This is the complete guide to help you figure out what you want to do with your life.
So if you feel like you don’t know what to do with your life, and you have no idea where to start to actually figure it out, you’ll love the strategies and tips in this guide.
It’s not as complex as you might think. You just need to understand yourself.
We’ve got a lot to cover, so let’s get started.
1) Five honest questions you need to answer
If you want to figure out what will make you happy and what you want to be in five, ten years, then the most important first step is to simply talk to yourself.
Oftentimes we assume too much about what we think we know about ourselves, but the truth is that we are changing all the time without even realizing it.
A technique that I found helpful in figuring out what I want to do with my life was journaling.
By writing down what I was thinking and feeling, I felt like I had clarity on what I actually want to do with my life.
Writing helps your mind slow down so you can structure the information in your head. It’s also a great way to release and understand your emotions.
Keep in mind that part of figuring out what you want to do with your life involves understanding and expressing your differing emotions.
Writing helps you express yourself in a safe environment. No one is going to read what you’re about to write.
To begin writing, ask yourself these questions:
1) What do I really want?
It can be difficult to figure out what to do with your life, but you must have an idea of what you truly want.
We’ve all got needs, wants and desires. Now is the time to figure out yours.
If you think that you’ve already figured out what you want, but you’ve never been able to get there, then either what you think you want isn’t what you truly want or it wasn’t a powerful enough need.
Because when you truly want or need something, you figure out a way.
And no, we’re not talking about “things” or “possessions”. I’m talking about your purpose and motivation in life that goes beyond superficial needs and desires.
Is it freedom? Security? Family? Health? Love? Let it all out and get to know your desires from the inside out.
2) What am I no longer willing to accept?
What are you sick of? What about life just irks you to your core?
Think about it, let it out and let’s figure out how you can be done with it for good.
The truth is, most of us become complacent. Even when things annoy us, we learn to accept it and never take action.
If you don’t have any clue about what to do with your life, then you need to consider what you’re no longer able to accept.
If you don’t, then you won’t be able to move forward. Don’t hold back. Express yourself fully and work out what’s really making you angry and unfulfilled in life.
3) What makes me happy?
Do you hate working? Find it’s a chore? It’s time to figure out what you’re truly passionate about.
Because when you’re passionate, nothing feels like work. Everything is fun.
Even if you start to do what you love as a hobby. It will be time well spent and you’ll be well on your way to being truly happy when you’re engaged in what you love.
4) Are my current habits enabling me to live the life I want?
The quality of our lives is directly related to our foundational habits that we routinely run on a daily basis.
Significant change doesn’t happen in an instant. It takes lots of little gains every single day.
So once you’ve figured out what you truly want in life and what you’re no longer willing to accept, it’s time to figure if you have the right habits to achieve those goals.
Is what you’re doing helping you achieve your goals? It’s time to answer that question seriously.
5) How can I add value to this world?
When you’re feeling lost and directionless, this is an extremely important question to ask yourself.
If you’re not thinking about how you can add value to the world around you, then you’re not thinking about the big picture.
The truth is, most people don’t work hard. They want to get, get, get with the most minimal amount of giving.
Why? Because most people don’t care about a long-term vision and they only care about their own short-term vision.
But people who live a truly fulfilling and successful life don’t think like that. They realize that nothing in life comes easy and it takes time to build anything truly amazing.
They also understand that the world doesn’t revolve around them. You have to think about other people and help them live a great life, too.
This Gandhi quote summarizes why you need to focus on others when you’re feeling lost:
“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” – Mahatma Gandhi
Once you have answered these questions, you’ll have a better idea of what you want to do with your life.
After all, it’s only you that can answer that.
2) Make an action plan and set your goals
Now that you have a better idea of what you want to do with your life, it’s time to set an action plan.
Don’t just sit on the couch and let life pass you by, get out there and set some goals for yourself.
If you want to get to a point where you’re doing what you want to do, you need to work for it.
And the truth is, without goals, you lack direction and focus.
Setting goals allows you to take control of where your life is heading.
