This is the complete guide to know whether a guy likes you or not.
So if you’re asking yourself “does he like me” and you’re finding your man cryptically impossible to read, this is the guide for you.
Men aren’t as complex as you might think. It’s just a matter of knowing what signs to look for.
Here are 28 undeniable signs he likes you:
1. He can’t stop asking questions about you
If a guy can’t stop wanting to get to know, he’s probably into you.
Questions show he is curious and interested. He wants to learn about you. He wants to understand what makes you tick.
If he is actively listening, and asking follow-up questions after your answer, that’s a great sign.
Not only he is a great listener, but his attention is focused on you, rather than himself.
In fact, research has found that men communicate their attraction through focused attention and listening.
2. He can’t stop smiling when he is with you
If he can’t stop smiling and laughing when he’s around you, then you’re putting him in a good mood. He’s relishing being around you, and he definitely has a crush on you.
He’s also making an effort to lift the positive energy and rapport. He wants you to enjoy yourself when you’re around him. He wants to make a good impression.
This is a great sign that he likes you.
3. He’s trying to ignore you
Surprised? Ignoring you surely can’t be a sign that he likes you, right? Wrong!
Many guys try to play hard to get. They appear disinterested hoping it will make you interested.
Another reason is that he gets too shy and nervous around you, so he tries to ignore you because he knows he will make a bad impression.
How can you work it out?
You could speak to him, and see if he appears nervous and shy. Make him feel comfortable, and if he starts showing his smile, he’s definitely interested.
Don’t read too much into whether he ignores you or not though. After all, some guys might ignore you because they’re simply not interested in you.
4. He asks for your number
This is one is fairly self-explanatory. Obviously, if he asks for your number, he wants to see you again, and he likes you.
However, it’s important to watch out for the players. Some guys are very skilled at getting numbers, and they collect them like it’s a game.
Then they’ll text you when it suits them, such as late on a Saturday night.
To avoid these kinds of guys, watch them and see if they get other girl’s numbers that night. If they’re collecting numbers left, right and center then he’s probably a play boy.
And if he doesn’t text for a few days, or he texts you late at night, then he might not be the kind of guy you’re looking for.
One study found that if a man initiates contact with you based on the goal of a “booty call” then he’s not really interested or invested in creating a meaningful relationship.
Also, keep in mind how long he takes to text you back.
Gian Gonzaga, Senior Director of Research & Development for eHarmony Labs, says that quick response time is a significant indicator of attraction.
5. He’s talking to you on social media
When we’re online, we can literally do whatever we want. We can chat to who we want to, we can view the profiles of who we like, and we can follow the people we’re most interested in.
So if he’s making an effort to connect with you on Facebook or Instagram, there’s a chance that he’s into you.
Is he liking your pictures, even when it has nothing to do with him? Chatting to you on messenger? Commenting on your updates?
These are great signs that he’s into you.
Watch out for guys that are slow to reply on messenger or they give you one-word responses. This might mean that they’re not that interested and they’re simply stringing you along.
But if he’s highly attentive to what you’re doing on social media and he’s regularly engaging with you, then he’s probably into you.
6. He asks you, “Do you have a boyfriend?”
We’re all familiar with this question. It’s a dead set giveaway that he’s into you.
I mean, if he wasn’t interested, there’s no way he’d be asking that question!
However, some guys might not be so direct. Instead, they might mention that they’re single and hope that you’ll respond saying that you are too.
So be observant about the topics they want to speak about. It will clue you on whether he wants to know if you’re single or not.
7. He’s trying to touch you
If he’s touching you, then he finds you sexy, and he’s probably into you.
This could be simple things, like a playful nudge to the arm, or an innocent arm around the shoulder.
Guys love to touch the girls they’re into you. It gives them energy and assists in building rapport.
So if he’s finding excuses to touch you, he might be ready to tell you that he likes you soon.
Here’s a great example of touching that someone might do if they if someone likes you:
“If you walk near each other, he’ll place his hand near the small of your back to guide you through a noisy party or bar. Plus, he wants to show all the other men that he’s got this. Plus, it’s a reason to touch you and seem like a gentleman all at the same time.”
However, watch out for sexist guys that touch you in inappropriate ways. This could be a slap on the butt or a grope of some kind. Obviously, that’s disgusting, and you should stay the hell away from those no-hopers.
