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15 ways to be the hottest version of yourself (even if you’re unattractive)

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Are you looking for easy ways to improve your appearance to become the hottest version of yourself?

You’re not alone.

The beauty industry is worth billions of dollars every year for this very reason, as we strive to make ourselves as attractive as possible.

The good news is that you don’t have to spend thousands of dollars on plastic surgery, or hours a day at the gym to feel and look better in your own skin right away.

In this article, we’ll cover exactly how to be the hottest version of yourself.

How to become hotter

1) Give yourself a pep talk

First things first. If you are striving to be your hottest version, you need to be proud of who you are.

Close your eyes and imagine what the hottest version of you looks like, feels like, and acts like. Are they proud of who they are, or ashamed?

They’re proud, right?

That’s why one of the most fundamental shifts to becoming more attractive always needs to be an inside shift.

That’s going to make way more difference than a new lipstick or a fresh haircut.

We all want to look our best, but sometimes we can get so caught up with what others think about us that we forget to love and appreciate ourselves.

It’s important to remember that no matter what anyone else thinks about you, you are enough just the way you are.

I think we all get a little lost sometimes, comparing ourselves to others in a negative way.

If you’ve ever felt insecure about your looks, try to remind yourself that there are people out there that would love to look like you.

I know that it can be way easier said than done to see the best in yourself. Try giving yourself a little pep talk by playing a game called: “What I like about myself”.

I want you to list every single feature that you like. You don’t have to love it all, but what are the things you are grateful for and appreciate about yourself?

If you are struggling, try to acknowledge even the basic things not everyone may be able to enjoy. It might be anything and everything from your eye color, to the fact you are fit and healthy.

Remember that looks are only one aspect of being attractive, so be sure to include all the appealing qualities and personality traits that make you an attractive person.

2) Take care of your body

Your body is the most remarkable thing you will ever wear. It’s also one of the only things you will ever truly own.

Your body is an extension of you, and if you take care of it, you will always look your absolute best.

There are countless articles online that tell you how to lose weight, how to buff up, and how to tone your body to get “summer ready”.

But if you really want to be the very hottest version of yourself, don’t do it for those reasons.

Exercise is really important for physical and mental health. But obsessing about anything isn’t good for us.

Only exercising in a desperate attempt to change yourself isn’t hot.

Why? Because the discontent that is driving you to feel like you aren’t good enough as you are will still shine through.

Learning to really love and accept our bodies — including all our own perceived flaws — can be really challenging. But it’s so important that we try.

Exercise, move your body, celebrate your body — but do it to feel good.

Do it so that you get all those feel-good hormones pumping around your body. Do it to feel strong, sexy, and confident in your skin.

Do it to honor and take care of yourself. Now that really is hot!

3) Power dress

How do you make yourself look hotter?

They say that beauty is only skin deep. But that doesn’t mean that the way we present ourselves can’t still have a huge impact on how hot we look and feel.

(Em)power dressing means wearing things that help you to feel good about yourself.

Everyone has different tastes and styles, and what we choose to wear should ultimately represent us. They say that your vibe attracts your tribe. Clothing is a form of expression.

So it matters less what other people think are “hot” clothes, and more about what you find appealing.

After all, some guys love a girl in a little black dress, but others think there’s nothing hotter than an oversized sweater.

Some girls like a guy most when he is suited, booted and clean-shaven. Others go for the rugged and rough style.

What do you think looks best? Aim to dress in a way that makes you feel hot, sexy, and confident.

4) Try to notice your negative thoughts

Negative self-talk is one of the biggest causes of unhappiness in life. Negative thinking leads to depression, anxiety, and low confidence.

It’s important that you learn to identify when you start talking negatively about yourself.

Once you do, it’s time to stop those negative thoughts. Throwing away these thoughts is easier said than done, but if you practice regularly, you’ll notice a difference.

I promise you, the more you stop putting yourself down, the better the image will look in front of you in the mirror every day. Not only in your own eyes, but in the eyes of the people you meet too.

Confidence is ultimately sexy. And that nasty voice that lives inside our head telling us unkind things is silently seeping away our sexiness.

We often don’t even notice it, because we’ve lived with it so long.

It tells you that your thighs look way too big in those shorts. That your biceps aren’t big enough. That the crush you have won’t like you back until you look a certain way.

But it’s lying.

Simply noticing it when it happens is the biggest step. When you hear that voice being unkind, call it out. Tell it to shut up. Counteract it by immediately saying something nice to yourself.

If that sounds silly, we need to remember that thoughts are largely habitual and repetitive. They silently pull the strings in the background. The more you can train those habitual thoughts to be positive ones, the hotter you will become.

5) Become more aware of your body language

Body language plays a huge role in making you appear more attractive.

When you’re feeling insecure or shy, you might tend to hold your arms stiffly at your sides. You may also cross your legs or sit hunched over.

