How to make a married man chase you

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How do you make a married man chase you?

The answer is more simple than you might think…

You have to give him something he wants. Something he isn’t getting at home from his wife.

Don’t chase a married man, instead have him come to you. This article will show you how.

5 guaranteed ways to make a married man chase you

1) Find out what he is missing and offer it

I want to give you the best no BS advice to get a married man to chase you.

That’s why I’m starting with this very tailored tip.

Whilst a lot of these ways to make a married man chase you are universal, let’s remember that you don’t just want any married guy to chase you — you want one in particular.

So you need a little bit of psychology.

You need to get under his skin and find out what makes him tick.

People cheat for a reason. Those reasons are varied, but nobody cheats if they are 100% happy at home and all their needs are being met.

Most married men are likely to have certain needs and desires that aren’t being met by their wives.

If you can figure out what they are, you can be the alternative option who will offer him these needs.

For example, if the flames of passion have left his marriage you can represent the sexy temptress.

If his wife has no time for him and is always prioritizing other things, you offer the listening ear he is craving.

If he feels put down by his wife and not respected, you are the one who looks up to him with admiration.

Basically, you’ve got to tap into what it is he is searching for and be the solution if you want him to chase you.

2) Represent fun and freedom

Here’s the thing:

Very few men, if any, start affairs with something serious in mind.

They are tempted by the thrill of it all. They don’t go into it thinking it would be nice to totally blow up their entire life.

So if you want him to stick his neck out and chase you, you need to simultaneously:

a) Represent fun and freedom

Aka the opposite of the commitment he has at home. Be playful, light, spontaneous, and exciting.

b) Don’t be demanding

If he thinks you might end up being hard work, he isn’t going to pursue you. He already has a relationship. He probably isn’t looking for someone else to put expectations or demands on him.

Particularly in the beginning if you want a married guy to chase you, you have to be the escapism from his real life.

3) Tease him

Teasing him means a couple of things:

Firstly, tease him in a playful way. Just like the schoolyard tactic it shows him you are interested. It’s flirty and mischievous.

Flirt with him and use your body language to signal to him that you want him. This is his green light to pursue you.

Dress sexier around him, strut your stuff with confidence whenever he is watching.

Teasing him also means playing cat and mouse a little with him. Often married men miss the thrill of single life. They miss the thrill of the chase.

If you want him to come to you then don’t forget to play a little hard to get, whilst still making your interest in him clear.

If it all seems too easy, he may be less motivated to pursue you.

Do the dance with him. Let him enjoy the anticipation and build-up of pursuing you. Make him work for it.

4) Make him feel like a superhero

When we’re single we get to enjoy the validation and attention that comes along with dating.

It boosts us up a little to know we are desired and wanted.

A married man doesn’t get that anymore. Once the monotony of settled life kicks in, his wife may no longer look at him in the same way she once did.

But all guys secretly want to feel like a superhero. You see, for guys, it’s all about triggering their inner hero.

I learned about this from the hero instinct. Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept is about what really drives men in relationships, which is ingrained in their DNA.

And it’s something most women don’t know anything about (and so chances are his wife doesn’t have a clue either).

Once triggered, these drivers make men into the heroes of their own lives. They feel better, love harder, and commit stronger when they find someone who knows how to trigger it.

Now, you may be wondering why it’s called “the hero instinct”? Do guys really need to feel like superheroes to commit to a woman?

Not at all. Forget about Marvel. You won’t need to play the damsel in distress or buy your man a cape.

The easiest thing to do is to check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here. He shares some easy tips to get you started, such as sending him a 12-word text that will trigger his hero instinct right away.

Because that’s the beauty of the hero instinct.

It’s only a matter of knowing the right things to say to a married man to make him realize that he wants you.

Click here to watch the free video.

5) Show an interest in the things he likes

It’s not rocket science. He just wants to be seen and appreciated for who he is.

If his wife isn’t doing this right now, and someone else is (i.e. you) — then this is a sure-fire way to get him to become obsessed with you.

Yes, men cheat because of the sex. That’s no secret.

But they also want to have their ego boosted. They want to feel respected and desired.

Ask his opinions. Ask for his help. Ask for his advice. Show him you value him.

Listen to him. Ask him questions. Get to know what he likes and take an interest in it.

Showing him that you are interested in the same things as him gives you a common ground.

So the more you can make him see that you have plenty of things in common, the more he is likely to chase you.

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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