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8. He’s getting jealous when you talk to other guys
Jealousy is a strong feeling that’s hard to control. If you find yourself talking to a guy and he’s looking over wondering what’s going on, then that’s a good sign that he’s into you.
If you talk to a guy and then later in the night, he’s giving you the cold shoulder, and it looks like he’s angry at you, then jealousy may be getting the better of him.
However, if you give him enough attention and he starts to come around again and be happy, then it was definitely jealousy. And he definitely likes you.
If you like him, this would be an excellent opportunity to say something and get the guy to like you.
Relationship expert Dr. Terri Orbuch says:
“Jealousy is among the most human of all emotions. You feel jealous when you think you are going to lose a relationship you really value.”
9. His body does the talking
Everyone knows that you can say a lot with your eyes without ever uttering a word, but your body can do a lot of talking for you as well.
If you find your guy crush is leaning into you when you talk, or if he is standing near you when there’s no need to stand near you, it’s a good sign that he might be into you as much as you are into him.
If you find that he chooses the seat next to yours, even when you are out with a crowd, and he turns in your direction, even when others are speaking, it’s pretty safe to assume he’s got a thing for you.
Watch for other telltale signs of body language giving him away, including placing his hand near yours on the table, presenting his hips in a dominant way (you know, he wants you to look at his crotch), and he lowers his head close to yours when you talk.
10. He remembers the little things
Let’s be honest: Guys aren’t very good at remembering things.
But if he remembers little things about your life that you mention, then he probably likes you.
For example, if you mention that it’s your sister’s birthday and you’re having dinner with your family for it, and then the next day he asks you how it was, it’s a great sign.
He’s thinking about you. He wants to stay connected and develop rapport.
Not every guy does this, so see it as a sign that he’s genuinely interested in you.
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11. He goes out of his way to be seen by you
If you suddenly start running into him at places you’ve always gone but have never seen each other, like your favorite bar or restaurant, bet your bottom dollar that he is trying to be seen by you.
He might make a scene in front of your friends or show off a bit to try to get your attention, which could be awkward for a while.
You gotta hand it to him though; he’s gutsy to do that given all the people that are around and who might judge him for the way he’s rocking that karaoke mic!
12. He’s teasing you
The guy that teases you likes you. Sound familiar?
Guys have a habit of insulting and teasing the women they’re interested in. Remember the kindergarten classes where a boy would pull a girl’s hair? Yeah, he liked her.
Why do guys do this? Because they want attention. They want to be funny, and teasing is the adult way of telling you I like you more than a friend.
13. He’s focused on you and only you
It’s natural for guys to check out girls. Look at any guy in public and see how their eyes wander when a pretty girl walks past. They can’t help it.
But if he has eyes only for you, then there’s no question that he’s into you.
Not only that, but he probably wants a relationship with you, too.
After all, it’s not easy for a guy to focus on one girl, so this is an excellent signal that he’s picking up what you’re putting down.
14. No matter what problem you face, he’ll go searching for a solution
Guys like to be problem solvers. So when a girl they like says that they have a problem, he’ll immediately search for solutions, even if it’s an issue he’s not well-versed in.
He’ll help you out more than a friend if he likes you. He’ll go the extra mile. He wants to be your hero that saves the day.
Keep in mind that one of the most important takeaways from this is to focus on his actions. A guy can say he’ll help you, but their actions will truly indicate how they feel.
According to psychotherapist Christine Scott-Hudson:
“Pay twice as much attention to how someone treats you than what they say. Anybody can say they love you, but behavior doesn’t lie. If someone says they value you, but their actions indicate otherwise, trust their behavior.”
15. He gives you a lot of attention
If he is sending you text messages or emails, calling you or showing up at your place looking to hang out, you don’t need to wonder if he likes you. He does.
If he’s interested in what you are doing and wants to know more, or if he is giving you gifts or paying a lot of attention to when you look terrible because you just woke up and this guy brought coffee, yeah he likes you.
Let’s be clear: liking you and being creepy about it are two different things, so if he’s giving you a creepy vibe, move on.
16. He’s trying to organize meet-ups and things to do together
A guy who likes you doesn’t just leave you two meeting to chance. He’ll take the initiative and try to organize a drink, coffee or a trip to the bowling court.
