Do you ever look at the happy couples around you and ask yourself, “What’s their secret?”
What transforms an ordinary relationship into a deeply connected partnership?
Say you think you’ve found “the one”…
What can you do to strengthen your bond and have that deep connection you’ve always envied in others?
Read about the 13 habits of couples who are deeply connected and in the right relationship to find out!
1) They respect each other
The secret to any successful relationship (romantic or otherwise) is respect.
One of the things that allows couples to have a deep and meaningful connection is an atmosphere of trust and acceptance, something that could never be possible without mutual respect.
Respecting one another means valuing each other’s thoughts and opinions – even when they’re opposing.
It means validating each other’s feelings.
It also means understanding the need for boundaries and the importance of giving each other space.
2) They can talk to each other about anything
I don’t get people who are in serious, committed relationships yet can’t be open with one another, it just makes no sense to me.
I consider myself lucky because I’ve found someone that I have a deep connection with and that means we can talk about anything.
Now, that doesn’t mean that we agree on everything or that we never get into arguments – of course we do!
What it does mean is that we feel like we can be open and honest with each other because our relationship is a safe space.
There’s no judgment.
In other words, people who are in the right relationship and have a deep connection can discuss their strangest thoughts and craziest ideas with each other.
More than that, they can tell each other about their scariest fears and wildest dreams, and that kind of intimacy only strengthens their connection.
3) They’re good at resolving conflicts
Here’s the thing – when you love someone and have a deep connection with them, you don’t want to “win” at arguments.
You want them to be over, to find a middle ground and resolve any conflict as soon as possible so that you can go back to living your happy lives together.
If you’ve ever been in love, you’ll know how much it sucks to be at odds with the other person.
While disagreements are a natural part of any relationship, deeply connected couples seem to have mastered the art of conflict resolution.
So what’s their secret?
They approach conflicts with patience, empathy, and a willingness to find a compromise.
4) They trust each other
Remember how I mentioned that deeply connected couples can talk about anything?
That’s because they trust each other.
They feel safe in each other’s company and know that the other person cares about them and would never make fun of them or betray their trust in any way.
Two people who trust each other don’t wonder, “Does he really love me?” or “Is she cheating on me?” because they have complete faith in each other’s intentions and actions.
Trust is what allows two people to be themselves in each other’s company and truly connect.
Lack of trust brings trouble.
5) They give each other space
A lot of people tend to get a bit carried away when they fall in love.
What exactly do I mean by “carried away”?
I mean that they love being together so much that they do everything together. They plan their whole lives around each other and fall into the trap of living in a codependent relationship – and that’s not good!
Worst of all is when one person clings on to the other who just wants a bit of space to breathe and do some stuff by themselves!
They don’t understand the concept of space and end up feeling unloved, but that’s not it at all.
That’s what’s so great about couples who are deeply connected – they recognize the importance of personal space.
For example, my husband and I love spending time together, but we also like to do stuff on our own – like watch movies, hang out with our friends, or even take a trip alone.
By giving each other space we’re allowing each other to keep growing as people. What’s more, time apart gives us a chance to miss each other.
6) They make sure to spend quality time together
It depends on the dynamics of their relationship, but not every couple gets to spend a lot of time together, that’s why, “Quality over quantity” is their motto.
They make sure that every moment they spend together counts.
They cherish their time together, no matter what they’re doing.
Whether it’s a romantic dinner by candlelight, an adventurous getaway, or a casual evening watching comedies and cuddling on the couch, they soak in every second of it.
7) They share goals and values
The truth is that if two people don’t share at least some goals and values, their relationship doesn’t stand much of a chance.
I’m not saying this to disappoint anyone, just to be realistic.
Part of knowing you’re in the “right” relationship is how you feel about the other person, and the other part is sharing your long-term goals and values.
Think about it: If one person wants to travel and party and have an open relationship and the other person wants to settle down, get married, and start a family, how are they gonna make it work?
Well, that’s another thing about people who are deeply connected. They share a common purpose and vision for the future which helps them stay on the same page and navigate life’s journey together.
And when they want different things, they work to find a compromise.
8) They support one another
Look, life isn’t always sunshine and roses. Sometimes people come across some rough spots on their journey.
What sets couples who are deeply connected apart is the fact that they stick around through the good times and the bad.
I’m not always fun to be around (think PMS) but my guy is always there for me and vice versa.
We’re there to support each other, encourage each other, and be each other’s shoulder to lean on.
9) They share inside jokes
Ever found yourself feeling like a third wheel because you’re friends with a couple who share inside jokes?
If you ask me, laughter is a key ingredient to a happy and meaningful relationship and inside jokes are part of that.
Sure, you want someone you can have serious conversations with, someone you can confide in, but trust me, you also want to be able to laugh with them.
Sharing a sense of humor can actually deepen the connection that two people share as well as their sense of intimacy. Talking of intimacy…
10) They’re physically intimate
Sure, sometimes sex is just sex.
But at other times it can deepen the emotional connection between two people.
That’s why couples who are deeply connected make sure they make time for physical intimacy.
It doesn’t have to be every day. It doesn’t even have to be every week. Every couple is different, there’s no right or wrong frequency when it comes to being intimate.
The bottom line is that physical intimacy is a wonderful way to express love and affection as well as to connect with another person on a profound level.
11) They’re not afraid to say “I’m sorry”
Saying “sorry” doesn’t come easily to everyone.
But when you love someone, I think it’s really important to be able to own up to your mistakes and make amends. After all, you don’t want to see someone you love hurt, do you?
You’ll often find that couples who are deeply connected have gotten into the habit of saying “sorry” whenever they make a mistake.
The way they see it, apologies aren’t a sign of weakness, but rather, they’re an expression of love and respect.
Being able to acknowledge one’s mistakes and work to make amends is another thing that keeps their relationship strong.
12) They forgive each other
In my humble opinion, being able to forgive is almost as important as apologizing.
A relationship cannot move forward if one side is holding onto a grudge.
We all make mistakes, and some mistakes are bigger than others.
I know it’s not always easy to forgive. A lot of the time people say “Okay, I forgive you” while they’re still hurting inside.
But here’s the thing about couples who are deeply connected – they know that what they share with their partners is bigger and more important than any mistakes made.
They understand that in order to heal and move forward with their lives, they need to let go of any resentment and grudges.
13) They compromise
Finally, I need to mention just how important compromise is for the right relationship.
When two people are in a romantic partnership they don’t always want the same thing. They have their individual needs and desires.
The problem is that they can’t both always get what they want.
That’s where deeply connected couples have it all figured out – they compromise. They value their unity more than being right or getting what they want.
And guess what?
They don’t look at compromise as a burden but rather as a way to ensure that both partners are heard and respected. Makes sense to me!