These actions make you seem smaller and less powerful. They can also send signals to the opposite gender that you are not interested in them.

You’ll see that your confidence levels increase as you begin to relax.

Your posture straightens up, your shoulders drop, and you smile more. This is because you feel good about yourself.

You might not be able to fake feeling confident, but you can fake having confidence simply through your body language.

It’s super simple things like standing tall, pushing your shoulders back a little, and keeping your head up rather than looking down.

6) Make the most of what you’ve got

One of the best things I did was to learn how to dress for my body shape.

I practice every single day to love and accept my body and face. But that doesn’t mean I don’t suffer from a lack of confidence some days.

I still catch myself criticizing or wishing away certain features I have.

Being the hottest version of yourself needs to combine psychological changes that give you more swagger, along with practical little hacks that help you to make the most of what you have.

Whether you’re a guy or a gal, choosing outfits that suit us can make a huge difference.

When I learned to dress in a way that suited my body shape I felt more confident. It helped me to see the bits that make me feel better about myself and hide some of my less than favorite aspects.

When we learn to show off what we feel are our best bits, it gives us a boost.

Remember that confidence isn’t just about outward appearance. It’s about inner strength and self-esteem. And it’s about knowing who you are and loving yourself. Making the most of what you’ve already got helps you to do that.

7) Unleash your personal power

Insecurity is without a doubt the biggest obstacle standing in the way of you and your hottest self.

A lot of us have probably wondered how does it feel to be the most gorgeous girl in the world or the best-looking man in the room.

We imagine that life is somehow easier. That you can avoid rejection. You can get anyone you want. You never feel self-doubt. You love yourself deeply.

We think that power starts on the outside, purely in the way you look. But the reality is not so.

It really is true that it makes no difference what you look like on the outside if you don’t feel good on the inside.

And the reverse is also true. In so many ways, the better you feel about yourself the more attractive you become.

So how can you overcome this insecurity that’s been nagging you?

The most effective way is to tap into your personal power.

You see, we all have an incredible amount of power and potential within us, but most of us never tap into it. We become bogged down in self-doubt and limiting beliefs. We stop doing what brings us true happiness.

I learned this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. He’s helped thousands of people align work, family, spirituality, and love so they can unlock the door to their personal power.

He has a unique approach that combines traditional ancient shamanic techniques with a modern-day twist. It’s an approach that uses nothing but your own inner strength – no gimmicks or fake claims of empowerment.

Because true empowerment needs to come from within.

In his excellent free video, Rudá explains how you can create the life you’ve always dreamed of and increase attraction in your partners, and it’s easier than you might think.

So if you’re tired of living in frustration, dreaming but never achieving, and living in self-doubt, you need to check out his life-changing advice.

Click here to watch the free video.

8) Improve your conversation skills

If you want to improve your ability to be seen as attractive to others, then you need to master the art of conversation.

The first step towards improving your conversational skills is to get comfortable talking to people.

Start small. Ask questions about their lives. Learn about their thoughts, ideas, hobbies, passions, and interests.

Basically, take an interest in them.

We all love to talk about ourselves. And the people who seem to genuinely care and show an interest in us, we like more.

Research has shown that asking questions increases likeability for that very reason.

Be enthusiastic when you speak to people and be sure to listen. It really is that simple. Get them talking about themselves. Listen carefully. And you become hotter to them!

You might even want to brush up on your flirting too. But the truth is that isn’t everyone’s style.

To be the hottest version of yourself it’s better to engage with people in a way that feels true to you. Being yourself is essential in becoming the most attractive version of yourself.

9) Smile

A quick flick through Instagram and you might think that the duck pout is the hottest facial expression to wear. But science says otherwise.

Smiling is one of the quickest and simplest things you can do to make yourself instantly more attractive.

Studies have suggested that one of the reasons is the strong link between looking healthy and how happy your neutral expression is. In the research, people with genuine smiles were even more likely to be seen as healthy and glowing.

As soon as you smile at someone, they are immediately drawn to you. It helps them to drop their defenses.

It doesn’t matter whether you’re meeting new people or chatting with friends, smiling makes you appear friendly, happy, and confident. And being open and positive attracts other people. They respond to that energy.

Other research on dating apps has even found that smiling can get you more dates.

So if you want to know how to be the most attractive version of yourself, it seems that you’re much better off smiling than pouting.

10) Nurture your growth, skills, and talents

Do you know what’s really attractive?

The girl who reads lots of books. The guy who plays guitar so incredibly. The woman who pursued her dreams and started her own business. The man who loves cooking and learning new things.

These are the women and men who are attractive because they are growing and developing. They are constantly expanding and evolving into something greater.

When you grow and develop, you become more interesting. You become more attractive.

If you want to be the hottest version of yourself, you need to nurture your growth, skills, talents, and abilities.

