Lyndol Lyons
If you’ve ever been in a crowded room and discovered that one guy who won’t stop staring at you from afar, then this is the post for you!
It’s not uncommon to feel a bit uneasy when someone is giving you this level of attention. You’re not sure if you should stare back, look away, or wait for him to strike up conversation.
It gets even harder if it seems like he’s never going to approach you, and you’re stuck in a staring contest.
But the truth is, we’ve all been there and there are some pretty common reasons why he might be paying such close attention to your every move.
We’ve taken out all the guesswork for you and compiled them all in this post.
So here they are, the good and the bad ready for you to enjoy!
Let’s deep dive!
1) He wants to know more about you.
Ah yes, the first and most obvious reason.
When a man keeps looking at you from a distance, it’s a sure sign that he wants to know more about you.
You’ve caught his attention, after all.
His eyes are most likely asking loads of questions, like:
“What do you do for a living?”
“Where do you go to school?”
“How long have you been working here?”
He might also be trying to figure out what your deal is, and praying you’re single.
His male brain is processing all that data from what he’s seeing, trying to make heads or tails of you.
As you interact with him, try to read his body language to see if he’s giving you any clear signals.
If he’s trying to make eye contact with you and he has a questioning look on his face, then he’s probably interested in talking to you.
If he doesn’t make eye contact and looks away when you try to look at him, it’s pretty safe to say that he isn’t interested in that kinda way.
2) He wants to see if you like him back.
Nobody wants to make a complete ass of themselves on purpose by being publicly rejected, so when he keeps looking at you from a distance he’s trying to suss you out and calculating his probability of being pied.
He’s probably trying to determine whether you like him back or if you’re interested in him too.
His glances are most likely asking questions like:
“Are you single?”
“Are you dating someone?”
“Are you married?”
If he continuously stares at you from a distance, it means that he wants to know whether you like him back and whether you feel the same way about him.
He is making assumptions based on what he is observing about you, for instance, checking to see if you’re with another guy, looking to see if you’re wearing a ring, etc.
He’s trying to read you and is probably wondering whether or not to make his move and by watching you, he’s more able to formulate the best approach with which to win your heart!
3) He notices you and wants to get to know you.
A man who keeps glancing at you from across the room is most likely trying to get your attention and wants to learn more about you. If he keeps looking at you, it means that he wants to know more about you.
He’s probably wondering what you’re like. He’s probably wondering how old you are and whether or not you’re single and available.
Take note of the duration of his glances. If they’re long and obvious then he’s probably thinking about making a move. If his looks are short and subtle, he is likely pretty shy and the chances of him approaching you first are not good.
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But for the time being, here’s what you can do…
If you’re interested in getting to know him, be daring and make the first move and introduce yourself.
After that you can exchange pleasantries, maybe ask him about himself or his friends and family, then use common interests to take the conversation in a different direction.
Unless of course, you’ve read the situation completely wrong which can be embarrassing. Maybe he just has bad eyesight…
In which case, move on and don’t look back girlfriend!
4) He wants to know if there’s someone else who has caught your attention.
Men can be rather competitive and territorial.
Like peacocks, they can often be found puffing out their chests, trying to outdo each other by looking bigger or more…manly, than the others.
They might also try to one-up one another by appearing more charming and chivalrous.
So, when a man keeps looking at you from a distance there’s a chance he’s keeping tabs on you, hoping that you won’t be snatched away by someone else.
If he likes the look of you and someone else tries to step in and make a move, he’ll probably swoop in and make it seem like he had first dibs.
But will the other dude not be offended or annoyed?
Probably, but this speaks to “guy code” and forms a part of the unspoken dude rule that guys share among each other.
It’s pretty much like ‘Game of Thrones’ over here!
5) He’s checking out whether you’re worth getting to know.
When a man keeps looking at you from a distance, he’s probably checking you out to see if you’re worth getting to know.
His glances are most likely asking:
“What do you do?”
“What are your interests?”
“How are you so good at talking with people?”
If he keeps looking at you, he’s trying to decide whether you’re really worth getting to know.
In his mind, he is conjuring up a picture of what you’re all about based on your looks, body language, and the way you dress.
Incredibly shallow, yes, but definitely true!
Also, he’s trying to ascertain whether or not you’re out of his league.
You see, some guys are terrified of rejection and will attempt to make 100% sure whether a woman is not out of their league before striking up a conversation.
Unless he has incredibly thick skin and is super confident (and doesn’t mind shooting his shot and missing, which many men seemingly are okay with too.)
So, with all that…
He’s checking you out to see whether or not he’s going to have what it takes to take the next step!
6) He wants to see if you’ll give him an indication of your interest.
It’s like a non-verbal form of telepathy, I swear.
When a man keeps looking at you from the distance, he’s probably hoping that you’ll give him some sign that you’re interested in him too.
His side-eyes are most likely asking:
“Do you like me?”
“Do you want to go out with me?”
“Would you like to go to dinner with me?”
If he keeps looking at you, it means that he wants you to give him a sign that you like him and that you’re interested in him.
If you’re keen on getting to know him, use your body language to give him the ok.
