We all want it and we are all trying to find it.
This four letter word has such a huge impact on everyone’s lives. Some people even do crazy things just to get a piece of it.
When it comes to love, we tend to throw caution to the wind.
Love is THAT powerful.
However, in this modern dating scene, people seem to confuse love with attraction and infatuation.
They meet someone, get to know them, and suddenly, something just clicks.
Butterflies fill their tummies. They start thinking about that person almost every day. And they find themselves smiling whenever that person is near.
Soon enough, they can’t decide whether they’re in love or their brain’s just playing games with them.
If you’re having the same trouble and you find yourself perpetually wondering if you really are in love, don’t worry, you are not alone.
Billions of people out there know the word love but not its true meaning.
So how would you know if you do love someone?
9 Signs You’re In Love
Here are some telltale signs to help you discover your real feelings
1. You’ve taken your time.
You can’t put a time stamp on love.
But Elsa from the movie Frozen once said, “You can’t marry a man you just met.”
Chances are, she’s right.
True love takes time.
You can’t trust all those chemicals in your brain to know if you love someone.
There are a lot of people out there who will tell you they love you and take it back the next day. Don’t make the same mistake.
It’s like buying stuff you want only to regret buying them. And end up returning them later.
Sadly, love is not quite as simple.
So you’ve given yourself some time. You’ve taken things slowly and you got to know them better. And you still like them. In fact, you like them even more.
2. You seek to give
True love is when you focus more on giving rather than taking.
Some people imagine themselves marrying a person and envisioning their future with them.
But to know if it’s really love, you need to see things not only from your perspective but from your partner’s as well.
Love is when you consider someone else’s needs before yours.
So if you find yourself having a long list of things you want from a relationship, rather than things you can give – try taking a step back and think things through.
3. You acknowledge their imperfection.
While it is a good thing to focus on people’s strengths instead of their weaknesses, acknowledging their bad traits is important too; especially, if you’re in a relationship.
It’s normal to see the best things about your partner.
But it’s real when you see how imperfect someone is but you love them anyway.
You acknowledge their weaknesses, their flaws, and their shortcomings; yet you still want to stay. In fact, you choose to stay.
See your partner for what they truly are and not for what you want them to be.
4. You choose hearts before faces.
As saddening as it might be, some people focus more on the physical aspects of a person instead of their personality.
If you claim to love someone just because they’re easy on the eyes, that’s probably attraction, not love.
Loving someone requires you to know that person on a personal and deeper level.
Physical things fade away but a good attitude and a kind heart stay.
If you only see the superficial things, your relationship’s foundation would be as shallow as a plate.
Look at your partner’s character instead of their looks.
5. You don’t let emotions get the best of you.
Loving someone feels amazing.
It gives you emotions you’ve never felt before.
But at times, your emotions might get the best of you. You start losing your sense of rationality when it comes to making decisions.
Don’t let this happen to you. Always use your head along with your heart.
Don’t let your emotions get the best of you. It’s not easy, but try to make rational decisions.
6. You are realistic.
There’s an abundance of movies and books that portray love in very unrealistic ways. They give false and unrealistic ideas of love.
Love should be realistic and not idealistic.
There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Even the healthiest relationships face problems and misunderstandings.
If your idea of a relationship is far from the boundaries of reality, think again. Maybe it’s just love or just infatuation.
7. You’re freeing.
A little bit of jealousy and possessiveness isn’t bad for a relationship.
Too much of it, however, can be toxic and even dangerous.
Love should be freeing and not possessive.
Your relationship with your partner should be built out of complete trust in one another.
If one of you is too possessive and you don’t fully trust each other, you might want to reassess your relationship and think if what you have is really love.
8. Distance only makes your relationship stronger.
As counterintuitive as it might sound, separation should strengthen your love for each other.
Distance lets you see if you really want that person in your life or you just ‘love’ the idea of them whenever they’re around.
If you and your partner live miles away from each other and your relationship still blooms, that’s a great sign that what you have might be love.
9. You’re committed.
Love shouldn’t on feeling. Commitment should back it up.
There are days where your relationship will lose its spark and you might feel as if you’ve grown apart from each other.
If you feel this way, know that it’s totally normal and every relationship goes through bumpy roads.
Relationships aren’t always rainbows and butterflies.
But if you really love someone, you make decisions based on a commitment with that person and not out of feelings.
In short, infatuation is based on a feeling whereas love is based on a commitment.
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