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Dating a spiritually gifted person? 12 tips from my personal experience

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I married a spiritually gifted person.

She’s authentic and natural, she lives the moment, she’s highly creative, and she’s deeply in touch with her intuition.

I’m not spiritually inclined, so I’d be lying if I said our differences hadn’t caused some minor problems along the way.

While it’s been challenging, we’ve also learned a lot in these past five years, and today, I want to share with you everything I learned.

I know how fulfilling a relationship can be with a spiritually gifted person, so I want to help you through my experiences to make it work.

Here are 12 tips I’ve learned from dating a spiritually gifted person.

1) Don’t expect to have a “conventional” relationship

Since they’re certainly extraordinary people, you’re bound to have an extraordinary relationship.

Don’t expect to be as lovey-dovey, and be passionately close to each other like other couples.

Spiritually gifted people are different.

They tend not to be so passionate about their partner.

Instead, they seek more balance in their relationship.

They try not to spend too much time with you, nor would they want to spend too much time apart.

They want to be dedicated to the work, but also give enough time to support and maintain the relationship.

Take it from me:

My wife is a Youtuber. She has over 400,000 followers. She teaches people how to make clothes.

While she is exceptionally creative, this also means that she is dedicated to sharing her “gift.”

She doesn’t always have time for me. Sometimes she won’t respond to my messages for 5 hours.

My advice?

Don’t get overly sensitive or needy if they don’t respond to you or they don’t have time for you.

They are simply focused on sharing their gift with the world.

And that is crucial for their happiness and fulfillment.

Expecting something different may only lead you to disappointment and maybe even feel neglected.

Just know that you aren’t, but it’s just that they express their love in different ways.

2) Always be patient

Spiritually gifted people are known to be unpredictable.

You might be laughing at the silliest things one afternoon, then come dinner time, they become cold and serious about life.

These swings of personalities can be difficult for anyone looking for a conventional relationship.

That’s why it’s essential to be patient with them.

Spiritually people are natural. They feel their emotions deeply.

This means you’ll see it written on their faces when they’re feeling down. They can’t hide it.

My wife, for example, mostly grins with a happy face, but then suddenly, out of nowhere, that grin disappears when a situation doesn’t go her way.

You can notice it immediately. That’s just her. She’s being her true self. She’s in touch with her emotions and she doesn’t fake anything.

The truth is:

You can’t be happy unless you’re unhappy sometimes.

People who fake positivity all the time end up being unhappy. My brother has experienced that firsthand.

Spiritually gifted people will sometimes feel down and won’t be afraid to show it.

It’s to be expected.

So be patient when they’re suddenly feeling moody.

Eventually, when their natural feeling subsides, they’ll return to their happy selves again.

3) Learn to trust their intuition

You might be planning to go out on a special trip together tomorrow.

While planning, they might suddenly tell you that they had a vision that tomorrow may be charged with too much negative energy, so it might be better to postpone the trip.

If you were looking forward to the trip, you might want to start arguing with them.

But they know something you don’t.

When these gut-feeling moments come up with spiritually gifted people, try not to brush them off.

My wife gets these “intuitions” all the time. I used to be skeptical of them, but now I’ve learned that the best thing I can do is trust them and talk about them with my wife.

They’re more in tune with the universe than you, so they can somewhat predict what might happen in the future.

Even if you don’t believe that someone can predict the future, it’s still an important feeling for them.

If you go through with the trip, it might make them unhappy.

In a happy relationship, you must consider your emotions and compromise.

Though they may be unable to pinpoint what might happen, it might be better to trust them rather than fight a losing battle.

4) Give them space to be creative

Spiritually gifted people tend to have intense imaginations.

They can dream up the wildest, out-of-the-box things that make your usual dreams feel almost colorless.

So maybe you can try taking an art class or dance class together.

Or, better yet, let them plan the next date.

They’re sure to plan something exciting and different.

I let my wife do all the planning and organizing for our dates.

It’s not that I’m lazy. It’s just that she has a better imagination than me, and she’s a lot more relaxed when she’s utilizing her creativity.

This is something I learned early on in our relationship.

So make sure you don’t plan everything for your partner. If they’re spiritually gifted, they need space to be creative and live their own life.

And let them organize your dates.

They might know an exotic restaurant you’ve never even heard of, or they’ll take a trip to a strange and niche location – whatever it is, you’re going to be in for a good and memorable time.

5) Try to understand them

It might be true that you will never understand what it’s like to be spiritually gifted if you aren’t, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still try.

You can try making an appointment with experts to learn what triggers them and what helps them calm down.

It can get lonely being spiritually gifted.

I’ve learned to become a good listener with my partner. I don’t jump to conclusions because I disagree with her. I listen without judgment and then respond.

I try to put myself in her shoes and understand what’s happening.

The bottom line is this:

If your partner is spiritually gifted, they’ll have complex thoughts and emotions. If you don’t give them space to express themselves and listen to what they say, you will not understand them.

So while you may never become one yourself, showing them that you’re putting in the effort to understand what’s going on with them is already a big gesture for them.