Flash him a huge smile and use flirty body language, such as leaning into him or getting up close to him and asking him a few questions.
If he’s already out there looking at you, it means he’s trying to catch your attention and wants to know whether you’re interested in him too.
If you’re not feeling his vibe and aren’t interested, the best thing to do would be to avoid all eye contact and shut the interaction down completely.
You don’t need to entertain any awkward staring, especially if it makes you uncomfortable.
Hopefully, he will get the hint but as a rule of thumb, be polite and nice about it, and do not engage with his advances if you’re not interested.
7) He can’t help but be constantly aware of where you are.
Girl, it looks like the force is strong with you.
So strong that this guy can’t keep his eyes off you!
A man who keeps glancing at you from across the room can’t help but notice where you are. His glimpses are most likely asking:
“Are you over there?”
“Where are you?”
“Where are you going?”
If he keeps looking at you from the distance, he’s probably trying to stay aware of where you are so that he can keep an eye on you.
His glimpses will probably be long and lingering, and he won’t stop glancing your way and will more than likely be far away but close enough that he’s in your proximity.
As mentioned previously, he’s trying to read you and is making assumptions about your life which will enable him to come up with the best angle to approach you and strike up a conversation to get you to like him, if that’s what he wants!
Or, the other alternative, he’s just a psychopath looking to harvest your organs and sell them on the black market…
I’m KIDDING!
8) He wants to be near you without being too obvious about it.
If a man keeps glancing at you from a distance, he’s most likely trying to make sure that you’re near him without being too obvious about it.
He might be too nervous to go over to you and speak with you, but his glances will let you know that he’s not too far away from you.
If he does walk over to you, he’ll most likely take his time and slowly walk your way. He won’t come running over to you or be standoffish about it but will try and make a move as soon as possible.
So how do you interpret this?
Well, his glimpses are most likely asking:
“What are you doing here?”
“How come I rarely see you?”
“Why are you here?”
If a man likes you, he’ll look at you with curiosity in his eyes.
His glances will probably be filled with questions and a desire to learn more about you.
9) He thinks you’re beautiful and is in complete awe of you.
Men are extremely visual and when you’re a hottie, you’ll know what it feels like to have men gawk at you and stare at you from a distance.
It can be uncomfortable, yes, but it’s very flattering.
In fact, some women don’t mind at all so long as a man is trying to be pretty obvious about it.
If he keeps glancing at you from a distance, chances are he thinks you’re beautiful and he’s thinking about how lucky he would be to get his hands on a gorgeous woman like you!
His glances will most likely be filled with pride over what a great catch you and if you feel the same way will hopefully encourage him to move in for the kill when he gets the chance.
The way he looks at you will reveal his intention.
Our eyes can give so much away, so long as you know what to look for.
10) He finds everything about you attractive.
I’ve said it before.
Men are extremely visual and when they see a hotty, they can’t help but stare because they feel a deep magnetic pull towards you.
And when it comes to visual cues, nothing says “I’m interested in you” than eyes that are constantly fixed on your body. If a man keeps glancing at you from the distance, he’s most likely curious about what you look like and if he finds everything about you attractive.
He’s probably wondering if your torso is as good as your thighs. He may be trying to find out if you’re a size 2 or if you have any curves that he can wrap his hands around.
He’s devouring you in his mind and is the most likely reason he’s staring at you from a distance.
If a man likes you, his gaze will linger on your face before moving on down your body.
When men like us they often look at us in our entire body using peripheral vision instead of just staring straight ahead directly into our eyes because that’s way too obvious!
He’ll probably be undressing you with his eyes and taking you in with his glances.
If you’re into it, you go girl. If not, walk up to him and tell him his fortune.
11) He is trying to figure out what it would be like to kiss you.
Kissing is a very intimate and personal act. It’s a once-in-a-lifetime experience that can be both exhilarating and life-changing.
So if a man is constantly glancing at you from across the room and keeps looking at you, he’s most likely trying to figure out what it would be like to kiss you.
If he keeps glancing at you from the distance, chances are he’s daydreaming about kissing you. He’s probably wondering how your lips would feel on his.
So, you’re not going to know unless you tackle this task head-on. If he’s not budging, don you big girl undies and ask him straight out what his deal is.
Nothing to hide, nothing to argue about.
12) He could be a creep and thinks you’re an easy target.
Ok, so not all guys have the best intentions, and it’s better to be keyed into the creeps out there.
He could be looking at you from a distance because he is trying to suss out your vibe. Maybe he’s a bad guy and is looking for his next “victim” and you are a possible target.
He might keep glancing your way because he thinks you’re an easy target and because of a stupid assumption he’s made, thinks it’s going to be a no-brainer to get into your britches.
This might be a stretch but maybe he’s a stalker?
If your gut is telling you that he has bad intentions, stay away from him. Don’t give him the time of day and stay out of his way. If you value your safety, get out of a situation that feels unsafe to you.
There are loads of sickos and weirdos out there. Looks can be deceiving so even if he’s a Jason Moama look alike but you’re getting bad vibes from him.
Stay away!
13) He’s shy and he’s not sure how to start a conversation with you.
