An ice queen. The woman that every man is intimidated to approach and every girl looks up to be.
She knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to go and get it. Yes, she appears like a bitch, but there’s much more to it than that.
If you’re dating a bonafide “ice queen”, here are 15 things that you need to keep in mind.
1) Ice queens have usually been hurt….badly
We all know that ice queens are cold, ruthless and aren’t one to play the fool. But this bad b*tch attitude didn’t happen overnight. It takes a long life of suffering, pain and just plain unluckiness to turn into a cold ice b*tch.
Perhaps it’s a boy who cheated on her, or a man who left her after they were just getting serious. Whatever, or whoever it is, she’s only acting like a b*tch because she’s trying to protect herself.
After all, she doesn’t want to meet another douchebag who takes advantage of her and treats her like sh*t.
2) Has she told you she likes you? You’d better believe her
This is a huge step for an ice queen. She doesn’t express her feelings unless she really means it.
It also means that she’s been feeling these feels for a damn, long time. So take a step back, think about it and acknowledge what a huge privilege it is.
3) She doesn’t “need” you
If you wrong her, she’s out the door. No word of warning. She’s been burnt enough in her life and won’t have it when it comes to her boyfriend.
Flirt with another girl? Then get the f*ck out.
She holds her own and doesn’t need you to live her life. She’ll only keep you in it if you’re making it better. Simple.
4) She’ll be completely devoted to you
If she has decided that you’re her boyfriend, then you’ve officially entered her inner circle.
What does this mean?
It means she’ll protect you at all costs. She’s a strong woman who wants all of her peeps to live the best life they can possibly can.
In her eyes, it’s her inner circle versus the world. And she must win.
5) She’s crazy in bed
If you get to the point of being able to sleep with her, then be prepared. She loves to let loose in the bedroom and show you how she really feels.
After all, she doesn’t let many men get this close to her, so when she does, all of her sexual energy comes flying out.
It’s similar to dating a chubby girl. Ice queens and chubby girls have some unexpectedly crazy desires.
6) She’s emotionally mature
She’s been through a lot in life. As a result, she understands herself extremely well. She’s got a hold on her emotions and knows how to handle them.
This is great for you because she won’t lash out randomly like some girls are capable of.
It takes a lot for her to lose her cool, so if she does, then she probably has a damn good reason.
7) She has her own life in lock
An ice queen knows what she wants and she isn’t afraid to go get it. If you’re in her way, then she’ll let you know straight away.
Being successful and achieving her potential is on the top of her agenda, so be prepared.
8) She doesn’t care what other people think
She doesn’t live her life for other people, so why would she care what other people think? She’s concerned about her own life and getting the most out of it.
If you’re the type of guy who’s always trying to impress other people, then you need to cut it out. She’d rather you focus on yourself and live up to her standards of behavior.
9) She has built up a huge wall to protect herself
She’s been through a lot, dealt with shady characters who have brought her down, and doesn’t want to go through the same hardships again.
That’s why she appears cold, ruthless and darn right bitchy. But this is what she must do if she’s going to avoid those assholes again. It’s part of her nature now.
And you know what? It works like a treat.
10) She means what she says and says what she means
There’s no bullsh*tting around. Every word she speaks is for a reason. She hasn’t got time to waste with small-talk or superficial bullsh*t.
Everything she does is with purpose and this is the same for when she speaks.
11) She treats others with genuine kindness
This one may be hard to believe, but it’s true. And no, this doesn’t mean she “smiles” at others or “agrees” with everything you say.
Instead, she treats people with integrity and respect. Why? Because we’re all humans and she understands that everybody’s life isn’t easy.
She’s experienced anxiety and depression before, so she knows that life can get tough for a lot of people. So be kind.
12) She can’t stand small-talk
If you’re dating her, don’t bother asking her things like, “how are you?” You’ll learn pretty quick that she’ll hardly warrant your question.
She’d rather talk about deep issues and understand your purpose in life.
After all, life is too interesting to talk about the weather.
13) She’s real
You know those people who walk around with a smile on their face and treat everyone like their best friend? Yeah, they’re faking it.
Ice queens don’t do that. She’s not trying to impress other people. She knows who she is and doesn’t need outside validation to feel better about herself.
She shows how she feels and what she thinks. This is refreshing in an age of social media where everyone is faking it to look better than they really are.
14) She has her boundaries
An ice queen has a strong sense of self and understands what she needs to function at her best. If she needs her alone time, she won’t hesitate to get it.
But if you try to cross those boundaries, she’ll get you out of her life pretty quick. Once you understand what she needs in her life, you’d better respect it.
15) She’ll love you like a king
If you’re lucky enough to experience her love, then embrace it while you have it. She might appear cold on the outside, but on the inside, she’s filled with passion, desire and a whole lot of love.
If you’re able to get “in” with her, then you might just be the luckiest guy in the world.
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