There’s a tendency to say: “One day, I’ll be rich” or “One day, I’ll get that promotion.”
By saying these things, however, we unconsciously delay our happiness. It’s passive and leaves us waiting for our lives to begin.
So how can we avoid the regret of having missed our chance at living our dreams? By using the power of your mind.
No, this isn’t about bending spoons or making objects levitate.
This is about changing your perception of life: seeing all that you already have — health, family, friends — instead of focusing on what you still lack.
It’s a simple change, but it isn’t easy.
Let these 15 tips guide you to start bending your reality and living happy right now.
1. Be Grateful For What You Already Have
Greg McKeown, the author of Essentialism, wrote, “If you focus on what you lack, you lose what you have; if you focus on what you have, you gain what you lack.”
A change in your perspective can change your reality.
It’s easy to get into the thinking that your job may be getting too difficult or that you aren’t good enough for it.
Instead of looking at your job as a burden, however, you can choose to be grateful that you’re able to provide for the ones that you love or that this is your chance to improve your skills.
2. Build A Vision Board
Often, the reason why people don’t achieve their dreams is that they don’t have a clear picture of it in their heads. That’s why making a vision board may help.
Cutting and pasting photos of your dream house, travel, or car on a board that you see every day will remind you what to aim for.
It gives you focus and intentionality that most people lack in their lives.
3. Delve into Your Personal Power
Creating your own reality will require hard work and perseverance. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it.
And the most effective way to go about it is to tap into your personal power.
You see, we all have an incredible amount of power and potential within us, but most of us never tap into it. We become bogged down in self-doubt and limiting beliefs. We stop doing what brings us true happiness.
I learned this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. He’s helped thousands of people align work, family, spirituality, and love so they can unlock the door to their personal power.
He has a unique approach that combines traditional ancient shamanic techniques with a modern-day twist. It’s an approach that uses nothing but your own inner strength – no gimmicks or fake claims of empowerment.
Because true empowerment needs to come from within.
In his excellent free video, Rudá explains how you can create the life, let alone the reality, you’ve always dreamed of.
4. Believe That You Already Have What You Want
Studies have found that, through visualizing an outcome in one’s mind, they will be able to experience it in their real life.
Visualization benefits not just attaining one’s life goals, but also helps in improving your physical health.
Athletes have also been known to use this method to visualize their success in their sport.
This is the power of the mind at work.
The mental practice of visualizing what you want will help boost your confidence and enhance your mood as well. It can alleviate feelings of stress and depression, much like how meditation works.
5. Think Fast, Act Slow
When someone accidentally eats a snack you’ve been saving for yourself, a common reaction would be to get mad at them.
Then you might start becoming more possessive over your belongings because you no longer trust people. This is a reactive mode of thinking.
Instead of reacting this way, try slowing down.
Catch yourself before you say or do something truly harmful.
When you take a moment to allow them to apologize, it can restore your faith in people; it shows you that not everyone is bad and people make mistakes.
6. Try Meditation
Social media makes it easy to compare oneself to another person. It can cause mental health problems such as depression and anxiety.
These skew your reality and make it seem like you may not be good enough.
When this happens, it can help you to try meditation.
A study confirmed the health benefits of meditation such as reduced stress and anxiety.
It allows you to see that you are not your thoughts, but an observer of them.
You can let these thoughts pass and continue with your day.
7. Understand What’s Out Of Your Control
There’s no use in getting mad at the clouds for raining on your day out or getting stuck in a traffic jam.
Doing so will only make you believe that the world is truly against you, when in reality, it isn’t.
In his book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, author Stephen Covey writes about the “circle of influence.”
These are the things that are within our control, like our response to the situations that we find ourselves in.
When you understand what is and isn’t directly in your control, like traffic jams and rain, then you can learn to let go of your anger at the world — you can’t do anything about it, anyway.
8. Develop A Growth Mindset
People with growth mindsets understand that, although they aren’t very skilled in something, they can figure it out and learn along the way.
When you have a growth mindset, you no longer become limited by your weaknesses.
It creates the reality that is full of opportunities to learn a new skill or sharpen a weak one.
