True love can move fast.
If you’ve met a guy and are hitting it off in all sorts of exciting ways and getting strong feelings, you may be wondering how he’s feeling on his end.
There are actually a number of early indicators that he’s also thinking you might be the one he wants to be with for life.
23 early signs he thinks you’re the one
1) He gives you thoughtful and amazing gifts
One of the first early signs he thinks you’re the one is that he brings you various thoughtful and amazing gifts.
We’re talking more than just a stuffed teddy bear or a lame card.
I mean nice bracelets, a shirt he picked out on vacation, a subscription to a magazine he knows you love, things like that …
He’s clearly put some thought into it and thought about you more than just a little.
And that’s special.
2) He cooks for you and takes you to great restaurants
If this guy can cook, he’s going to save his savory creations for the girls who really mean something to him.
Who knew bruschetta could taste so divine?
Even if he can’t cook, one of the most important early signs he thinks you’re the one is that he takes you to genuinely tasteful restaurants.
This doesn’t always equate to “expensive.”
It may just be restaurants with a unique vibe or cool types of food. The kind of places you can tell he had you in mind when he chose.
3) He’s introducing you to those closest to him
One of the biggest early signs he thinks you’re the one is that he’s very open about introducing you to those closest to him.
His own mom? His best friend?
He’s all about that.
You’re the one special girl for him and he wants literally everyone to know, very soon in your relationship.
“When someone sees you as “The One,” they are proud and even enthusiastic about showing you off and introducing you to their friends, family, and business associates.”
4) He opens up to you about what matters most to him
We’re all different when it comes to opening up. I tend to be a bit on the oversharing side.
Others verge more into the locked down vault style: they hate to talk about their feelings and personal experiences.
But a guy who’s in love and thinks you could be “the one” is going to try to open up to the best of his abilities.
He may not always do it well, but he’ll certainly try.
5) He’s really in love with you, not just a generic ‘version’ of you
One of the most important things about a man who’s really in love is that he doesn’t wing it.
If anything, he holds himself back.
And when he’s really in love, he’ll love very, very specific things about you like the way your nose curves up at the end and the way you look when you’re almost asleep.
You’ll be able to tell he’s not just randomly complementing your butt or saying you’re generally “hot.”
“It’s one thing to be told you have beautiful eyes or a nice butt—those things are obvious, and you’ve probably had to listen to people complimenting you on them since the dawn of time.
“But when a man is in love, he’ll find every last detail about you and fall in love with every single one.”
6) He’s all about getting you to laugh
This guy might not be called Josh, but if he can’t seem to quit joshing around you, then it’s a big sign that he feels you could be the woman for him.
No matter whether he has a genuinely great sense of humor or not, he’s going to try to brighten up your world.
And one of the best tools that any of us have at our disposal when it comes to improving someone’s day or life is the following:
Our sense of humor.
7) He communicates with you regularly
Another of the strong early signs he thinks you’re the one is that he communicates with you regularly.
He makes an effort to answer your texts and calls and says goodnight and goodmorning whenever he can.
This matters, in particular, because it shows that you’re one of the first things he thinks about when he says bye to the world at night and greets it again in the morning.
That’s a big win.
8) He eyes up you like you’re a creamy chocolate cake
Another one of the top early signs he thinks you’re the one is that he sometimes stares at you for absolutely no reason.
You’re out buying groceries or buying a morning coffee with him and he’s looking at you like Medieval peasants who first saw Michelangelo’s work on the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel.
You thought you were just a woman, but he seems to see more than that.
That’s because he sees the woman he wants to love physically and emotionally for the rest of his life.
9) He makes it official for the world to see
Another of the important early signs he thinks you’re the one is that he makes it official on social media.
Obviously this can be a bad thing if he does it too soon or without your permission.
But given that he does this respectfully and at the right time, it’s his way of being clear that he’s no longer single and telling the whole wide world that you’re his girl for real.
“He posts pictures of you on his Facebook, Instagram, and other social media feeds, and he changes his relationship status to clearly state that he’s ‘in a relationship.’”
10) His body language is very much all about you
Never underestimate the power of body language.
A guy who’s into you will often show many physical signs, such as pointing his body towards you, making steady eye contact and playing with his hair, face and fidgeting.
“If your guy is just always giddy and he’s just always smiling when he’s around you, and he stares at you, always wants to hold your hand, make some kind of body contact with you… That’s definitely a sign.”
11) He never gets tired of talking to you (even when you do!)
Another one of the prime early signs he thinks you’re the one is that he never gets tired of talking to you even when you get tired of it.
This can be a little exasperating, of course.
But just keep in mind that his keen desire to keep talking to you is a sign of how much he loves you.
Plus, it’s kind of flattering to know that anyone finds us so scintillating that they don’t get tired of speaking with us even after two hours…
12) His kisses are on fire
There’s no way to guarantee what someone else is feeling when you lock lips.
But if you’re feeling like you just downed a few shots of whiskey at the same time, he could well be feeling the same things, too.
When his kisses are on fire and he initiates just as much or more than you do, then you know there’s a good chance he’s feeling more than just temporary attraction.
This sounds a lot more like he’s planning a life together with you.
13) His goofy, love-struck smiles never seem to end
We’re all happy when we’re with someone we’re attracted to.
But when it’s more about the physical or just a temporary fling, those smiles tend to be kind of brittle.
You look again and they’re gone or faded.
But when it’s real love and he really wants you beyond the momentary, the smile doesn’t fade.
It sticks around.
14) He wants to know the A to Z of you
A man who’s in love has one thing in unlimited supply:
A curiosity and attraction about his future mate.
Your favorite color and the summer camp you went to in 1999 are all high on his list of interests.
He also cares a lot about the trauma of you losing your dog Jimbo in second grade and wants to know about what your parents’ divorce was really like for you.
