Contrary to popular belief, men aren’t actually that hard to read when it comes to attractiveness. It’s understandable to be confused about what they like, but it’s not impossible to get to the heart of—well, men’s hearts.
In this article, we’ll list 20 cute personality traits that men love in women.
1) She’s positive
Picture someone who’s quick to send a smile your way—someone who greets you with a “good morning” every day, someone who generally has a positive disposition and mindset.
Wouldn’t this person be more attractive than most?
It’s cute when women have a happy attitude, but this doesn’t necessarily mean that they always have to be happy (because that’s kind of impossible). It just means that they’re positive when it comes to their behavior or the way they present positive thoughts.
Compared to a woman who’s pessimistic and negative all the time, positive people feel much lighter and more enjoyable to be around in general.
It also helps to have a cute and infectious laugh; even if it isn’t traditionally adorable like a demure giggle, even if she snorts when she laughs, it’s adorable because it shows how much she’s enjoying herself.
2) She’s passionate about hobbies
Whether it’s playing an instrument, cooking or baking, singing, crocheting, and everything in between, it’s a cute personality trait when women are passionate about their hobbies.
It makes men want to learn more about them because it makes them more interesting. It shows that she has her own life and interests, perfect for men who don’t want their partners to be too clingy or dependent.
It shows that she cares about things, and nothing is more attractive than a passionate woman talking about her favorite things to do.
It’s especially cute if she lets him see what she’s been working on. She’ll love showing off her newly-finished crocheted blanket or feeding him that cake she’s been perfecting her recipe for.
Especially if she’s expressive and animated when she talks about it, as if she lights up when the topic of her hobbies comes up, it can be an adorable thing to watch.
3) She’s compassionate
It’s cute when women are kind. All that gentleness, being delicate and considerate with other people, is adorable.
Maybe she sends him his favorite food as a thoughtful gesture or she’s good with his kid cousins. Her patience and compassion will go a long way and likely won’t go over his head.
It’s especially obvious when a man opens up to her about his feelings. If she doesn’t judge and is a good listener, it’s cute to see that she cares about him.
It shows that she cares about people other than herself, something important when deciding who you’re going to spend time with; it’s a great sign of her good character and is definitely a cute personality trait.
4) She’s comfortable with herself
Men love it when a woman likes herself and doesn’t try to be anyone else. It’s cute when she’s comfortable with herself and in her own skin like she isn’t constantly trying to live up to a specific standard that society’s set for her.
This can be seen in the little things like when she wears what she wants. It shows that she’s not scared of what people are going to think and she isn’t insecure about her choices.
A woman who’s always trying to be someone else tries too hard, and men don’t find it very attractive when a woman tries too hard. Women are more attractive when they’re comfortable and secure.
Self-love is a big factor here, and many women are victims of self-loathing because of society’s expectations. While it might not come easy for her, if a woman is comfortable with herself, it’s adorable.
5) She’s encouraging
It’s a cute personality trait to always be his cheerleader, and men go crazy for that.
Encouraging him when he needs it shows that she’s enthusiastic to support him and give him the support he needs to do his thing.
She’s got his back, and it’s the cutest thing to see a woman constantly in your corner.
6) She’s in the moment
Men love it when women get off their phones and truly spend real quality time together in person.
Taking pictures to commemorate special moments is cute; always being on social media and taking IG stories every 5 seconds isn’t.
Phubbing (or snubbing someone in favor of your phone) interrupts your ability to be present and engage with the people around you.
If she lives in the moment and doesn’t always have to be documenting her every move “for the ‘Gram”, it shows that she’s interested in paying attention to who she’s talking to. It feels like she’s actually there and he’s not talking to a phone-glued robot.
7) She’s confident
Like I said, it’s cute when women are secure with themselves, and confidence is key to winning a man’s heart.
Studies have found that confidence predicts romantic attractiveness; men like a woman who’s sure of herself, confident and bold, and fearless. They like women who don’t always worry about what other people think of them.
