How to make your ex-girlfriend miss you when she has a boyfriend: 20 crucial tips

Picture this: you’ve parted ways with ‘the one,’ and now she’s with someone else. If you’re thinking of getting her back, then the first thing you should do is make her miss you more.

So how do you do this when she already has a boyfriend in tow? Well, it’s a matter of following these 20 crucial tips:

1) Give her space

One of the best ways to rub the desperation off is to give her space. Even if you want to run to her and get her back, it’s best if you don’t do it now.

Give her the space she wants. This will give her the time to think about the relationship she has right now.

Is she rebounding and just trying to make you jealous? Or is she 100% done with you?

Of course, we can only hope that it’s the former!

2) Look good

Remember when you first dated your ex – and how you made an effort to look strikingly handsome? Well, you may evoke these feelings by looking better – although you’re looking good enough as it is!

You don’t want to appear as if you’re not taking care of yourself. Additionally, it’s an obvious sign that you’re mourning over the relationship.

And while it’s normal to feel bad about the relationship, you don’t have to show it necessarily.

If I were you, get a haircut, a new wardrobe, and some facial treatments (if you’re open to it.) Girls do this when they get through a breakup, there’s no reason why a guy like you shouldn’t!

3) Be the best version of yourself

More than just looking great, it would be nicer if you tried to change some of your habits too.

Maybe she left you because you had traits and characteristics she disliked. So if you want her to miss you (and perhaps, even get back together with you), you should try to be the best version of yourself.

If she dislikes your partying ways, then be the home buddy she wants.

If she hates that you follow so many models on IG, then start unfollowing them.

When she sees that you’ve made a 360-degree change in your life, she’ll definitely miss you. She may even leave the relationship she has right now for you!

4) Be honest

Perhaps she got fed up with your ways, that’s why she left you for another man.

Well, if you want her to miss you, then it’s time to come clean!

Be an honest person, especially if you’ve done things that have hurt her.

More than just making her miss you, you’d want her to have complete trust in you again. This is particularly important if you want to get her back – for good!

As psychologist Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D. puts it:

“What honesty gives you is a great deal of comfort. Knowing you can implicitly trust your mate allows you to be your best self. Your relationship will continue to thrive because you can give each other the positive energy you need to navigate life’s ups and downs.”

5) Seek expert help

I know it can be hard to follow some of these tips.

That said, how do you make your ex miss you – when you find it hard to do some of the other tips here?

The best thing you could do is seek expert help in this situation.

Enter Brad Browning, who has helped thousands of men and women get their exes back. He goes by the nickname “relationship geek” for a good reason.

In this free video, he’ll show you precisely what you can do to make your ex want you again.

No matter what your situation is — or how badly you’ve messed up since the two of you broke up — he’ll give you several valuable tips that you can apply immediately.

Here’s a link to his free video again. If you really want your ex back, this video will help you do this.

6) Say sorry

I’ll be frank. More often than not, it’s the guys’ fault why girls get up and leave. And, if this is the case for you, then be a bigger man and say sorry.

This will show her that you’re a better person now, and, as I’ve just mentioned, this should make her miss you a lot.

When apologizing, though, don’t say sorry just cause. You have to be truly remorseful for the fact that you messed up.

You may have hurt her badly, and she deserves a heartfelt sorry from you.

Explains psychotherapist Richard B. Joelson:

“Accept responsibility for the negative impact of your action so that your apology will be sincere and, therefore, well-received.”

Who knows? Maybe this apology is the only thing she needs to make up her mind.

7) Try to continue with your life

Although it’s hard, I recommend that you get on with your life – as if nothing happened. You may be hurting right now, but you have to show her that you can – and will go on.

Continue doing your hobbies and passion projects, among the many things you did when you were together.

Believe me, this will set something inside her.

This will make her question her decision. Was it right for her to leave you for someone now? You obviously can manage, even without her.

8) Explore new things

Maybe there were activities or hobbies you couldn’t try when you were with your ex. You now have the time (and freedom) to do so, so make them happen!

Surf. Parkour. BMX riding. Whatever tickles your fancy, you can do them right now!

So how does this circle back to making your ex miss you? For starters, it can make her curious – intrigued even.

Maybe she doesn’t even know that you wanted to try these things in the first place! This may also prod her to compare her current beau with you.

More importantly, these new activities can make you look like a badass. And, toxic as it may be, women have an unexplainable affinity for bad guys.

9) Be a good friend to her

They say exes can’t be friends. While it’s true for some, it doesn’t necessarily have to be the case for you.

You can be a good friend to her.

For starters, this will give you time with her. While it may not be as long as when you were dating, it’s still a golden opportunity.

For one, you can use this to show that you’re a changed person. You could also take it as an opportunity to show your humor (more about this in a while.)

Better yet, you can use it to show that you look better than ever!

You’ll be able to maximize a lot of strategies here as a ‘friend,’ and it may work to your advantage!

10) Show her that you really know her

Perhaps there was a portable blender that she really liked to get from Amazon – but unfortunately, it ran out of stock.

Well, this is an excellent opportunity for you to show her that you really know her. Also, think about the additional brownie points you’ll be getting – while her current beau gets zilch.

Remember: women like guys who know them.

Perhaps, you could casually give her this product that she’s wanted for her birthday. It’ll let her know that you know her – and that you do listen to whatever she had to say.

11) Make some effort

Trailing off from the previous example, you can show her that you know her by making some effort.

Besides buying this portable blender, maybe you could bring it to her workplace? It’s a shot in the dark, but it’ll improve your chances. Even if you’re no longer together, showing effort will make her feel special.

