We often find ourselves at a crossroads in life, where two, ten, or a hundred paths are presented to us, yet each path is equally frightening or unknown.
We experience these crossroads and huge life choices in all stages of our life, and every single time we have to make a choice.
And the choice of not choosing any path is the worst choice of them all. You will stay stuck at that crossroads for as long as you are unwilling to make your decision.
For some people, they stay stuck at a certain crossroads until the day they die, unwilling to sum up the courage to choose any path their whole life.
Staying put in front of a crossroads is not living. A choice has to be made, even if you have no idea what the outcome may be. Because the truth is, you will never know which choice will be the best.
So if you don’t know want to do with your life, here are 15 ways to figure it out:
1) Talk To Yourself
If you want to figure out what will make you happy and what you want to be in five, ten years, then the most important first step is to simply talk to yourself.
Oftentimes we assume too much about what we think we know about ourselves, but the truth is that we are changing all the time without even realizing it.
2) What Do You Really Want?
It can be difficult to figure out what to do with your life, but you must have an idea of what you truly want.
We’ve all got needs, wants and desires. Now is the time to figure out yours.
If you think that you’ve already figured out what you want, but you’ve never been able to get there, then either your want isn’t what you truly want or it was a powerful enough need.
Because when you truly want or need something, you figure out a way.
And no, we’re not talking about “things” or “possessions”. I’m talking about your purpose and motivation in life that goes beyond superficial needs and desires.
Is it freedom? Security? Family? Health? Love? Let it all out and get to know your desires from the inside out.
3) What Are You No Longer Willing to Accept?
What are you sick of? What about life just irks you to your core?
Think about it, let it out and let’s figure out how you can be done with it for good.
The truth is, most of us become complacent. Even when things annoy us, we learn to accept it and never take action.
If you don’t have any clue about what to do with your life, then you need to consider what you’re no longer able to accept.
If you don’t, then you won’t be able to move forward. Don’t hold back. Express yourself fully and work out what’s really making you angry and unfulfilled in life.
4) What Makes You Happy?
Do you hate working? Find it’s a chore? It’s time to figure out what you’re truly passionate about.
Because when you’re passionate, nothing feels like work. Everything is fun.
Even if you start to do what you love as a hobby. It will be time well spent and you’ll be well on your way to being truly happy when you’re engaged in what you love.
5) Just Go with the Flow
We obsess too much over stability and security. The modern life has taught us that we should always know where we’re going, what we’re doing, and we should always have a Plan A, Plan B, Plan C, Plan D, and more.
As great as it is to be prepared, all this preparation has traumatized us against the possibility of the unknown. We are so afraid of choices with no clear results that we would rather not make any choices at all.
It’s time to accept. Accept that life is uncertain and the future is unsure. Once you have accepted that, you can just go with the flow, even if you don’t know what to do with your life.
6) What Are Your Habits Really Like?
Let’s be honest, habits are the biggest aspect when it comes to changing your life.
Significant change doesn’t happen in an instant. It takes lots of little gains every single day.
So once you’ve figured out what you truly want in life and what you’re no longer willing to accept, it’s time to figure if you have the right habits to achieve those goals.
Is what you’re doing helping you achieve your goals? It’s time to ask yourself that question seriously.
7) You Will Never Know the Future
But you can do your best to guide it.
Your future is determined by all the little actions you do every day. If we chase our dreams, do what we want to do, and don’t stray off the paths we choose, then there’s no reason why you won’t reach the destination you’re looking for.
While you will never be able to predict the future, you can do your best to get the future you want.
8) Live More in The Present Moment
There’s only one thing you have control over: The present moment.
Yet so many of us spend our days lost in the regrets of the past or worries about the future.
If you can relate to this, then no wonder you feel lost. You can’t create a life you love if you’re not focusing on your actions in the present moment.
It’s only by focusing on what you can do right now that you’ll be able to find yourself and work towards creating a life that’s meaningful and purposeful.
