You’re a strong, independent, and successful woman. You can have a relationship with any man of any age, but for some reason, you notice that dates are more comfortable and fun with younger men. And young men seem to be drawn to you.
As strange as this may seem to you, you’re not alone. This is becoming more and more common.
What’s going on here? These 15 things:
1) He loves your experience
There’s no getting around it: experience is valuable. You’ve become wiser and better at coping with difficult situations in life.
You’ve been through it all in life, and a young man feels like there’s so much to learn from you.
You’re the rock he’s always wanted. You might be attracted to his zest for life, but he loves the fact that you’ve got your life together and won’t take any shit.
And yes, experience also applies to the bedroom.
2) He can learn a lot
The older you are, the experience you have. The more experience you have, the more you can teach.
That’s why younger men are so attracted to older women, especially the men that are ambitious and want to expand themselves intellectually.
Rich life experience is hard to come by, and a man will mature more quickly if they have someone to learn from.
What’s more, you’ve had experience with different types of men, and you can easily point out the young man’s flaws and opportunities for growth.
You understand what kind of man he is and what kind of man he can be.
3) You both know what you want
You’re older, wiser and know exactly what you want. A casual fling? Or a serious and meaningful relationship? You find the guy that’s right for you.
And while you might think that young men only want something quick, it’s not entirely true.
Some guys become so in love with you, they just want to be with you for the rest of their life. In other words, you’re “the one”.
Whatever you want, you’re able to find it in a young man.
4) He respects you for all that you’ve achieved
You didn’t become a successful woman out of nowhere. It’s taken hard work, dedication and persistence.
He understands, admires and respects this, as he knows how difficult it is for a woman to rise in the ranks.
You’re filled with wisdom and stability and he can’t believe his luck that he has become part of your life.
5) He learns a new perspective
Most people spend time with those who are their own age. This goes for dating as well.
So when you spend time with someone who is in a different stage of life, you see life through a different lens. It cannot be underestimated when can be learned from this.
You have a better idea of what’s important in life, and most importantly, what isn’t.
Instead of worrying about little petty issues at work, you can help him see that there are bigger issues to focus on.
Getting his priorities straight gives him a huge upper hand in life.
6) You are confident and independent
Most younger ladies are more concerned about what people think of them.
This can lead to superficial and insecure tendencies (selfies anyone?).
But older women have been through that phase. Life experience has given them a better idea of who they are and what’s really important in life.
You don’t care as much what people think of you. You know it doesn’t matter. Young people tend to seek validation from others because they aren’t sure of who they are.
For a young man, this self-confidence you possess is captivating. It also leads to less drama, which is extremely attractive to any man.
7) You are more emotionally mature
Young people are filled with energy and hormones that emotions can get out of control. They aren’t as skilled at controlling them, either.
But an older woman has learned how to control her emotions. She’s been through the ups and downs of life.
This doesn’t mean that you’re boring. Quite the opposite. You understand the value of basking in joyful moments and making the most of it.
You just won’t get lost in toxic emotions that offer no value.
8) You have refined tastes
Partying is fun when you first start getting involved in the club scene, but it can get pretty boring pretty quickly.
An older woman doesn’t want to go out dancing and get smashed. She’d rather go to a nice restaurant, have some wine and bask in meaningful conversations.
After all, she’s worked hard for her money throughout her career and she wants to spend it wisely.
Therefore, young men love the calmness that comes with hanging out with you. You show them the good life, and they learn to appreciate the finer things.
9) You can have intellectual discussions
Older women have more life experience and can offer more wisdom to a conversation.
Because let’s be honest, you don’t care who is dating who or what celebrity just got married. You’d rather have meaningful discussions about what your goals are in life, and what interesting books you’ve read recently.
A lot of young men are sick of the superficial discussions that come with dating someone their own age.
An older woman helps them understand more about almost any topic.
10) You are financially stable
A big problem for a young man is financial security. After all, they haven’t been working for a long time and haven’t had time to move up in their career.
The last thing they need is a younger girl mooching off him at every opportunity she gets.
But with older women, the bills are evenly split. After all, you’ve had time to build your wealth and you don’t need to depend on a man for money.
This is a huge plus for a young man. They don’t have to worry about financing another person’s life. Also, they know that you’re in the relationship for the right reasons, rather than using him for money.
11) They don’t have to worry about having children
Some men aren’t interested in having children. Young men, especially. The great thing about older women is that they have either decided that they don’t want children, or they’ve had children, and they’re already grown up now.
This allows the man and woman to concentrate on the relationship and focus on their connection, rather than create a family and deal with all the stresses that come with it.
