We live in a world where we are constantly bombarded with images and messages about how our lives aren’t good enough.
No matter where you turn on the internet, there is someone who has more than you, does more than you, and creates more than you.
No wonder so many people are struggling just to get through life: we expose ourselves to these seemingly positive messages on the regular and don’t realize that they are actually quite negative.
So what separates the mentally strong women from those who suffer the consequences of allowing these messages to permeate into their lives?
I believe that mental strength comes down to these habits:
1) Strong women don’t compare themselves to others.
A strong woman doesn’t need to know what others are doing in order to make herself feel good. She doesn’t need to see others struggling to feel like she’s winning. More importantly, I believe she is glad for others who get what they want because it means she’s also able to get what she wants in life.
2) Strong women don’t let their self-doubt get in the way of their dreams.
Even mentally strong women have doubts about life, but that doesn’t mean that she lets those doubts stop her. Mentally strong women are able to pick up and go without fear that they’ll let themselves down. Others who let doubt creep in often succumb to thoughts that they aren’t good enough.
3) Strong women don’t avoid hard things.
Doing hard things makes you braver, stronger, and more successful. My belief is that mentally strong women are able to pick up and do the things they need to do to move forward. It’s not always easy, but it is always worth it.
4) Strong women don’t blame themselves when things don’t work out.
I think one of the key traits of a mentally strong woman is that she doesn’t get down on herself when things aren’t going as planned. She’s not going to let a little slip up throw her off track. She’s capable of picking herself up and carrying on in a meaningful way, even when the going gets tough.
5) Strong women don’t let their brains overthink things.
Women are known for being overthinkers and in many cases, that’s a good thing. When it comes to getting what you want in life and being successful, mentally strong women don’t let their brains win the battle. It’s easy to get sidetracked, but mentally strong women can stay the course.
6) Strong women don’t put others down to make themselves feel better.
Some women cut others down to make themselves feel better, but it’s not the only way. I believe mentally strong women work to build others up because she knows that when others feel good, everyone wins. Dragging others down to make yourself feel better is for the weak.
7) Strong women don’t worry about what other people are doing.
Comparison kills dreams. Don’t be fooled into thinking you need to pay attention to what everyone else is doing. You don’t. Mentally strong women don’t pay attention to what her competition is doing. She’s fine to stand on her own two feet no matter what.
8) Strong women don’t focus on perfection.
Perfection will slow women down, and although society puts a lot of pressures on women to be perfect, a mentally strong woman knows better. Given enough time, everything works out. And if it doesn’t, it wasn’t supposed to in the first place.
9) Strong women don’t think being vulnerable is a sign of weakness.
You might think that strong women don’t show emotions, but the opposite is true. Being vulnerable is a sign of strength, not weakness. Mentally strong women know their thoughts and emotions and are able to feel them through in order to learn something from them. It’s worth feeling low sometimes so you can experience the high when the breakthrough happens.
10) Strong women aren’t afraid to express how they feel.
They take their time to form an opinion, but once they do, they won’t be afraid to stand by it.
They’re not afraid to stand up for what they believe in, especially when they know it’s right.
Injustice and poor behavior just plain irks them, so if you treat other people with disrespect, they’ll call you out and make you look foolish.
Are you mentally tough?
Resilience and mental toughness are key attributes to living your best life. They determine how high we rise above what threatens to wear us down, from battling an illness, to dealing with challenging emotions, to carrying on after a relationship has ended.
In The Art of Resilience: A Practical Guide to Developing Mental Toughness, we outline exactly what it means to be mentally tough and equip you with 10 resilience-building tools that you can start using today.
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