11 things truly confident women don’t get self-conscious about

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Ever see a super confident woman walk into a room and think, “Wow, I want to be like her!”?

Good news: you can be.

Confidence isn’t about having fancy clothes or being super smart.

It’s about being cool with who you are.

In this article, we’ll talk about 11 things confident women just don’t worry about.

Ready to stop sweating the small stuff and be more like them?

Then keep reading. 

1. Their Appearance

Confident women know they’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea—and guess what?

They’re totally fine with that.

Whether it’s rocking a bold outfit, going makeup-free, or embracing their natural hair, they own it.

They’re more interested in feeling good in their own skin than fitting into someone else’s idea of beauty.

Sure, they like to look good, who doesn’t?

But they’re not going to lose sleep over a bad hair day or a zit that decided to make a grand appearance.

Because they know that true beauty comes from how you feel about yourself, not what you see in the mirror.

2. What Other People Think

Remember back in high school when it felt like the end of the world if someone didn’t like you?

Well, confident women have graduated from that mindset.

They’ve realized that trying to please everyone is like chasing your tail—you’ll just end up dizzy and frustrated.

I remember the first time I decided not to go to a party because I just wasn’t feeling it.

I was worried what people would think. “Is she antisocial?” “Did something happen?”

The next day, guess what? Life went on. Nobody really cared as much as I thought they would.

That’s when I realized: what others think about you is none of your business.

Confident women understand that they’re the authors of their own stories.

They don’t hand over the pen to anyone else.

They make choices that align with their values, not to win a popularity contest.

So, the next time you find yourself worrying about what others might think, take a cue from confident women: hold your head high, make your choice, and own it.

3. Making Mistakes

You mess up at work, you say something awkward on a date, or maybe you just totally forget your best friend’s birthday.

It’s easy to go into a spiral, thinking you’re the worst person ever. But here’s the raw truth: messing up is human. It’s how you grow.

Confident women? They mess up too.

But instead of wallowing in self-pity or shame, they face the music.

They apologize if needed, learn what they can, and move on.

They don’t let one mistake define them. If they did, they’d never get anywhere.

I’ve made my fair share of blunders, trust me. I’ve sent emails to the wrong person, tripped up stairs in public places, you name it.

But each time, I’ve picked myself up and thought, “Well, I won’t do THAT again.” And sometimes, I even get a good story out of it!

The point is, don’t let fear of messing up hold you back.

If you’re not making mistakes, you’re not taking risks.

And no risk means no reward.

4. Being Alone

Now, you might think confident people are always the life of the party, surrounded by friends and admirers.

But truly confident women don’t mind being alone. In fact, they embrace it.

While society often tells us that being alone means you’re lonely or something’s wrong with you, confident women see it differently.

For them, alone time is recharge time. It’s when they can think, reflect, or dive into a passion project without distractions.

They’re secure enough to know that their worth isn’t tied to how many plans they have on a Friday night or how many friends they have on social media.

I used to think a weekend alone was a failed weekend.

But after giving myself the space to just be by myself, I found I was more refreshed and better at being there for others.

Plus, I caught up on my reading list. 

So the next time you find yourself without plans, don’t sweat it.

Take it as an opportunity to recharge and focus on you.

Confident women know that spending time alone is not a weakness; it’s a strength.

5. Their Success

Confident women don’t get self-conscious about their success.

They’re not bragging, but they’re also not hiding their accomplishments under a rug.

In a world that sometimes tells women to be modest, to not shine too brightly or make too much noise, confident women say, “No thanks.”

They understand that dimming their light doesn’t help anyone, especially not themselves.

And here’s the kicker: they also find joy in other people’s success.

They’re secure enough to know that there’s enough room for everyone to shine.

I remember when I got my first big promotion. I was thrilled but also nervous about how my friends would react.

Would they think I’m showing off if I shared the good news?

But then, I thought about the confident women I admire.

They celebrate their wins, big or small, and by doing so, they encourage others to do the same.

So go ahead, be proud of what you’ve achieved. Your success doesn’t make you an imposter; it makes you a role model.

6. Their Emotions

We live in a world that often tells us to keep our emotions in check, especially women.

“Don’t be too emotional,” they say, “You won’t be taken seriously.”

Well, guess what? Confident women aren’t buying it.

They know that emotions aren’t a sign of weakness; they’re a sign of being human.

I’ve cried in the bathroom at work, I’ve felt rage, joy, and everything in between.

And for a long time, I was ashamed of it. I thought being emotional made me less capable, less worthy somehow.

But that’s just not true.

Confident women understand that emotions are a natural part of life. Instead of bottling them up, they let themselves feel.

