10 easy ways to get a guy to ask for your number

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Some girls out there aren’t even the prettiest or smartest around, but somehow they get all the guys running after them.

You might wonder… how do they do it?

Well, it’s easier than you think, and you can be one of them too if you know the right tricks to pull.

In this article, I will give you 10 easy (and sneaky) ways to get a guy to ask for your number.

1) First things first: Be less intimidating

Being approachable is one of the biggest superpowers you can have if you want to make people actually… well, approach you.

You might have a dozen admirers and never know it because every single one of them got intimidated by you.

Perhaps you look like you are angry all the time, or maybe you just like to argue and pick fights. While it’s still good to be yourself, you might want to try to tame your inner b*tch if you want to be more approachable.

Think of the impressions people have of you. Did somebody say they’re intimidated by you because you don’t smile at all? Then work on smiling more often.

Be more warm and friendly, and guys will start to approach you and ask for your phone number.

Just make sure you don’t overdo it. You have to stay true to yourself even if you’re trying to be nice.

2) Seduce him real good

The best way to make a guy ask for your number is when you give him absolutely no choice but to beg for it. And that happens when you turn him on.

It will awaken his primal instinct, and he’ll be compelled to know you more—and, yes, ask for your number—even if he’s the shy type or had vowed to remain single.

There are many different ways for you to have a guy desire you, some subtler or more blatant than others. You can try touching his arm or smiling at him playfully, for example.

How you should approach a guy will depend on what kind of person he is, so try to figure him out and adjust as needed. Do one trick at a time and see how he responds.

If he smiles when you touch his arm, for example, then you can expect him to ask for your number even before you part ways.

3) Talk about things you have in common

It might not seem like it sometimes, but men don’t always go for girls just because they’re popular or pretty.

If he can geek out about his interests with you, he’s going to want to hang out with you more.

So talk about your interests. Try to find something that you have in common, and then ask him about his interests too.

And if you can, go a little extra. Find a way to tell him that you have something more to offer next time so he has a good reason to get your number.

For example, if you’re both into B Movies, then don’t just talk about the movies and why you love them. Talk about your DVD collection at home.

You can then invite him over to your place to watch one or just to have a DVD swap.

Whether or not he’s interested in dating you yet, having a reason other than “I like this girl!” for him to grab your number will make it easier for him to ask for it too.

4) Bring out his inner hero

Here’s something you should know: Men want to feel needed.

Men are naturally drawn to women who make them feel like they’re heroes.

I learned about this from the hero instinct. Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept is about what really drives men in relationships, which is ingrained in their DNA.

Once triggered, they’d be drawn to you like a moth to a flame…and they wouldn’t even know why exactly!

Some simple ways to do this is to ask for his help. It doesn’t have to be huge, just something as simple as asking him to hold your bag as you fix your hair.

When he already has your number and you’re both texting, make yourself irresistible by making him feel like a hero through texts.

The easiest thing to do is to check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here. He shares some easy tips to get you started, such as sending him a 12 word text that will trigger his hero instinct right away.

Because that’s the beauty of the hero instinct.

It’s only a matter of knowing the right things to say to make him realize that he wants you and only you.

Click here to watch the free video.

5) Offer your expertise

Highlight some of your skills and expertise during your convo, and of course, ask him about his.

While you’re talking, discuss the things you’re good at or passionate about. It’s a great way for the two of you to meet again…so definitely, this will make him ask for your number.

It doesn’t have to be related to your career. You can be good at many other things, too.

Maybe you’re good at guitar. Or baking. Or arranging flowers.

A guy who’s interested in you won’t be able to pass up any opportunity to connect with you in any way.

Even if he’s not into flower arrangement, he might say he needs help with some flowers to give his mother as an excuse to get your number.

6) Plan to do stuff together

If he won’t make moves to get your number even if you’ve given him enough “bait”, then go ahead and just invite him to do something together.

Just make sure the invite seems casual.

To do that, you have to do something that doesn’t seem like a romantic date.

It has to be related to what you’re talking about…about things you’re both into.

Let your conversation flow to the point you’re both creating your own little bubble. Then near the end, casually invite him to do something related to what you’re talking about.

Of course, since you already did the inviting, he should be confident to ask for your number.

7) Get really curious about what he does

If you can’t find anything you both have in common yet—probably because you have very short interactions—then just pay attention to what he does and the things he’s interested in.

Maybe you’re classmates and you see that he’s wearing a David Bowie shirt. Say something about it and ask him if he has a band. He might have one and invite you to his gig.

He’d then have to ask your number so he can give you some tickets.

Or let’s say he’s a colleague and you notice that he’s vegan. Comment about it and get curious. He might ask your number so he can give you vegan recipes.

A lot of good things can happen just by getting genuinely curious about another person. You’ll see that dating becomes easier if you only pay attention.

8) Make him feel you’re within his reach

You may have worked on smiling more often and becoming more approachable. But some men are just painfully shy that you have to make them feel absolutely sure that you won’t turn them down.

To do this, you need to go beyond body language and basic small talk skills.

You have to give him a sneak peek of who you are—flaws included.

You may open up about your fears and worries and insecurities. You may tell him that you just hang out at home on some days to eat bad food and watch Netflix.

This will make him relieved that you’re not so high above him…that you’re actually within his reach and that it’s possible that you’ll give your number when he’d ask for it.

9) But don’t make him feel you’re too available

If you did all the tricks in this list, then he should have a hint that you’re into him…and that you’re actually waiting for him to ask for your number.

But if he still won’t ask for it, then make him feel that he’ll miss out if he won’t do it right away.

Drop hints that even if you’re looking for love and you’re interested in dating people, you’re actually quite busy, too. Don’t say it with a snobby tone, say it as if you’re just informing him that you won’t wait around.

This will trigger him to ask for your number right now or else he’ll lose the chance for good.

10) Part ways with a warm goodbye

It’s often at the end of an encounter when people exchange numbers in hopes of meeting again.

So make sure that not only did you make him enjoy your time together, you also make sure to make your goodbye extra special.

Don’t just smile and walk away. Try giving him a warm hug, smile at him, and tell him “I hope to see you around.”

And even if you didn’t talk for too long, or if you were awkward and shy in your time together, a good, heartfelt goodbye—especially with an invitation to talk again—goes a long way to making your meeting a pleasant experience in his mind.


Getting a guy interested enough in you to ask for your number is not as difficult as it might seem at first.

You just have to make sure you’re not relying on your looks alone.

The most important thing is that you present yourself to him as someone he can enjoy being around—someone who’s approachable, relatable, and makes him feel good about himself.

Of course, sometimes you might still have to take initiative and ask his number first. Some guys are just that shy. In the end, what matters is that you have mutual contact!

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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