10 reasons you dream about falling in love with a stranger

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You may have experienced falling in love once or twice, but what could it mean if it’s with someone you met in your dreams?

Well, the meaning varies from person to person. And the thing is, it’s not all about love.

In this article, I’m giving you 10 possible reasons why you may be dreaming about falling in love with a stranger and what you should do about it.

1) You have unfulfilled romantic desires

Dreaming of falling in love with a stranger might be your mind’s way of telling you to pay attention to your desires.

You see, we all have a lot of pent-up emotions inside of us that remain unexplored.

It could be that you are just discovering your sexuality or that you’re starting to develop feelings for someone new.

You might not have anyone to communicate or share with, and these strong feelings or your newfound identity are exciting you too much that it carries over in your dreams.

Take a hard look at yourself and try to find out what deep-seated desires you have.

2) You’ve been waiting for someone to save you

This usually happens if you’re having doubts about your relationship.

Dreams are sometimes another mode of escape when your conscious world is too much to handle.

Dreaming of being in love with a stranger provides you relief in an otherwise loveless reality.

Take heed though, because you might be sucked in too much into the dream and get fixated on this stranger to the point that you reject the waking and tangible right in front of you.

As much as possible, try to fix what’s in front of you first before exploring something new…even if your subconscious says so.

3) It’s telling you to shake things up

A dream like this could mean that you’re stuck and that you need to meet new people to help you awaken something inside you.

Or it could not be limited to persons since the stranger could symbolize something else.

Think again of this stranger in your dream. What does the person represent?

Were they doing some hobbies like rock climbing or sport fishing? Your dream could simply mean that you must try doing those things. Doing so could either lead you to your soulmate, or it could lead to a hobby that could re-spark your life.

When you have these dreams you must be ready for change.

4) You’re ready for love

Having a dream about falling in love with a stranger is a clear indication that you’re definitely ready for love.

You might have experienced love before or been eager to try it out, so much so that you constantly think about what it should be and how you should go about it.

You used to think about the rules too much— the do’s and don’ts, the “what ifs”, you used to fixate on finding “the one” and nothing less.

This has made you rigid and closed off.

But now, things have slowly changed and your heart is prepared to ride the waves or love.

5) It’s a warning about an existing relationship

Your dream could be triggering a red flag about your current relationship.

And unlike #2, you’re not aware that you’re stuck in a relationship you don’t like, you actually believe things are perfectly okay.

But your dreams know the real you, and most of the time, it’s there to guide you.

Dreaming about falling in love with a stranger is your subconscious telling you that there is something not quite right about your relationship.

It might not be too obvious on the surface so it manifests in your dreams.

Perhaps your real-life lover is not exciting you as much, or you are no longer satisfied with them emotionally…so your subconscious is looking for options.

Use this time to reflect and see if you can still fix things before it’s too late.

6) That stranger is your muse

Love and dreams dominate the creative world in terms of inspiration. So this is your chance to find a spring of material.

Make some creative output and channel it into your art, your writing, or music.

You can build up on magical worlds so just keep dreaming and remember these strong feelings well so that you can use them to visualize your ideas.

7) You need to know more about yourself

Most of our dreams are reflections of ourselves, therefore it would do you good to focus on yourself.

Maybe the stranger in your dream represents your ideal version of yourself…and so you should try to be like them.

How vivid are the details about this stranger in your dreams?

Knowing their characteristics tells you a lot about what kind of person you consider ideal.

Maybe you need to take some time off to search for yourself or reconnect with your true nature—know what things you really want out of life and try to pursue them in your waking life.

8) It’s a sign to be more proactive in your relationships

If you’re dreaming about falling in love with a stranger, it might be your subconscious telling you that you need to take initiative in your relationships…and I mean relationships in general.

This could perhaps mean that you need to be more approachable when talking with people.

Or when you have relationships with others that are bothering you, you might need to be more risque—be confrontational about your feelings if you have a crush or express yourself more if there are things you think you cannot say.

Think of the relationships you have and ask yourself how you can help improve them.

How can you participate more in your relationships?

9) You need to readjust your goals

When you dream of being in a relationship with more than one stranger, it means you are ambitious and you want more than what you currently have.

It might not even be connected to romantic goals, but just a sign that you need to achieve more or acquire certain things, and the lover is just the representation of the object or goal you really want.

Think of the life you used to dream of when you were still a kid. Think of the version of yourself that you used to imagine. Maybe it’s time to start working on them.

10) You need to prepare yourself

Do you have a feeling that the stranger in your dream is unattainable?

Do they remain a stranger, with vague features, and you cannot even recall their face the moment you wake up?

This might be because you are not ready for love so the image does not flesh out clearly for you.

You might need to wait it out a little longer and make some changes in your life so the person in your dream will slowly turn into reality.

Think of the things you should improve about yourself so you can love in the waking world.

Is it your insecurity? Your trust issues?

Figuring out how you can be ready for real love could lead you to the person of your dreams.