The key to developing a growth mindset is to remain open-minded and learn to set your ego aside.
There’s nothing wrong with being a beginner in something.
9. Take Small Steps Outside Of Your Comfort Zone
Our comfort zones tend to shape our entire worlds. We do more of the same type of job, or we talk to more of the same kinds of people.
Living within your comfort zone, however, makes the world feel smaller than it really is.
Taking a small step outside of your comfort zone, like enlisting in an online course on a subject that you’ve never been familiar with or speaking to someone we wouldn’t normally talk to, will expand your reality.
Your world will expand with more jobs opportunities or more people to connect with.
10. Affirm Yourself Or Have A Mantra
In the musical film In the Heights, the main character wakes up every morning and tells himself, “Best days of my life” despite the fact that he’s facing late bills and relationship problems.
A study found that mantra meditation, or having a mantra that you repeat, will help with a person’s mental well-being.
This is helpful in times when you begin doubting yourself or worrying about your future.
You can take a moment, commonly in the morning as you wake up, and tell yourself “I am strong” or “I create my own joy.”
11. Discover What You Truly Want
All success is subjective. If you don’t know what success looks like to you, then it will be difficult to know when you’ve actually achieved it.
Is it having a family of your own? Having your own business that’s based on your passions? Or simply being able to give back to a community that helped you in your times of need?
Defining your idea of success changes the way you see and interact with the world.
You no longer see those that succeed and those who didn’t; instead, you start looking for opportunities to achieve your own.
12. Be Present
It’s easy to begin daydreaming about a future dream or feel regret about a past action. Understand that no matter how much thinking you do, nothing is going to happen.
In the present moment, right here and right now, there are none of your regrets of the past, nor are there any of your anxieties about the future.
Being mindful of the present moment enables you to harness the power of choice.
In the Now, you can choose to direct your life the way you want and make your daydreams a reality.
13. Be Aware Of Your Emotions
Our emotions tend to cloud our vision. When we’re angry, we see the world around us as if it’s against us, so we get defensive.
When we’re excited after the person that we like says Hi to us, we see the world as being full of positivity, so we’re kinder.
When you reflect on your life, be aware that your emotions play a substantial bias towards how you see it.
When I felt a deep disconnect from my emotions, I was introduced to an unusual free breathwork video created by the shaman, Rudá Iandê, which focuses on dissolving stress and boosting inner peace.
My relationship was failing, I felt tense all the time. My self-esteem and confidence hit rock bottom. My reality was in dire need of a change.
I had nothing to lose, so I tried this free breathwork video, and the results were incredible.
But before we go any further, why am I telling you about this?
I’m a big believer in sharing – I want others to feel as empowered as I do. And, if it worked for me, it could help you too.
Secondly, Rudá hasn’t just created a bog-standard breathing exercise – he’s cleverly combined his many years of breathwork practice and shamanism to create this incredible flow – and it’s free to take part in.
Now, I don’t want to tell you too much because you need to experience this for yourself.
All I will say is that by the end of it, I felt peaceful and optimistic for the first time in a long time.
And let’s face it, we can all do with a feel-good boost when life isn’t measuring up to what we hoped it would.
So, if you feel a disconnect with yourself and your emotions, I’d recommend checking out Rudá’s free breathwork video. This will be a key step into creating your own reality.
14. Question Your Beliefs
How we were raised affects the way that we see the world around us.
When you’ve been nurtured in an intense household, that can skew your worldview. It might make you see the world as harsh and intense too.
That’s why it’s important to take a step back from your beliefs. Question it. Try to see the world as it is, without your emotions and memories.
That will change the way you perceive your surroundings.
15. Modify Your Language
Henry Ford once said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t — you’re right.”
Saying that you don’t have time to commit to pursuing your passions will only make you believe in it more, making your dreams that much farther away.
Instead of saying “I don’t have time for that” you can say “That is not my priority at the moment” It’s almost identical, but completely changes the reality of your time.
While creating your reality may be exciting, it should be practiced with caution. You might accidentally overstep your boundaries or get too confident with the abilities that you fail.
It helps to also find people that you trust that will keep you grounded when you’re getting too excited.
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