Here are 3 golden rules for setting goals (so you achieve them):
1) Set SMART goals.
You’ve probably heard of this acronym before. It’s popular because it works. Here’s what it means:
Specific: Your goals must be clear and well-defined.
Measurable: Label precise amounts and dates. For example, if you want to reduce expenses, what amount do you want to reduce them to?
Attainable: Your goals have to be achievable. If they’re too difficult, you’ll lose motivation.
Relevant: Your goals should be aligned with where you want to get to and what you want to do.
Time-bound: Set yourself a deadline for your goals. Deadlines force you to get things done, and not procrastinate.
2) Set your goals in writing
Don’t just rely on your brain to remember your goals. Physically write down each goal, no matter how small it is. Putting a line through your goal will give you the motivation to keep going.
3) Make an action plan.
You’re not going to achieve your big goals in a day. You need to write out individual steps to get there. Cross them off as you complete them to give you more motivation.
3) Live in the present moment and take action now
There’s only one thing you have control over: the present moment.
Yet so many of us spend our days lost in the regrets of the past or worries about the future.
If you can relate to this, then no wonder you feel lost. You can’t create a life you love if you’re not focusing on your actions in the present moment.
It’s only by focusing on what you can do right now that you’ll be able to find yourself and work towards creating a life that’s meaningful and purposeful.
“Focus on opportunities not setbacks. Focus on what you can do, not what you can’t. Focus on the present moment, not the past or the future. Empower yourself!” ― Akiroq Brost
Living in the present moment empowers you to take action. If you followed the above steps and you understand what you want to do with your life, then it’s important to take practical action to make that a reality.
Here are some tips to take meaningful action in the present moment:
1) Focus only on single tasks, no matter how small it is.
2) Do your tasks in a slow, relaxed pace. Take it in and enjoy it.
3) Minimize checking things like Facebook. They’re distractions that take you away from the task you’re doing.
4) Tell yourself: Now I am…As you do something, simply tell yourself what you’re doing. If you’re brushing your teeth, tell yourself that and only do that.
5) Start a meditation practice. This is a great way to learn to calm your mind and improve your focus. You’ll find that you’re more productive when your mind is clear and you know what you need to do.
(For in-depth information on how to practice meditation, check out our guide to meditation here.)
In the end, time is the most valuable resource you have, and every second you spend doing something unproductive, something that adds nothing to your value as a person, is another second you have thrown down the drain.
You are getting older every day, and one day you’re going to wake up and hate yourself for not starting the path to your ultimate goals 5, 10, 20 years ago.
Don’t make that mistake while you’re young, and if you’re already old, don’t keep making that mistake today.
Start taking action now.
4) Accept that you don’t have full control of the future
We obsess too much over stability and security. The modern life has taught us that we should always know where we’re going, what we’re doing, and we should always have a Plan A, Plan B, Plan C, Plan D, and more.
As great as it is to be prepared, all this preparation has traumatized us against the possibility of the unknown. We are so afraid of choices with no clear results that we would rather not make any choices at all.
It’s time to accept. Accept that life is uncertain and the future is unsure. Once you have accepted that, you can focus on taking meaningful action to create a life you love.
Your future is determined by all the little actions you do every day. If we chase our dreams, do what we want to do, and don’t stray off the paths we choose, then there’s no reason why you won’t reach the destination you’re looking for.
While you will never be able to predict the future, you can do your best to get the future you want.
5) Start saving
This tip may be more practical than the others on the list, but that doesn’t make it any less important.
Money is an undeniable part of society, and having the money to pursue your dreams is absolutely necessary.
Whether it’s to go to school, study abroad, work somewhere else, start a business, or spend a year or two traveling, you will need money to do these things.
Make sure you don’t get stuck living paycheck to paycheck, or else you will never have the time or resources to pursue what you want.
Whether you have a high income or a low income, there are 2 simple principles to save money:
1) Tackle high-interest debt first: In order to start saving more, you have to tackle your debt head-on, especially high-interest debt that forces you to pay outrageous fees and interests charges.