6) Criticize them gently

Spiritually gifted people tend to be very in tune not only with their surroundings but with other people as well.

Because of this, it’s what makes them even more sensitive to other people’s comments about them or their work.

They can be proud of their work but then be ticked off and start doubting themselves if someone says something slightly negative about it.

As part of a healthy relationship, you must tell them your honest opinions about them and their work.

But knowing this, it’s important to let them know gently.

You don’t need to be so blunt about it.

If they made a painting that you thought they could definitely improve, you can first tell them what you loved about it.

Then suggest what they could do next time.

I’ve done this plenty of times with my wife’s youtube videos. She is very creative, but sometimes that creativity goes astray, and the videos become too complex.

So I provide advice that can make the video more simple.

Just remember this:

Not all criticisms have to be sharp and painful; they can be helpful.

7) Comfort them at night

You might be peacefully sleeping together when they’re jolted awake for no reason.

At first, it might look just like a random bad dream.

But looking at the clock will make you realize that they might be waking up at the same time consistently: between 3 – 4 in the morning.

That’s because that time, the witching hour, is when the spiritual energy of their surroundings is immense.

During that time, they might have a horrifyingly vivid nightmare or a vision from a past life or the future.

I honestly never would have believed this before I started dating my wife.

But when she told me about it, and I witnessed her always waking up at this time, I knew that something funny was going on.

But it doesn’t matter whether you believe in this or not, the most important takeaway is this:

When this happens, you must show that you’re there for them.

Hold them near you to let them know that they’re safe, and it was just a dream.

8) Always consider the weather

Their gift makes them sensitive to the weather.

If it’s cloudy or rainy out, their eyes might look darker, and more serious.

You might see them looking down more often, and walking slow.

But when the weather is brighter, they could turn into a completely different person.

Their eyes might be wide and glowing, and their voice might even be louder with a higher pitch.

These changes might be jarring at first.

One benefit I’ve found is that my wife can predict when the rain will come. Suddenly, her mood will get down because rain is on the way.

It’s quite incredible. I’m a runner, so I try to avoid running when a storm is on the way (we live in the tropics), so her talent has helped!

Learning how to interact with them during these times will definitely help you in your relationship.

So if you’re feeling frustrated by their actions, remember to look out the window: it might be cloudy out.

9) Play with animals together

Spiritually gifted people can easily connect with other beings – human or not.

Sometimes, even untrained animals might listen to their commands.

They can quickly form a natural bond with any animal they interact with.

This makes going to the zoo or even getting a pet together something worth considering; it could very much brighten your relationship.

We recently got a dog, and my wife’s bond with the dog has been incredible. It’s like they can sense each other.

So if you’re dating a spiritually gifted partner, I highly recommend getting a pet. They’ll likely form a strong bond with the pet, which will undoubtedly enrich your relationship.

10) Have open and honest conversations

Open and honest conversations are essential to healthy relationships.

Telling your partner how you feel allows you to work on improving the relationship even more.

It’s also a chance for them to express themselves as well.

Spiritually gifted people are deeply empathetic.

When you open up to them about your problems or issues, you can be sure they’ll understand precisely where you’re coming from.

They may not react in an angry or surprising way. They’ll listen to you with rapt attention.

It’s also important that you do the same for them too.

Even if you may not understand the details of their spiritual gifts, creating a safe space in your relationship where they won’t feel judged is crucial to the growth of your relationship.

Communication is extremely strong in our relationship. We tell each other how we feel.

This is probably the main reason I feel that our relationship is so solid and loving.

If you want to learn how to improve your conversations with your partner, I highly recommend this article I wrote on how to talk to people.

And remember this quote:

“The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention…. A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well-intentioned words. ” – Dr. Rachel Naomi Remen

11) Support them

Often, a spiritually gifted person might be going through an unexpected fit of intense emotions.

They might be fiercely angry, yelling at you for no reason.

Then they might start bawling their eyes out, pulling their hair, and sitting in the corner.

These intense moments of any spiritually gifted person tend to push people away.

They know this.

Spiritually gifted people are naturals, remember?

It’s possible that one of their fears is that they’ll be too much for you to handle.

To some extent, it might be true.

But what’s important is what you do about it.

When they go through these moments, affirm them that you’ll be there for them and that they can get through it.

This might even be more powerful than simply saying, “I love you.”

12) Grow together

Spiritually gifted people tend to talk about personal growth often.

That’s because they’re so in touch with the naturally growing and moving part of life, they can’t help but join in.

That’s why one thing they look for in a partner is someone they can eventually grow with.

Every day, they make an effort to do their best.

They want to learn to become a better person, trying to find what fulfills them, and to act according to their purpose.

They’ll expect you to join them so you can become better people together.

Make an effort to support your partner. I encourage my wife with her endeavors and she does the same with mine.

This gives us a shared purpose and a common goal.

Can a relationship coach help you too?

If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to a relationship coach.

I know this from personal experience…

A few months ago, I reached out to Relationship Hero when I was going through a tough patch in my relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship and how to get it back on track.

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Written by Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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