How to make him miss you and want you back after a breakup

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How to get your ex-boyfriend to miss you and want you after a break up?

The good news is that there are lots of ways to do this.

This article will give you some great ideas on how to get your ex back, including some clever psychological tricks that will make him miss you.

10 ways to make a man want you back after a breakup

1) Keep it together around him

If you’ve fallen to pieces since your breakup it’s totally normal.

There is no pain like heartbreak, and the grief of a split hits most of us really hard.

You might be crying a lot, moping around in your PJ’s all day and feeling pretty stressed and anxious.

But here is the unfortunate thing:

To make him realize what he is missing, it helps to be your most appealing self right now. Even though that comes at a time when you are probably feeling at your lowest.

A little bit of trickery is what is needed.

You don’t want to bottle up how you feel, so be sure to let it out around friends and family.When you’re at home, it’s a safe space to express yourself.

But when it comes to your ex, fake it. When you speak to him or see him, try to hold it together and stay confident.

You don’t need to go overboard, but remember to keep your head held high. This self-respect and dignity is going to be key in getting him to see exactly what he has lost.

Don’t try to change his mind. Don’t act needy or desperate, it’ll only make him pull further away.

Keep it cool, classy and together in any contact with him.

2) Dress to impress

Physical attraction can be powerful in romantic relationships. And it’s also not something that can be easily turned off.

So even if you had other issues in your relationship, chances are your ex is still attracted to you.

Make sure you look put together and polished.Wear things that boost your self-esteem and make you feel good about yourself.

Regardless of your ex, it’s going to help you feel better in your own skin at a more vulnerable time.

Choose clothes that show off your best features. Wear makeup that makes you glow. Put on jewelry that accentuates your look. Choose shoes that make you feel sexy and confident.

The main thing is feeling good, because that’s what makes us truly magnetic to others too.

3) Don’t be too available

One mistake that is easy to make when you’re trying to get your ex back is waiting around for them all the time.

But being too available means they are less likely to worry they have lost you for good.

So don’t be so quick to reply to his texts. Don’t cancel plans if he wants to see you. Don’t run around after him still. If you want to get your ex back then you need to be unavailable.

He needs to think that you are happy without him, even if that’s not strictly true. He needs to panic that you have started to move. He needs to believe that your life is full without him in it.

The best way to do this is to make genuine efforts to move on. Focus on yourself. Do fun things. Invest in personal growth. Indulge in plenty of self-care.

Putting yourself first again is not only a good cure for heartbreak, but it’s also a good way to make your ex see the error of their ways.

4) Make him jealous

Jealousy is one of the strongest emotions there is. It’s an emotion that drives people crazy. It makes them do irrational things.

And it’s also a great way to get your ex back.

Jealousy from your ex is a sign that he cares about you. So if you want to get your boyfriend back, making him jealous can be a good way to go.

But be warned: jealousy is also a form of manipulation that can backfire.

If you’re going to try to make him jealous, it’s best to be subtle. If he can sense what you’’re up to, it can end up making you look a bit pathetic — the opposite of what you want.

Neither do you want him to think you have definitely moved on. So avoid doing something with any other guys that you might later regret.

Instead, it’s the subtle suggestion that you COULD be moving on.

So things like posting pics of yourself having fun on social media, or being pictured with guys he doesn’t know tend to work best.

5) Make him nostalgic

In order to get an ex to miss you, you need to spark their nostalgia.

If you have broken up with someone, you’re clearly focusing on all the bad bits of your relationship. So you want to shift his attention back onto the happy parts.

That means finding ways to remind him of how much you used to love each other.

For example, sending him a goofy photo of you two together, saying something like “LOL, remember this?! I just found this on my phone.’

Or talking about funny stories about the times you used to spend together.

6) Respark his romantic interest in you

After a while feelings can change in a relationship. That initial excitement goes, and we get stuck in a rut that leads to a breakup.

If your relationship has fizzled out for him, there’s only one thing to do:

Re-spark his romantic interest in you.

I learned about this from Brad Browning, who has helped thousands of men and women get their exes back. He goes by the nickname of “the relationship geek”, for good reason.

In this free video, he’ll show you exactly what you can do to make your ex want you again.

No matter what your situation is — or how badly you’ve messed up since the two of you broke up — he’ll give you a number of useful tips that you can apply immediately.

Here’s a link to his free video again. If you really want your ex back, this video will help you do this.

7) Remind him of your best qualities

He fell for you once. That means you have plenty of qualities he admires and is attracted to.

But relationships get messy. No couple is perfect, and the longer we spend together we also see each other’s inevitable flaws too.

So how do I make him realize my worth after a breakup?

You need to remind him of what makes you awesome. Embody all your best traits, and show them off.

Breakups can feel like a rejection and bruise our egos. So importantly, you need to be confident in yourself about why you are special.

Try a little exercise in self love by listing your best qualities and assets.

If you are struggling to think of them right now, imagine you are the person who loves you the most in the world (maybe your mom or BFF) — what would they say?

8) Consider having no contact

How long does it take for a guy to miss you after a break up? The answer is that it depends.

But it’s harder to miss someone if you never went away. That’s why plenty of people say “cut him off he will miss you”.

In order to miss you, he needs space to do so.

This reflection time when you don’t see each other, speak or have any contact at all can be useful for both of you.

It gives him the opportunity to realize what he has lost and come to his senses.

In the meantime it gives you healing time to focus on yourself. That way, whatever happens next, you will be in a stronger position.

9) Trigger his hero instinct

This is one of those psychological tricks you can use to get your ex back.

It works by tapping into his innate drives.

You see, for guys, it’s all about triggering their inner hero. I learned about this from the hero instinct.

Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept is about what really drives men in relationships, which is ingrained in their DNA.

And it’s something most women don’t know anything about.

Once triggered, these drivers make men into the heroes of their own lives. They feel better, love harder, and commit stronger when they find someone who knows how to trigger it.

Now, you may be wondering why it’s called “the hero instinct”? Do guys really need to feel like superheroes to commit to a woman?

Not at all. Forget about Marvel. You won’t need to play the damsel in distress or buy your man a cape.

The easiest thing to do is to check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here. He shares some easy tips to get you started, such as sending him a 12 word text that will trigger his hero instinct right away.

Because that’s the beauty of the hero instinct.

It’s only a matter of knowing the right things to say to make him realize that he wants you and only you.

Click here to watch the free video.

10) Show off your best life on social media

Social media is an effective tool for showing off your fabulous life without him (or so you want him to think anyway).

It’s where you share the good stuff with the world. And that includes your new single life.

The key here is balance. You want to find the sweet spot between #instagramable envy and not too obviously trying to trigger his jealousy.

Get friends to tag you at places, and share some pics of when you’re looking fabulous and having fun. But don’t suddenly flood your social media with spam.

Remember you want him to think you are busy living your best life, but uploading 5000 pictures an hour screams attention seeking.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. Check out my latest book on the Hidden Secrets of Buddhism and How it Saved My Life. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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