So, how can you live more in the present moment?
Here are 5 simple tips:
1) Focus only on single tasks, no matter how small it is.
2) Do your tasks in a slow, relaxed pace. Actually take it in and enjoy it.
3) Minimize checking things like Facebook. They’re distractions that take you away from the task you’re doing.
4) Tell yourself: Now I am…As you do something, simply tell yourself what you’re doing. If you’re brushing your teeth, tell yourself that and only do that.
5) Start a meditation practice. This is a great way to learn to calm your mind and improve your focus.
9) Start Saving
This tip may be more practical than the others on the list, but that doesn’t make it any less important.
Money is an undeniable part of society, and having the money to pursue your dreams is absolutely necessary.
Whether it’s to go to school, study abroad, work somewhere else, start a business, or spend a year or two travelling, you will need money to do these things.
Make sure you don’t get stuck living paycheck to paycheck, or else you will never have the time or resources to pursue what you want.
10) Stop Wasting Your Time
Time is the most valuable resource you have, and every second you spend doing something unproductive, something that adds nothing to your value as a person, is another second you have thrown down the drain.
You are getting older everyday, and one day you’re going to wake up and hate yourself for not starting the path to your ultimate goals 5, 10, 20 years ago.
Don’t make that mistake while you’re young, and if you’re already old, don’t keep making that mistake today.
11) How Can You Add Some Value to This World?
When you’re feeling lost and lacking in self-worth, this is an extremely important question to ask yourself.
If you’re not thinking about how you can add value to the world around you, then you’re not thinking about the big picture.
The truth is, most people don’t work hard. They want to get, get, get with the most minimal amount of giving.
Why? Because most people don’t care about a long-term vision and they only care about their own short-term vision.
But people who live a truly fulfilling and successful life don’t think like that. They realize that nothing in life comes easy and it takes time to build anything truly amazing.
They also understand that the world doesn’t revolve around them. You have to think about other people and help them live a great life, too.
This Gandhi quote summarizes why you need to focus on others when you’re feeling lost:
“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” – Mahatma Gandhi
12) Deal With Discomfort
We spend so much time trying to be comfortable. We need the perfect room temperature, the perfect drink, the perfect pajamas, the perfect chair.
But comfort means you’re not pushing yourself; comfort means that your body is in a state of relaxation.
If you want something, you need to do whatever you can to get it, even if it means lowering your quality of life for a while (or permanently).
13) Follow In Someone’s Footsteps
The great thing about the world today is that anything you might want to do has already been done by someone else.
If you want to be a writer, an actor, an artist, a great businessman, all the information is available to you online.
And if you want some personal experience, then go out and do it—volunteer at an organization or ask a professional if you can shadow them for a day or a week. Who knows: you might find that one thing that you can be passionate about.
14) Be Confident in Yourself
So many of us don’t go chasing what we truly want in life because we feel that we’re not good enough. Self-doubt creeps in and it stops us from taking action.
But as hard as it is, you’ve got to rise above it and be better. Know your value. Change your negative thoughts to positive thoughts.
And I know, this is easier said than done when you’re lost in a constant loop of negativity, but good things take time. It takes time and effort to rewire your brain to be more optimistic and confident.
Remember, the only thing you have control over is your actions. When your mind is telling you you can’t do something, prove it wrong! It’s your servant, not your master.
You only get life once, so you may as well believe in yourself and make the most of it.
15) Always Say Yes
Opportunities are always out there—you just have to say yes. Even if the opportunity seems completely unrelated to what you want to do with your life, it never hurts to say yes.
Because experiences stack up and learning never stops—everything you do and interact with becomes a part of you.
When deciding what to do with your life, the first thing you need to learn is how to make the choice.
At the end of the day, you want to look back on your life knowing that you made choices, rather than sat at home fearing them.
Now go, get your life on track.
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