This guy isn’t just looking for a quick fling.
“A guy who is invested in you will take the time to ask you questions and get to know you on a deeper level.
“He’s naturally curious about you and pursues that interest by asking questions to learn all about you.”
15) He makes you a priority whenever he can
One of the most important early signs he thinks you’re the one is that he makes you a priority whenever he can.
He rearranges his schedule whenever possible to be with you.
He never forgets an important date and he’s got you on his mind even when it’s not something you expect or even hope for.
He’s constantly stopping by and making himself available even if his schedule is extremely busy.
16) He doesn’t roll over and sleep right after sex
If you’re physically intimate at this point then there’s something you should pay attention to in your sex life.
More specifically, after your sex life.
Does he roll over and lose interest in you immediately after doing the deed?
Or does he keep looking at you and touch you and want to spend more time with you?
That’s often the dividing line between love and lust, when it comes down to it.
17) He puts thought into what he writes to you
Another one of the most crucial early signs he thinks you’re the one is that he puts thought into what he writes to you.
I’m not talking about anything obsessive or meticulous here.
But his texts and longer emails he writes to you show a certain level of thought and care.
You can tell he’s not just dashing a last-minute message off to you as he goes.
And that can mean all the world when it comes to building a meaningful future together.
18) He goes the extra mile for you
One of the top signs he thinks you’re the one is that he goes out of his way for you to help out.
You see, for guys, it’s all about triggering their inner hero.
Could this be the relationship where she brings it out in you? Could this be the relationship where you bring it out in him?
I learned about this from the hero instinct. Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept is about what really drives men in relationships, which is ingrained in their DNA.
And it’s something most women don’t know anything about.
Once triggered, these drivers make men into the heroes of their own lives. They feel better, love harder, and commit stronger when they find someone who knows how to trigger it.
Now, you may be wondering why it’s called “the hero instinct”? Do guys really need to feel like superheroes to commit to a woman?
Not at all. Forget about Marvel. You won’t need to play the damsel in distress or buy your man a cape.
The truth is, it comes at no cost or sacrifice to you. With only a few small changes in how you approach him, you’ll tap into a part of him no woman has tapped into before.
The easiest thing to do is to check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here. He shares some easy tips to get you started, such as sending him a 12 word text that will trigger his hero instinct right away.
Because that’s the beauty of the hero instinct.
It’s only a matter of knowing the right things to say to make him realize that he wants you and only you.
19) He has little pet names for you and big plans
Even if you just started dating, one of the top signs that this guy is into it for real is that he has special pet names for you.
He also has big plans for your future.
But he doesn’t push it and is willing to move at your own speed.
That’s because even if he feels confident you’re the right girl for him, he knows that love is a two-way street and he respects the rules of the road.
20) He makes you feel more like yourself
One of the best things about a guy who’s right for you is that you don’t have to stretch yourself thin to be right for him.
Who you are is exactly what he’s looking for and exactly what you’re looking for.
That’s because he brings out the best in you and confirms years of work you’ve done on yourself.
The truth is, most of us overlook an incredibly important element in our lives:
The relationship we have with ourselves.
I learnt about this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. In his genuine, free video on cultivating healthy relationships, he gives you the tools to plant yourself at the center of your world.
He covers some of the major mistakes most of us make in our relationships, such as codependency habits and unhealthy expectations. Mistakes most of us make without even realizing it.
So why am I recommending Rudá’s life-changing advice?
Well, he uses techniques derived from ancient shamanic teachings, but he puts his own modern-day twist on them. He may be a shaman, but his experiences in love weren’t much different to yours and mine.
Until he found a way to overcome these common issues. And that’s what he wants to share with you.
So if you’re ready to make that change today and cultivate healthy, loving relationships, relationships you know you deserve, check out his simple, genuine advice.
21) He dresses up for you and cares how you see him
When a guy is just looking to get laid or go spend time with a girl who doesn’t mean much, here’s what he does:
He throws on a basic tee and jeans and runs a hand through his hair.
Then he shrugs and drives off.
22) He takes responsibility for what goes wrong
Another one of the big signs that a guy wants you for the long-term is that he takes responsibility for what goes wrong.
Let’s be honest:
Things will go wrong in any relationship, even one that’s founded on truly strong feelings.
And when this happens, this guy looks you square in the face and doesn’t shy away from the truth.
He’s willing to be a man and take the fall when he’s at fault.
This relates back to the unique concept I mentioned earlier: the hero instinct.
When a man feels respected, useful, and needed, he’s more likely to fall in love and think of you as his one and only.
And the best part is, triggering his hero instinct can be as simple as knowing the right thing to say over a text.
You can learn exactly what to do by watching this simple and genuine video by James Bauer.
23) He asks you to move in with him
I don’t know how long you’ve been dating.
But if he’s already talking about sharing a bed and a house, then he’s definitely not thinking of you as another six-month pump and dump.
This sounds like a guy who’s in good ol’ love.
“Yeah, I know. It’s a pretty f*cking big step to take. Hence, you don’t take it unless you think you’ve found the one.
“Otherwise, we’re not emotionally and financially capable of affording to change ‘roommates’ every six months. Unless… unless they’re the one.”
Do you think he’s ‘the one’ too?
If your guy is thinking you’re the one then you have a big question to ask yourself:
Do you think he’s “the one” for you, too?
Do you even believe in the idea of “the one?”
Maybe he’ll make you a believer, or maybe you’re in for a big let-down…
Be honest about where you’re at with yourself and with him.
Like I wrote, real love can move very quickly. But it’s also important to keep your feet when the wild waves of passion start rolling.
Enjoy the ride.
“The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved; loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves.”
Watch Justin Brown’s video below where he critiques the idea of “the one”.
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