Again, it may prod her to compare you with her current boyfriend (lucky for you if he isn’t making a lot of effort for her!)

In the end, this may make her miss the good times you had together!

12) Take her on a trip down memory lane

Another strategy you could try is to reminisce the good times you had with her. She’ll remember the good times you shared, and it’ll make her miss you badly!

For starters, you could tag her in an old photo where you had fun together. Or you could send her a picture of you getting the ice cream you both liked from the parlor.

Sure, this is a risk, especially if her boyfriend is all up on her phone and social media accounts. But it’s a risk worth taking, especially if you to get your ex to fall in love with you again.

As experts put it: 

“Nostalgizing, as the researchers call it, helps us feel physically warmer when we do it; we also feel more hopeful about our futures and emotionally closer to those around us.”

To add, “You end up with a stronger feeling of belonging and affiliation,” which is something you may want to evoke in your ex’s heart.

13) Use humor in your conversations

Now that she’s dating someone new, you won’t be able to talk to her as much as you used to. But, when you do get the opportunity, make sure to make the most out of it.

Apart from the usual niceties, don’t forget to inject humor into your conversations.

After all, it’s so sexy!

According to a Time article, “Research shows women like men who make them laugh.”

So why do women find humor sexy? For starters, funny people are smart – and smart is the new sexy!

That said, make sure to tickle her funny bone every opportunity you can!

14) Be unavailable at times

You miss her, and you want to text-bomb her, meet her, and re-profess your love to her. Sure, it sounds romantic.

Unfortunately, it also sounds desperate.

See, you don’t want to appear needy to your ex. It’s unattractive, and it may drive her deeper into the arms of her new boyfriend (and sadly, further away from you.)

If you want her to miss you, then be unavailable from time to time. Don’t answer (at least right away) to her every beck and call. Showing her that you have your own life will turn the tables around.

Before you know it, she’ll be trying to catch up with you!

Indeed, sometimes you need to take things into your own hands and find a way to get through to your ex.

I mentioned Brad Browning earlier – he’s an expert in relationships and reconciliation.

His practical tips have helped thousands of men reconnect with their exes and rebuild the love and commitment they once shared.

If you’d like to do the same, check out his excellent free video here.

15) Be the first to end the conversation

So you’re finally able to talk to them after weeks/months. And while it’s tempting to go on and on about your life, don’t.

You want her to miss you, and one of the ways to trigger this is to be the first one to end the conversation.

If you keep her hanging, she will try to reach you more and more. And, if you play your cards right (such as being unavailable at times,) you may eventually find her rushing back to you.

16) Better yet, consider the zero-contact method

I know this sounds counterintuitive. But how can she miss you if you stop texting or calling her?

Well, that’s actually the point.

It’s a psychological fact that when we fear we’re going to lose something, we want it 10x more.

For starters, she’ll see that you’re okay with how things went when you cut all contact. Now, nothing makes you more attractive than this!

That being said, you need to be careful.

This is where “good guys” get it so wrong. Women have no “fear of loss” with a nice guy… and that makes them pretty unappealing.

If you want your girl to miss you, check out this excellent free video.

What you’ll learn in this video isn’t exactly pretty — but neither is love.

17) …but do remember to reach out on special occasions

If you’re really determined to reach out to her, then the best time to do so is during a special event. It could be her birthday, graduation day, or even her AA sober day-versary. Basically, you’d want to call her or text her on a day that’s important to her.

This will show her that you remember the most critical moments in your life – even though you’re no longer dating.

It’ll make you look good in her eyes – and yes, charming enough to be missed!

18) Trigger some FOMO

Everybody – including your ex – feels FOMO or the fear of missing out.

As experts put it, FOMO is “The potential for simply a different connection. It may be better, it may be worse — we just don’t know until we check.”

Triggering some FOMO may be helpful, especially if you’ve been together for so long.

If you want her to miss you, you can use the events happening in your life right now. It’s as simple as posting pictures of the new activities you’re doing on social media (granted, you’re still friends/followers of each other.)

19) Ask her out on a group activity

If your ex has a new boyfriend, then she’ll probably turn out an invitation to go out – especially if only two of you are going.

But if it’s a group activity with several friends, there’s a huge chance that she’ll consent to it.

Sure, she may bring her new beau, which might hurt you. But the point here is you’d want her to miss you – and one of the best ways to do so is to make an appearance.

This is an excellent venue to show her that you’re a better person now – physically, emotionally, and mentally. In the end, she might find herself missing you – even if she has a new boy in tow.

20) Go out on a date too!

Maybe there’s a neighbor you’ve fancied for quite some time now. Even though you may still be pining over your ex, there’s no reason you shouldn’t go out on a date.

See, your ex may be doing the same thing. She wants to get over you, and she thinks that the best way to do so is to be with someone new.

Sure enough, dating someone else will trigger something deep inside your ex (hello, jealousy!) Not only will this make her miss you, but she may even try to win you back!

Final thoughts

If you really want to make your ex miss you, you’ll need some help.

And the best person to turn to is Brad Browning.
No matter how ugly the breakup was or how hurtful the arguments were, he’s developed a couple of unique techniques to get your ex back and keep them for good.

So, if you want your ex to miss you (and take you back), I’d highly recommend checking out his excellent advice.

Here’s the link to his free video once again.

Raychel Ria Agramon

I'm Raye, a nurse licensed in both the Philippines and the US. I also have a Master's degree in Public Management.

Just like helping my patients, I like to empower & motivate readers with research-backed articles.

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