Sigma males are said to be some of the rarest men alive.
But just how rare are they?
Well, it’s estimated that only a very small percentage of guys will fall into this category.
So why are sigma men so few and far between, and what makes them so unique?
How rare are sigma males?
To understand how sigma males fit into all this, we need to put it into the context of alpha and beta men too.
Here’s the thinking:
The so-called ‘socio-sexual hierarchy’ categorizes guys based on their behavior and character traits. This info is used to predict how successful they will be with women, as well as how they are perceived by their fellow males.
Alpha Male – The most dominant guy in the room. He can get away with anything because he has proven himself over time. Alpha males tend to have high self-esteem, confidence, charisma, and leadership skills. They are often seen as being more attractive than other guys.
Beta Male – Is considered to be more subordinate than Alpha. They are generally viewed as being more passive, introverted, and insecure. Think of the expression: “nice guys finish last”. It’s not that they are unattractive, but in the pecking order, they fall behind Alphas.
To subscribers of this theory, alpha men are rarer than beta men. More guys are followers than they are leaders.
But where do sigma guys fit into it all?
According to info floating around on the net, sigma men are so rare that they only account for 0.02% of guys.
Is sigma higher than alpha?
Seen as the whole idea of the socio-sexual hierarchy is to place men into a pecking order, you might be wondering where sigma guys are meant to fit in.
Particularly as they are apparently so rare.
Does that make them higher than alpha?
Think of them more as sitting alongside alphas. They are equal in status to alpha’s. But the reason they are so rare is that they choose to sit outside the whole hierarchy structure.
They don’t play the game and instead decide to exist on the fringe of society.
What are the signs of a sigma male?
Let’s look more closely at what qualities sigma males are said to have, which apparently make them so hard to find amongst the male population.
Sigma males share many traits in common with the alpha archetype.
They are strong and command respect, but their tendency to walk outside of the lines of traditional social dominance hierarchies sets them apart and makes them different.
They’re said to:
- Be independent
- Prefer solitude
- More likely to be loners
- Comfortable with themselves
- Don’t try to impress
- Lead without needing to dominate
- Happy to color outside the lines
- Don’t always follow the rules
- Have smaller friendship circles
- More flexible and accommodating than Alpha males
- Aren’t concerned with attention-seeking
To give you an idea of the type of man we’re talking about, some famous sigma males are people like:
Keanu Reeves, David Bowie, Elon Musk, Robert Pattinson, Steve Jobs, Harry Styles, Hans Solo from Star Wars and James Bond.
In a nutshell, we’re talking about guys who are potentially a bit quirky but still command a room.
Are Sigma males attractive?
Sigma men are said to be just as attractive as alpha’s, if not more.
They share the charisma, confidence, and dominance of an alpha male, but they can also come across as more mysterious.
The rebellious elements of their character make them attractive and desirable to women who are drawn to this “bad boy” image backed up by respect and decency.
Why are sigma males attractive?
Here are some of the qualities that make sigma men so appealing to women:
- Don’t try to impress or show off
- Confident being themselves
- Good listener
Do Sigma males exist?
Here’s the issue:
Sigma men are said to be the rarest men of all, but plenty of guys in society will identify with many of these qualities and characteristics.
And here is when we start to find the stumbling blocks and limitations of the whole socio-sexual hierarchy theory.
Science has dismissed the idea of these overly simplified notions of alpha, beta, and sigma.
Critics claim the theory draws on pseudoscience from the animal kingdom that cannot be applied to the complexities of human beings and our societies.
The myth of the alpha male was highlighted by research that showed “aggressive” and “domineering” tendencies did not increase the sexual attractiveness of either males or females.
The findings suggest that a mix of traits is actually the most appealing:
“It is neither the alpha nor the beta male that is most desired by women.
Taken together, the research suggests that the ideal man (for a date or romantic partner) is one who is assertive, confident, easygoing, and sensitive, without being aggressive, demanding, dominant, quiet, shy, or submissive.”
Instead of rigid binary terms like alpha, beta, or sigma, these appealing characteristics would perhaps be better explained as decent guys, who are well-rounded and have healthy self-esteem.
The dangers of oversimplifying male characteristics
The danger is that guys who do not fit into this narrow stereotypical image of masculinity can worry they will be overlooked by women and their peers. Even though the evidence suggests otherwise.
It plays on insecurities about what it is to be a man.
But the research actually shows that dominating behavior on its own is generally not seen as a positive trait by society.
Rather than trying to embody stereotypical (and in certain cases toxic) masculinity, the evidence points to men who are in touch with their own unique personal power being the most successful.
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