2) Cut down expenses: Pretty simple. Have a look at all your expenses and figure out what you can realistically cut down. $5 a day ends up being $140 a month. Keep your budget lean and spend in moderation.
Another popular piece of advice from financial gurus is the 50/30/20 rule.
It means that at least 20% of your income should go towards savings. Meanwhile, another 50% should go towards necessities, while 30% goes towards discretionary items.
6) Accept discomfort
We spend so much time trying to be comfortable. We need the perfect room temperature, the perfect drink, the perfect pajamas, the perfect chair.
But comfort means you’re not pushing yourself; comfort means that your body is in a state of relaxation.
If you want something, you need to do whatever you can to get it, even if it means lowering your quality of life for a while.
Most of us hate experiencing emotions like anxiety and stress, but if we actively avoid these emotions, it means we’re not living a full life.
Unfortunately, emotions like this are part of being human, and the more we’re able to experience them, the more we’ll get out of life.
Trying new things enables us to figure out what we really want to do with our life.
We only get life once – so bask in life in all possible ways – the good, the bad, the bitter-sweet, the heartbreak – everything!
Here’s a great quote from Spiritual Master Osho:
“Experience life in all possible ways — good-bad, bitter-sweet, dark-light, summer-winter. Experience all the dualities. Don’t be afraid of experience, because the more experience you have, the more mature you become.”
7) Find someone who has done what want to do
If you’re struggling to figure out what steps to take to get to where you want to do, find someone who has already been there.
The great thing about the world today is that anything you might want to do has already been done by someone else.
If you want to be a writer, an actor, an artist, a great businessman, all the information is available to you online.
And if you want some personal experience, then go out and do it—volunteer at an organization or ask a professional if you can shadow them for a day or a week. Who knows: you might find that one thing that you can be passionate about.
8) Be confident in yourself
So many of us don’t go chasing what we truly want in life because we feel that we’re not good enough. Self-doubt creeps in and it stops us from taking action.
But as hard as it is, you’ve got to rise above it and be better. Know your value. Change your negative thoughts to positive thoughts.
And I know, this is easier said than done when you’re lost in a constant loop of negativity, but good things take time. It takes time and effort to rewire your brain to be more optimistic and confident.
Remember, the only thing you have control over is your actions. When your mind is telling you that you can’t do something, prove it wrong! It’s your servant, not your master.
You only get life once, so you may as well believe in yourself and make the most of it.
(To learn how to believe in yourself, check out our guide on how to love yourself here)
9) Always say yes
Opportunities are always out there—you just have to say yes. Even if the opportunity seems completely unrelated to what you want to do with your life, it never hurts to say yes.
Because experiences stack up and learning never stops—everything you do and interact with becomes a part of you.
When deciding what to do with your life, the first thing you need to learn is how to make the choice.
At the end of the day, you want to look back on your life knowing that you made choices, rather than sat at home fearing them.
Now go, get your life on track.
To figure out what you want to do with your life, follow these steps:
1) Be honest and ask yourself these questions: What do I really want? What am I no longer willing to accept? What makes me happy? Are my current habits enabling me to live the life I want?
2) Make an action plan and set your goals: Set SMART goals and put them in writing. Small steps lead to the achievement of a big goal.
3) Live in the present moment and take action now: If you followed the above steps and you understand what you want to do with your life, then it’s important to take practical action to make that a reality.
4) Accept that you don’t have full control of the future: Accept that life is uncertain and the future is unsure. Once you have accepted that, you can focus on taking meaningful action to create a life you love.
5) Start saving: Money is an undeniable part of society, and having the money to pursue your dreams is absolutely necessary.
6) Accept discomfort: If you want something, you need to do whatever you can to get it, even if it means lowering your quality of life for a while.
7) Find someone who has done what want to do: If you’re struggling to figure out what steps to take to get to where you want to do, find someone who has already been there.
8) Be confident in yourself: Remember, the only thing you have control over is your actions. When your mind is telling you that you can’t do something, prove it wrong! It’s your servant, not your master.
9) Say yes: At the end of the day, you want to look back on your life knowing that you made choices, rather than sat at home fearing them.
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