Sometimes life seems like a huge struggle…
For almost 5 years I struggled to find inner peace and was lost in a whirlwind of anxiety and overthinking.
Because no matter what I tried I simply didn’t know enough about what true happiness means.
I was constantly fighting negative emotions which only made them worse. I couldn’t find peace because I couldn’t accept reality.
I really begun to think that perhaps I’d never be able to find peace and happiness.
I thought that I’d never be able to reach my full potential and grow up to be the man my parents had always wished I’d be.
That thought was soul destroying.
I was constantly exhausted, stressed, anxious and depressed.
But here’s the great thing…
After reading some Buddhist texts I finally realized the cause of my problems.
And through hard work I managed to implement their advice to make my life more fulfilling, productive and happy.
You see, according to Buddhism, the main source of suffering is attachments.
And once I realized that, I did a huge analysis of everything I was attached to and got completely rid of it.
Most of it was mental. Some of it was physical. But getting rid of ALL of it was liberating.
I’ve listed them below. I hope you can get as much out of them as I know I have.
1. Dwelling on the past and worrying about the future.
This one takes huge mental effort, but it’s important to realize that the present moment is the only thing that exists.
Whenever I noticed myself dwelling on the past, I anchored my mind to something that was happening right now, such as my breathing.
Whenever I was looking to the future in an anxious way, I did the same thing. Eventually it became more natural to fully live in the present.
2. Trying to live up to people’s expectations.
It’s important to have your own standards to hold yourself by. For example, I always strive to try my best, help others when I can and hold my word.
But besides that, I can’t do anything else. And worrying about what other people think of you won’t help anything.
3. Comparing yourself to others.
Again, this really doesn’t serve any purpose. If you’re trying your best and sticking to your own values, then there’s nothing else you can do.
And anyway, how could you possibly compare? We’re all unique with incredibly different circumstances.
4. Constantly complaining.
Let’s be honest, nobody likes a complainer. So don’t be one!
But once you make this a goal, you will begin to notice that you do complain. So my strategy to stop myself was to give a dollar to anyone I was complaining to.
Nothing stops a habit like losing money!
5. Being overly self-critical.
Just like above, if you’re trying your best and sticking to your values then you don’t need to criticize yourself. All it does is reduce your self-confidence. Be proud of who you are and how far you’ve come.
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6. Trying to be perfect.
This is a huge one that I’m sure many of you can relate to. Perfection can be a big cause of depression and anxiety. But no one will ever be perfect. And trying to be perfect will mean that you you’ll be afraid of trying anything new.
Remember, flaws are what make us human!
7. Holding grudges.
No one is responsible for my life but me. And why would you want to hold that negative energy inside you, anyway?
8. Trying to avoid mistakes.
Mistakes are scary, especially when you’re trying to be perfect. But mistakes and failures are actually a beautiful thing. They allow you to learn and grow. Remove mistakes and failures from your vocabulary and replace them with lessons.
9. Setting huge, massive goals.
Big goals won’t happen overnight, which is why I find setting big goals rather useless.
Instead focus on small day-to-day goals. Achieve them and eventually you’ll go somewhere you won’t have ever envisioned.
10. Making mountains out of molehills.
The more you take in stride, the less anxiety you will have. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
11. Desiring lifestyle upgrades.
I don’t know where you’re at, but my standard of living is fairly good. I’m not rich, but I’m not poor and can afford everything my family and I need. Desiring anything above that is useless. You’ll never be able to appreciate what you have right now if you’re always desiring.
12. Always being serious.
I believe that there really isn’t any reason we’re existing. We just are. And I don’t believe there is an afterlife. So if you only get life once, there’s really only one option: enjoy it and help others enjoy it, too.
13. Avoiding discomfort.
This was a tough one, but important. I decided to have a ridiculously cold shower every day to really implement this. I also physically destroyed myself every time I went for a run. At the time it wasn’t fun but now I look back and I think it really built my mental strength.
