11 things boss ladies always do (but never talk about)

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Many women dream of becoming the badass boss lady at work, but very few actually manage to make it.

If you’re like me, you might have often wondered what sets them apart from other women.

I examined the traits of successful women and came up with a list of qualities that possibly helped them attain the “badass boss lady” status.

Here are 10 things that successful girl bosses do that other women don’t.

1) They wake up early

Most successful people wake up early and badass boss ladies know this.

If they wake up two hours earlier than they should, for example, they get two hours to spend on themselves.

They usually use this time to meditate (they’re in a high-pressure job so this is a must), to eat breakfast slowly, to cuddle their pets, and to exercise. These small habits can help them to become more productive throughout the day.

Some people can just get up then go to work, but badass lady bosses see that as a recipe for burnout.

Badass boss ladies know the importance of a good morning routine.

2) They dress the part

You might think this is sexist and superficial, but this doesn’t just apply to women and this isn’t about looking pretty—it’s about looking respectable.

Anyone who wants to create a career should know how one’s physical appearance affects so many things. People in general still judge the book by its cover so it’s a must to give them a good impression.

Badass boss ladies don’t wear boring office clothes. They just don’t wear a sleazy outfit if they’re going to have an important meeting or presentation. They make sure they have good hygiene and that they smell pleasant, too.

Badass boss ladies also know how good clothes improve confidence by 1000% so it’s like hitting two birds with one stone.

3) She knows what men want

A badass woman brings out the best in her partner.

She doesn’t waste time playing games, indulging in drama, or messing about with the feelings of others.

We all need to live meaningful lives and earn the respect of the people we care about.

That’s what men want from a relationship above all else — respect. More than love and even more than sex.

There’s a new concept in relationship psychology that spells all this out. It’s called the hero instinct.

A badass women doesn’t need help from a man, but she equally isn’t afraid to let him solve little problems, come to her aid, and prove himself useful. She knows this gives him a sense of meaning and purpose.

To learn more about the hero instinct, check out this quick video by nationally renowned relationship expert James Bauer.

He reveals the things you can say, texts you can send, and little requests you can make to trigger this very natural instinct in your man.

Here’s a link to the excellent video again.

4) They fake it till they make it

Badass boss ladies don’t wait until they’re ready, they “wing it” and just learn as they go.

This doesn’t mean that they’ll lie to get to the top. They know that they have to grab a good opportunity even if they still haven’t figured out all the details yet…and then they’ll figure it out afterwards.

They know they have to pretend like they know what they’re talking about even if there’s a voice that says they’re not good enough.

Women tend to be more shy and insecure especially when it comes to their careers. They feel that they have to be an expert at something before they even become confident.

But bad ass boss ladies don’t wait for the time they’re ready. Basically, they do what men do all the time.

5) They’re more than just a pretty face

Badass boss ladies know that it’s important to be knowledgeable. Sure, they might have been hired for their leadership abilities, but that alone isn’t enough to make sure they’re keeping everything straight.

Most people are generally prejudiced against women in leadership positions. Some even quit simply because their superiors are younger than them, and happen to be women.

One way to counteract this is to prove that they’re more than just a pretty face. They would try to learn what their subordinates do, for example, so that when they check up on them, they can tell when someone is slacking or doing things wrong.

An upside to this is that when someone quits or tries to dupe them, they can take over as needed and keep the ship afloat.

Badass boss ladies act like captains of the ship, and no captain doesn’t know how to anchor a boat.

6) They don’t let their insecurities get in the way

If you’re born female, chances are that the world will shape you to become an insecure woman—from the way you look to how you should talk, there’s always something that has to be improved.

Even the most confident women had to deal with this at some point. What sets them apart is that they deal with it and get over it.

If you’ve been insecure all your life, there’s a way to get rid of this insecurity that’s been nagging you.

The most effective way is to tap into your personal power.

You see, we all have an incredible amount of power and potential within us, but most of us never tap into it. We become bogged down in self-doubt and limiting beliefs. We stop doing what brings us true happiness.

