Adrian Volenik
Most men I know want to be seen as confident. They want to command attention and respect from others.
Yet, most of them never achieve that and wouldn’t achieve it if they lived to be 300 years old.
So, what is it about some men who are able to naturally pull it off, and can you learn something from them and from their behaviors and habits?
Let’s find out.
1) Confidence
For me, confidence isn’t about always feeling like I have everything figured out. It’s about trusting myself, even when things get tough.
When I embrace my strengths and accept my flaws, it shows, and others naturally respond to that authenticity.
Psychological research backs that up as it suggests that self-confidence is linked to positive self-esteem and a sense of self-efficacy, which is the belief that you can achieve goals and overcome obstacles.
2) Good posture
Studies have also shown that adopting a confident posture not only impacts how others perceive you but also affects your own mood and behavior.
Power posing, for example, can lead to increased power and confidence.
I’ve noticed that when I stand tall with my shoulders back, I not only look more confident but also feel more empowered.
It’s like a physical reminder to myself and others that I’m ready to take on whatever comes my way.
3) Effective communication
Communication theories like the Transactional Model of Communication highlight the importance of clear encoding and decoding of messages for successful communication and relationship-building.
That’s why clear and assertive communication is key to building strong relationships. When I express myself honestly and listen actively, it encourages trust and understanding between me and the people around me.
And that’s how you command attention and respect.
4) Dress well
Psychology also suggests that dressing well can indeed influence how others perceive and interact with us, ultimately affecting how much attention and respect we command in different social contexts.
But it also affects our performance:
In the first study, researchers discovered that when people wore a lab coat and were told it belonged to a doctor, they paid more attention to tasks.
However, in the second study, when people wore the same coat but were told it belonged to a painter, their attention didn’t increase.
Personally, putting effort into my appearance is as much about impressing others as it’s about feeling good about myself.
When I dress in a way that reflects my personal style and respects the occasion, I feel more confident and ready to tackle the day.
5) Authenticity
Authenticity is associated with positive psychological outcomes such as self-acceptance, greater life satisfaction, and stronger social connections, as outlined in theories of authenticity and self-determination.
Being true to myself is something I strive for every day. When I’m genuine and sincere in my interactions, I believe I create a deeper connection with others and build trust and respect over time.
And for me, that’s what it’s all about.
6) Maintain eye contact
Eye contact is a non-verbal cue that conveys interest, attention, and confidence, as supported by research in social psychology and communication studies.
Meeting someone’s gaze shows that I’m engaged and interested in what they’re saying. It’s a small gesture, but it can make a big difference in how connected I feel to others and how much respect I command in return.
7) Leadership skills
Theories of leadership, such as transformational and servant leadership, emphasize qualities like empathy, integrity, and inspiration, which are associated with effective leadership and follower respect.
I’ve found that true leadership isn’t about being in charge but about inspiring and empowering others to reach their full potential.
When I lead by example and support those around me, it earns me respect as someone who leads with integrity and compassion.
8) Consistency
Consistently following through on my commitments is also something I take pride in. When I show up and deliver, even when it’s challenging, it builds trust and reliability in my relationships.
When I make a promise, whether it’s to a friend, a colleague, or myself, I make sure to honor it. Even when faced with obstacles or challenges, I persevere and find a way to deliver on my commitments.
When others know they can count on me to do what I say I’ll do, it strengthens the bond between us. They feel confident relying on me, knowing that I won’t let them down.
Sure, there are times when it’s tempting to take the easy way out or make excuses, but I’ve learned that integrity is non-negotiable.
9) Resilience
Psychology defines resilience as the ability to adapt and bounce back from adversity, trauma, or significant stress.
Resilient people demonstrate psychological flexibility, optimism, and an ability to cope effectively with challenges.
Life is full of ups and downs, but I’ve learned to adopt challenges as chances for growth.
When I bounce back from setbacks with dignity and determination, it earns me respect as someone who can handle whatever life throws my way.
They see me as someone who can handle things no matter what, someone who doesn’t crumble under pressure but rises to the occasion with strength and courage.
Bouncing back from setbacks isn’t always easy, but I tackle them with grace and determination. I don’t let setbacks define me or hold me back.
Instead, I use them as fuel to propel myself forward toward my goals and aspirations.
10) Gratitude
Expressing gratitude for the people and experiences in my life is something I make a conscious effort to do every day.
It not only strengthens my relationships but also reminds me of the abundance of blessings in my life.
Psychology also suggests that expressing gratitude can significantly strengthen relationships.
When we show appreciation for others and for their contributions, it boosts feelings of friendliness and exchange.
As a result, people are more likely to respect and pay attention to people who express gratitude towards them.
11) Boundaries
Psychology says that setting boundaries is really important for feeling strong and respecting yourself.
When you clearly tell others what you’re okay with and what you’re not, it shows that you know yourself well and can stand up for yourself.
When you respect yourself, others are more likely to respect you, too.
You need to believe in your ability to control your life. When you set boundaries, you’re showing that you’re in charge of your own choices and decisions.
This makes others respect you more because they see you as independent and strong-willed.
Tips for commanding attention and respect
Here are three simple tips to be seen as someone who commands attention and respect:
Confidence
Confidence is key. Stand tall, speak clearly, and believe in yourself. When you exude confidence, others naturally take notice and respect your presence.
Active listening
Pay attention to others and show genuine interest in what they have to say. Practice active listening (making eye contact, nodding, and asking thoughtful questions).
When people feel heard and understood, they’re more likely to respect you.
Set boundaries
Don’t be afraid to establish clear boundaries in your interactions with others. Respect yourself and your needs, and others will follow suit.
When you assert yourself confidently and respectfully, you command respect from those around you.