In short, he wants to spend more time with you. And he’ll stop at nothing to get that chance.
17. He’s not distracted when you’re around
If he likes you, his focus is on you. He doesn’t pick up his phone and start browsing Facebook when he’s talking with you. He’s fully engaged with what you’re saying.
After all, he’s genuinely interested in what’s going on in your life, and he’s trying to make a good impression.
Anyone that gets distracted in a conversation doesn’t really want to be there.
Research has even found that men become less fidgety when they’re interacting with a girl they like.
So if he genuinely likes you, all eyes and attention will be on YOU!
18. He likes hanging out with you – as far as you can tell!
If he seems to want to hang around you, but it doesn’t seem to be turning into any romantic, give it some time.
He just might need a little time to get up the gumption to tell you how he feels.
In the meantime, you get to enjoy some non-committal friend time and learn more about him to make sure he is someone you want to spend time with.
As time passes and you get to know him, you might decide that he’s not for you. So at least you can make use of friend time while it lasts.
19. He compliments you
If he likes you, he probably likes things about you that you wouldn’t expect.
And no, I’m not talking about your ass or your boobs. I’m talking about your hairstyle, clothes or personality.
He notices the small things about you and isn’t afraid to tell you that it looks marvelous. Nobody normal would even notice.
If he’s fully into you, he likes EVERYTHING about you. Your smell, your hair, your style, your personality.
20. His eyes are on your eyes, not on your assets!
This is a big one that a lot of people misconstrue.
If a guy is only looking at your boobs and ass, then he’s not interested in YOU. He’s only interested in the physical. This is not a good sign if you’re looking for a relationship.
But if his focus is on your eyes when you’re in a conversation, then he’s interested in your personality. He wants to get to know you. He wants to build rapport, and he likes you for who you are.
This is a great sign that there could be something special brewing between the two of you.
Also, if you like him, you may want to maintain eye contact back at him. Research says that prolonged eye contact increases the attraction between two people.
21. He wants you to meet his friends
There’s no point in introducing you to his friends if he’s not into you. If he’s impressed by you, he wants to show you off. He’s proud of the fact he knows you.
This is a huge sign that he likes you. In fact, he’s probably told his friends about the fact that he does, so watch out for any subtle signals that they’re trying to leave you two alone or they’re trying to make him look good.
Guys always try to wingman each other, especially when one of them genuinely likes a girl.
22. He talks about his future plans
It takes an effort to have these discussions, but if he is telling you about want he wants to do in the future, then he might be interested in dating you.
He’s telling you because he might be working out how you would fit into these plans.
Also, he could be trying to impress you. He’s trying to show you that he’s not some normal loser that only thinks about the short-term.
He’s got long-term goals, and he might want to take you along for the journey.
23. He wants to know your future plans
If he feels close enough to you or invested in the relationship enough, he will see things for you and your future that you might not even see.
So even if he isn’t coming out and saying he likes you, if he’s offering up advice on your future in a meaningful and caring way, he’s into you.
24. Look at his body language
Men can be pretty obvious when it comes to their body language.
If he likes you, he’ll be very open with his body. He’ll likely face towards you. He might also lean in when he talks to you.
Research has found that men who are more traditional flirts (those who believed men should make the first move and women should be more passive) are more likely to adopt open body language.
In particular, watch where his feet point. This can be an indicator of where his interest lies.
If his feet are pointing away from you and towards the door, then he might not like you. If his body is turned away from you, he might not like you either.
25. Is he acting a little weird?
Guys who are nervous act weird. He might stumble over his words. He might start sweating. He might start telling weird jokes.
These are just ways to release their nervous energy.
Don’t let it weird you out. If they’re nervous, it means they like you and they want to impress you.
Once they get comfortable, they’ll start being normal again.
26. He mirrors your actions
This is something that happens subconsciously if they like you. Imitating your actions is a sign that he respects and admires you.
This can be presented in different ways, such as:
1) He might start speaking at a similar pace to you.
2) He might lean back or lean forward when you do.
3) He might start using similar words or slang as you do.
4) He might start copying your mannerisms when speaking.
Here is some great advice from Judy Dutton, author of How We Do It: How the Science of Sex Can Make You a Better Lover, on how you can figure out if he likes you or not:
“If you want to gauge whether someone’s attracted to you, check your watch—then see if they check theirs. Or scratch your arm, then see if they scratch theirs. Or cross your legs, and see if they cross theirs. This means they’re subconsciously trying to get in synch with you, which is a good sign.”