I learned this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. He’s helped thousands of people align work, family, spirituality, and love so they can unlock the door to their personal power.

He has a unique approach that combines traditional ancient shamanic techniques with a modern-day twist. It’s an approach that uses nothing but your own inner strength – no gimmicks or fake claims of empowerment.

Because true empowerment needs to come from within.

In his excellent free video, Rudá explains how you can create the life you’ve always dreamed of and increase attraction in your partners, and it’s easier than you might think.

So if you’re tired of living in frustration, dreaming but never achieving, and of living in self-doubt, you need to check out his life-changing advice.

Click here to watch the free video.

7) They’re always eager to learn and be taught

Curiosity is something that drives many women who become the cool or badass boss at work. They know that they don’t know it all, and are always eager to go out and seek knowledge.

They would throw themselves into new experiences so that they can learn firsthand, read books to expose herself to new ideas as well as the thoughts and feelings of others, and seek out people who are willing to teach them.

Some things are just hard to understand unless they have witnessed it firsthand, while there are others that are best taught by willing mentors. Sometimes it’s just not necessary to invent the wheel all over again, after all.

There is no room for pride here. They know that even if they rise to the very top, there’s always something that someone at the very bottom can probably teach them.

8) They’re cautious, yet adaptable

Work can sometimes get really hectic, and sometimes they might find themselves thrust into new and unexpected situations.

In times like these, the badass boss grits their teeth and tries to find a way to make things work.

And they won’t settle for just any random solution, either. They know that bad solutions can cause even more problems than they solve. Because of that, they think things through and do their best to keep their solutions smart, ethical, and efficient.

They know that a lot depends on them, and that it can be easy for them to fall into traps if they aren’t careful. So they make sure to examine everything before they take a certain direction, hire a person, or purchase something.

9) They genuinely respect their coworkers

Respect is something that good bosses earn from their colleagues and subordinates, and they earn that respect by being genuinely respectful themselves.

A badass boss isn’t going to discriminate against the company janitor even if they’re at the bottom of the ladder, and neither are they going to suck up to their own superiors simply because they have a higher rank.

They know that morale is very important in the workplace, and by being genuine and respectful towards everyone they work with, they are going to keep everyone’s spirits high.

They become so liked that even after they retire, everyone in the office will keep on talking about how good they were.

10) They track their progress regularly and consistently

Some of us can go through a whole month or a whole year without bothering to self-reflect or check on how far we’ve progressed professionally and personally.

But not badass ladies, no.

One of the things that builds them up for success is the fact that they take the time to slow down, think, and keep themselves up to date on their progress.

How much progress did they make on their projects? Are their current goals currently worth the effort? Did they succeed in applying the lessons they’ve learned from their failures?

Things like these and more are at the forefront of their mind. They don’t obsess though—it’s not like they’re tracking things every day, because that would exhaust them and leave them unproductive. But they will try to keep themselves up to date at least once a month.

In other words, they make sure they have a well-examined life.

11) They always make sure they aren’t being bossy

The most badass thing a boss can do is, ironically enough, not being bossy.

Bossiness is something that people do when they are insecure about their own power and want to reassure themselves by lording over other people. A good boss—which is what a badass girl boss is—knows that they should keep themselves accessible and approachable.

They invest in their relationship with their subordinates and make sure they’re not just some unreachable figure who only comes by to give them orders.

They get to forge genuine connections. Among other things, this means that if they ever make mistakes (even badass bosses make them) their subordinates won’t be as afraid to tell them about it.

Is your relationship badass too?

You don’t need a boyfriend or husband, but who isn’t happier in a loving relationship?

I briefly mentioned the hero instinct above.

What I didn’t share is that triggering this instinct is the difference between a relationship soaring off to new heights, or fizzling out (like so many relationships do)

So, are you ready to take action?

Watch this free video from James Bauer, a leading relationship expert who was the first one to coin this term.

You will learn all about this amazing new concept, and exactly what you can do to trigger it in your man.

The hero instinct really is the best-kept secret in relationship psychology and the key to male commitment.

Click here to watch the free video.

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