14. Holding onto relationships that bring you down.
We become attached to relationships, but if it’s not benefiting your life, then you need to cut them out. It’s simple, really.
15. Trying to do everything alone.
Humans are social species and you will need help if you want to achieve your goals.
16. Doubting yourself.
This was a huge one for me. And I’m sure for most people reading this. I just decided to stop it and back myself in every situation. Doubting yourself doesn’t offer any value in anything you’ll do.
17. Trying to control everything.
You can’t control everything. Look at your body right now. Your heart beats by itself. Your glands secretes essences by themselves. You don’t have voluntary control over these things. So you just have to trust that they’ll work as they’re supposed to. It’s the same with many others things in life. Do your best and then trust that everything will work out…
18. The need to be busy all the time.
Being in a rush isn’t cool. In fact, it just lowers your quality of work. I no longer feel guilty about doing nothing. It rechargers my batteries and when I get back to work, I’ll be much more refreshed and productive.
19. Judging others.
We’re all different with incredibly different life circumstances. It’s not fair to judge.
20. I stopped competing with others.
I want to achieve my goals. I want you to achieve your goals, too. I’m only competing with myself.
21. Chasing happiness
Happiness can’t be found. Forget about chasing it and focus on appreciating the present moment.
Now the problem is, you’re not going to learn how to let go of these things in a day, or even a month. It takes time, discipline, and consistent action.
I’ll be honest, it took me years to master the art of non-attachment and inner peace.
You see, when I first started learning about Buddhism and searching for practical techniques to help my own life, I had to wade through some really convoluted writing.
There wasn’t a book that distilled all this valuable wisdom in a clear, easy-to-follow way, with practical techniques and strategies.
This is why it took me so long to figure it all out. But I don’t want others to go through the same trial-and-error as I’ve been through.
So this is why I decided to write a book myself to help people going through a similar experience to what I went through.
So if you want make the process easier and quicker, I’m pleased to introduce to you The No-Nonsense Guide to Buddhism and Eastern Philosophy For a Better Life.
Within my book you’ll discover the core components of achieving happiness, anywhere at any time through:
- Creating a state of mindfulness throughout the day
- Learning how to meditate
- Fostering healthier relationships
- Unburdening yourself from intrusive negative thoughts
- Letting go and practicing non-attachment.
While I primarily focus on Buddhist teachings throughout the book – particularly as they relate to mindfulness and meditation – I also provide key insights and ideas from Taoism, Jainism, Sikhism and Hinduism.
Think of it this way:
I’ve taken 5 of the world’s most powerful philosophies for achieving happiness, and captured their most relevant and effective teachings—while filtering out the confusing jargon.
I then shaped them into a highly-practical, easy-to-follow guide for improving your life.
The book took me about 5 months to write and I’m pretty pleased with how it turned out. I hope you enjoy it too.
For a limited time, I’m selling my book for only $8. However, this price is likely to rise very soon.
Putting yourself first
Hey, Lachlan from Hack Spirit here.
What’s your number one goal at the moment?
Is it to buy that car you’ve been saving up for?
To finally start that side-hustle that’ll hopefully help you quit your 9-5 one day?
Or to take the leap and finally ask your partner to move in?
Whatever it is, you’re not going to get there, unless you’ve got a plan.
And even then…plans fail.
But I didn’t write this to you to be the voice of doom and gloom…
No, I’m writing this because I want to help you achieve the goals you’ve set.
I’ve recently been taking part in a workshop called Life Journal created by teacher and career coach Jeanette Brown.
Covering all the basics and more on what’s needed to reach your goals, Jeannette tackles everything from creating habits and new behavior patterns to putting your plans into action.
She doesn’t mess around – this workshop will require effort on your part but that’s the beauty of it – Jeanette has carefully designed it to put YOU in the driving seat of your life.
So…think back to that important goal I asked about at the start of this message.
How much do you want it?
Are you willing to put the effort in to get there?
If so, check out the workshop here.
If you do take part, I’d love to hear how your Life Journey goes!
All the best,
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