If we’re honest, a lot of us have this idea in our head about becoming hotter that totally fixates on physical looks. And there’s nothing wrong with wanting to look our best.

But staying superficial and only focusing on looks is never going to bring out the hottest you.

Your unique personality is what makes you special. That’s what makes you hot. So don’t forget to focus on your strengths.

11) Get a good night’s sleep

I know the basics seem boring.

We’re so often looking for quick fixes. A magic potion we can take. But the way we treat our body and mind actually has one of the biggest effects on the way we look.

It’s those foundational things like our diet, exercise, and sleep that not only change the way we look for the better, but also the way we feel.

Sleep is an important part of looking good. Without it, we’ll struggle to achieve any level of health and beauty.

In fact, studies show that lack of sleep leads to weight gain, depression, anxiety, and stress. All of which affect the way we look.

Research has even found that when we are sleep-deprived, we actually start aging faster.

In addition, poor quality sleep affects your hormones, which not only impact your mood but play a huge role in how you look.

Hormones help to regulate our metabolism, control hunger, keep our skin clear, and boost our immune system.

12) Make eye contact

When we make eye contact, we communicate directly with another person. We let them know that we see them and acknowledge them.

Eye contact shows respect and interest. When we look away from someone, it can send mixed signals.

Our eyes say a lot about us. If we avoid making direct eye contact, then we’re telling others that we’re not comfortable around them.

Be sure to consciously make eye contact with people when they’re speaking to you. It will make you appear more confident and approachable…and in the process, hotter.

13) Build your confidence

Whether you want to know how to look beautiful in bed, how to look seductive without trying, or how to become hotter for guys or girls — the same magic ingredient applies in every situation.

And that’s confidence.

Self-love and self-esteem are hands down the hottest thing.

When people act like they are somebody, we believe it. When someone acts like they are nobody, we also believe it.

The truth (that we don’t always want to hear) is that “hot” comes in very many different packages.

Everybody finds different things attractive. You can’t please everyone. No matter what you look like, there will always be people who feel like you are or are not their “type”.

You do not need to be technically good-looking in order to be hot.

Charm and personality count for just as much. “Hot” is the full package, and confidence is an important part of it.

Check out this other Hackspirit article for some practical tips on how to build your confidence.

14) Be unique

We all have a natural tendency to compare ourselves to others. But beauty, attractiveness, and hotness don’t have a cookie-cutter mold.

Comparing yourself to someone else isn’t going to get you anywhere.

If you find yourself doing this, try to step back and take a hard look at yourself. What makes you special?

What makes you unique?

How does your story differ from everyone else’s?

Think about how you stand out from the crowd in all the best ways. Then go ahead and share your uniqueness with the world.

You might not be able to change your static attractiveness (aka the face and body you’re born with) but dynamic attractiveness is far more significant.

As explained in Psychology Today, dynamic attractiveness: “involves the expression of our emotions and our underlying personality and is a critical element of an individual’s personal charisma.”

Don’t be afraid to be your unapologetic self if you want to enhance your sex appeal.

15) Look to the lighter side of life

It’s long been recognized that a sense of humor is hot. And for good reason. Humor helps us relax and enjoy ourselves.

Humor has a way of bringing out the best in people. So why not use humor to help you look better?

Even if you don’t think of yourself as naturally witty or particularly funny, you can still show your sense of humor. Look for opportunities to laugh and smile.

Research has found that women are attracted to men with a good sense of humor and that men are looking for a woman who will laugh at their jokes. Laughing together is also one of the strongest indications of a romantic connection.

People who seem to have a positive outlook on life are more attractive. They exude warmth and friendliness.

Putting yourself first

Hey, Lachlan from Hack Spirit here.

What’s your number one goal at the moment?

Is it to buy that car you’ve been saving up for?

To finally start that side-hustle that’ll hopefully help you quit your 9-5 one day?

Or to take the leap and finally ask your partner to move in?

Whatever it is, you’re not going to get there, unless you’ve got a plan.

And even then…plans fail.

But I didn’t write this to you to be the voice of doom and gloom…

No, I’m writing this because I want to help you achieve the goals you’ve set.

I’ve recently been taking part in a workshop called Life Journal created by teacher and career coach Jeanette Brown.

Covering all the basics and more on what’s needed to reach your goals, Jeannette tackles everything from creating habits and new behavior patterns to putting your plans into action.

She doesn’t mess around – this workshop will require effort on your part but that’s the beauty of it – Jeanette has carefully designed it to put YOU in the driving seat of your life.

Click here to find out more about Life Journal.

So…think back to that important goal I asked about at the start of this message.

How much do you want it?

Are you willing to put the effort in to get there?

If so, check out the workshop here.

If you do take part, I’d love to hear how your Life Journey goes!

All the best,
Lachlan

Written by Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey.

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