We’ve had all had this happen in our younger years:

You’re in school, running along the hallway to go to class. As you approach the classroom, you bump into someone you don’t know.

But here’s the magical thing:

The moment you look up, you see an unfamiliar yet pretty face. “It’s love at first sight,” you think. And since then, you’ve been eyeing this person every single day.

Your friends know all about your infatuation — and you can’t help but feel the butterflies in your stomach every time you see their eyes or their infectious smile. “It’s fate.”

But what if you’re getting too distracted?

Having a crush isn’t a bad thing, but you can’t let one person take up all your attention.

You have responsibilities like everybody else.

Here are 7 proven ways to get over your crush:

1) Avoid Them Online

Here’s the deal:

The online world is no different than the real one. What’s different is that the Internet makes it easier for anyone to stalk and drool over their crushes anytime they want.

What you should do is the opposite:

Avoid looking at your crush’s social media profiles.

If they’re your Facebook friend, unfollow or unfriend them ASAP. You can even block them so that you won’t see their comments on other people’s posts.

The goal here is clear:

Prevent yourself from constantly remembering the person. No photos, no messages, nothing.

If you’re thinking of sending a message, take a deep breath. Relax. Count from 1 to 10.

Afterward, ask yourself:

“Should I really PM my crush?”

When your mind is clear, you most likely won’t send that message.

And don’t just focus on Facebook:

Be sure to keep your crush away from your Instagram, Snapchat, Kik, Viber, and Twitter accounts.

Instant messaging apps are your worst enemy if you want to forget someone.

Just because messages on Snapchat are regularly removed doesn’t mean you won’t remember them.

2) Reduce or Totally Remove Real-World Interactions

Removing your crush from Facebook is one thing, but what if they’re a constant part of your everyday life?

Think about it:

You always see your crush at school because you have similar friendship circles. Or perhaps their cubicle is right next to yours in the office.



The point is that totally ignoring them in these cases doesn’t make sense because there are legitimate reasons to talk to them.

Here’s what you can do:

First, decline your crush’s invites to attend an event together — but remember to be polite! Also, don’t sit close whenever you’re eating in the canteen or office pantry.

Don’t initiate a casual conversation with your crush. Stop going to places where they often stay. And if possible, perhaps you should relocate your classroom seat or work cubicle.

The point here is to keep interactions at the minimum. Your crush does not need extra time and effort from you.

3) Get Rid of Your Rose-Colored Glasses

It’s easy to see the good in people, especially if they’re good-looking.

Here’s what you should do:

Be realistic. Those rose-colored glasses you put on every time you see your crush should be thrown away. Nobody’s perfect, and neither is your crush.

Sometimes, people make the mistake of making up an ideal version of their crush. Don’t turn a blind eye on the obvious flaws and reasons not to be with this person.

It’s a wake-up call if your crush is:

– Already vocal about not wanting to date you
– Dating someone else
– Always skipping classes or not going to work
– Addicted to drinking and other unhealthy habits

Look, you might already know of all these reasons before. But what matters now is to remember that these are signs that your crush isn’t the right person for you.

Admit it:

It’s time to ditch thinking that your crush looks ‘cool’ for not wanting to do their responsibilities. Being an alcoholic also isn’t a good thing.

And most importantly:

Don’t spend so much time on someone who’s already in love with someone else or who literally told you that things aren’t going to work out between the two of you.

Face the facts and you’ll soon see that prioritizing this person no matter what doesn’t make sense at all.

It’s going to be tough, but accepting the truth is much better than fooling yourself over and over again.

4) Stay Busy

We don’t mean that you should drown yourself in schoolwork or work deadlines, but those are good ideas as well.

If you want to move on from your crush, you must make time for other things. Doing so prevents your brain from randomly thinking about this special person.

So what exactly can you do?

Well, we all have something we’ve always wanted to do. What’s yours?

Perhaps you’ve always wanted to learn how to draw or paint. Go to the art supplies store and get yourself a sketchpad and start making art.

Going outdoors is a good way to relax from all the things that make you worry. Learning how to play basketball or badminton is both fun and healthy.

In fact, working out will help you out a lot since this causes the release of endorphins, a group of hormones responsible for making you feel happy and satisfied.



Don’t want to do all these things?

That’s perfectly fine as well! You can also keep your mind off your crush by simply playing a video game or hanging out with your friends.

Just keep bringing more people and interests in your life so that your crush will no longer fill a big place in it.

5) Reach Out to Your Support System

Remember one thing:

You are not alone. No matter what you’re going through, you’ll always have your family and friends.

While some crushes are okay to have, some can affect your emotional and mental health. Getting over your crush can be difficult, but you shouldn’t keep everything to yourself.

Real friends will always be there in both the good and the bad times. Likewise, your family won’t judge you — they’re your home.

Rant and scream all you want. Go in detail about how it’s been unhealthy for you to keep this crush. Even talking about it is therapeutic and will help you move on from that person.

But what if you can’t find anyone to talk to?

That’s no problem at all. If you’re in school, approach a guidance counselor or a therapist in the university hospital.

If you have the money, you can pay for a couple of therapy sessions to sort your mind.

6) Learn Your Lesson

Moving on from your crush will help you prevent making the same mistakes over and over again.

Here’s what to keep in mind:

It’s not your loss.

The two of you might not have been together, but that doesn’t mean you’re the loser. If anything, you win back your time and focus.

When you’re finally over someone, you begin to know what you truly want in a person.

Perhaps you realized that you don’t want a highly talkative person or that you don’t want someone who has the same exact interests as you.

See?



There are valuable insights to be gained from having a problematic crush.

No matter what, take what you’ve learned to heart. Doing so will help you someone in the future who’s not going to stress you out just because you like them so much.

7) Find a New Crush

You’re not going to feel hurt forever.

As they always say:

Time heals all wounds. Even if you want to think back to the ‘good old days’ with your old crush, you’re going to grow tired of it.

You’ll be busy with many other things and you’ll meet people that are actually worthy of your attention.

And when you’re completely over your crush, your heart will tell you when it’s ready again.

Remember this:

You won’t know when you’ll have a new crush. Such a moment can happen while you’re eating your lunch or doing schoolwork. It can happen after a few weeks or several years.

If you want, you can help your heart find a new crush. Download any dating apps like Tinder and OkCupid to quickly find someone who’s got all the qualities you’re looking for.

Even your classroom or office can be a place where you find someone special.

Perhaps you’ve been ignoring an otherwise amazing person nearby just because you were so fixated on your crush before.

What matters is that you are prepared. No emotional baggage. Only a willing heart.

How You Can Get Over a Crush

No matter who the person is, a crush is simply a crush. They will occupy your mind for a while, but they won’t stay there forever.

You shouldn’t be afraid to talk about these things with your friends and family. After all, everyone develops feelings for a special someone at some point in their life.

The good thing?

Everyone also moves on from their crush. Don’t fret about it.

You’re doing great. You’ll be fine.

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