And anyway, young men want to focus on their careers. They simply don’t have time to focus on their career AND children.
12) They love the Motherly love
Some men love the nurturing qualities that older women have. You’ve been through a lot in life, you’ve got your shit together and you can offer mental and emotional support that a young woman simply can’t.
This is extremely appealing to a young man who is only just starting his career and figuring out what he wants to do with his life.
13) You’re good at cooking
As an older single woman, you’ve mastered the art of cooking. You’ve had to cook for yourself, and sometimes, cook for your own family. You know what tastes good and what nutritional needs a young man has.
And let’s be honest, young women cook less and prefer eating out and ordering food delivery. That’s what happens when you grow up with technology. Not only can this break a young man’s bank, but the food is more unhealthy as well.
You know how to look after your man and will cook him everything he desires.
14) She’s more direct and knows what she wants
Whereas a young woman doesn’t really know what she’s looking for in the dating scene, older women have been around the block. They know what they like, what they dislike and what they need to be happy.
This is great for a young man because no games are played. They already know if you like them or not. There’s no need to say to you “let’s go back to my place and watch a movie”.
Instead, he can be more direct with his intentions because you’re more direct as well.
No games, no excuses, no bullsh*t. When a young man and an older woman date, it’s honest, authentic and direct.
15) You both envision a future of possibility
Being a young man, he has the world in front of him. There are so many things he wants to achieve, and with you by his side to guide him along the way, the possibilities seem limitless.
Likewise, you’ve come, you’ve seen, and you’ve conquered. And guess what? You want to keep on doing that! It’s what makes life fun and meaningful.
For you, there’s so much more in life that you want to experience and achieve, and a young guy by the helm will help you get there!
What an older women sees in younger men
1) He’s open-minded
This is what you love about younger men. They’re more free and open-minded. The older men who refuse to budge from stereotypical ways of living irks you to your core.
Young men are willing to try new things, embrace new concepts and explore the big wide world. Life is too short to settle down in a boring 9-5 job and not experience everything that life has to offer.
You’ve worked hard and a young man is more likely to bring out the energy and zest in you.
2) Young men are hot!
A chiseled chest? 6-pack? A nice butt? Let’s be honest, younger men have that sex appeal going on.
Not only physically, but they’re more likely to be spontaneous as well. A deep and meaningful sex session on a weeknight? Why not!
This makes younger men incredibly sexy to you. And sexually it works. We’ve all heard that men tend to peak sexually in their younger 20s while women peak in their 30s. This makes for a lot of crazy, loved filled sex!
3) His attitude and energy are infectious
Younger people tend to be more adventurous than their older counterparts. A younger man encourages you to try new things and get out there in the world.
They help you live in the moment and relish an upbeat, positive outlook on life. It doesn’t matter how old you are, we’re all capable of living vibrantly.
And when life is as short as it is, why the hell not!
4) You enjoy the attention of younger men
In the past, it’s pretty common for older men to date younger women. Maybe this is filling some sort of need to do with their own insecurities. Or younger women are particularly attracted to the older man’s money. But that’s a story for another time.
What’s important here is that the attention a young man gives an older women make them feel sexy and special.
Perhaps you’ve been under the impression that you’re old and passed your used-by-date – but a younger man reminds you how truly sexy and intelligent you are – and that makes you feel amazing!
5) You aren’t interested in dating “boys”
Let’s be clear: Not all younger men feel the void for older women. They’re not attracted to boys who act immature and are only about what happens in the bedroom.
You like strong, powerful and mature men. You like men who are confident and not afraid to say what they think.
After all, you’re self-assured and independent – and you want the same in any man you date.
6) It makes you feel younger
Being with someone who is younger, and more active and playful can bring out the young, happy-go-lucky attitude you.
Perhaps you’ve been a bit jaded from life experience, but a young man has the capability to bring out the passion and excitement buried within you.
Life becomes more fun, and that’s exactly why a young man and an older woman is a match made in heaven.
7) It widens the pool of available men
Dating younger guys opens up a much bigger pool of possible partners—which increases your chances of finding a great partner.
People get married, have families and old men just aren’t as good-looking anymore.
This is why being open to a dating younger man gives you a wider array of options in the dating market. This means she has a great chance of finding someone she can connect with.
8) Less potential caretaking in the future
When you date a man that’s 5 years older, that age difference may not change your life when you’re younger. But when you’re 75 and they’re 80, it means that you have to become the caretaker for the older man.
But if you date someone younger, there’s less chance of that happening. And seeing as women live longer than men, there’s more chance of getting old together at a similar rate and you can both take care of each other.
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