There are nearly 7 billion people in the world. Why is it so hard to find someone who you can love and who can love you back?
And why does it seem like some guys get all the girls? Is it that they are smarter? Sexier? Funnier?
You might be surprised to find that it could actually be none of those things.
When it comes to getting a girl to love you, there are a few things you can do to turn the tide in your favor.
Here are what some guys do to make girls fall in love with them.
Give them a try next time someone catches your eye and before you know it, you might be saying I love you, too.
1) Don’t Be Afraid to Show You Care For Her
When it comes to showing their emotions, guys aren’t typically known for being good at this.
But when it comes to getting girls to fall head over heels in love, all a guy really needs to do is show his lady friend that he really cares about her.
So how do you do that?
It’s simple really, which makes it harder still to understand why some guys just don’t do it.
Ask her questions about her day, work, life, friends, family. And ask follow-up questions.
Take a genuine interest in what she is talking about and provide your own insight into her troubles.
Don’t assume anything and don’t tell her she “should” do anything.
Listening is the key to success here and if she feels like you are a good listener, you are golden.
Caring about someone means caring what happens to them, what their dreams are, what they want to improve about themselves, and where they want to go.
It means really listening and not just being present. It can be shown with simple actions such as showing up with lunch after a text from her that says it’s been a long morning.
It could be bringing a coffee after a rough night of tossing and turning with a cold.
It doesn’t make much to show a woman you care.
2) Don’t Be Afraid to Show Your Quirky and Fun Side
When you ask a woman what she wants in a man, she’ll tell you she wants tall, dark and handsome – because that is what the movies tell us we should be attracted to.
In reality, women want a guy that they can be themselves around and that they can feel safe with, regardless of what they look like.
In order to feel like they can relax and be themselves, women need to see that guys can relax and be themselves.
While everyone loves a good mystery man, real women love a guy who shows his good and bad side, with a side of quirky thrown in for good measure.
Making someone fall in love with you is easy when they can see the real you. Even if you have a bad teenage mustache and lanky legs, there’s a girl for you.
Play up your weirdness and don’t be afraid to be yourself. While it might seem awkward, being yourself is the best way to win a woman’s heart.
After all, it’s so hard to be someone you are not and even the best of us can’t keep up that charade for long.
3) Get Outside Your Comfort Zone and Start Doing Things She Enjoys
If the girl you are crushing on loves to ride bikes but you are afraid of looking like fool, get yourself a bike and start practicing.
There’s nothing wrong with showing interest in an activity because the girl of your dreams has an interest in it.
In fact, it’s kind of romantic.
And what a fun story: “how did you meet each other?” someone might ask one day. You’ll be able to say, “I saw her riding her bike in the park every day and decided I needed to learn how to ride my bike again. We crashed, maybe on purpose, and the rest is history!”
If you think a girl is out of your league, you can decide that is true, or you can go out and learn the thing it is you need to get in front of her.
It doesn’t make much to get a woman’s attention when you are hurtling toward her on a bicycle that may or may not be your cousin’s bike.
If she’s into dancing, go dancing. If she’s into race cars, find her at the track. If she’s into scrapbooking… well, get your glue out.
4) Learn About Her For Who She Truly Is
So what if she still listens to Green Day and owns a plaid shirt that she wears on the weekends as a throw back to her garageband days?
If you are into her, you are into everything about her.
But the only way to know that is to get to know her and what her interests are.
Many people will say you can fake it til you make it in relationships. In order words, if you know she’s into a band, get tickets to the band, even if they aren’t your cup of tea.
You get to bump into her and strike up a conversation about the gnarly guitar playing – or whatever. You get the idea.
The point is that if you take an interest in what she likes, she’ll be yours before you know it.
And even if it doesn’t work out, you might have a cool friend who can teach you how to play guitar on the weekends.
5) Bring Another Girl Along and Make Her Jealous
One of the oldest and easiest ways to get a girl’s attention – at least according to some – is to hook up with someone else.
While it is not the most adult or wise way to gain the affection of your lady friend, it does work sometimes.
If you have been trying to hook up with a girl for a while and it’s just not happening, be sure to arrive at that concert with a woman on your arm and you might find that the tables will turn.
Of course, then you have the issue of having to off load one partner for another, but that’s an article for another day.
Play your cards right and play hard to get and you might find yourself with the woman you always wanted.
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