Understanding the language of love can be a tricky business.
There’s a world of difference between a man merely liking you and him being head over heels.
The same way you might like vanilla ice cream.
But love Ben and Jerry’s.
This difference comes down to actions – not words.
But I know how easy it is to be deceived by words. Big promises. Declarations of love and lust and eternity.
However, if he’s really in love, he’ll show it in ways you might not even notice – without him even voicing it out loud.
Being in love propels one to act in certain ways, often unconsciously…
And those in the know understand that there are specific things a man does when he is completely smitten.
So, let’s dive into these tell-tale signs that he is head over heels:
1) He listens
Listening is one of the most profound ways to show love. And respect. And kindness. Basically everything you’re looking for.
In the world of romance, it’s not just about the grand gestures; sometimes, the subtlest of signs are the most significant.
When a man is genuinely in love, he will make an effort to listen to you.
And by that I mean truly listen – not just nodding along while you speak whilst he thinks about football.
He will be interested in your stories, your day, your thoughts and feelings, and ask you about them.
Additionally, this isn’t just about listening to your words but actually understanding them.
It’s about him being there for you when you need a shoulder to cry on, or some sage advice to a problem you can’t solve alone.
Believe me, a man who gives you his full attention and interest shows that he values your time and your feelings, and wants to understand you better.
So if he’s fully engaged when you talk and there’s nothing that could detract that attention, there’s a good chance that he’s completely in love with you.
2) He remembers the little things
The beauty of love often lies in the details.
When a man is truly in love, he pays attention to the little things that matter to you.
It could be remembering your favorite flavor of ice cream, or how you like your coffee, or even that random story you told him about your childhood. Details others would find rather boring and mundane.
I’ll give you a lil’ example. After being on Accutane for my skin, I perpetually crave lip balm. It’s an odd habit that I can’t shake, but I can’t eat or go a few hours without it.
And my boyfriend – a boy whose shower is filled with those weird soaps that claim to shampoo, condition, exfoliate and moisturize all in one – has a nightstand now lined with lip balms, without me ever having requested them.
If he remembers these small details about you, it’s a pretty strong sign that he’s head over heels in love.
3) He respects your boundaries
Respect is a fundamental part of any healthy relationship.
When a man is deeply in love, he respects your personal space and boundaries.
Whilst in love, part of us wants to saturate ourselves with that person’s presence.
Yet, if he still acknowledges your need for personal space and never intrudes upon your limits, he’s actively demonstrating his love for you. And that he’s a good person…
He values your feelings and respects that crucial personal space because he genuinely cares for you, and doesn’t want to spoil the goodness of your relationship.
All round, a key indicator that he’s completely in love with you (or just a well brought up man…)
4) He supports your dreams
Love isn’t just about being there for the present moments, it’s also about being there for the future.
When a man is truly in love, he doesn’t just support you in your day-to-day life, but also in your dreams and ambitions.
He wants to see you succeed.
Even if those dreams mean seeing less of you, or moving elsewhere, or pursuing something he doesn’t fully agree with, he will be by your side.
He won’t try to hold you back or discourage you from pursuing what you love. Instead, he will be your biggest cheerleader, celebrating your victories and picking you up when you stumble.
True, this support doesn’t mean he will always agree with everything you say or do.
But even in disagreement, he will respect your decisions, stand by you, and find ways to move forwards – together.
This kind of unwavering support, no matter what, is a clear sign that his love for you runs deep.
5) He makes sacrifices for you
Love often calls for compromise and sometimes, even sacrifice.
When a man is truly, madly, deeply in love with you, he won’t hesitate to make sacrifices for your happiness.
This could mean giving up his comfort, his time, or even personal desires to ensure you’re happy and content.
It could be as simple as skipping his favorite football match to help you with something or as significant as moving to a new city for your career progression.
The key here is balance.
Sacrifices shouldn’t be one-sided or lead to resentment. They should come from a place of love and mutual respect.
Remember, sacrifices made out of love are not burdens but expressions of deep affection.
So if he’s willing to make sacrifices for your happiness, it’s a solid sign that he’s completely in love with you.
Better saddle up and get ready to compromise on your end too!
6) He is your safe space
In this chaotic world, finding someone who feels like home is rare and precious.
When a man is deeply in love with you, he becomes your safe haven, and vice versa.
If you both feel like your nervous systems are calmed in one another’s presence, and you feel safe and warm and secure – it’s love, honey!
And yes, realistically this doesn’t mean that he can solve all your problems, but rather that he will stand by you through them and make sure you’re okay.
Having a partner who provides emotional security and comfort is a beautiful aspect of love.
So if he’s become your safe haven in this vast universe with millions of other people on the planet, then he’s without a doubt completely in love with you.
And, if I’m honest…you’re probably equally in love with him!
7) He apologizes when he’s wrong
Pride has no place in love.
When a man is deeply in love with you, he isn’t afraid to admit when he’s wrong and apologize.
He values your relationship more than his ego – and trust me, being prioritized over a man’s ego is a pretty big deal as they get so easily bruised. Like peaches.
Being able to apologize and own up to wrongdoings shows maturity, respect, and most importantly, it shows that he’s willing to make amends to keep the relationship strong.
So if he says sorry when he messes up, it’s a surefire sign that he’s completely in love with you.
8) He cares about your loved ones
A man who is truly in love won’t just limit his love to you.
It’ll extend to everyone you care about, yoo.
He’ll show a genuine interest in the people who matter to you – your family, your friends. Your hamster.
Whether it’s remembering your mom’s birthday or being there to support your best friend during tough times, he makes an effort to connect with them – because they matter to you, and you matter to him.
His concern for your loved ones reflects the depth of his feelings for you.
It shows that he’s not just invested in you but also in your entire world. And that is one big affirmation of his love for you.
9) He loves you for who you are
True love is about acceptance.
When a man is truly in love with you, he loves you for who you are.
He cherishes your strengths, accepts your flaws, and respects your individuality.
He won’t ever try to change you, or mold you into someone else.
So no suggesting you (a brunette) bleach your hair.
Or that you start laughing less loudly.
Instead, he will appreciate your uniqueness and celebrate your authenticity.
This kind of unconditional love is the cornerstone of a deep and lasting relationship.
So if you know that he loves you just as you are, he’s completely in love with you.
As complex as love sometimes feels, the above signs can indicate your path to a smoother journey with far less anxiety in worrying about whether he loves you.
Because if you’re noticing all of the signals we’ve discussed, it’s looking pretty good for you!
Remember, love is a journey of growth and understanding.
So take your time, trust your instincts, and enjoy the journey – and make sure to love him back with all the effort he’s putting into you too.
This combination will create the most beautiful and magnetic of connections.