6 habits of people who aren’t conventionally attractive but still draw a lot of attention

People say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and to a large extent, this is true.

Sexual attraction doesn’t distinguish between symmetrical and asymmetrical features; it doesn’t measure everyone’s BMI to find out if their bodies fit the quota; it doesn’t try to suss out what our skincare routine is.

If you’re attracted to someone, that’s it. For some undefinable reason, you find them beautiful, and that’s enough. End of story.

Still, though. There *is* something like a conventionally attractive person, and while this has largely to do with facial symmetry, it’s also very dependent on societal trends.

So, what are the 6 habits of people who aren’t conventionally attractive but still draw a lot of attention?

Let’s find out!

1) They display an excellent and unique sense of fashion

Women love getting compliments on their clothes, makeup, nails, and hairstyles.


Because these are all aesthetically pleasing factors that we have full control over. You can’t choose if you’re born with a great jaw, but you *can* choose how you present yourself to the world through what kinds of fashion and makeup choices you make.

In other words, your physical appearance is what you were given. Your sense of fashion is what you created through your own efforts, and in doing so, you’ve made it a thousand times more valuable (if fashion is something you care about).

I’ve met plenty of people who aren’t conventionally attractive but who draw a great deal of attention nonetheless, and it’s often due to their ability to match items of clothing in a way that expresses their inner self, accentuates their features, and makes them stand out from the crowd.

And that’s why a great sense of fashion is so powerful. No matter if you’re dressed as a goth, a classy girl boss, a Y2K Gen Z hipster, or a cottage-core woman, it’s clear that you’re using your fashion to show the world who you are.

And that’s incredibly beautiful if I say so myself.

2) They exude confidence everywhere they go

If you don’t think you’re beautiful, why would you expect others to view you that way – especially if your body isn’t getting the right treatment because you’ve resigned on it?


Confidence is the key to plenty of amazing things, and that includes one’s attractiveness.

Don’t just take my word for it. According to Psychology Today, “Projecting confidence helps people gain credibility, make a strong first impression, deal with pressure, and tackle personal and professional challenges. It’s also an attractive trait, as confidence helps put others at ease.”

If you’re comfortable in your own skin, you don’t need to be conventionally beautiful. In fact, most people aren’t.

All you need is to show up as your authentic self and learn to embrace yourself for who you are.

Trust me, the right people will love you and find you attractive – you’ve just got to love yourself first.

3) Their personality shines bright

I used to have a friend who wasn’t conventionally beautiful, but every time I introduced her to someone new, they would later tell me, “I love her. She’s so cute and warm and wonderful! When can we hang out with her again?”

I’ve also met people I found very attractive until I got to know them on a deeper level. The moment their undesirable character traits came out, I got the ick, and it was like a switch inside me had flipped. I no longer considered them attractive at all.

See how much our personality influences our attractiveness?

If you’re full of warmth, kindness, and joy, people will very likely gravitate toward you because they’ll genuinely enjoy your company.

And the longer they spend around you, the more attractive they’ll find you because your character will just shine brighter and brighter while your connection with them deepens.

You don’t have to have symmetrical features to draw attention and impress people. It’s much more important to nurture integrity, kindness, and authenticity.

4) They nurture their talents

It’s not just our personality that radiates outward, drawing people in. What about our intellectual capabilities? Our talents? Passions?

It is often through love that we grow into the most beautiful versions of ourselves, and when this love is nurtured through a specific talent – be it music, painting, poetry, chess, or whatever flows your boat –  the talent itself becomes magical.

Just think of all the amazing musicians, writers, or painters out there in the world. You don’t really care what they look like, do you? It’s of no importance because it’s the art itself that speaks to you.

When you watch an opera, you think to yourself, “Wow. This is absolutely beautiful.” The question of whether the dancers on stage have full lips or fashionable eyebrows doesn’t even occur to you.

5) They constantly find new ways to grow into themselves

And while we’re on the topic of fostering one’s talents, growth itself is also beautiful – so beautiful, in fact, that it’s often the one thing that gives rise to immense feelings of pride.

“I’m so proud of you,” we tell our friends when we can see how far they’ve come in the years we’ve known them.

Every day, we celebrate growth, from work promotions to successful side hustles, improved skills, increased self-awareness, or the painstaking work of healing from trauma.

Just think of your best friend. Think of how you feel when a picture of them comes to mind.

The complexity of their humanity is bewildering, and it is precisely that collection of everything that makes them *them* – their personality traits, talents, strengths and weaknesses, their history, the kind of effort they’ve put into the friendship over the years – that’s so very beautiful about them.

I know it’s quite cliché when people say that it’s not just about looks, but when you think about it…

It’s true. Looks are just one part of the gorgeous tapestry that makes a human.

6) They know that the definition of “conventionally attractive” changes every ten years

What was conventionally attractive twenty years ago is completely different from what’s conventionally attractive now.

Sure, facial symmetry remains – that never really goes away simply because it’s pleasing to look at a symmetrical face – but every other beauty ideal largely depends on what year it is and what part of the world you find yourself in.

People who aren’t conventionally attractive but still draw a lot of attention realize this, and that’s why they don’t even try to replicate the societal ideal of their current time.

Instead, they focus on just… being themselves.

The more comfortable you are with not only your appearance but also your personality and capabilities, the more attractive you become.

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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