Not all men are testosterone-driven extroverts. That’s an important point to bear in mind.
The bottom line here…
Maybe he wants to talk to you but he doesn’t know how to start the conversation. If a guy is looking at you from a distance and he’s not smiling, it means that he’s either shy or nervous around women.
He may want to talk to you, but he doesn’t know how to talk to girls. Or maybe he’s just trying to get a good look at you before approaching you.
If this is the case, smile back at him and give him a sign that it’s ok for him to come over and talk to you. If he comes over and talks to you, it means that he has a good nature and that you’ll have fun talking to him.
14) He wants to approach you but is afraid of rejection.
He thinks you’re cute and wants to say something, but he’s worried that you’ll reject him. If a man keeps looking at you from a distance, he’s not taking the initiative to approach you because he’s afraid you’ll reject him.
If he looks very nervous, it means that he thinks about approaching you but that he feels shy or worried about what your response will be.
He might also think that there might be an attraction between the two of you, but he doesn’t want to get rejected if it turns out that there isn’t any attraction after all.
If this is the case with him, then his glances will probably be short and quick. He might also look in your general direction only for a few seconds before looking away again quickly.
This means that he looks at you briefly because if he looks at you for too long his nervousness might show on his face and make him look weird or creepy.
Something that would make him cringe with embarrassment!
15) Something you did earlier impressed, confused, or inspired him.
Maybe you were on the dance floor and you busted an awesome move, or he overheard you telling a joke that he found hilarious, or you belted out your best version of go easy on me during a karaoke session.
Seems like you got some major skills, and he’s making mental notes.
Point is, he’s glancing at you all the time now because he’s intrigued by the person you are.
Maybe he hadn’t noticed you before but now that you have his attention, he can’t help but stare at you.
There’s a chance he’ll look at you with a smile on his face for longer than usual. He might even blush and look away now and then, just because he’s embarrassed that you caught him looking at you.
16) He knows someone (or works with someone) who knows you.
This happens a lot. There’s a sense that you know someone but just can’t seem to pinpoint where exactly.
So, that’s exactly why this man keeps looking at you from a distance. He’s trying to scan his brain for answers, piecing the puzzle together.
Maybe he saw your picture on Facebook or Instagram or maybe one of his friends mentioned your name to him once.
Maybe he overheard one of his co-workers talking about how awesome you are…
In any case, the point is that now that this guy has heard about you, his interest has been piqued.
He will be keeping tabs on you when he sees you around town or walking down the street again…even if you’re not really close with this person, it might be in his best interest to “friend” you now.
17) Bonus meaning – you have something stuck in your teeth.
True story guys and I just had to share.
Probably the cringiest and most embarrassing life stories ever, but here goes.
I was eating at the food court in the mall and I had a piece of spinach stuck in my teeth. Cliche, I’m very well aware.
Anyways, a guy I didn’t know from Adam, sat down near me and kept glancing at me while he ate his lunch.
He was pretty darn cute too, and my inner teenage girl was blushing all over.
Whenever I looked over at him (flashing a huge sultry smile), he quickly looked away, but after a few minutes of this, he gestured for me to come over to his table.
I was so excited! I thought he was going to ask for my number or something but instead, he leaned toward me and whispered, “You have spinach in your teeth.”
If the earth could have swallowed me right there, it would have made me feel hella better.
I felt like such a fool. I ran back to the food court bathroom and checked my teeth in the mirror.
Sure enough, there was a big piece of spinach wedged between my two front teeth!
I no longer consume spinach because it triggers my PTSD about this experience.
Cringe, cringe!
So, what should you do?
Well, this depends on you.
Do you a) dig him and are you keen to get to know him better, or b) think he’s a massive creeper who makes your skin crawl and wants him to stop.
If it’s a), then smile back at him and make eye contact. If he’s cute and you’re interested, use this as an opportunity to get to know him better.
Don’t wait for him to make his move, instead, walk string up to him, flash a Hollywood smile and say, hey, I don’t I know you from somewhere?
If it’s b), well, that freaky look he’s giving you is creeping you out, so get out of there. Don’t make eye contact with him and just walk away. You can also use this as an opportunity to stand up for yourself and let him know that his behavior isn’t acceptable.
You don’t need any creepers in your life so making him aware of what you think of his behavior will help keep your distance from him in the future…
Don’t look at him, keep a safe distance, and don’t acknowledge his existence. You could get one of your guy friends to tell him to stop if you feel uncomfortable doing it yourself.
Conclusion
As you can see there are so many possibilities why a guy keeps looking at you from a distance and hopefully, this article helped you to figure out whether or not he likes you.
But, if you want him to like you, there’s something you can do to get a reaction from him right away – trigger his hero instinct.
What’s that?
The Hero Instinct is about what really drives men in relationships. No, it’s not sex. It’s not perfect compatibility either.
Instead, it’s about what makes him feel like a hero in his own life. It makes him committed, loving, and more understanding when he finds someone who knows how to trigger it – and that someone could be you!
So, if you want to check out this new concept developed by relationship expert James Bauer and learn how to trigger the hero instinct in him, check out his excellent free video here.