If he does any of these, then he likes you.
This is actually rooted in the brain’s Mirror Neuron System.
This network of the brain is the social glue that binds people together.
A greater level of activation of the Mirror Neuron System is associated with liking and cooperation.
27. He leans in
This is a fairly obvious one to notice. When you’re talking, if he naturally leans in then there’s a good chance that he likes you.
Why? Because he’s trying to build rapport so he’ll move his body closer to yours – all without even realizing it.
Go to any bar and looks at all guys leaning in when they talk to girls. It’s fairly common but a surefire sign that a guy is interested and trying to score.
28. They remove things in their way.
When we don’t like someone, we naturally input barriers between ourselves and them.
For example, many people cross their arms when they’re talking to someone they dislike. It’s a subconscious way to protect your own physical space.
But when we are with someone we like, we tend to spread our body language and be very welcoming.
So if he is uncrossing his arms around you, it’s almost like you’ve disarmed him and he is welcoming you into his physical space.
So to work whether they are removing barriers between the two of you, here’s what to look for:
- Crossed arms might indicate that a person feels closed off or defensive. Open body language indicates the opposite.
- Hands behind their back may indicate that they are feeling bored, or angry.
- Fidgeting can also indicate that they are bored.
- Open posture involves keeping the trunk of the body open and exposed. This can indicate openness and friendliness.
29. Where are his feet pointing
This one has been mentioned above but it’s worth discussing in-depth because it’s such a surefire sign that a guy likes you.
Even if they are turned to talk to someone else and their attention is occupied, if their feet are in your direction, you might have a crush on your hands.
Again, our bodies like to give us subtle ways of letting us know that we like someone.
You might feel anxious or uptight about something and later realize that it’s because you find yourself attracted to someone and didn’t know what to do with that information in your body.
“When the feet are pointed directly toward another person, this is a sign of attraction, or at the very least, genuine interest.” – Vanessa Van Edwards in Huffington Post
30. He laughs at your jokes, even when they’re not funny
You know your jokes are stupid. He knows your jokes are stupid. Yet for some reason, he can’t help but laugh uncontrollably at them.
So if you are wondering if your crush likes you back, just tell a lame joke and see how they react.
Our sense of trying to make people feel important and acknowledged when we like them is so high that we will go out of our way to make ourselves look silly (aka laughing when we shouldn’t be) so that the other person is raised up. Love is a tricky thing, isn’t it?
31. What is his face saying?
You can tell a lot about someone by reading their face.
If they like you, research has found that his eyes may be bright and wide and his pupils dilated. This is a classic sign, and he probably wants to do more than just look at you.
If he likes you, his eyebrows may move up and down, and his facial gestures will be attentive.
Furthermore, this study suggests that he may also literally drawl over you.
Because testosterone levels increase in a man’s saliva when he’s attracted to a woman. This may cause him to swallow more than usual or become dehydrated.
32. He’s visibly nervous around you
I think we’ve all experienced this before. When you like someone, those pesky butterflies pop up whenever you see them.
This makes sense. After all, you want to make a good impression.
If they like you, and they don’t really know you, then they’re likely to get nervous around you.
After all, they’re feeling the pressure of making a good impression.
According to Business Insider, there are six signs to look for to tell if someone is nervous: –
1) They touch their face: This can include rubbing their forehead, pushing their cheek and squeezing their face.
2) They compress their lips.
3) They play with their hair: This is a stress-reducing behavior.
4) They blink more frequently: Eye-blink rate increases when someone is nervous.
5) They contort and rub their hands together.
6) They yawn excessively: Yawning helps regulate our body temperature (the brain gets warmer when we’re stressed).
So if they are showing these signs around you, they might be nervous because they like you. You’ll also want to get a baseline of how they act around other people, too.
33. Want to really know him if he likes you? Ask him!
Stop endlessly wondering. If you really want to know if he likes you, ask him.
It’s not third grade, right? If he’s genuinely interested, he’ll tell you how he’s really feeling.
If you’re looking to get a boyfriend, then it’s important to communicate your feelings.
And if he’s not, then great. Now you know. You can move on with your life. After all, there’s plenty of fish in the sea.
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