7 habits of unsuccessful men who never get anywhere in life

Success is often seen as this big achievement, but what if it feels like you’re just not getting there, no matter how hard you try?

You look around and it seems like everyone else is doing great, but you’re stuck.

Can you relate to this?

It makes you wonder if there’s some secret you’re not in on, or if you’re just unlucky.

How can you tell if you’re really not cut out for success, or if these are just the usual hurdles everyone faces?

I’ve looked into why some folks never get to make it and found 7 habits that could be keeping you from hitting your goals.

If you see yourself in these, it might be time to rethink your approach.

1) Fear of taking risks

Risk-taking is an integral part of success.

In other words, it’s the willingness to step outside your comfort zone and face uncertainty.

However, what seems common among unsuccessful men is an overwhelming fear of taking risks.

You see, they prefer to stay in their safe cocoon, avoiding any venture that has a chance of failure.

Wondering why?

Well, this fear often stems from a lack of self-confidence or from past experiences where they’ve been stung by failure.

Now, while it’s reasonable to be cautious, being overly risk-averse can halt your progress.

In essence, success often requires taking calculated risks and learning from failures rather than avoiding them altogether.

2) Perfectionism to a fault

Contrary to popular belief, perfectionism isn’t always a badge of honor.

In fact, it can be a significant roadblock on the path to success.

Many unsuccessful men are trapped in the clutches of extreme perfectionism.

Here’s what I found most shocking:

They hold themselves to unattainable standards and are never satisfied with their performance.

This can lead to constant:

  • Self-criticism
  • Procrastination
  • And even complete avoidance of tasks for fear of not doing them perfectly

Don’t be mistaken, while striving for excellence is commendable, an unhealthy obsession with perfection can stifle creativity and progress.

It can prevent you from taking the necessary steps forward and keep you stuck in a cycle of dissatisfaction and regret.

Have you ever felt paralyzed by perfectionism?

If that’s something you experience, why don’t you try focusing more on progress rather than absolute perfection?

After all, mistakes and flaws are integral parts of the learning process that lead to growth and improvement.

3) Neglecting personal growth

Growing as a person is crucial for doing well in life, but it’s something a lot of guys ignore, ending up stuck because of it.

These folks who don’t quite hit the mark tend to get too comfortable, not really putting in the work to get better or smarter, or to look after their health.

They probably ignore good advice too, preferring to stay in their safe zone.

The thing is, the world doesn’t stand still, and if you want to keep pace, you’ve got to be all about learning and improving.

Skipping out on working on yourself can leave you behind, lacking the flexibility and toughness needed to succeed.

In a nutshell, every little bit you do to grow counts towards getting ahead. 

4) Poor time management

Time is one of the most valuable resources we have, yet it’s often the most squandered.

Numerous unsuccessful men suffer from poor time management habits.

A few things they struggle with are:

  • Planning their day
  • Prioritizing tasks
  • And staying focused

As a result, they often find themselves racing against the clock, trying to catch up with their responsibilities, and constantly feeling overwhelmed.

Here’s a lesson from successful CEOs to renowned professionals:

They often attribute their success to effective time management because they understand that each minute is precious and should be utilized efficiently.

On a personal note, this is one habit I catch myself in, ultimately feeling like there aren’t enough hours in the day.

I’m working on it, what about you? 

5) Lack of emotional intelligence

There is no success without understanding and managing your emotions and empathizing with others. It doesn’t matter how intelligent or skilled you are. 

A lack of emotional intelligence is often exhibited by men who don’t seem to move forward. 

You see, they struggle to control their emotions, particularly during stressful situations, leading to impulsive decisions or damaging outbursts.

They may also find it hard to understand the emotions of others, which can affect relationships both personally and professionally.

The hard truth is that emotional intelligence cannot be learned overnight, but it’s a crucial part of personal growth and success.

It involves being aware of your emotions, understanding why you feel a certain way, and managing those feelings without allowing them to control you.

This one is a tough cookie, but you should remember that true strength lies not in suppressing emotions, but in understanding and managing them.

6) Over-reliance on external validation

Let’s be honest, we all enjoy a pat on the back or words of appreciation!

However, when our sense of worth becomes entirely dependent on external validation, it’s a recipe for failure.

In other words, they base their self-worth on how others perceive them, leading to a constant state of insecurity and dissatisfaction.

Ironically, this overreliance on external validation often leaves them feeling undervalued and overlooked.

I know at first glance might be natural to desire recognition but it’s important to derive your self-worth from within.

In the end, success is subjective, and what might seem like a victory to one person may not hold the same value for another.

7) Avoidance of responsibility

Responsibility is about owning up to your actions and their consequences, both good and bad.

And you know what?

It’s a crucial part of personal and professional success.

However, many unsuccessful men have a habit of avoiding responsibility.

Have you noticed it in yourself, or others?

Taking responsibility is not about accepting blame blindly, but rather acknowledging your part in any situation and learning from it. It’s about making mistakes, learning from them, and growing stronger.

But these folks tend to place blame on others or external circumstances when things go wrong, rather than accepting their role in the situation.

As a result, this avoidance not only hinders personal growth but also damages credibility and relationships.

Breaking free from the cycle of unsuccess

Recognizing these habits in yourself can be a daunting realization.

However, it’s important to remember that none of us are set in stone. We are ever-evolving beings, capable of change and growth at all stages of life.

So, just because you’ve identified with these habits does not mean you’re doomed to a life of unsuccess.

Unsuccessful men don’t remain stuck because they possess these habits; they remain stuck because they refuse to address them.

Change begins with awareness, and the very fact that you’re reading this article means you’re already on the path to change.

Now, you’ve taken the first step to identify the behaviors that might be holding you back.

The next step is to work on breaking these habits.

I guarantee you is not going to be easy, but nothing worthwhile ever is.

But here’s a recipe for changing ingrained habits. It requires:

  • Patience
  • Perseverance
  • And commitment

It also involves stepping out of your comfort zone, facing your fears, and challenging your beliefs.

It means taking responsibility for your actions, investing in your personal growth, and learning to value your own judgment over others’.

I know, it’s a lot, I warned you!

But don’t be discouraged if progress is slow or if you stumble along the way.

Take each small victory, each step forward, as a testament to your growth and resilience.

And remember to seek help if you need it!

There is no shame in asking for guidance or support.

You’d be amazed how a mentor or a professional can help! They can provide insights and advice based on their own experiences and expertise.

Finally, remember to celebrate your progress.

Take pride in every habit you break, every fear you conquer, and every step you take toward success.

After all, success is not just about money or fame but about what happens until you get there. 

Ethan Sterling

Ethan Sterling has a background in entrepreneurship, having started and managed several small businesses. His journey through the ups and downs of entrepreneurship provides him with practical insights into personal resilience, strategic thinking, and the value of persistence. Ethan’s articles offer real-world advice for those looking to grow personally and professionally.

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