This might be because confidence is contagious and men want to feel more confident, so they find themselves attracted to confident women.
It’s a plus to be charismatic on top of that; it’s cute when a woman can befriend anyone and have a conversation with anybody. Social butterflies are attractive because of the charm they wield like an adorable sword that can cut through any awkward situations.
8) She’s got a sense of humor
A study has found that people rated physical attractiveness based on humor.
If you meet someone who you can laugh with, it could mean that a future relationship with her is going to be fun and filled with good-natured laughter.
Taking a step back from a more serious relationship viewpoint, it’s just plain enjoyable to be with someone you can have a laugh with.
It’s a bonus when she has the same sense of humor; inside jokes are a lot of fun, and it shows that the two are on the same wavelength when it comes to what they find funny. (It might turn out to be an awkward situation if one liked dark humor and one didn’t.)
It’s cute for a woman to be able to make a man laugh and vice versa. If not for anything else, it shows that she’s good for a good time.
9) She’s humble
Men don’t like women who are arrogant—definitely not a cute personality trait.
On the other hand, women who have mastered the art of being unpretentious are much more attractive; it reflects their open-mindedness on things that can be improved and she can admit that she’s wrong.
She’d be the kind of woman who sees her strengths and weaknesses accurately, and that can prove to be an attractive trait, especially for more serious relationships.
Someone who isn’t too full of themselves is always more pleasant to talk to than someone whose arrogance sails through the roof with how highly they think of themselves.
Humility is an underrated characteristic in people that can sometimes go unnoticed because of how unassuming humble people are, but it’s definitely cute when a man sees it in a woman.
10) She’s enthusiastic
Nothing’s more adorable than childish excitement about life. It’s cute when a woman is genuinely excited about even the smallest things, like seeing a cat on the side of the road or receiving a small gift. It could even be when the woman is genuinely excited to see him.
There’s something about pure enthusiasm that injects a sense of light-heartedness and joy into the everyday. She can light up the room with her infectious excitement and cheer up the people around her.
That’s why it’s so cute—it’s so contagious that it makes you excited for what she’s excited about, too.
11) She’s expressive
When it comes to facial expressions, women tend to be more expressive than men. Whether it’s a face of happiness, sadness, disgust, or anger, they tend to wear it on their faces even when they try not to.
That’s why it’s so adorable when women don’t hide what they’re feeling and are honestly expressive with their facial expressions.
A study says that women who smile often are viewed as attractive. Everyone says that a beautiful smile is one of the things they first notice about meeting someone new and the same goes for when you find someone cute. A beautiful, heart-warming smile can win you over, just the same as puppy-dog eyes or a pleading look can do that, too.
Being this expressive shows that she’s open to showing people how she feels and is a sign that she’s comfortable with who she’s talking to.
12) She’s assertive
It’s cute when women take initiative, from small things like planning a date to bigger things like taking a stand on a big decision.
If she isn’t afraid to get negatively judged for being direct, it’s a cute personality trait that men love to see in women.
Women who go after what they want are attractive because of how headstrong and confident they appear to others, and being especially assertive when she’s standing up for what’s right is even more attractive.
Some might judge or belittle a woman who’s trying to be assertive because of how women are still wired by society to be submissive, but with how progressive things are getting, it’s becoming more and more acceptable for women to stand up for themselves.
13) She’s physically affectionate
It shows chemistry when a woman is physically affectionate with a man, and it’s another reason why a man might think she’s cute.
Men love gentle and subtle touches on the elbow or back to show them that the woman they’re talking to is comfortable with them, plus it gives a sense of comfort if the man has any fond feelings for the woman.
That’s why it’s so adorable when a woman shows physical affection; it can feel like wanting to squeeze her hand a bit tighter or lean in for a hug.