It’s telling you that love is within reach but only once you’ve figured out yourself first.

Does love really affect our dreams?

We spend a third of our lives in slumber.

Sleep seems to be a totally different part of our lives but the brain is still active and deeply connected to our waking world by the time we close our eyes.

Our brain conjures these images in our sleep called dreams. We are no strangers to this phenomenon because a person has an average of 3 to 6 dreams per night, even if we don’t remember most of them.

A dream can last 5 to 20 minutes but 95% of the time will be forgotten by the time we wake up. The ones we do remember though, must mean something. Why, against all odds, do we retain fragments of it if they mean nothing?

Here comes love—what many would argue to be the most powerful emotion that moves every waking moment of our lives.

Is love really bound by our waking moments, or does it invade us in our dreams as well? We all know the answer to that.

Love affects much of our body’s chemistry.

Those “butterflies in the stomach”? It’s caused by the increase in the love hormone oxytocin, which amplifies all the warm and fuzzy feelings. Many other hormones are affected like dopamine and serotonin, among many other chemicals that greatly affect our romantic behaviors.

If these chemicals affect us in our waking hours, there is no reason why they shouldn’t creep up the brain during sleep.

Feeling love in a dream must be a very emotionally charged experience, and in other cases, very overwhelming to the point that they feel very real.

Dreams by themselves are perplexing enough as they are, but the enigma doubles when a lover is thrown into the mix.

What you should do about it

There is little else you can do about dreams because you cannot really control them.

The question is…what can you do in your waking life after dreaming about falling in love with a stranger.

If you happen to meet that person

They resemble the person who is the object of your affection in your dreams.

This must be a fateful meeting that you shouldn’t take lightly. You dreamed of that person for reasons that could have been mentioned above.

It most likely is a challenge for you to change your life because of this meaningful encounter.

Try to grab any chance to connect with them. Small attempts like initiating conversation or an extra smile might be all you need.

If it really is a destined connection, then you will have more opportunities to get together.

You don’t have to rush things or you might do something rash and regret it.

If you’re waiting for that person to come

When you feel high in love, you might feel excited and eager all the time and you don’t want this euphoria to end.

Sadly, it’s not fulfilling to just stay in the dream world. You have to wake up and say goodbye to your dream lover.

So you try to look for this stranger and make the dream into reality.

There is nothing wrong with searching for that special someone, but don’t obsess over it. There is a chance you might close off connections with other people because you are too engrossed in this character that exists all in your head.

You might be letting go of existing relationships, including friendships and family ties, or even letting it affect your work performance because you only focus on that exact person you see in your dreams.

Don’t forget that you have a life to live and there are other people that surround you.

There are many reasons why you see this stranger in your dreams and why you feel a certain way, so don’t strain yourself and fix your future in something uncertain.

If it’s meant to be, it will happen. All you have to do is be graceful as you wait.

If you’re currently in a relationship

Considering the reasons stated above, you might have a lot of frustrations if you fail to communicate with your partner.

You need to get it off your chest and talk it out with them so you have a better understanding of both your situations. Maybe they have something to say as well.

Even if these dreams suggest you try something new or that you are discovering a new side of yourself, this doesn’t mean that you let go of your current lover—at least, not immediately.

It might just mean that you need to reignite the fire you once had for each other.

How to go about this?

Explore new things with your partner and give your relationship a facelift.

Again, it doesn’t have to be drastic. It could be a new hobby or even a new TV show. It could also be sexual since lust and love go hand in hand.

Try to approach this carefully and be flexible to any suggestions your partner proposes. You could figure it out together and create an even stronger bond than ever before.

If you’re really bothered by it

Dreams about falling in love with a stranger might be electrifying for some, but it might be causing you anxiety and discomfort.

It’s okay since what you feel with your dreams is perfectly within the range of the expected reactions.

Not everyone relishes the prospect of falling in love and with a stranger to boot!

There might be some traumatic experiences you have to deal with or you’re not too thrilled to be with strangers.

If these dreams are causing you disturbance in your sleep, you can try to relax and meditate before going to bed.

Doing this will encourage dreamless sleep. You can try adjusting your routine and nighttime habits like incorporating a bit of exercise.

You can also pay less attention to the dreams and dismiss them if you really want, so this way their significance will lessen. Actually, as you keep thinking about the dream in the daytime, this will spur the mind to replay it in your sleep the following night.

So keep busy and focus your energy on other positive things like cultivating your relationships—the ones you already have.

If nothing helps, seek therapy.


Exploring the subconscious mind can be an intense journey, filled with unexpected turns and reveals.

And uncovering why you dream of romancing a mysterious stranger is only one part of this incredible experience – that’s just the tip of the iceberg.

There is so much to be explored in dreams and we may never completely understand them. You need to look hard and deep within yourself to know what they can signify for you.

You can go whichever way you want with your love despite your dreams because these things are not bound by rules of logic anyway.

Only you can truly decide what they mean because your experiences are unique to you and make you who you are.

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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