They cry when they’re sad, they laugh when they’re happy, and they’re not afraid to express anger or frustration either.

But they also don’t let their emotions control them. They feel it, acknowledge it, and then channel it in a constructive way.

So the next time you’re feeling emotional, don’t beat yourself up.

Feel your feelings, but also remember that they don’t define you.

You’re much bigger than any emotion, and admitting that you have them? That’s a strength, not a weakness.

7. Not Knowing Everything

Confident women don’t know everything, and they’re totally cool with it.

In a world that often values experts and criticizes those who ask questions, not knowing something could feel like a hit to your ego.

But that’s not how confident women see it.

For them, a gap in knowledge isn’t a flaw; it’s an opportunity. An opportunity to learn, grow, and maybe even discover something new that they’re passionate about.

They’re the first to say, “I don’t know, but I’d love to find out,” or “Can you teach me?”

And here’s the thing: people respect them for it.

I used to nod along when people talked about things I didn’t understand, afraid they’d judge me for not knowing. Big mistake.

Not only did I stay clueless, but I also missed the chance to have an honest conversation and learn something new.

The day I finally admitted “I don’t know” was liberating. People didn’t laugh; they helped.

8. Their Past

We all have a history—moments we’re proud of and others we’d rather forget.

But confident women don’t let their past mistakes or circumstances make them self-conscious.

They understand that their past is a chapter in their story, not the whole book.

It’s easy to look back and cringe at some of the choices we’ve made. Believe me, I’ve been there.

I’ve replayed conversations in my head, wishing I had said something different.

But dwelling on those moments only holds you back.

Confident women take a different approach: they learn from their history rather than lamenting it.

They know that the person they were five, ten, or twenty years ago helped shape who they are today, but that person isn’t them anymore.

They’ve grown, changed, and hopefully, learned a few things along the way.

And if someone wants to judge them solely based on their past, that’s not a person they need in their life.

9. Their Relationship Status

Confident women don’t fret over any of it, because they know their worth isn’t tied to a relationship status.

In a society that often rushes us to “settle down,” it’s easy to feel like you’re falling behind if you’re not coupled up.

But here’s the real talk: being in a relationship doesn’t validate you, and being single doesn’t devalue you.

I’ll be brutally honest: I used to think that being in a relationship meant I had “made it” in some way—that I was desirable, lovable, complete.

But that mindset only led to settling for relationships that didn’t serve me. Confident women don’t settle.

They know that they’d rather be alone than in a relationship that doesn’t make them happy.

So whether you’re swiping through dating apps or in a long-term relationship, remember this: Your worth isn’t up for debate, and it certainly isn’t determined by whether or not you’re someone’s “plus one.”

Confident women own their relationship status, whatever it is, and live their lives on their own terms.

And you should too.

10. Age and Aging

We live in a society that’s obsessed with youth.

Billions are spent on anti-aging products every year.

But guess what?

Confident women aren’t losing sleep over a few wrinkles or gray hairs.

Why?

Because they see aging as a privilege, not a problem.

Maybe it’s the wisdom that comes with age, or maybe it’s just caring less about the small stuff. Whatever it is, confident women embrace it.

I used to dread the idea of getting older.

Every birthday felt like a ticking clock.

But then I looked at the confident, older women around me—those who lived their years with grace, wisdom, and a sort of magnetism you can’t fake.

They reminded me that life doesn’t peak at 25. Far from it.

So if you’re freaking out about hitting a milestone birthday or spotting another gray hair, take a cue from confident women: age is just a number, but growing older is an art. Embrace it.

11. Being Different

In a world that often celebrates conformity, standing out can feel risky.

But confident women aren’t afraid to be different; they relish it.

Whether it’s their unique sense of style, unconventional career path, or unapologetic authenticity, they own what makes them unique.

Look, it’s human nature to want to fit in.

We’re wired to seek approval from the tribe; it’s a survival instinct from way back when.

But we’re not dodging saber-toothed tigers anymore.

These days, the biggest risk isn’t standing out—it’s blending in so much that you become forgettable.

Confident women get this. They’re not trying to be a carbon copy of someone else, because they know the original is always more valuable than a duplicate.

So if you’ve got quirks, embrace them. If you’ve got a different viewpoint, share it. Life’s too short to be someone else’s version of you.

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Tina Fey

I'm Tina Fey, the founder of the blog Love Connection. I've extremely passionate about sharing relationship advice. I've studied psychology and have my Masters in marital, family, and relationship counseling. I hope with all my heart to help you improve your relationships, and I hope that even if one thing I write helps you, it means more to me than just about anything else in the world. Check out my blog Love Connection, and if you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter

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