14) She’s independent
If a woman shows that she can hold her own, it signals to a man that this woman isn’t to be messed with—but at the same time, men also find it cute.
Feeling her confident energy and seeing how strong she is can be adorable, especially if the man’s a close friend of the woman and they can jokingly laugh about her strong and independent ways.
Again, this is a woman who’s sure of herself and confident in her ability to get things done. It’s especially attractive for men who don’t want partners who are dependent on them for everything.
15) But she can also ask for help when needed
Of course, all that being said, men still appreciate feeling needed by women. There’s a biological instinct in them called the hero instinct that makes them want to protect the people they care about; women that ask for help when they need it let the man be protective of her like he’s wired to be.
It’s a bonus in cute points if she asks for help just for the excuse to spend more time with a man, like asking to open a jar when she could very well do it on her own or asking a clueless man for makeup and outfit advice.
It makes the man feel like he can be a hero for her and makes her so much more adorable in his eyes.
16) She’s always game for adventure
Women who are exciting and spontaneous who are always up for some good fun also have that cute personality trait.
Men love it when women do new activities with them and are generally adventurous in everyday life; they love women who surprise them with how spontaneous she can be and with any hidden talents that she has.
It could range from small things like being open to trying new food or bigger things like going cliff diving; whatever the case if she’s always up for a good time, it adds to her attractiveness.
Want her company on a hiking trip or a grocery run? If she’s up for either and can make both seem like something fun to be explored, it makes her even more adorable to the lucky man who’s with her.
17) She gets easily flustered
It’s adorable to see a woman be quick to blush, especially if it’s over something that a man said or did to her. Did he casually say her name in conversation or ask her out on a date? Whatever the case, if she’s nervous around him, it’s cute to watch.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that she should be anxious around him; it just means that she’s shy or easily flustered because she’s nervous.
This can be so cute to see when you’re on the receiving end of a woman’s adorable blushes. It’s like a homing beacon for men who are into cute women.
18) She’s curious
Another cute personality trait is when a woman asks a man lots of questions.
It shows that she’s interested in him and actively looking to get to know him through curiosity. Her eyes might be drawn to his in excited expectance of his answers and he’d find that adorable.
19) She’s playful
This cute personality trait seems important in choosing a partner, a study says.
Playful teasing and a laid-back attitude show that she can enjoy unusual things (outside of the usual compliments and politeness between friends or romantic partners). Men love friendly banter because it gives them an exciting spark of a connection with that woman.
Also, it just feels good to laugh with someone.
This can come in the form of playful bullying or gentle teasing, things that are enjoyable if the two people are on the same wavelength about what’s good and what’s not.
It’s cute for a woman to know how to take a joke and be playful (as long as she’s still respected, of course).
20) She’s not demanding
It can be a huge turn-off for a woman to always demand big things from a man, especially when they’re irrational or impossible to give.
That’s why it’s so adorable for a woman to not need to go on fancy dates all the time. Like I said, it’s cute when a woman can bring adventure to everyday life, and this is especially appreciated when things need to just slow down and not be so intensely exciting all the time.
All things considered, there are so many different cute personality traits that men love in women, not just the ones included in this list.
So if you’re a woman looking to look cute for a man, just keep these 20 things in mind and you’ll have him hooked in no time.
Putting yourself first
What’s your number one goal at the moment?
Is it to buy that car you’ve been saving up for?
To finally start that side-hustle that’ll hopefully help you quit your 9-5 one day?
Or to take the leap and finally ask your partner to move in?
Whatever your goals are, there’s a hidden trap in how you set them.
The trap is this:
You’ll only experience genuine life satisfaction when your goals are aligned with your values.
Because when values and goals are aligned, you enjoy the journey much more. And this makes achieving your goals much more likely.
If you find it hard to articulate your deeper life values, I suggest downloading the free values exercise by career coach Jeanette Brown.
It takes only a couple of minutes and will reveal a number of powerful insights about your underlying values.