Most of us are pretty well versed in the “red flags” to look out for in men…but what about the subtle (and obvious) signals that he’s on track to being an excellent life partner?
It occurred to me recently, while listening to a girlfriend go around in circles about the guy she’s dating, that many women don’t actually know the signs of a man who’s genuine, serious about the relationship, and in love.
It’s like we’re programmed to think the worst, jump to conclusions, and write most men off as “time-wasters”.
But the truth is, when a man does want to settle down, he makes it clear. We just need to know which signs to look out for.
So, here are 10 green flags a man is finally ready for commitment:
1) He’s committed to personal growth
This might not seem like an obvious green flag, but when a man decides to work on himself, it’s usually a sign he’s ready to commit.
He’s recognized that it’s time to put the immature ways of his youth behind him and work towards becoming the man he wants to be; responsible, reliable, and trustworthy.
But there’s more to it than just that…
When a man thinks about taking that next big step, he starts to realize that if he wants YOU to commit as well, he needs to step up to the plate and show he takes his role in the relationship seriously.
And this, ladies, is not only the mark of a man who’s thinking long term but someone who’s determined to be the man you need him to be!
2) He’s comfortable talking about the future
It’s usually pretty easy to spot a guy who’s afraid of commitment – they’ll rarely make plans for the future that involve you.
So, if the man in your life is ready, you’ll notice that “I” quickly becomes “We”.
“We should take a trip next year around Europe.”
“We should think about the best place to live to accommodate both our jobs.”
“In 10 years, we’ll have our dream home, you’ll see.”
If you’re also ready to commit, comments like this will make your heart skip a beat.
It shows he’s on the same page and no longer fears making a commitment to you.
3) He introduces you to friends and family
Now, another green flag a man is finally ready for commitment is if he proudly shows you off to his loved ones.
Guys who aren’t considering the long-term will usually hold off from doing this.
They might introduce you to a casual friend or two, but you probably won’t be meeting Grandma and his extended family.
So, if he’s making plans to take you to family weddings, Christmas with the grandparents, and game night with his best buddies…he’s absolutely ready to commit to you.
Introducing you to his inner circle is a way to get the ball rolling…and to see how well you fit in with his tribe!
4) He talks about exclusivity
When it comes to love and relationships, I find most people overthink things. Sometimes, it’s good to strip it back to basics and simply listen to what people say in order to measure how they feel…
For example, if your man has spoken to you about being exclusive….it’s because he wants to be exclusively committed to you!
In fact, this is one of the most simple yet promising signs that he’s ready to move from just dating to being in a committed relationship.
The fact that he was the one to bring it up also signals that he’s keen and enthusiastic to take this next step with you…a major green flag in my eyes!
5) He has emotional maturity
Ladies, if the man you’re with displays great emotional maturity, you’re onto a winner.
This means he:
- Resolves conflict calmly and fairly
- Looks for solutions rather than problems
- Avoids playing petty mind games or giving the cold shoulder
- Take responsibility for his actions
A lot of this will be linked to what I mentioned at the start of the article – personal growth.
As he works to improve himself, he’ll naturally start learning how to manage his emotions and as a result, form better relationships with those around him.
All of this makes him more ready to commit, especially now that the idea of being vulnerable and entwining his life with another person feels less scary!
6) He prioritizes you
Does your man make it clear how important you are in his life…through action and not just words?
Does he care, love, and respect you?
If so, this is another green flag to look out for!
But note – when I say “makes you a priority” I don’t mean that he puts everything else in his life on hold. That’s not realistic or fair.
I mean that he divides his time as equally as possible.
He doesn’t give up on his responsibilities (like going to work or caring for his elderly parents), he maintains a healthy social life, AND he makes sure you’re well looked after too.
He’ll make compromises, factor you into his decisions, and never make you feel like you’re an afterthought.
7) He’s making space for you in his life
Carrying on from the previous point, if a man does make space for you amongst everything else he’s got going on, girl, he’s totally ready to commit.
You’re no longer just a cute date to occupy Friday evenings. You’re not someone who he considers a booty call or a “situationship”.
He’s actively making room for you. If you’re not living together, he might offer you a few drawers in his cupboard so you can keep personal items at his.
He’ll give you a key.
He’ll want to know your schedule so he can work around yours, making sure to always get in good quality time.
Trust me, men don’t do this for women they aren’t serious about.
8) He wants to know your opinion
When a man brushes past your opinion, no matter how small it is, it’s a major RED flag.
So, the opposite applies when he values your opinion and factors it into his decisions, it shows a level of respect.
I noticed that my husband started asking me for advice or what my thoughts were on little (and big things) not long before he asked me to move in.
It was the biggest indication that he was taking me seriously and wanted my input.
If your man has started doing the same, it’s a pretty good indication that he’s ready to commit…he sees you as his partner, his confidant, someone he trusts.
9) He’s consistent
Another green flag that indicates a man is ready for commitment is if he’s consistent with his behavior and actions…
In other words, he’s not hot and cold!
You always know where you start with him. His mood doesn’t change depending on the day or the weather.
And with this consistency, you feel like you can trust him.
On his end, he’s doing his best to be reliable and stable. This shows that he takes his commitment to you very seriously, even if you haven’t moved to the next step yet.
Put it this way – guys don’t step up and keep their word for just anyone, they reserve this consistency for those they truly care about!
10) He isn’t afraid of “relationship talk”
And finally, if you’re able to bring up the subject of your relationship and where it’s heading without him bolting for the door, it sounds like he’s ready for commitment.
The fact that he’s comfortable enough to talk about his feelings and discuss the future is proof that he’s already given it a lot of thought. And it doesn’t scare him.
What’s even more special is that he’s allowing himself to be vulnerable by engaging in conversations like this – a sign of a man who knows what he wants and understands his emotions.
So, if your man has ticked most of the green flags on this list, put those doubts to one side…
We’re so often conditioned to think that all men fear commitment, but in reality, many want to enjoy the beauty of creating a life with someone by their side.
And these signs are the biggest indication that he’s preparing for that!