happened

Listen, this could be one of the hardest things you’ll have to do. Asking him to tell you why he cheated and what really happened may make you feel worse.

But give it a try. The truth will set you free and it can possibly help you understand why he cheated on you and what you can do to prevent similar situations in the future.

Also, by doing so, you will get some answers that might help you understand him a little better.

At the same time, it will show him how much you love him and want to understand what happened.

Remember: when he sees that you’re willing to listen to him and that you’re not throwing angry words at him all the time, he’ll like to talk to you more often.

And if he feels close to you again, then he’ll want to get back with you.

Can a relationship get back to normal after someone cheats?

According to numerous relationship experts, yes.

The secret is for both of you to work on yourselves and your relationship.

Fair warning: one of you might need to do more work than the other one, but you can both get there.

What makes a man cheat again?

In case you’re afraid he will cheat on you again, let’s discuss the things that would make him do just that:

  • He can’t control his impulses;
  • He doesn’t value your relationship enough;
  • He’s not mature enough to put the relationship first;
  • He’s desperate for the attention of other women;
  • He lacks self-confidence;
  • When he cheats, he feels good about himself and it gives him an ego boost.

He cheated on you and you want him back. What next?

By now you should have a good idea about the things you can do to make him want you back after he cheated.

But what if there was a way to resolve this easier?

Well, I mentioned the unique concept of the hero instinct earlier. It’s revolutionized the way I understand how men work in relationships.

You see, when you trigger a man’s hero instinct, all those emotional walls come down. He feels better in himself and he’ll naturally begin to associate those good feelings with you.

And it’s all down to knowing how to trigger these innate drivers that motivate men to love, commit, and protect.

So if you’re ready to take your relationship to that level, be sure to check out James Bauer’s incredible advice.

Click here to watch his excellent free video.

Daniela Duca Damian

I’m Daniela, a passionate writer with an academic background in journalism. My work is based on research and facts. In recent years I have focused on the study of interpersonal relationships, analyzing, and writing about aspects related to social connections, romantic relationships, but also personal development. My goal is to decipher the most confusing concepts so that anyone who is interested in living a better and fulfilled life can apply them. When I’m not writing, I challenge my friends with meaningful questions about life.

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